How to deal with a nonchalant boyfriend even after a serious argument?

[Lola_02]

Guys a little help here!...

I've been with this guy for about 8 months. We get along so well, we are really close. We definitely give each other the space and freedom to go out drink club ect. I mean we are only 21. Of course we definitely have to know the people we go out with. & for the most part we usually keep it within our circle of friends which we love. Besides getting along so well like any other relationship we have our arguments of course. But lately his nonchalatness about things that really bother me is starting to piss me off. Such as not really trying to fix the argument. I feel like he thinks I want him to kiss my ass but that's not the case. I feel that I respect him enough to where if something bugs him I try my best to fix it because I mean it's only fair right? But he's the total opposite. Like last night I called him and he answers so rudely saying "I'm trying to sleep" so I hang up. Say OK and pretty much said if he wants to be rude like that... Dint bother calling me the next day... Today comes and I wake up to a text saying "okay babe I'll call you Friday have a great Thursday :D" he knows his nonchalant attitude gets me mad so he does it on purpose. I don't think it's fair to me, I tried talking to him but he acts as if it's no big deal and I'm crazy... I'm just so fed up. Guys a little help please!

[HappyChainsaw]

Hard to answer. I'd have to know more about the situation. I know you don't wanna hear this, but women often do blow things out of proportion. Maybe you're not doing that. Maybe you are. I'd need more info. If you argue and are still together, it might not be that big of a deal and he's just letting it go.

[Lola_02]

Yeah it's a bit hard to explain but let me try again.

I try my best not to make a big deal unless it actually is a big deal. He has told me he appreciates me pulling him off to the side and telling him the problem rather than making a scene. That's respect. But I just feel that if your girlfriend feels the need to say hey babe I really don't appreciat you doing this to me or acting this way, you shouldn't brush it off if I take the time to pull him off to the side. It shouldn't be ignored.

[HappyChainsaw]

Well it may not be that big of a deal to him. Either it isn't or he's not hearing you. Try to explain without being accusatory.