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Being honest is great! You never have to guess about straightforward people. There are some times though when it isn't necessary and could just hurt feeling, like if I'm having a bad hair day, please don't point it out I know. Maybe you where honest about who you are and you're just not their type. Girls are confusing. Sometimes I don't understand myself :P
i think you need to realize that you are always emitting values to women. sometimes you are leaching value of others. there's nothing wrong with being rudely honest, il say it again...theres nothing wrong with being rudely honest. but by being socially unaware or inept you are telling her on a primeval level it is better to invest her eggs somewhere else.
Interesting you make a bold statement of "nothing wrong with being rudely honest" because I think a lot of women don't like it, but doesn't necessarily mean its wrong lol....nice statement!
So many unnamed dynamics going on in your q its hard to know where to start.
its not an ethical question its a relationship one. .
its like bad guy v good guy. people don't realize there's a host of things going on under the surface to do with emotional independence and strength. its not just about being a dumb f***in idiot.
as with the honesty thng...if it means confident and assertive then that's good.
if it means ignorant deluded and 1 dimensional then that's (usually) bad.
youll find someone!
i would rather have a gut that tell me things straightforward than always has me wondering. a little mystery keeps interest, don't forget that! you don't want her to know everything about you right away because then there's nothing left to find out.
as long as your bluntness isn't rude, and you are keeping her feelings in mind, you'll be fine!
Most likely the women either do not like that you are bluntly honest or they do not believe you are telling the truth. See all men tell women they are very honest and telling the truth. Unfortunately for you only a small percentage of them are really honest so women tend not to believe men when they say they are being honest.
Well, they all want an honest and straightforward guy they can rely upon, but when it comes to sex and dating, they want an "animal", someone that they cannot catch, someone that will tell them sweet little lies, etc, etc...
So, in short, they need a schisophrenic person, one for living with, one for "bed activities"... ;)
It's the only way to keep them interested, to make them hunt you as longas you can. Being uncaught is what keeps their attention...
This should be best answer
Sorry you don't understand women. I doubt many girls want a ''schisophrenic''. it just seems that way cos your looking at the surface. look a little deeper. I think what more important is understanding the underlying dynamics involved.
Oh my God. I am EXACTLY the same way. I am a very straightforward, honest, blunt, and direct person. I am like this to everyone, regardless of gender, that's just my personality trait and honestly I like blunt guys because they understand why I am blunt too, hahaha! So don't generalize that girls don't like blunt guys. Every person is different and it really depends on the person.
Hi5
Well if u r really a blunt and honest girl u better make me urs. :p hehe kidding
Good answer
Being a straightforward man is always the best thing at all times. I do not care if girls will be pissed of to me, the important thing is i say what i mean. What is the use of being honest if they do not like straightforward? they are bitches! a man is a man! you do not put a man's level as girl's. When i say it, i mean it! If you girls want an honest guy, expect that there are guys who are straightforward to you. If boys are lying, you girls are mad. But if the boys are striaghtforward, honest and blunt, you girls are still mad! WHAT THE HELL? i rather want to be an honest sinner than to be a lying hypocrite. You bitches!!!
Being honest and straight forward is good. Being blunt, not as much. I am like that, but I'm trying to change it, because I noticed that what I say can be quite hurtful; even when not intentional. People in general don't like to be criticized, and a white lie never heard nobody.
I myself think honesty is good, but the rest of the world doesn't seem to agree XD
**never HURT nobody
brainfart much XD
I agree with u ;)
Actually u r right. Honest people only make some % out of the whole world :)
it's not honesty it's about staying a MYSTERY over a peird of time or having magnatic attraction around everyone! Anyone can be a ass. But if your a person all the chicks like and want to meet and you can prove it when she's having a hissy fit, you can be straight forward and have all the chicks also. Try asking girls how to or what now questions.. Have you ever heard of the 11th man? Google it?
Lol I hope you downloaded that sh*t and ain't paying 100s of dollars to go to seminars in pick up.
this guy is half right. he needs to get beyond the '''what works on women paradigm'' and get to a ''beyond pua and living his life enriched by the sh*t he found out'' stage. I don't think the asker necessairly cares ''what works on women''. he just don't like been told he should lie and I feel that. however he is acting like diarrhea, if he is not also listening and communicating.
It's not just about these traits friend. I was in the same position as you for awhile and I started to realize that those "jerks" who girls always go for get girls because they're interesting. It's also the reason why they stay single. Just remember to keep it light and interesting at the start and remember this; there's a difference between being nice and being friendly.
because sometimes it just makes you seem like a jerk. maybe you should learn from all these incidents and maybe reword what you say.
i am similar a VERY straightforward blunt person. I'm not being a bitch I'm only being honest and what I had to do for myself is to learn when it is appropriate to say certain thing.
I'm straight forward and honest and I just want the same especially if the guy was interested in me or we are dating it's less confusing and it also reduces fighting due to misunderstandings.
I like people like you
what? those guys are the best..soem girls are just too sensitive
Where are the girls like you!!
And you are probably an asshole douchebag who needs to keep his big mouth closed.
I wish everyone could be straight forward, that's what I look for in a guy but then again every once in awhile we don't want to hear the brutal truth. We just want you to go with the flow and just say nice things not say something that would totally kill the moment..sometimes it's just better to try and bite your tongue. Ik you may not want to do that because you always want to be honest but it may be the best way. You could eventually work your way into that transition on being completely honest all the time. Just in the beginning first impressions are everything and a little white lie never hurt anyone. Just until you figure out if it's all worth it or not.
Now I agreed with everything you said until you said a little lie never hurt anyone, I just can't agree with that comment, all lies have a reprocussion no matter how small or large. Yet you still say a lot of good things, like sometimes its best to bite your tounge, in this case it would be called swallowing your pride. Thank you
I def shall do that, Ill just start telling them I'm blunt and let honest represent!
That's strange because I love guys like you. No joke, those traits are what attracted me to my ex. He was blunt, truthful and generally honest. I found it completely refreshing x
there is a time for everything, it's not about honesty that will make you survive, it's about knowing when to lie, and when not to lie, it's like a game that the rules should be understood, so quit being honest and do what is right, that is whether you have to lie, or you have to tell the truth, you should know when to do what you have to do.
No I'm not going to degrade myself let alone mis represent everything I stand for to lie. A lie is for people that are too afraid to take responsibility for their own actions, lets take your anonymous answering pathetic self as an example. Why would you answer anonymously? either you don't want others to know what you really think or your just afraid of owning up to your pathetic self because you lie. hmmmm is that honest, straightforward enough for you?
So you ask a question anonymously, that makes you pathetic like me. In case you think you have taken or added anything to me by this, your mistaken, but anyway if you know what doing what is right means, one ought to know the time to tell the truth and face the consequences or not to tell the truth, it makes you stupid if you simply tell the truth without thinking. By me saying that one ought to do the right thing, am on your side, although your trying to start up an argument
I don't need to argue nor think/desire/try to take or add anything to you. I'm simply saying there is never a time to lie, there is no point to it. And for people that think its necessary are the reasons everyone has trust issues and can't open up to others.
Alright, I do not think you have been in a situation where lieing will hurt less than telling the truth, and where you have to lie for the better, but any way that's not the point. what's your take on the saying there is a "time for everything", a time to be born, a time to die, a time to cry, a time to rejoice, a time to be sad, a time to be happy;then her it comes; also a time to lie and a time to tell the truth; what opions do you have on that? because your saying NEVER lie.
I cn pay attn to details, but compared to a person with OCD, the latter does it more than me, the latter takes it to extremes, since you say NEVER lie, is it okay if I compared you with a person with OCD? your taking NEVER lie to it's extremes I presume.
Not taking it to an extreme at all, there is not a time to lie because the truth may hurt but a lie hurts worse. A lie only delayes the inevitable of someone learning the truth, though there are times people never learn the truth which is where I was assume that the saying "ignorace is bliss" comes in. Lies are for the weak and ill mannered let alone serve no actual purpose but to be deceitful and overall morally wrong. I don't care the extreme I treat others the way I want to be treated
Well I have to admit I just made myself feel like a jack a$$ because I just ran into a situation where a lie would benefit my financial situation, so I appologize for arguing something that may have a valid point, just very strange how that just happened. Again I apologize.
This guys clued up. I too don't believe its about being dishonest. I know guys who haqve plenty of women and who have told them to their face they are dating more than one girl and they don't want to be in a relationship or get tied down. I admire the askers honesty and the answers inquizitive mind and attempt at understanding. its like ying and yang. I do wish youd both eschew the anonymous tag tho.
whoa. I want a straight forward, genuinely nice and honest guy, apparently every single douche bag I've dated has not been any of these qualities. it would be great to find an actually nice guy.
If you are a real straight forward honest guy stay that way because that is a good guy. I wish I could find a guy like you!
Well thank you and I am, just for a while I was really skeptical how good it was tho, like all the experiences I was going through made me think its just the "in" thing to lie and swindle people to belive your something that your not, but happy I didn't go down that road.
Good that you are star enough to know that's not what you do :) :) :)
Only a star when I have sky to shine bright in (meaning when someone is attracted to me and I have their interests I can show my true self)
I would like to see you be more self-confident and shine even if the shy isclouded over and it raining really hard (meaning that you need show everyone you all the timeno matter what!)
:)
girls like to be appraised =P And if the guy is blunt then he won't say things like 'you look really pretty today' very often and the girl won't want him as much. Sounds mean, but we girls can be like that! =)
so being blunt means we won't compliment that much? I would think the exact opposite because since they are blunt they are appraising all the time which means they would notice all the little things most men don't notice (like getting your hair cut) and compliment more often.
True, I'm wrong. I guess it depends on the guy T.T =) =D =} =]
See this is the thing. If I really like a girl, I think she always looks nice. Your mind trucks you to overlook flaws cause you like someone. Well if you compliment too much, nowadays your screwed. If you don't compliment enough, your screwed. And if you compliment in the wrong way, your also screwed.
I recently asked a question to girls about how they'd react if their boyfriend said one of their friends was prettier than them. It's my only question, go and check it out if you want.
Be honest, that's great; but be sensitive as well.
I will check it out
I looked for your question but it didn't appear....