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Would you treat him the way he treats you? I don't think you would. So you basically are giving him much more than he is giving to you. This is very unbalanced and of course it will result in you being frustrated and him doing whatever he wants cause he can. You should try this... Send him this message: "I can sense some confusion from your side right now. I only want the best for you so I will give you space and hope I will still be there when you have things figured out. II need to take some time for myself. xxx"
I swear you need to do that. It means that you get what he's been doing, but you're not angry or mean, you're classy and you do need to get away from this guy for now. He won't get it at first, so you'll have to stop talking to him for at least a few weeks. And then you'll see if his behaviour changes or not. If not, then you really dodged a bullet...
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My partner used to be a grumpy bastard and get stroppy and act like a sulky child a lot. I told him straight out that I was sick of dealing with that immature shit, that we were supposed to be a partnership and if he couldn't act like an adult and talk to me then he could piss off.
Of course there is the possibility he might piss off, but being serious if he isn't prepared to discuss the issue then he really should piss off. Being Irish is no excuse, that's just stereotyping to a huge level. He just sounds like a grumpy, stoic man child.
Dump him , you being a positive person dealing with a negative person is just going to get worse , you deserve someone that is just like you are , staying with a negative grumpy person is not good for your health considering it's just going to make you stressed , I been down that road with an Irish girl that was always grumpy and negative , a weight was lifted off my chest when I broke free from it , I know you feel u can change them and want to help them but all its going to do is hurt you , dump his ass and find someone positive
Its always hard to accept the possibility of things not working out but a lot relationships don't. I haven't stepped in your shoes so I don't know. But, you need to have a deep talk, dig in each others minds, tell him the things you love and don't and why, understand him, and find a solution. If you can't find a solution then you will have to face the facts.
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This is something you may want to really consider before your " in too deep". If you care so much for him that you don't want to leave him. Then being encouraging is the best thing you can do. Whether you are aware of his moods (which is the reason you dont text first) I suggest doing it anyways. Say something like, goodmorning handsome, how's your day going? I've been thinking about you since I woke up". Wait for a response. Try for a little while and maybe he will come around. This will meen a lot of extra effort from you for a little while. After that, if it doesn't change, I highly recommend either an ultimatum, that you will leave if it doesn't change, or to just break up. You can't be the one putting in all the effort. Your important too and he needs to try, regardless. I know it sucks, but life is about making decisions we dont want to. You dont want to be in too deep with this guy that you have kids and he's still acting this way. Then it ends in divorce and upset little ones. Think about your future. Good luck 😊
Sometimes people with stress, anxiety, or depression get caught up in their heads neglecting the other people that love them. They don't do it on purpose tho. All you can do is make sure you're completely honest with how you feel. But he may be dealing with something he's afraid to open up about. Maybe he doesn't text you at times because he doesn't have anything positive to talk about in that moment so he goes silent. All you can do is except it or find someone that more fits your needs. Good luck.
Is it possible that he’s just not a morning person and you’re trying to connect with him at a time that he’s not interested in talking?
Though I do agree with other posters in that someone who isn’t reciprocating your efforts to maintain the relationship isn’t a good partner.You wouldn't respect a guy if they were too available. Accept that ldr sucks and it is probably more your desire to compensate for the distance/less contact that is the issue. My advice is to focus more on yourself and your happiness and not worry so much. If ldr isn't working, remove the distance or break up. Plenty of good guys out there
I'm an Irish girl and
I can be swamped in my own head that
I don't even think about my surroundings lol. With so many things to do and things on mind, the people I love can be on the receiving end of my moodiness.
He will come back to you if you just leave him do his thing or whatever and once things have settled down a bit he will come looking for you lol 😊
Keep yourself busy don't focus all your attention on himHe sounds bipolar. He can only fix himself, you can't. Aww I'm. mot a submissive woman so I'll tell it like it is and put a man. in his place. If suggest you tell him to get his sheit together and act right. He's too old to be acting this way. You've been patient and put up with his attitude long enough so he needs to make up his mind.
I would say forget about him. Find a person who is local and vocal. This is jus my opinion but he is probably in a position in his life where he doesn't need a ldr he's going through a lot and taking it out on you. As a person you don't need this stress especially from someone you may never meet. Try your luck with a person who will value your efforts.
It sounds like a lot of useless stress. I think you really need to take a step back and think about what you honestly want and expect from a relationship.
Doesn't have anything to do with being Irish... Angry people are always angry. Just leave him alone and he'll change his mind if he wants to.
He is just using u dump him...
But you can also do this : go over to his place... and see what is going on...
Try to talk on webcam ( hangouts, kik, Skype etc)
Talk on the phone
Write letters
Send a care package etcHonestly he sounds like way to much work. Why should you have to always be the one accepting his behavior? You don’t. Walk away.
Just tell him about how you feel. To be completely honest though, from what I’ve seen, unless you have a set date for when you’re going to live in the same location, a long distance relationship most likely won’t work to begin with.
I take off my top whenever me and boyfriend are having an argument. I win everytime.
I guess I'm Irish then 😝
Seriously though you should talk it out with him about what you both want and if it's mismatching enough that it won't work then leave.Well I'm Irish and Scottish and the only time I am grumpy or really pissed off is when I don't have any caffeine or when someone abuses anyone
Has it occurred to you that given all that's going on he may have D épée? That would explain eventing you've just written down.
You said he has hormonal issues : a medical issue. You just have to accept it as normal.
Dump him... he takes u for granted... if he wants to be with u he'll make the effort to put things right... the excuse of a grumpy Irish man is bullshit... if he really wants to be with u, he'll fight for your affections
men and women are same wherever they are it's about act and react from the first, So it's like a child growing and day by day has new experiences.
He needs to understand that his moods should never be your problem. He's being selfish and needs to know that
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