Is it true that if a guy stops initiating conversation, he's not into you?

[Anonymous]

[hellacray]

Well have you ever tried contacting him first?

For me if there was a girl I like, I would start chatting with her. If I noticed that she never once initiate a conversation I would just stop contacting her.

Why put in the effort of contacting someone when she clearly doesn't like you.

[Asker]

I figured he would know that I like him because of how I spoke in our phone convos. I laughed at all his jokes and complimented him from time to time

[Asker]

I never contacted him because of that

[hellacray]

Ok well that's nice, but that's just it being nice. If it was me I'd just assume you were being nice.

Cause I've spoken to women that was either married or was in a relationship that did the same thing. They laughed at my stupid jokes and complimented me, either on what I was wearing or if I just had a haircut.

My point is action speak louder than words. Cause if he already took the time to talk to you then it's really up to you to respond.

[Asker]

Well in our last phone call he said he would call me the next day, and he never did. The last thing I sent him was a short snippet of me singing an Ed Sheeran song and all he responded with was "🙂" I figured he wasn't really into me

[hellacray]

Oh... well then that's a little different.

Probably wasn't a good idea to send him your singing.

Well I'd say contact him anyways and if he doesn't respond in a day or two then that's when it would be time to let go.

[Asker]

Lol. I realized that the singing snippet must've turned him off. I wonder why it might've? I've taken voice lessons before and it was a really short snippet. But I'll take your advice into account if I build up the courage. Thanks

[Asker]

Maybe the snippet came across as egotistic

[hellacray]

Possibly. I mean it might be cute to sing to him if you're both a couple.

However it doesn't sound like anything is official yet.

Well yes try sending him a message and see what happens.

[Asker]

I'm curious, would you be turned off if a girl sent you a snippet of herself singing?

[hellacray]

Well if it's just something random I would think you might be crazy.

[FemWorship]

1. agree
2. you've shot him down one too many times, wants to be & is with you but tired of critic's fun at his expense
3. trying to be with you but has run out of steam finding things in common... about to realize time to move on if you don't come up with something to glue things together

[goddess87]

Yes, if it suddenly stops for days. If it is just one day I wouldn't panic about it

[cupidkisses]

it is not true, sometimes he will expect it from you

[lorenzo123]

This could be true. In very little situations it differs, for example if he's always busy with work and maybe can't find enough time to have an interactive conversation with u. But in most cases, if he stops initiating conversations then maybe he doesn't consider you as someone of importance.

[crazy8000]

Nope.

Some people get messed up in the head when feelings starts. los of time perception, anxiety, become goofy, don't know what to say or do.

Be patience. be the one that take initiative, make things happen, drive it forward, let him withdraw if he do that some need time to evaluate to get feelings.

[GingerGuy]

Maybe, but don't assume it. He may simple be out of things to talk about and not know what to say. So you initiate. Guys are generally not the best conversationalists anyway, never mind with a girl and someone we might like.

[Anonymous]

No. His texts could just be slowing as he gets comfortable, this is a good thing in my opinion. Sometimes you're just sick of having to start the conversation every time. I know some girls can get away with never initiating a conversation.

Meeting with him is the best way to know what's up.

Are you starting conversations?

[Shreyash108]

May be... but if i have to initiate conversations everytime with someone.. it makes me feel that the other one is not in talking... as no efforts are being made!

[Caaarl]

It's possible. But sometimes guys are always tired of being the one who has to do everything. Let him know you're interested in a real way (one that's crystal clear) and if he doesn't do anything about that then he's probably not interested.

[F1r3byte]

Yeah, some of us value their dignity. If the guy is always initiating the conversations and you are not reciprocating. Then sure, he'll invest his time and self somewhere else where it is worth it.

[LegateLanius]

No. I for one just get bored with being the only one to initiate any conversation in every day life. Have you ever been truly ignored if you don't go out of your way to talk to people you see everyday? I have or at least felt that way.

[ObliviousJester]

Having to be the one to make the first move can get tedious. Plus tend to feel that the female isn't interested

[winterfox10]

Could be... But it could also mean that he wants to see you put a little fuckin' effort into thd relarionship for a change.

[Cyfris]

he could have just run out of things to say if your not activily adding to the conversation.

[Elias17]

Not true he just may want you to start it for once to show that you show interest in him as well or else it just kinda shows that you don't care as much as he does

[Mistnigqa808]

this...^_^

[Asker]

I'd like to believe that it's true. The guy hasn't initiated any texts for a week long though. Do guys leave it as it is for that long?

[Elias17]

Well text wise I do but that is only if I see them during the day and talk to them if I don't by that point I would already be kinda hurt

[Mistnigqa808]

yeah, I do these days, fuck always having to initiate the convo with this or that girl when ___ will text first and be just as fun to chat with ^_^.

[Asker]

I get it. I just can't tell if the guy I was talking to was doing the same thing.. waiting on me to text first

[Asker]

Or if he just wasn't that into me

[Elias17]

Well I'm not the guy so I couldn't tell you for sure but there is always the chance that he was waiting on you

[Travis123]

To an extent, yes. But sometimes it could just be because he’s really busy with work, family, school, etc.

[Asker]

Really? What if he wanted her to text first for a change?

[Travis123]

Well, it’s possible. Do you show him signs you are interested in him?

[Asker]

I did over the phone. I'd laugh at his jokes and open up about myself. The last thing he said is that he'd call me again the next day. He never did

[Travis123]

How long ago was that?

[Asker]

A week ago

[Travis123]

If he said he was gonna call the next day and didn’t and it’s been a week, it sounds like he’s not interested... you can text him or something and see if he response.

[Kuraj]

If I was the only one initiating conversations I would lose interest very quickly.

[Canadaman99]

Nope. Eventually i give you a chance to lead. If you dont then i assume you aren't worth my effort

[cpich7uj]

Not necessarily. If he has allways to initiate it, he could also get the sensation that you're not interested.

[Anonymous]

I never initiate conversations, no matter if Im attracted to her or not..

[UsernameMadness]

Not necessarily. He may just be looking for reciprocation.

[Fuentes]

Lol that depends either that, waiting for u to hit him up or u did something to piss him off

[pavansai28]

If a guy do love a girl then no one can stop him from texting but if it is not happening
Then
Sorry girl he doesn't like u