Maybe they just don't want to commit to you. Maybe you're choosing the wrong men to like. I know i commit to a point in my relationships, but if I don't get the same back, I bail. It's all about finding someone who matches you. Obviously, those people aren't a match. Don't fret.
you see here's the thing guys don't want to be hurt or bossed around but we are also scared that if there was an argument or something similar that the woman will just call the cops and lie and we try to avoid that at all cost guys have feelings regards of what people see men as
I'm sometimes scared of the idea of a relationship. I honestly don't know why. Why am I scared to talk to girls? I've had some bad past experiences but my fear usually isn't warranted
Biologically and in evolutionary terms, we aren't supposed to. We're supposed to fight each other for the right to fuck as many females and be alpha, and chase the girls. Testosterone doesn't make you necessarily dangerous, just aggressive. In other higher mammal species, most of them, the male doesn't "settle down" or whatever, he just... roams.
It's hard to override millions of years of evolutionary biology just because Debeers wants to sell diamond rings.
He's probaly gone through the same situation before with another close friend and when the relationship failed he lost a friend and as a man I can tell you we don't really have to many people that we could actually trust to be our friends somebody always wants something from you. Money you to do this or that or just trying to do something behind your back. a man's always gotta keep up his gaurd and losing a true friend.. sometimes it's really not worth it
Saying they’re just afraid of a commitment is a deflection. Dating really isn’t a very appealing prospect in the present. There’s much more appeal in letting relationships develop casually. This is why if you ask to “hang out” even if it mean the same thing to you as a “date” guys are going to be much more comfortable.
Age, fear of losing out in the long term. But, if that's their outlook, it will be sooner NOT later they realise it's them who have already missed out. You're 20, max out, don't dwell on such perceived let downs, enjoy today and live each day… 😋😜😛
They’re told that it makes them less of a man to be emotionally vulnerable enough to be in a relationship with someone else. You have to be vulnerable to be committed, and they’re afraid of being seen as weak.
Because they dont trust you. Nobody is scared of commiting, maybe after the first few dates he concluded they can't trust you because of mistakes they been through in the past
You're 20 years old. Most men at 20 don't want a marriage, they want to have fun and be free. Once you get older, and the men get older, you'll find that they're a bit more willing to commit.
Someone did that to me but it comes down to "he wants options" and dumb things like that. But it's not just men, we do it too! Means he just wants one or two things out of you instead of the whole package. Not even worth your precious time :)
Guys are scared to commit. They're just scared coz it would end like the past. Just let him know better and make him feel better. It takes time but it'll happen
Because there is no benifit to men in commitment. In fact, they take on more risk doing so. Meanwhile, there's plenty of other cows willing to give the milk out for free. Why commit when the reward is little and the risk is enormous?
I guess cause commitment eliminates other options and how do you know when you're with an optinal partner? I mean you could be missing out by committing.
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Maybe they just don't want to commit to you. Maybe you're choosing the wrong men to like.
I know i commit to a point in my relationships, but if I don't get the same back, I bail.
It's all about finding someone who matches you. Obviously, those people aren't a match. Don't fret.
you see here's the thing guys don't want to be hurt or bossed around but we are also scared that if there was an argument or something similar that the woman will just call the cops and lie and we try to avoid that at all cost guys have feelings regards of what people see men as
I dont feel like we r affraid of commitment it is affraid of being hurt and being with rhat one person forever
Thank you for your words hey mean a lot! :)
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I honestly don't know. It depends on the guy and stuff. Maybe he thinks you're really attractive but not quite his type.
That could be it but everything I've been told is telling me that he wants to but he is scared, and I don't understand why he is scared.
I'm sometimes scared of the idea of a relationship. I honestly don't know why. Why am I scared to talk to girls? I've had some bad past experiences but my fear usually isn't warranted
Thank Ain, and I've noticed that your scared to talk to girls. :)
Biologically and in evolutionary terms, we aren't supposed to. We're supposed to fight each other for the right to fuck as many females and be alpha, and chase the girls. Testosterone doesn't make you necessarily dangerous, just aggressive. In other higher mammal species, most of them, the male doesn't "settle down" or whatever, he just... roams.
It's hard to override millions of years of evolutionary biology just because Debeers wants to sell diamond rings.
He's probaly gone through the same situation before with another close friend and when the relationship failed he lost a friend and as a man I can tell you we don't really have to many people that we could actually trust to be our friends somebody always wants something from you. Money you to do this or that or just trying to do something behind your back. a man's always gotta keep up his gaurd and losing a true friend.. sometimes it's really not worth it
Freedom is much better at my age and I like challenges.
Thank you for your opinion.
Saying they’re just afraid of a commitment is a deflection. Dating really isn’t a very appealing prospect in the present. There’s much more appeal in letting relationships develop casually. This is why if you ask to “hang out” even if it mean the same thing to you as a “date” guys are going to be much more comfortable.
Age, fear of losing out in the long term. But, if that's their outlook, it will be sooner NOT later they realise it's them who have already missed out. You're 20, max out, don't dwell on such perceived let downs, enjoy today and live each day… 😋😜😛
They’re told that it makes them less of a man to be emotionally vulnerable enough to be in a relationship with someone else. You have to be vulnerable to be committed, and they’re afraid of being seen as weak.
I don't know... honestly feel... may be they think something better is on its way... may be...🙂🙂
I hope so, I just need clarity I guess.
Because they dont trust you. Nobody is scared of commiting, maybe after the first few dates he concluded they can't trust you because of mistakes they been through in the past
Trust takes time to build, it isn't instantaneous.
You're 20 years old. Most men at 20 don't want a marriage, they want to have fun and be free. Once you get older, and the men get older, you'll find that they're a bit more willing to commit.
Someone did that to me but it comes down to "he wants options" and dumb things like that. But it's not just men, we do it too! Means he just wants one or two things out of you instead of the whole package. Not even worth your precious time :)
Guys are scared to commit. They're just scared coz it would end like the past. Just let him know better and make him feel better. It takes time but it'll happen
Because there is no benifit to men in commitment. In fact, they take on more risk doing so. Meanwhile, there's plenty of other cows willing to give the milk out for free. Why commit when the reward is little and the risk is enormous?
I don't fully understand it either. Maybe afraid of getting hurt again or the responsibility?
I'm glad I have another person wondering the same thing. Thank you for your opinion. Those are two very logical reasons.
Mhm, but yeah that's just my guess on why.
Thank you it helped.
I guess cause commitment eliminates other options and how do you know when you're with an optinal partner? I mean you could be missing out by committing.
Just show your inner qualities to him. Then try to attract his attention. After some days ask him for date or he will ask you. ALL THE BEST
I've been told that they are afraid of spending the rest of their life with one woman.
No. We aren't. We are just afraid that is she going to be the right person to get committed to.
Sounds more accurate. Thanks