Why doesn't my husband call me beautiful anymore?

Question

When we first got together he always complimented me, but over the years it's something very rare to hear from him. We have been married going on 5 years this November. And I've asked him why and all I get is "I don't know" or "I do you just don't notice".

Dreamwalker101 · Accepted Answer

Human nature. For every hot girl there's a guy that's tired of fucking her. You drive a Ferrari around long enough you start to wonder what else you can try. Some people are content to do the same thing day in and day out but most people naturally crave variety and change.

He's bored. The only things that would make him interested again is...

A) competition, if he sees a rival is trying to get his lady, he will perk up.

B) Some couples swing and that helps to alleviate any pent up sexual urges.

C) get a total makeover, change your appearance enough to look like a new you.

D) break the repetition. Sometimes it's a lot of things. The monotony of the same work every day and same routine can make people bitter and dull. When was the last time you were on vacation? Did something alone together? Do you guys have hobbies together? Bond over something.

But do NOT

make him feel guilty
Make him feel bad

Forcing people to do things usually just pushed them away.
Do your best to manipulate him in a way that makes him think it was all his idea.

Anyways. Good luck.

Barrabus_the_Free · Accepted Answer

You probably don't notice. When a woman has gotten the slave chains on a man, she stops noticing anything good he does and starts looking for tiny shit she can pick apart.

Another possibility, though the two aren't mutually exclusive, is that you've stopped trying. My now-ex wife once said to me "When was the last time you told me I'm pretty?" I responded with "When was the last time you got your ass off the couch, put on pants that weren't sweats, and ran a brush through your hair?" Not long after I told her to get her shit and GTFO.

brocklee · Answer

We assume you know after a while. We don't understand how important it is to remind the woman we love of that. I am guilty of it as well. My girlfriend will bring something up off topic to get me to say it. I always catch it and I will and in some creative extra compliment. She will say "Wow! I know you think I am beautiful, but that other thing.. I had no idea!"

Sometime let him know how it makes you feel. Tell him that hearing him say it feels good because it only really matters coming from him. Then suck his dick... lol. Or make him a treat. If he associates saying with good things, he will say it more.

eMaNnUeL · Answer

Compliments are a courtesy but to maintain a high frequency of them is a burden. He's probably just too comfortable with you to find point in doing such. Just like how someone could write someone love letters all the time but after awhile, the letters will become less thoughtful and eventually the person might just stop writing them. It's one of the many flaws of long relationships. It's to be expected

HaoleHubby · Answer

It is possible that you have a negative confirmation bias. Maybe you legitimately are forgetting when he says it because you believe he doesn't. Or he's simply gotten complacent. Definitely sit down and have a (longer) talk though. Especially if it's negatively effecting your self image.

Finchie40 · Answer

I would call u beautiful everyday , but I'm in the same boat ypu , are in , my partner barely ever compliments me anymore to the point I feel like my marriage is over , I don't know what else to do , , your husband is probably interested in someone else and isn't making you his priority anymore

Remy1234 · Answer

Marriage is work the day you said I do you took on a job more or less. Yes love has everything to do with it but after time the newness wears off and it's back to business as usual. There's really no right or wrong answer except the one ass hole. What I would be more interested in is whether or not you two communicate if the first thing he does is come home and wants to talk about your day and then his. You might just forgive his forgetfulness and realize he is truly your best friend and lover. I think terms of endearment are great but I think that they are said to much and it can take away meaning. Besides actions speak louder than words and you guys are pretty young to be married.

Daawsha · Answer

Boredom in relation, try to have little excitement, try new things. He doesn't feel it anymore

HuangNova · Answer

Have you gone on a date just the two of you and you get dressed up? Have you tried complimenting him? You are in a relationship it goes both ways. Also as time passes you get comfortable and what happens on the daily is just that. He needs to see you as he did back then. My best advice is just go on a date dress up look bomb af like you use to. You'll hear it again

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Probably it's because you don't notice... Or you've slacked off in some areas in the marriage and as a result, he unconsciously slacked off as well... Pick your game up and figure out where you slacked off and maybe that will inspire him to do what you like again... Is just my opinion.

sexyasianboi26 · Answer

He needs a reminder about his vows and responsibilities. You’re his wife so your happiness is his obligation.  Just remind him

Kothgar · Answer

I have been married 3 times for a total of almost 30 years now. I have always told my wife how beautiful she is each day. Some men get complacent and feel they have said it so why say it again. Others just do not care or think you have changed from the one they fell in love with. They are jerks. Hope your husband realizes the real beauty he has in you before it is too late.

fwbalways · Answer

Because people become comfortable. If you want to add spice try new things in bed. Try new things out of bed. It's not that he doesn't think it it's just he doesn't feel the need to voice it. Try waking him up in the morn a different way or maybe try something new at night a nighty etc I don't know what he likes but most people are afraid to express things they like because they are different.

Jaiceon · Answer

Most likely he still believes you are beautiful. In fact probably more than any other woman which is one reason he chose to marry you. His act of dedicating his entire life to you does more than say that small sentence.

jessten9090 · Answer

When he says he does you just don't notice. He could have just changed the way he does it. Just, maybe not with words, actions can go a long way with men. Look for his tells. Flirting, a pinch on the butt or the way he kisses you. Perhaps bedroom activities have picked up. Or even just the way he looks at you. Men can say a lot without ever saying a word. This is something that confuses a lot of women.

ccscsc · Answer

Flirt with him, compliment his looks his hair etc, if that doesn't work just be direct "Im upset you dont call me beautiful anymore, I wish you said it more often"

Nfscarbon07 · Answer

Maybe he feels like he doesn't need to say it anymore, I thought one of my exes was the prettiest girl in the world and I definitely didn't tell her that enough

jason98989 · Answer

He's gotten comfortable. He thinks since he married you, you should know he thinks your beautiful which is a horrible way of thinking, I know cause I did the same thing with my ex wife, it doesn't mean he doesn't think you still are, guys are just idiots and we forget about the little stuff that made the woman fall for us in the first place

nightwing1473 · Answer

Out of all of the opinions, there's one detail missing.
A guy can call you beautiful every day but if you complain about yourself the same amount, the guy will believe you don't listen. Once that is set in his mind, slowly he just stops trying.

Anonymous · Answer

Men forget that, even if we have you, you always have the chance of "looking elsewhere", so, we forget that you need to hear it a lot.

TheFunkyThumb · Answer

Its because he's comfortable. It happens in a long term relationship. Most guys are assuming you already know he thinks you're beautiful and doesn't see a need to say it as often.

GREY6 · Answer

Maybe your perception is below 5. You should level up your perception or charisma OR maybe he don't think you are.🙃

Anonymous · Answer

Guys don't like to repeat themselves. After 5 years he probably thinks you ought to know by now that he thinks you're beautiful. He doesn't understand that your need for compliments is a lifelong addiction.

10dsw · Answer

Welcome to marriage... I mean you didn't expect him to actually be able to compliment you all your life did you? hehe

PurpleCarrot · Answer

You identified a need of yours. Have you told him "I like when you call me beautiful, it helps me through my day" or whatever your reason is? That may sound silly but it is clear. And, if he doesn't do so... well, maybe he's distracted by something.

Anonymous · Answer

LMFAO, you're married and you're acting like a child. Maybe it's because you're 22 and you "thought" you were to SOOOOOOO much more mature than guys your age you went and married a older guy who wants to settle down. He's probably worried about his job and making sure you guys are financially stable and you're there acting like a child "he won't call me pretty :(" Jesus Christ, that guy is dumb as fuck and you need to grow the fuck up

My-Shangri-La · Answer

I mean, what do you want him to do? It gets old to keep repeating the same crap over n over. You’re beautiful, just accept it

alexjohn · Answer

I guess he's facing some kind of headache/tension that's why he didn't get time to compliment his beautiful wife... just find out the problem and try to help her...

Caaarl · Answer

Because he's comfortable with you he's used to how you look every day.

LatenThunder · Answer

Let him know that it really means so much to you, how it touches your heart.

Renegade_man · Answer

Not sure why he wouldn't but you have amazing eyes and lips you are a truly beautiful woman

_dardorsama_ · Answer

Oh my... I better compliment my wife more often then

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