Why does my crush only talk to me through social media, and never in real life?

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We talk through snapchat almost everyday, but NEVER in real life. We go to the same school as me. He seems so interested in social media, but doesn't even try to talk to me irl. I feel like he would be embarrased to be seen around me or something? At least around his friends.

But! He always looks at me and comes sit near me, even when there is an empty class! Am i supposed to start a conversation or something? I am confused!

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

You don't have to do anything. It's your choice. There are no rules to this. Don't follow the social normalcy. Sometimes people sit's next to you because they like you as a person. It doesn't always mean's it's something more. Perhaps he is embarrassed because he is not used to this or shy. Most introverted people feel comfortable in writing more than verbal. It's not meant to hurt your feelings. But for people like me, whether shy or not, we're able to communicate effectively by typing or writing. While it's hard to do so verbally because our brains think's faster than we speak. So it comes out as studdering or gibberish. Still, try and talk to him. But make your intentions clear. He may be just quiet and enjoys your company. I only sit next to people I know or talk to.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I did this in high school like I was completely interested in this guy he was interested in me but back then I was so anti social so when he would say hi or compliment my hair or tell me I looked cute/beautiful on a certain day I'd run away then message him "thank you". So I'm sure he likes you and is just too shy to actually talk to you, you should open up the conversation.

Curious_Curiouser · Accepted Answer

Hey, same problem here, but opposite. This guy will talk to me/acknowledge me in person but he's the most irritating person on the planet when it comes to social media.
But seriously, woman up and talk to him yourself. Strike up a conversation, something as random as "what's your favorite color?" will always lead up to more questions. Good Luck!

Manuel2 · Accepted Answer

He must of heard a rumour about you, but I feel to be honest, he playing you and then he will try to make send pictures of you naked or doing a sexual act, so he can share and laugh at you.
I think also you have a female friend that he likes more, and he is only flirting with you in school to keep up joke.
If I was you, inviting to a Church meeting in front of everyone, but first on Snap chat.
If he say yes taking to the meeting, but leave half way through. And tell him where you really want to take him.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Accepted Answer

You could make small talk with him in school and talk to him about things. Tell him your curious why he only talks to you on Social media
i believe you have every right to know what's going on with him and
how he feels about you and not leave you without any knowledge
of what's going on through his mind. Some people leave us go on
and never give us a clue what's going on in their heads.

king34 · Answer

Im kinda doing the same thing with a girl, my thing is I've kinda liked her for a while and she just broke up with her boyfriend so every time she post somthing on ig, i like it and leave a 💖or 😍 and i hit on her but never talk to her at school, just cuz im not really sure if i want to actually date her or not, cuz I've heard things about her and stuff so im just really uncertain

witherwing · Answer

It can go one of two ways. He is either really shy, so it's easier to contact through social media or he is embarrassed of being interested in you and doesn't want anyone to know.

jaramorj · Answer

Yeah try to talk with him. Do you have any interests in common?

LunaJ · Answer

talk to him then. before it becomes an online only connection for too long. that will make you both feel strange in person

Bárbara1402 · Answer

I know sometimes girls like that guys do the first move but sometimes we have to do it ourselves. Try to start a talk with him irl

Darknut123 · Answer

What about when a person knows you like them, they go off the radar and avoid you, then after you move on they unblock you but only communicate with you through other online means fine, but leaving you pending on fb

Partywithtom · Answer

Because he's probably nervous and doesn't know how to be social in person because of things like Snapchat and your parents for giving you phones and 24/7 access to those things in which you don't need.

Sorry for the rant.

Descapla · Answer

It's likely that he is shy and feels the same way about you, but doesn't think you feel the same about him. Someone eventually has to break the ice, tell him you like him.

jersos1 · Answer

He is shy I think. But this is cute and weird... awwww

Koalashnikov · Answer

Ask him to talk with him in real life instead of social media. Nothing can grow wrong.

tallSteve69 · Answer

He just wants your nudes so send them and go fuck him already !!

abhishek01 · Answer

Because some people's are good in talking someone on social media but they can't talk in front of someone

lovelyhoneybones · Answer

He's probably too nervous.

LastNightmare · Answer

i m sorry girll.. he must be an introvert jerk

anmari2001 · Answer

Maybe he is shy IRL?

Anonymous · Answer

He is not comfortable in real life

Austin12345y7i0 · Answer

he's shy

hunter02burks02 · Answer

Maybe he is shy.

JasperVillaverde95 · Answer

He's just shy

Why does my crush only talk to me through social media, and never in real life?

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