Why don't attractive guys approach me?

[Chelseaisnotyourbro]

I'm curious as to why attractive guys don't approach me. I'm not looking for a 10/10 but a solid 7 would be nice. I've only been approached by not so attractive guys (3's and 4's... MAYBE a 5). I know looks aren't everything but it'd be nice once in a while to be approached by a good-looking guy. I've been told by my guy friends that guys think i'm cute, so i know i'm not ugly (not saying i'm super attractive or anything). I also had a bad experience with this guy i made out with. Take in mind, he was flirting sober all night long, we got drunk, made out and then he told my friend he only kissed me because he had beer goggles. That one really hurt my ego that was already at a -2. I don't get why attractive guys don't come up to me, I've been catcalled but catcalling doesn't mean i'm attractive and it's not flattering, I'd rather not be called things by yucky old men :(

[mistninja314]

No matter how you want to cut it approaching a girl these days is either going to get you called a creep/harasser OR have your name rubbed in the dirt. IF THEY DON'T FIND you attractive that is, So pick ya poison I guess ^^

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1234380-guys-what-makes-you-go-up-to-a-girl-approach-her I don't really approach girls to be honest.. I let them come to me since it puts the ball in my park "and I'm the easiest guy to talk to so it overall makes everything easier for us both since I won't turn her down READ THE "show older" under it

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1303020-why-don-t-guys-ever-ask-a-girl-for-her-number-anymore

You also have to keep in mind that an attractive GUY Is going to have girls all over on his dick on a daily basis so with that being said "WHY WOULD he approach you?" Since he has nothing to gain BUT a lot to lose if he gets rejected.

[GreenTiger]

You have a shitty mentality and a wrong perception of reality

[Insignis]

Eh... Being attractive hasn't made things easier for me. And they DO say I'm gorgeous. I don't have girls all over my dick everyday either. That's just a stereotype.

[mistninja314]

@GreenTiger Lmao whatever you say my dude but "NEVER TAKE" anything that I say at face value NOR think that, that's my mindset (whatever I've written). I said that because girls want to have their cake and eat it too. I mean Somethings got to give right?

Either we can do what we've always done OR they can approach US. THEY need to pick their poison, now I'm not saying that these thirsty ass dudes should be going around catcalling them OR getting in their personal space.

But damn what can ya really do besides put yourself at the mercy of a female "WHICH IS SOMETHING I'LL NEVER DO" and I don't have to sorry. So either approach me OR she ain't getting no play fuck that. Since I ain't got time for no games LOL www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1225502-guys-lets-cut-to-the-chase-do-you-sometimes-play-hard-to-get

My mentality works QUITE EASILY I can tell you that with no sweat whatsoever off my back. Since they are the ones leading the conversation TRYING to get with me. Feels good since unlike most people in general if someone approaches me I DON'T TURN THEM DOWN LOL

[mistninja314]

@Insignis Got a personality to match those 8.5+ rated looks?

I just said that so that the @asker could realize that those guys don't really feel the need to approach girls. Since they already have their fair share of legit rated 7.5+ trying to date/hang with them anyway.

So why would they approach her unless she is banging fucking hot If not they are going to sit back and the let the girls come to them, right?

Hey, ain't wrong with sticking to what works right? LOL

[mistninja314]

@I_M_LEGEND This was the post that I was talking about LOL girls need to pick their poison

[Insignis]

Yes, I understand your point. They say my personality is great but I'm not flirtatious, that would be my fault.

[AleDeEurope]

Who says they are unattractive? You? Maybe they believe they are attractive, and they're lowering they're standards by approaching you.
What I'm saying is that you can't say "I want just hot guys to approach me" because what's hot for you can be ugly for others. Maybe there are some girls that see guys hitting on you and they wished those guys were approaching then instead of you.
Maybe those attractive guys you want to approach you don't do it because you're too much for them, or not enough.

No one can tell you why guys that you consider attractive don't approach you. You can approach them yourself, and then you will just talk to attractive guys.

[Anonymous]

I don't know. Maybe you have to be the one who approaches them? I've always considered myself as a 6, but when I started talking to some 10s, I found out some of them were into me, they just didn't do anything about it.

[jannette723]

Approach them. Not all guys who you find attractive are going to approach you all the time, because they may not know you find them attractive or because they just don't want to.

[Mustachekitteh]

Seriously are those dudes blind? You look like a 7 lol Maybe they are just racist against glasses XD

[posted]

So guys and girls are generally nervous about approaching the other sex, one thing I agreed with was when a guy said this on girls all wanting guys with huge muscles.

The guy who works his ass off is more likely to find a girl who cares about her body as well/equal to his looks, not one who sits around all day.

A hot guy will go for a hot girl, girls often reach out of their league, so do guys but I think girls don't really know where they place. If you don't like the guys who approach you, maybe get off your ass and ask one out, it's clear one isn't going to do it. Based off this your personality is kinda ehh, so that may hurt your chances.

[genuinlysensitive]

Side note, catcalling is almost never done to unattractive women, I know its not what you want to hear though.

As for Mr. Beer goggles, it doesn't necessarily mean you are ugly, just that he was drunk, and it maybe that he actually likes your friend, and is kicking himself for making out with you when he really liked her.

From your pic you are definitely not ugly ;) When you go out try getting contacts in you and maybe some kind of cocktail dress if you can, that should do it.

[RickHasslehoff]

if your ego is at a -2, why don't you lower your standards? i mean, maybe you only get approached by 4's and 5's because you are a 4 or a 5 too... I'm like a -10 I've never been approached in my life, and I've already come to accept that I'll be alone forever. but there is a lot of hope for you. why don't you give those 5's a chance?

[OralAddict1445]

I don't know about all guys but to me you look very attractive and I would be a little hesitant or intimidated to just approach and initiate a conversation I would look for the best ice breaker first... p. s. your beautiful

[HonestChap]

You look like a 7/10 and have the potential to be an 8/10. Your looking for a person in the top 3 of the looks spectrum.8, 9,10 and i can't blame you given your foundation.

People in the top 3 only approach each other and if you want in on their club, you will have to look desirable enough to not make them feel like they're settling, which is in turn how you feel about your current crowd.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you're just not approachable. Do you look at guys? ACTUALLY have eye contact and not just a half-second glance? Do you smile at them? Do you get caught looking multiple times? Do you approach any yourself?

[wondering_guy]

what is wrong with 3 - 4 and 5's, what makes them less attractive to what your actually expecting?

how do you know the "attractive guys" as you so call them dont see you as a 3 - 4 or maybe 5?

maybe they are looking for a 7 aswell

[Bandit74]

It could be your personality or maybe the attractive guys are all taken.
I don't know

Your looks aren't the problem tho. I'd say you're definitely above average in the looks department

[zorro8888]

Why don't you tell me why you don't think they're approaching you?
I'll point you to the right direction after I hear you.

[NerdInDenial]

I don't know; I think you're really cute. That's quite odd. Have you seen attractive guys ignore you or at least check you out?

[Chelseaisnotyourbro]

I have seen a few cute guys stare but that's as far as it goes.

[NerdInDenial]

Maybe you just have this aura that says f&*k off; some women have that look naturally.

[Chelseaisnotyourbro]

I think that's it. Many of my friends have told me when they see me walking around campus, I look like i'm mad LOL

[NerdInDenial]

If you're mad, guys won't come up to you because they're thinking she's PMSing.

[Chelseaisnotyourbro]

I'm not mad, I just have a mad face lol.

[NerdInDenial]

We don't know that.

[Anonymous]

Truth is, a lot of men aren't that interested in asking out women anymore, too much of a pain in the ass, too much downside. If she approaches me, I might be up for it, but otherwise I could give a shit less if I'm with a girl.

[GutterGarbage]

Can't help unless you want another 5 barking at you door!

[front2back]

Good-looking men don't approach you often enough? Wow, your life is just so hard.

[Chelseaisnotyourbro]

You don't have to get all sarcastic, I was just asking a question.

[abundantlyrich]

You are only physically attractive but your personality needs improvement. You sound really basic.

[GreenTiger]

If it makes you feel better, I would totally approach you if I met you at a club :)

[blondfrog]

Chicks with glasses can be intimidating too they might think your too smart for them.

[Mustachekitteh]

I doubt they would be saying that if they tried on to see how strong your lenses need to be so u can see. XD

[Beous]

Maybe you're too attractive that they think you're way out of their league

[TheSpartan]

You're hot, but you sound like kind of a bitch. Maybe that's why?

[Anonymous]

Because you are not attractive.
If a 3/10 guy asks you "how do you think of my appearance", will you say "nnnaaaahhhhh, you look like an alien"?

[tdiehl1336]

Maybe just put yourself more out there, so more attractive guys can approach you. Haha!