I often see so many guys find a woman attractive and state their sexual desire to sleep with her, or even admitting they find her attractive. However, the moment you tell them that said person is trans or has a penis they now do a complete 180 and say they don't want them anymore.
Recently, a question was asked if men found this woman attractive (below). Most guys said YES, and many of them outright admitted in wanting to fuck said person. Now, in the update i stated that said person was born a male and you wouldn't believe how many men changed their opinion just from hearing that. A few actually became violent to said trans woman and wish she died.
So why are MEN like this? Why do you fear and are so hostile to trans women?
Why is it a LOT guys can finds trans women attractive yet will resist acting on their sexual desire to sleep with them?
Before I say anything about this topic, let's confront the elephant in the room: are trans people really the gender they profess to be or are they merely performing the part, acting a role they were not born as? Your answer to that question will determine the course of this dialogue.
The reality is that transgender women/men are basically a lie, a wolf in sheeps' clothing--yes, that is transphobic, but the truth can be a hard pill to swallow. It's already hard as it is for guys to talk to girls, now we introduce the fact that some girls aren't even biologically female, yet you can't tell the difference at a glance, and the result is that a mating game that is already rather difficult has increased in complexity exponentially.
And we haven't even gotten to the social ramifications yet... and I'm not talking violence against women or something of that sort. If a guy finds out a girl is trans, is he supposed to keep dating her (him) because "it's [current year] and you don't want to be a transphobic bigot, do you?" or is he allowed to say "I like girls who are actually girls" without facing some sort of social retaliation?
There are so many issues that crop up when dealing with a trans person and it's just not worth the hassle, especially since any and all affronts to any trans person anywhere is seen as an attack against every trans person and the whole LBGTQFZB+/- community itself.
Here's a good question for anyone trying to feign righteous indignation at the idea of someone not dating a transgender person: if you were to date a trans person, would you be doing it because you actually want to or because your ethical code demands that you do?
Is it really that difficult to get that stragith guys don't like dick? even if they find the trans woman atractive, knowing she's actually, biologically a male, is a tought that's gonna bother a lot of people, they may feel like if they go for it that makes them gay, and make them uncomfortable, she may even still have his dick (some pleople nowadays like to be called trans without even doing the actual transition), wich obviously will turn off anyone who's actually looking for a woman, with an actual vagina. Now, even if her actually got his dick operated into a vagina, knowing you're actually fucking a severed pines, lubricated by dick juice, can be very unsetling for most straight men, so it is a pretty obvious why would it be a turn off.
Because they want real women who are naturally women not a man parading as a woman who's deceiving men intentionally or unintentionally. A man doesn't want to have to worry if the woman he likes is actually a female because we go by physical characteristics that tell us if a person is the opposite or same sex. It makes a man question his sexuality because he was fooled by a man who passes well enough like actual born female. Plus a lot men are looking for women to start a question family, you can't really do that with a transgender woman. Men hate this cause transgenderism is deception, even if they tell it's still deception cause people are being fooled by outer appearances even if they know that person is biologically male or female.
From the friends that I know ( straight, gay, trans) we often talk about it a lot. Some of my straight friends has said they tried to give it a go however when they tried to get intimate and they saw the penis they just couldn't get it hard nor continue and felt horrible about it and wish they could do something about it however they are straight and not gay or bi they love women and the genitalia they have. There's a reason why they say love is not a choice. You don't choose to be gay straight or tans you are born that way. I hope hat helps a bit
Well I understand why a lot of guys don't want to date/fuck a trans woman, and that's their prerogative. Most trans women are also understanding of this fact. However, I don't understand why some men are so violent to trans women. It's sad how dangerous it is to be a trans woman for this reason.
Well how is a straight man even suppose to have sex with a trans? Believe it or not, there are guys that dont like to fuck a girl anal. The straight guy that thought she had a vagina will not be willing to do anything to or with penis he was just suprised with, so basiclly all he can get out if is either blowjobs or hand jobs.
Plus maybe some guys are thinking about the future and want kids, a transwoman can't birth a baby so that could make them loose a lot of interest.
Or just the fact that it's kind of like she was lying about or keeping a pretty big detail secret, which would be my biggest issue.
I would totally have sex with that woman, penis or not, but it depends how soon she told me, I dont like secrets being kept from me.
Oh and I've talked to a tranny before, lucky a very open one, cause when you find out some is trans that raises a lot of questions even if you ok with having sex with a trans Do you have a pussy or dick? How big is your dick? Does your dick still get hard? Do you still have your balls? Do you shoot blanks now? Without your balls, do you still get horny?
See that's a lot of confusion that if we dont ask the pc way gets us yelled at or labeled transphobic, so that's just too much hassle for a lot men.
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Anonymous
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For the record I would definitely date a trans woman (pre or post surgery) as long as she was attractive to me. I don't think care about genitalia. I don't know that for a fact because I haven't had that situation before. I would have sex with her, let her have sex with me (I think I would like that), and blow each other (I like to give to and receive from my partner because that is fair plus I like to see them having pleasure).
That said there are several reasons why. Most straight people care about being with a 100% person of the opposite sex for reproductive and social reasons. Medical procedures and prosthetics have come a long way, but a trans man/woman is not a bio man/woman. The genitalia perform different maybe close, but not the same (that is post-op). If they haven't had the surgery, then their parts won't match your parts ideally. Yes you can get close, but its not the same. That can be a deal breaker. There is also the social stigma about it.
There actually is a good comparison to men finding transwomen attractive but refusing to sleep with them. Underage women (aka jail bait). There are girls under the age of consent that look over the age of consent. Men may be attracted to them physically, but the instant that they find out that the girl is not at or above the age of consent they back out. (I am not condoning sleeping with underage individuals). True there is a difference in legality, but the effect of knowing something about someone that is undesirable can kill sexual drive.
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Anonymous
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I mean... if society let girls be masculine and boys be feminine then nobody would feel weird as the gender they were born as.
But because we have so many people that get annoyed and oversexualize tomboys and so many people that hate boys that hate makeup.. it brings into the fact that I guess you can't be your true self as the gender you were born into so you feel odd about being that gender and feel like the opposite gender.
Example I was ridiculed all my life for being a tomboy, I never cared about being a girl or being feminine ever, I hated makeup, went skateboarding and all.. but as I grew up I noticed everyone was forcing me into this stereotypical women role of doing child care work and looking for a man and going to proms and wearing makeup... I hated it.. I just wanted to skateboard and do parkour and make my own gaming channel... but I tried doing the stuff I liked.. and all the guys just made me some kind of disgusting fetish... for some reason me being myself was now me being an attention seeker and everyone oversexulized and assumed everything I did because I wasn't acting as a typical girl...
So now with all this hatred and no one letting me be myself I find my self identifying a lot with nonbinary or male. If society let people be whatever they wanted to be then less people would experience dysphoria.. because they would actually be allowed to be themselves and then there's no "Girls can't do parkour for a living" and "Boys can't wear dresses and makeup" Their would be nothing that makes a girl a girl and boy a boy anymore so no one would need to transition.. But of course if I can't be myself in peace then I am going to transition cause this is so annoying and hearing she and her to me is also frustrating now..
Plastic surgery, make up, preferable camera angles, filters, and photoshop retouching can make anyone look like anything. So picture reference is a bogus source of data. You can make a cat look like Shrek with the right filters… In person someone is more likely to pick up on fake boobs, caked on make up, masculine body language, gay male vocal tones, masculine behavior both in approach and in response, etc. which will generally gross them out and make them realize they are dealing with a tranny...
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Anonymous
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Well why are you trying to make all people gay for? a gay man no matter how much he can resemble a woman after surgeries and makeup still cannot create a child in the stomach so by instinct men who are straight naturallly are attracted to women to reproduce. gays are becoming fucking annoying seriously.
be gay and find whoever likes you and be grateful for who does! stop bitching about why not every single man or woman likes you. The whole world is not gonna like you just cause you’re gay, it doesn’t make you any more better than anybody else.
Not everyone likes me! And I’m not gay, so what? I’m not complaining. It’s life! Take it!
this is too fucking pathetic entitled ass fucking loser people please everyone like me and want me and want to fuck me pleeeeease or I’ll cry and make a video about how not everyone wants me wa wa wa stupid drama queens
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Anonymous
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"So why are MEN like this? Why do you fear and are so hostile to trans women?" That's a blanket statement. I'm not fearful or hostile to transgenders.
But why is this rhetoric being forced onto guys? Are guys supposed to want to have sex with transgender people? If gender really is a spectrum, then transgender women are on the side of the spectrum that the average biological male doesn't want. Asking me if I think another straight male is good looking is fine, that doesn't mean I want to have sex with him... So why am I supposed to want to have sex with an attractive trans woman?
You can't fault a guy for his preference. I don't have to defend myself for my choice to be with a woman who was born a woman. For my wish to maybe have a family.
There are men who will chose trans women, do they have to be applauded for being outstanding citizens for their choice?
I'm all for people being treated decently but I have a right to chose who I want to be intimate with.
Its like switching out the toppings on a pizza and asking me why I don't want it when i wanted it before. I just don't want it.
Dear trans community, I am so sorry for the vitriol aimed at you over your body and your mind. How anyone thinks they have a right to such vehement hatred over such a thing as gender, it is beyond me.
Just know that there are those of us who understand how much pain you're subjected to, and I hope you can find a community beyond these sludge dwellers that loves you for who you are.
I can certainly understand why a man would be turned off by a beautiful woman who turned out to have a penis. Most men are straight, regardless of what certain groups are trying to claim. Most men want a woman who is actually female. Personally? If I found myself in bed with the woman shown above, I'd fuck her in the ass and then suck her cock. But that's just me.
Pretty simple, it's because they can look very feminine and attractive. With clothes on. We get naturally turned on. But no straight guy is going to want to mess with a 'girl' that he knows has male genitalia or some sort of artificial alteration, It's just not natural.
Though just to clarify; trans people have a right to do what they want with their bodies, and be respected like any other. As long as it isn't forced on others that aren't interested.
I don't know the reason. People just are stuck with their heads somewhere in the past. Personally I think she is pretty attractive and I couldn't care less if she has male chromosomes or not. As far as she would tell me she weren't post op before sex I wouldn't even see a problem with that. Thinking trans people are attractive or wanting sex eith them doesn't make one homo or anything. Well, guys, try something new!
Because trans gendered are a copy of a girl and not the real thing, they can't squirt and have multiple orgasms, they have no natural lubrication, no ambrosia to exite my sexuality, they smell different and usually retain the skeletal structure of a male, and last but not not least are unable to bear children which is usually desired if you want to start a family.
It's not that we are resisting our urge to have sex with them once we know, but the fact that her having a penis is unattractive to us.
As for the people who hate and fear trans people, become violent against them, and wished for that girl in the picture to die, I'm not protecting them. They're hateful bigots, plain and simple.
I'm very much a supporter of trans rights, and wish them the absolute best, but personally I just don't find them attractive.
Straight men aren't attracted to men. Once you tell them that someone that looks like a woman is actually a man, they get turned off. What we're attracted to has to do with more than just how someone looks.
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Anonymous
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If they still have a dick, I would be completely turned off by any physical intimacy.
I want to have biological kids, and want to relationships I'm in to at least have a chance of progressing to that. In principle I'd be in to try something more casual with a post-op women, but I'm not into those kinds of relationships nor foresee myself in those relationships in the near future.
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Anonymous
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Because penis. And even constructed vaginas are still lubricated with man juice.
Also the deception aspect, this applies to many things not just trans stuff. Your wife is a virgin, after getting married you suddenly you find out she's slep with 100 guys, how do you feel now?
When you say "trans woman" do you mean a man who has breast implants and has had his penis surgically altered to look like a vagina?
If a person claims to be a trans female but still has a penis, why would any straight male want to have sex with a person with a penis no matter what they Identify as.
Imagine someone offers you something that looks like a delicious cake and asks you, if you would eat it. You say "yes", because you believe it is a delicious cake, but then the person reveals to you, it is dog poop, covered with icing. Would you eat it? Of course not. You got tricked. You said yes with something else in your mind.
I would even hit that, and I am straight. She looks like a goddess
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Anonymous
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The only way I'll find a guy attractive, who is pretending to be a girl, is if I initially believe he IS a girl. But as soon as I find out that it's actually a guy, then I'm completely repulsed. I'm SO glad that I'm firmly and permanently married, and don't have to worry about this insanity
Id smash but keep it on the DL. if she had a dick ( what a ridiculous oxymoron) i would probably not. And if she sounded at all like a man and tbh the fact that she 'was' a man is repulsive to me (sexually speaking)
Because she has a penis, and its a turn off to see that as a straight man. It's also because I don't truly understand why they do it either. Why change your body that God gave you?
I'm not hostile to them at all, they can live life the way they want. I just don't want to have sex with them. I'm not into penis, is all. Somewhere out there are guys who are. Good luck.
I have no fear or animosity towards trans women. I have not had any close experience with any but would not be against it.
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Anonymous
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You can make someone look like a great man or woman, but it doesn't make them a man or woman. Create a wax figure of a woman with fantastic features, that doesn't mean I'll want to (or be able to) fuck it
Personally I find the women pictured above to be very attractive. The fact that she's trans doesn't change my opinion. I'd still definitely take her out on a date and would still have sex with her.
I am a really blunt person and all in all I have no real problem with trans women if they tell me that they want to sleep with me I dont see a real reason why I shouldn't treat them like any other girl.
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