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One thing I noticed about what you said was you don't make eye contact. If I'm looking at a girl and she avoids eye contact I'm going to assume she doesn't want to talk to me. As for the rest of it, I don't know you well enough to say. I would need more info.
The problem is probably your body language. I would find you very appealing if I had the chance to talk with you, and I'm generally considered 7-8 out of 10. Your nose piercing is crazy hot! All of that hotness aside though, if you didn't look like you wanted to be approached then I wouldn't bother trying.
You have to give off the vibe that you want guys to talk with you, otherwise only the guys with nothing to lose will approach you.
I'd probably feel like you weren't interested if you aren't showing signs or I'd feel like I'm bothering if you look at all busy. Try making the first move yourself.
it does seem like you might have a mean face without even trying tot make one. but you're ridiculously cute in my opinion so if it was a right moment id definitely approach you. can't expect guys to just come up to you out of the blue
You're definitely attractive so it may just be they are intimidated. You don't look scary or have a bitch face like you're worried about so you have no problem there. The guys may just be too shy to go up to you so yeah.
Your standards for attractive men are probably off the chart ridiculous for the places that you go to. That's the tone i glean from your post anyway.
wait, wheres the places she goes?
@iFarted She’s talking about shots so I’m going to assume she works in a bar somewhere. Then she talks about crude “scummy” men so I’m guessing not a decent place with the “in” crowd where model men hang out.
Honestly, a barmaid asking why guys hit on her... then saying none of them are good enough for her, you find that a little... presumptious right?
Not what I said at all. I expect it from the job. I just wonder why I never have a normal conversation. And if its something I do or another reason.
Also, barmaid is a very derogatory term... I am a bartender. I am not a maid. I am not a tavern wench. I am there to make drinks and make sure people habe a good time. Im just curious to know why normal mindful conversations are so rare.
I get you
Sorry we call them barmen and barmaids here, difference in culture, nothing personal there.
As for why you can’t find s guy
Let’s say you have 1000 men in your bar on a given night.
Out of those 1000 let’s say 30% are taken. Leaves us 700
Out of those 700 let’s say you serve 30% of them (assuming 3 staff). That gives us 210.
Out of those 210, let’s say 30% of them hit on you because mostly they’re there to buy drinks and go. Leaves us 63
Out of those 63, let’s say 50% are drunk to some degree, drunk people don’t know what they’re saying so discount them.. Leaves us 32
Out of those 32 let’s say you find 5% are attractive (being generous here, I suspect it’s a lot lower for you if you’ve only ever met 1 attractive guy in your life). Leaves us 2
Out of those 2 let’s say half find you equally attractive... 1
A lot of assumptions but fair ones... You see? It’s merely the fact you’re looking for a unicorn in a pony shed.
rofl, nice stats
Those aren't exactly safe assumptions. Out of 200 people at a bar... if ONE can't have a normal conversation. Or even just be a decent respectful person... well... thats a huge issue. I dont believe thats the case at all. I think A) I have worked in places that set the dynamic for female bartenders to be objects and B) The places that have not I havnt exactly take the leap to talk to people as I should. I am not even looking to date at all. I merely just wanted to know... is there such a radical difference in the two types of men... and should I put myself out there conversation wise.
So, If you don’t want to date, but you are curious as to why attractive men don’t hit on you... isn’t that needing reassurance/ego boost? Where are we going with this?
Since you’re curious, polite and attractive men don’t go around hitting on women randomly. That’s a condition of being polite.
As for what you should do... if you really ARE looking to just talk outside of the bar you work at, then I don’t see how a man’s attractiveness plays into that? So you should go ahead and talk to people. Again, If you want only attractive men to talk to you, then that’s entirely different.
I wouldn't consider you due to your nose ring. I am not high on looks, but high on attractiveness due to financial success.
You are only about average looking anyway. Expect average looking guys.
Laugh more, genuine!!! works very well.
But some sexy clothes on but not to slutty. Leather skirt can do the trick very well with panty's and some shoes.
Nah. You look pretty chill. I'd would like to hang out with you... But I'm a workaholic 😂. Just saying
you're really pretty and i would definitely try to talk to you. as for why guys don't, you might be unknowingly unapproachable. you have to be confident and have open body language. if you're closed off people won't approach you.