Mixed signals... Guys, what does this mean?

[bluemountain]

So we are family friends and last weekend we went on vacation together. He did some things that made me think for sure he liked me. For example,

All this made me think he liked me... He's introverted and only really flirted when it was the two of us. I assume this is because it'd be weird to do it around his brothers. However after the second night we spent talking together on the couch, he started acting differently. My mom suggested it was because he's a teenage boy who had only gotten 5 hours of sleep for the past two nights, on top of being active all day. This might explain why he went to bed early the night he didn't sit with me. Regardless his behavior changed, for example.

So I am getting crazy mixed signals. My mom told me that she thinks it is because he doesn't want to make things awkward between our families if something doesn't work out. Or she thought his older brother figured out he liked me and was teasing him about it. Regardless I'm confused and need help, desperately! Please I would love your insight!

He likes you or he likes you, I'll explain why in the comments.

He doesn't like you or he doesn't like you, I'll explain why in the comments.

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But he also still liked all my Instagram photos and views all my snapchat stories... I don't know if that's important

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So um now we're basically dating and it's fantastic, almost a year later... I'm falling in love and it's amazing! Thank you guys for your help, just wanted to let you know! <3

[Sheriblossom]

I think that just because a guy gives you mixed signals, it doesn't mean he doesn't like you. like I give my crush mixed signals all the time regardless of weather or not he actually likes me. I don't even know his feelings towards me. I don't want to seem super desperate. The guy you know is probably thinking the same thing. Sure, he's acting completely different than he was to start with, but I'm sure many guys can agree that they don't sit with a girl at 3am cause they are just friends and like to talk. Like even with my best friends, I don't do that. I stop talking when I am tired regardless if they wanna talk. However, if it was my crush, I would try my best to stay up. Maybe he is also reading your signs, but isn't sure how you feel about him. Also, many guys say that they are scared of their feelings sometimes. So really, unless he continues to be so unreceptive of your advances then I think it's safe to say he likes you. I think that you should also listen to what your mom is saying. I don't have parents I am willing to trust this info with because they will laugh their heads off and I will look cray cray. Sometimes I try to make it super obvious I like my crush (even though I can be as shy as it gets sometimes) but the nest day I completely stop and I kinda wait to see if he will make advances.

[Sheriblossom]

are you giving him mixed signals too? That could explain his weird behaviour

[bluemountain]

Wow thank you! I think your idea that maybe he might be scared of his feelings could be true, but I'm not sure. As for the sleep thing, he LOVES sleep and he stayed up that late with me then in the morning he was the first of his brothers up. I'll definitely take your advice, thank you so so much!

[Sheriblossom]

My crush is horrible at texting me but always watches my snapchat story first. Even if it's super long, he watches the whole thing. It confuses me so I totally understand why your guy is confusing you by doing what he is doing. I know that the mixed signals you get means he likes you. (and I could totally tell your guy liked you before I read the whole thing.) :) I don't want you to have to sit there and ponder about if he likes you cuz those thoughts have seriously taken so much time out of my day. I hope all goes well with you and your guy! ;)

[bluemountain]

Thank you so much!!! <3

[Sheriblossom]

Like my crush compliments me frequently and his friend told me my crush talked about me with him before but I realized that the mixed signals I get is clear that my crush sees me as a friend. He doesn't get to know me personally. You have a big chance of getting together with the guy you know!

[Sheriblossom]

He actually seems like he cares about you on a personal level

[bluemountain]

Wait I'm confused, don't you care about everyone on a personal level?

[Sheriblossom]

This is what I mean. When people just want to be platonic friends, most of the time they don't have interest in how your day was, problems your dealing with, your dreams, anything like that which involves your personal life. They might bring it up but they don't actual care. I promise you that if someone actually likes you as more than a friend, they will ask you about yourself (more than just "hello, how are you?") and they will listen to every word you say. More importantly, they will remember what you said.

[Sheriblossom]

nobody feels the need to remember this stuff unless you are important to them

[bluemountain]

Okay, thank you!!!

[bluemountain]

Makes sense :)

[Sheriblossom]

:) Have a great day!

[bluemountain]

Thank you, you too! It's actually night where I am but I appreciate the thought lol 😂👍🏼

[Heythere2013]

I have learned when a guy is giving mixed signals, means he isn't all that interested in you. People say not to be concerned about texts and stuff, but from observation, men who barely texted me, weren't interested. When a guy really likes you, he won't be flip flopping from being flirty to silent over text. Liking your posts is easy. Your choice, but I've learned to be very wary of this behavior, I like a man who is consistent, feels so much better ten analyzing every little thing he does.

[bluemountain]

That's very good advice! It makes sense why people would try and stay away from guys who flip flop. I'd love to just let it go... but I've liked him since I was a little girl, he was my first crush as a kid. I'm in high school now and have had boyfriends before but there is always something about him I feel like hasn't happened yet. We've gone out together before, I invited him to the movies and he paid for everything so I figured it was a date... but then I'd always need to reach out which made me stop texting, his behavior is very hot and cold. Then recently he snapchatted me out of the blue for hours, three days straight and we talked and talked... this thing has been been going on FOREVER and I truly feel like there is something there, but something else is stopping him for acting on it. I don't know

[Heythere2013]

That truly sucks, I really feel for you, but you would be better w/out the mixed signals. You are very young and you will have a lot opportunities to meet different guys. Paying for dates doesn't really say anything about how the guy feels about you, I have had guys pay me for me all the time, never turned out to be something serious though. After experiencing a long distance where the guy sent mixed signals, I am much happier w/a guy who truly cares for me and shows me he cares.

[Anonymous]

I am not sure. He probably liked you at some point, but I think he has lost his interest

[bluemountain]

Yeah but this is in a period of hours

[prajeshvikram]

Interesting. A person of his nature can do such things, nothing to wonder much, introverts can be confident sometimes if they feel confident about it, sometimes can be really shy or not confident about the same, it can be due to some hint or some thought that may have seeped in him, or just that he is thinking that it is not right or wrong or he is waiting to be sure of his feelings and maybe trying to get to know yours too

[bluemountain]

Thank you! I apologize for reposting sorta, but the more takes on the situation, the better idea I'll have on what's going on.

[prajeshvikram]

You should do your best to clear as much as you can so that at least one of you can be clear and confident on what to do. All the best

[Anonymous]

he likes you