I've noticed lately that they think the high maintenance girl is hot but prefer to be in a relationship with the low maintenance laid back woman. Why?
Why aren't men attracted to high maintenance girls?
It isn't the money. It is their self serving attitude, and measuring everything to make sure it is up to their standards.
Take a high maintenance girl out to a steak dinner? Well, SHE ordered medium rare, and this is damn close to medium! She will make a commotion and frustrate the entire restaurant, its wait staff, and cooks, because don't they know she matters, God damn it?
... with an unending amount of utter disregard for other people, because in her mind it is her first, people she cares about a not-to-close second, and the rest of humanity is a distant third.
It isn't that she is a sociopath, it is that she sees herself as one of the most amazing women on the planet, and anyone who deigns to think they are worth a moment of her time had better fucking remember who she is, how amazing she is, and make it worth her effort.
She might look amazing, but the narcissism, and inability to recognize, or care, about other people, at least, not until they have proven their worth to her, makes her a terrible person.
Second scenario? You know the whole idea that it isn't what you give, it is the thought that counts?
Thought means nothing. It IS what you give. Got laid off early November? Had to dig into savings for a few weeks, only to get another job, but you're still waiting on that first paycheck, and hey, Christmas is here, so you better try to get things for people anyways?
She doesn't want your sob story. She doesn't care you are working to get your feet under you. She stuck with you for 5 weeks while you were in between jobs, despite KNOWING other guys would give her everything she wanted, and THIS crap is all you have for her for Christmas?
In her view, she is the height of human decency for not dumping your poor ass because you got laid off, and you showed her the greatest slight possible, when you revealed that you didn't buy her gift when you were still employed, and thus got her, gasp, something CHEAP.
But hey, at least now you're free to find a nicer person to date for new years.
Nah. Maybe I haven't made it clear, but I despise high-maintenance people, men or women. Money is what they care about, second only to themselves. They are rude, arrogant, nasty, easily cruel to other people, and are fucking parasites and leeches who want MORE MORE MORE MORE MORE, while offering nothing in return but the MAGNIFICENCE of their presence.
I'd much rather a more down to Earth, if less glamorous, woman. Because she is a real person.
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Cuz they're high-maintenance. Duh.
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They're also the ones that are hard to please, they have a sense of entitlement, are not thankful or gracious, and the first ones to leave you saying they're 'unnnnhhhhaaaappppyyyy'.
AMI right? LOL
I talked about this with a co worker of mine a few years back.
We both worked retail in an office building, also located beside a highend department store.
He had a crush on a regular customer but had no intentions to do anything. He said he's never date someone like her, to which I asked why that is because he said multiples of times that for guys, physical attraction is very important.
Coincidently, a few minutes later, a guy that works at the department store came to grab his coffee. It may not be accurate, but someone had told me that he works as a part time model.
My coworker asked me why I don't like him when a lot of other girls had and have a crush on him. and I couldn't put my thoughts into words at that moment, but I got to understand how he felt about his crushtomer
I think it goes both ways. Us girls usually don't find high maintenance guys attractive either. At least for me, its not just one reason, but a combination, some of which I can't even put into words.
The guy was very tall, fit, charming, sweet, always dressed up (not just high end, but he had a very good sense of fashion, everything he wore fit in a very flattering way, variety of different styles too), his hair was always on point, very good manners, etc etc
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Meaning:
1. Require (ing) a lot of work/attention to maintain.
2. Require (ing) a lot of money or attention to appearance.
3. Require (ing) a high emotional investment or en excessive amount of money.
Guys are just not interested in that. They want a girl who is comfortable with herself the way she naturally looks, is fun to be with and definitely doesn´t force him to give her attention but whenever he likes to. Also, they wouldn´t like to interfere in any (emotional) drama everytime so it´s no wonder they´d rather choose a girl who is down to earth. A high maintenanced girl is just a drama queen and oh they´re materialistic as fuck tho so that could kill a guy´s financial status while the down to earth girl is simple in her nature and therefore happy with everything because unmaterialistic stuff (like gestures, respect, love etc) matters more than materials.
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i go to uni with a bunch of high maintenance girls and they are literally the stupidest beings ever. my boyfriend even points it out and so do some of my guy best friends
what i say/think about them: they're extremely unreasonable, nothing's ever good enough, have too much attitude, want the world to kiss their ass, complaining and/or gossiping is their life, and making people feel reallyyyy horrible about themselves is also their thing because they expect to own the world
what my boyfriend and friends say/think about them: they're too much work, not worth the sacrifices, very unreasonable, always unsatisfied, like to bitch and complain for attention, think they're a diva, expect high end things, are usually spoiled, don't appreciate the "little things", often act like asses to people, and expect people to bend over backwards for them every second of the day
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A. They’re annoying as fuck. B. They’re expensive. C. They create drama. D. They think the only person who matters is them. E. They don’t make good partners.
They create problems without having actual problems whereas men already have their own problems as well. And then their feelings get hurt when their man seems to not care but really their man does care but can’t always help.
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Are you seriously asking this question? why aren't women into "broke" and "jobless" guys?
You want to spend time WITH someone, not fucking cater to them. At least with a broke/jobless guy/girl, the situation can change... high maintenance is forever.
Men don't like "high maintenance" because they (the girls) are narcissistic assholes that are usually in it for themselves... and in many cases are insecure as fuck and the only way to pacify them is to constantly praise them or serve them. Fuck that.
hahaha... someone got mad at me one day when i said the only thing they are good for is fucking, to be honest, most of them don't even know how. Too busy pleasing themselves than learning how to please a partner lol...
Funny thing is, when people think "high maintenance"... they think money... money is maybe 50% of it... I've been with high maintenance girls... they weren't so "high" when i left them. i went into it to break em.
doesn't have to be money. I think im high maintenance too... except mine is character... i just wait for someone to show me a negative characteristic, like being a narcissist, and i show them... im Waaaay worse.
I do try to be nice though :) (keyword.. try) - 593 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.
I always seem to wind up with this type.
They are attracted to my willingness to serve, energizer bunny ability to get all things done (for them), always trading money for good times for us and willing to learn/try new adventures, even dancing lifestyle.
What i get out of it may be exhausting but a much higher grade of fashion model, world stewardess, body like a sports car, aggressive sex (from them) and front row seat on whatever talents they may have, from gourmet chef to medical/survival skills. Should I marry, my kids will have a big leg up on looks/smarts - the keys to special favors the world graces us from time-time.
I agree such a gal is more exhausting in demands
cleaning up after (literally & figuratively)
prodding to make deadlines/appts
coddling when something is just too high to hurtle
etc. etc.
I could easily have fun with a "less maintenance" so long as she is enthusiastic, smart, fun, hedonistic about me. This I have not run across yet but OK, have been very happy with an ideal HM gal foryears now... it gets better, I promise -
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I agree with @pbjjhan that everyone has their own opinion what "high maintenance" even means. But since you put "down to earth" as an option, I would say that I would prefer the down to earth girl.
I am a super laid back person. I don't really care too much about superficial things. I feel like girls who are high maintenance have certain standard or expectation they would like to adhere to. I am guessing that wouldn't really meet that standard.
If there so happened to be a high maintenance girl who likes me and she's super cool about life and stuff, then I don't see why it can't work.
Back to answering your question, it's not that guys aren't "attracted" to high maintenance girls, it's that there are negative connotations that come with "high maintenance" and that puts many guys off.
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When you say high maintenance to me... images of fake nails, eyebrows, faces, boobs, height (high heels), and possibly even fake body parts come to mind. After accessing the amount of time and money that's gone into all that type of fakeness I have to still consider their personality. If her idea of a good time is playing dress up, eating at specific types of places, and having a man entertain her as he pays for all the fixings... she simply sounds boring and probably nerve racking (I hate dressing up, eating where people keep asking me if everything is okay, and being a singing dancing monkey... oh, and I hate paying for some bum [her]). Let's take into account the subjective matter of her conversation 'questions.' "So... what do you do? Where do you live? What do you drive?" She could care less if I love playing guitar and have a deep interest in science... she's just trying to figure out what I have and how to get it right from the start.
Now on the other hand a woman that doesn't have so much makeup on that it smears on my clothes and she enjoys an evening of shooting, fishing, with sandwiches out of my ice chest... conversation topics that are less 'material' and more personal... everything simply...
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High maintenance doesn't necessarily mean a woman who wears high fashion or tries to look her best all the time. To me, high maintenance means she has to keep up a certain outward image of herself to such a high standard that it will start to eat at my bank account and she will put her needs infront of anyone else's. I don't mind a woman who likes to look good and take care of herself and enjoy the good stuff, but if that's what she's all about and values nothing more, than that's someone I can't bear to be around since there's no depth to her.
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Mainly most guys don't date those type of females mainly because of these reasons: self-centered; selfish; stingy; bad personality; too demanding; hateful; full of herself; nagging; & so many other things i could think of all the way through. Overall i personally think that high maintenance girls/women in real life can wreck many lives & cause a boat load of trouble every time. I'm happy that I'm not in that type of situation because I'm not going to let that kind of girl ruin my life just only just to make that high maintenance girl happy. Why be with a female like that when you can just find the right woman who's much more worthy of being a date & wife material who's nice, kind, & knows how to keep a safe relationship contained? And let's not forget about the false accusing that those high maintenance girls be bringing on certain guys when they don't give them what they want.
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Guys who feel zero thrill in (or that the money's ever worth) going to fancy places, look all hot and stuff like that
Guys who are homebodies, introvert, nerds
Guys who aren't materialistic and are more down to earth.
Guys that have no interest in fashion, celebrities and so forth.
Guys who don't really enjoy providing on the regular.
They're probably all fundamentally incompatible with the high maintenance girl, (but that's not to say there aren't other sorts of men).
No need to hate or berate them, just quietly put these girls on the list which says "Not datable". -
I think it's a bit of both expensive and annoying. No one likes people that are self-centered, condescending, pompous and entitled. It's a plague these days. People are raised with that "me me me" attitude. It's not even JUST females, there are plenty of males that are this way now as well. I think those types deserve eachother. High maintenance men and women are great matches together. It's important to find someone that is on your wavelength, someone that is well-matched. That is the best way to find peace.
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Simply, do you want a high maintenance guy that is a real pain in the ass-w/o $? Once you get a low maintenance partner that is laid back and actually looks after you, who could ever want those high maintenance problems back? High maintenance hot equals repellent.
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Probably because they're, probably unknowingly, a little too obsessed with their appearance - maybe a bit too vain for people's liking...
Just like those fitness-crazy men - no one really likes them for dating - because then they get so into your life - and try to control your fitness and eating habits...
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I'm sure this isn't true for all of them, but the ones I've seen care more about their looks and how they are perceived by others than any other quality of their person.
Because they care so much about their appearance, of course we're going to think they're hot... But that's as far as it goes with us. We rarely give them a chance to see if they are good relationship material because of they care SO much about how they look, then in what areas are they lacking on?
I personally don't care about how expensive they are because I'm not going to support it. If I was with someone like that, she'll have to support her own "maintenance fees". -
High maintenance women are too into themselves. They feel the need to chase trends for example: fashion and accessories trends. Got to wear whatever style, design, color and shade of that color that a group of a few people decide is in for the season and the year. They got to have the so called in shoes, handbags, jewelry etc. They think they have to have Michael Kors, Coach, Prada, Tiffany & Co., Manolo Blahnik, Dior, Luis Vuitton, Burberry, Gucci, Chanel, Dolce & Gabbana etc. Feel they have to get their hair done and get manicures & pedicures. They feel that they have to eat at the latest trendy restaurants. I could go on and on.
I prefer the ones who feel good wearing clothes that may or may not be in. Those who like to eat at good restaurants and do things because they like it not because it is in. -
Nowadays men want a high maintence girl (appearance wise) who maintains herself.
In fairness, women have fought for equality, and now we are paying our way some women love it, others find it offensive others don’t pay for us.
Given how cash strapped most people are, this leads to men choosing less expensive and less expectant women, and women paying to look a certain way themselves. -
Depends on what you mean by "High maintenance"?
If you mean it as in "She's a fucking bum who expects me to sacrifice what I've earned to spoil her lazy ass" then no, not interested at all.
If you mean it as in "She requires additional attention to feel loved" then I'm totally okay with that. - 763 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.
High maintenance chicks are well... high maintenance... Sure if they are self sustaining, they're hot in my eyes. But as soon as they use a man to sustain their high maintenance ways, then it's a NO for me. That is why some men don't go for them because of that. It's like you gotta keep up to their standards all the time instead of enjoying each other...
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I honesly don't get it either. People tell me I'm "high maintenance". But no, I'm not really. Maybe that's their impression of me since I know how to dress and strut. But I'm honestly such a loyal, down to earth chick and I'm like super chill and fun to be with. I have a lot of confidence sure. But never in my life have I thought that I was above anyone else.
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Attitude is usually bad, but I know several guys married to diva girls - but the diva girls are actually very down to earth in personality, they just go a bit more above and beyond appearance wise.
I def like looking pretty all the time and put together, its fun to glamorize! But I do just roll out of bed some days ha ha -
Because they are unreasonable. I shouldn't have to wait 15 freaking minutes on a woman to come when she already said she was ready and ask her 5 minutes later what's the problem. If she says she's ready, she should be ready and quit freaking lying that she's ready.
When I say I'm ready, I'm already half-way out the door and to the car. -
Sorry to say but they are annoying.
A girl who is low maintenance is better in my view as I am low maintenance as well whereas a high maintenance girl is prob better suited to a high maintenance guy.
The difference is obvious, if the guy prefers a life that doesn't suit your style then that will be why guys don't go over to you, your lifestyles clash. -
I think it is unreasonable as a high maintenance girl, to expect a lot from a man while not expecting a lot from yourself. It is a crazy thing to do as a man being with such a person, you are being used and it will be a relationship solely based on her. It's close to insanity.
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