Yep, inexperience and introversion, and shy too. You'll have to guide him. Explain you need a little bit more kiss and cuddle to feel wanted. Sounds like he's playing it safe.
He sounds like a guy who's very unsure sexually and lacks sexual confidence. I often initiate physical contact before we've even had a date, so it's definitely not normal for guys like me to wait that long.
sorry but not every guy who moves slower lacks sexual experience. It depends also on what the girl express non verbally. For example I met a guy who was by far more experienced than I will ever will lol. But once, at our first date a girl in very slutty clothes passed us by. And we talked for like 5 minutes about how much we disagree on such clothes and atitude. And I said that a door that is unlocked by every key is not a good door ( a woman who sleeps with everybody) Maybe he understood i would like to move slower. We kissed at date 3 and we had sex after 2 months. I was a virgin and 22 years old. Now we are getting married
He is being respectful. He needs you to break the touch barrier first. Hand on arm, moving into his personal space, and such. That will give him permission. Give it a try!
Sounds like he still doesn't feel comfortable with you yet. Some guys move slow, especially guys with something to lose, remember if he moves to fast you can ruin him now (the law gives you a scary amount of power here), until he feels sure you will accept his advances he won't risk making them.
it's possible that he VERY nervous about giving you that kiss. Don't hold it against him tooooo much. Maybe you're gonna have to make the first move. :) there's no way he doesn't find you attractive. You're hot. lol. I knew u shoulda gone out with me.
I can understand that. Smthng similar was happening to me for over a month (see how patient I am) 😝 Try touching him yourself Get closer to him when you talk, put your hand on him mor3, get more personal with him.
See him one more time. Tell him, "If you have any desire to kiss me, you need to do it now! Otherwise, I'll just assume that you are not attracted to me and I'll go home."
More than likely he's very shy to make a first move, but probably wants to do it though. He might even think it's a sign of disrespect to invade your personal space. I think if you give him a little nudge, he'll come around.
No don't get frustrated. . at be he is being extra cautious coz he doesn't wanna loose his second love nor he wants to make any mistake with you. I think he is a great guy.. He is just trying to explore you non sexually. If everything falls into perfect place he will propose. Or may be he doesn't wanna sound creepy coz its inky date 3 and who knows his previous experiences with his ex. Every time he tries to get closer he was called a creep or needy or desperate by his ex. What can you say. So number of possibilities are there. Just don't over think. Some guys are sensitive to previous experiences. Just do your move. at least you will know.
Yeah and I dont like that. That is why I am not religious. But yeah we'll see.. no kiss on date 4 either but granted we werr in public. This sat is netflix and chill... that is the final chance I am giving him!!
Counting dates and dating bases is a new age crap. If you like somebody kiss him whenever you want. Same goes with sex. This is the only way to know for sure
This sounds like a personality thing of his. I wouldn't get upset about it. He just respects you a lot I think. Maybe express how you feel to him openly, or maybe make a move yourself?
If he is shy and nerdy he is probably nervous dating someone who looks like you. I think it's best to wait a while and get to know each other before being physical.
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The slut culture today is really funny. Decency is considered lack of interest. I guess that's normal thinking for seculars... .
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Yep, inexperience and introversion, and shy too. You'll have to guide him. Explain you need a little bit more kiss and cuddle to feel wanted.
Sounds like he's playing it safe.
He sounds like a guy who's very unsure sexually and lacks sexual confidence. I often initiate physical contact before we've even had a date, so it's definitely not normal for guys like me to wait that long.
sorry but not every guy who moves slower lacks sexual experience. It depends also on what the girl express non verbally. For example I met a guy who was by far more experienced than I will ever will lol. But once, at our first date a girl in very slutty clothes passed us by. And we talked for like 5 minutes about how much we disagree on such clothes and atitude. And I said that a door that is unlocked by every key is not a good door ( a woman who sleeps with everybody) Maybe he understood i would like to move slower. We kissed at date 3 and we had sex after 2 months. I was a virgin and 22 years old. Now we are getting married
He is being respectful. He needs you to break the touch barrier first. Hand on arm, moving into his personal space, and such. That will give him permission. Give it a try!
Sounds like he still doesn't feel comfortable with you yet. Some guys move slow, especially guys with something to lose, remember if he moves to fast you can ruin him now (the law gives you a scary amount of power here), until he feels sure you will accept his advances he won't risk making them.
Sounds like you are just a thing he thinks he should have, but doesn't know why.
Yeah could be. Or he just enjoys a girl chasing him and I am not about childish games like that 😐
it's possible that he VERY nervous about giving you that kiss. Don't hold it against him tooooo much. Maybe you're gonna have to make the first move. :) there's no way he doesn't find you attractive. You're hot. lol. I knew u shoulda gone out with me.
Why don't u make a move on him. It's quite like that he doesn't want to come off as physical if you were not ready.
Nothing says you can't initiate physical contact, as you said the guy is shy, he probably wanted to kiss you, but was nervous.
I can understand that.
Smthng similar was happening to me for over a month (see how patient I am) 😝
Try touching him yourself
Get closer to him when you talk, put your hand on him mor3, get more personal with him.
See him one more time. Tell him, "If you have any desire to kiss me, you need to do it now! Otherwise, I'll just assume that you are not attracted to me and I'll go home."
More than likely he's very shy to make a first move, but probably wants to do it though. He might even think it's a sign of disrespect to invade your personal space. I think if you give him a little nudge, he'll come around.
Do you really want this guy to be your love? Is he really worth it?
Yeah I don't know anymore really. It seems like hard work for what...
No don't get frustrated. . at be he is being extra cautious coz he doesn't wanna loose his second love nor he wants to make any mistake with you. I think he is a great guy.. He is just trying to explore you non sexually. If everything falls into perfect place he will propose. Or may be he doesn't wanna sound creepy coz its inky date 3 and who knows his previous experiences with his ex. Every time he tries to get closer he was called a creep or needy or desperate by his ex. What can you say. So number of possibilities are there. Just don't over think. Some guys are sensitive to previous experiences. Just do your move. at least you will know.
It could be he's either scared or that his religious convictions are so deep that he feels to try anything would be against God
Yeah and I dont like that. That is why I am not religious. But yeah we'll see.. no kiss on date 4 either but granted we werr in public. This sat is netflix and chill... that is the final chance I am giving him!!
Hey, I just stumbled upon your old post. So what ever became of this guy? Did it work out?
Dump him he planning to have sex with your brother Just kidding. He just shy or your breath smells.
Look, he's OBVIOUSLY too shy to make a move himself AND he's religious. You're gonna have to take the lead sweetheart.
Counting dates and dating bases is a new age crap. If you like somebody kiss him whenever you want. Same goes with sex. This is the only way to know for sure
This sounds like a personality thing of his. I wouldn't get upset about it. He just respects you a lot I think. Maybe express how you feel to him openly, or maybe make a move yourself?
If he is shy and nerdy he is probably nervous dating someone who looks like you. I think it's best to wait a while and get to know each other before being physical.
The slut culture today is really funny. Decency is considered lack of interest. I guess that's normal thinking for seculars... .
i agree with you..
normally she should be happy to have him like that, cause its hard to find someone like that nowadays.