What do you look for in a female? what are you attracted to?

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TastyBiscuits · Accepted Answer

Hi.

For me I care far more about who that person is over how perfect they look. I value intelligence, humour, adaptability, family values and an all round disregard for things like rating people or just assuming things without thinking about something first.
I'm also biiiig on being treated equally. I wouldn't call myself a feminist in the slightest, I don't need to be told to treat women and men as equals in shared comparisons.

The more a woman is into the same things as me too or at least the same values with different hobbies the more attractive I find them. Confidence in her decisions too. Not bitchy-ness or overtly aggressive for the sake of it but someone who is sure of what they are saying and doing.

Finally in terms of looks. I don't mind things like scars or blemishes or stretch marks or even a heavy portion of chub. I am attracted to a large spectrum of body types. I like things like freckles, and red hair, I like some of the move obvious female attributes in larger sizes too but really I don't care body wise.

That said a face is important to me. I read most people pretty accurately when I meet them based on their eyes. How they move, what they focus on and such. I can tell a lot from someone's eyes. So a lovely pair of eyes can grab my attention. I prefer smaller faces, so a very feminine face, shapely lips soft brow and a long rounded jaw line. I love long hair and shaven heads on women I do not like very short hair that a lot of 45-60 year old women seemingly must pick when they turn that age. But again all those things can be overidden for me with what I consider a great personality.

Couldn't care less about the profile of her job as long as she has one. Same goes with her education, as long as she uses her brain doesn't matter if she has a PhD or a graduating certificate from he school of life.

The down side to all this of course is its very broad in terms of physical attraction. But in terms of intelligence very very narrow. C'est la vie as the French would say.

iluvtoknow · Accepted Answer

I'm dividing this into different parts:

Looks

I don't care much. If she takes care of her hygiene, that's preferable. It'd also be much better if she didn't wear much (or any) makeup/cosmetics, and if she did groom herself nicely. She should keep herself reasonably neat (and yet not obsess over it either.) Just something reasonable.

Also, it would be better if she did not wear clothes with holes in them or those that revealed parts of the body that don't need to be (not that someone should obsess about not showing skin, but there's no need to show the belly button or the upper legs or the lower chest in public.)

A personal preference is that I think it's so much prettier for people to keep their natural hair color.

Beyond that, looks aren't that important.

Body

Don't be so obese that you can't fit through the door of your house. I don't care beyond that. Try to keep yourself neat and clean.

Personality

This is 99% of what matters. –any day.

I understand that some contents of this list are a bit much to ask of anyone other than my own self. –but this is the perfect girl that is asked, so here are things I'd want her to be and our relationship to be:

1. Friendliness

I mean this in two senses.

First, it would mean the world if she were my close friend before we were dating, so we would have a very concrete bond beforehand. A strong friendship that doesn't require anything more leads (if one chooses) to the best strong, self-sufficient romantic relationship.

Second, it would be fantastic if she were an overall nice and friendly person to people. You know, swearing at a minimum, always treating people with decency and kindness, and just all the things that one thinks of when they think of friendliness. It doesn't have to be over the top, but just there.

I'll continue in the comments.

Bluemax · Answer

Smarts. Someone who is blown away by the sheer awe of the universe, whether it's being fascinated that club moss led to the evolution of our towering redwoods, or that cyanobacteria led to our oceans turning green and virtually all life that we know on earth, or that the Himalayas are a big crumple zone between two continent-sized cars crashing into each other at the harrowing speed of two inches a year, or that for every blade of grass there are about 10,000 stars like our own sun (and that's not counting the ones *not* like our own sun), or that on the Hilary Step near the summit of Everest, there's a limestone formation with marine fossils that are about as far away from the bottom of the sea as you can get, or how this universe might be a black hole inside another universe, and so on. Yeah, stuff like that. I also am turned on by a woman who *LOVES* music. I don't just mean likes music. I don't just mean likes to dance to music. But loves, savors, and devotes herself to music much like people feel when they pray. I would be a turned on by a woman who loves flight and sailing.

Physical wise, I am turned on by dark hair and dark eyes.

My wife was all those things, but she didn't like sailing or flying. However, she more than made up for it in other areas.

jj389x · Answer

I look straight into personality, of course all guys will say that cause its nice thing to say. Of course I notice looks, we all human, but that doesn't influence my choice like it used to when I was younger.

I see how they treat me, and then I also see how they treat others or even their parents (provided that their parents dont treat them badly, that would excuse them if they prehaps didn't like them so much)

But I look that they kind, or understand, they dont unfairly judge. I never expect perfection, nobodys perfect, but big one for me would be trust. Will this person trust in me and can I trust in them, would they ever cheat or lie to me. If so then it won't lead to healthy relationship. If they trustworthy I will automatically feel more attracted to them.

TadCurious · Answer

I'm attracted to girls who are basically just nice people, and are friendly and considerate of others. And who have a good sense of humor. If she is those things, then there are any number of different ways she can look on the outside as far as body type, hair color, etc.

Anon-ymous1 · Answer

This, and everything as close to it as possible:

jeremythedrummer · Answer

Kind hearted, opinionated, caring, compassionate, considerate, and affectionate. At least thats what i can think of for now.

Anonymous · Answer

You know what? All personality traits become irrelevant sooner or later. The one thing that really counts is how she behaves with me. How she treats me. I am not saying someone who respects me or always laughs at my jokes. But someone who really likes me and wants me.

And yes she should be attractive otherwise things won't "begin" and things have to begin, only then can they 'proceed'. But being attractive is not a problem for girls cz literally every 2nd girl in the world is attractive. As far as other traits like, intelligent, polite and mature are concerned. I believe every person becomes this sometime in their life so not really on the list

memyselfandiamhere · Answer

Knowledge, i find that so important Also i am attracted to people who Challenge my world view

Anonymous · Answer

I look for a nice personality and a sense of humor. That’s a good starting point.
I’m attracted to the “girl next door “ or tomboy types who aren’t afraid to get dirty or get their hair messed up by the wind.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I'm attracted to a girl with a great personality and likes to smile, likes to laugh, compassionate, kind hearted, affectionate etc.

Titanic1912 · Answer

I am attracted to girls who love Jesus, have a winning personality and have the same interests as me. Looks aren't the most important thing. They're important don't get me wrong, but God comes first.

parutha · Answer

I want someone who I can be happy with. Someone who doesn't feel like a burden but a blessing. A personality match would take the cake.

12-oz-poundcake · Answer

Honestly, I've dated only 3 times, and my current girlfriend just overall is super positive and caring, which is a deal-breaker for me. If she's ever upset, well talk and hug, if I'm ever upset, we'll talk and hug it out. Mainly what I'm trying to say is I looove a girl who'll pay at least half of her attention to me, in which I'll reciprocate that.

JJ81212 · Answer

Physically big boobs and a big butt, emotionally, a girl who is intelligent, sexy, provocative (meaning that she knows how to play sexy and stuff), enjoys talking and to summarize is a good company!!!

ienjoycutefeet89 · Answer

I look for a sense of humor, someone i can talk to and not feel ashamed in front of and a girl with cute feet doesn't hurt. I enjoy rubbing a girls bare feet at the end of her day. I enjoy it, girls enjoy it, its a win win.

Demised · Answer

A sweet naive gal. Some what naughty. Funny. Caring. Kind hearted. Not racist. Willin to do somethin for me. Some 1 i can fell comfortable talkin to. Texting is good but callin is way better. 😊

Decentguy · Answer

Maturity, Which is too rare in women these days, and loyalty, Honesty, An attractive face and body too

rhody · Answer

Nice, intelligent, fun, supporting female.. the wife material

NiceDave · Answer

Roses are red  Violets are blue I'm attracted to @blubblubblub boo

Isaiahgeek · Answer

Conversations and interests. Curves and boobs are just a bonus but not a requirement especially big boobs if they hurt someone's back get a reduction.

Dinnye · Answer

To really acceot my job. Wgich won't ever happen. So no further elaboration will ever be needed xD

kashmenon · Answer

Looks fairly good. Talks well. Common sense. And mentally enough to bear me as a person.

Trippie_Bread · Answer

Good looks are a must have for me. An open mind, some intelligence, serious but still funny

Myrdices · Answer

Someone who's not an idiot Which is why I'm still single

trensetter · Answer

Good listener having a sense of humor also smile eyes and confident with every time when there has to be made a desicion by both people

nbbn5 · Answer

Loyalty and I like it when she is sweet

rain_maker112 · Answer

Intelligence and gentleness

shreejan · Answer

Waist and shoulders😍

Sealander_Authority · Answer

Loyalty and behavior.. that's it.

Anonymous · Answer

I like girls that are truly polite without trying.

2tall2handle · Answer

Legs, hips, eyes, face, hair, lips, thighs.

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