Is it true that men are “visual creatures?”?

[jessicake]

Is it true that men are typically attracted to women just by how they look and not how they act? As for the majority of women, they are attracted to how men act and not as much how they look?

[johnmspaghetti]

I've always felt women are creatures built for appreciation of their form and themselves appreciate function. Conversely, men are creatures built for appreciation of their function and themselves appreciate form.

But instinct and culture are a part of it too. Instinct is why men have to chase the nicest cars and best jobs and keep themselves looking toned and strong so they can look the most attractive, and why women still wear revealing clothes and makeup and shaping garments despite how uncomfortable they are so they can look most attractive.

But culture tempers those needs. It's why women are ready to become equal in the workforce. It's why men are becoming better fathers than ever. It's why the dad bod is becoming a thing, and why
women are insulted if you claim their garments are for anything other than to make /themselves/ _feel_ sexy.

Point is, yes, men are visual "creatures", but that's only for first appearances, they can make connections that are beyond the physical too, if the culture in them is stronger than the instinct. And yes, women are "creatures" that look for the most useful potential mate for their future families, but they too can make emotional connections with guys who aren't quite the pinnacle of fatherhood.

[Gooseline]

Dont let anyone fool you, i would say 99% of the initial descision that a man makes is visual. You dont have to be a stunner but he must have seen some aspect that he wanted to see more of. Only once he starts chatting to you does his descisions become based more on your personality. This might sound harsh but men are definitley visual creatues, just look at the way everything around us is advertised these days. I can say in my experiences i have found many women that i was turned off of as soon as a spent 2 minutes chatting with. This is not to say i dislike them but that attraction i initailly felt dissapeard.

[jessicake]

What made that attraction you felt towards those women disappear so quickly? Just curious

[Gooseline]

Honestly I can't remember what was said in those situations exactly. It would have been different things, the last one that I experienced this with was a lovely lady that I asked out to dinner. All she did was talk about how she failed at finding love and how all her previous boy friends treated her. It might sound shallow but the attraction was lost but we are now friends but it never went any further than that.

[jessicake]

That’s understandable, thanks for the feedback!

[Gooseline]

No issues, good luck with the guys.

[Anonymous]

True... It has been asked many times in this forum as well. Guys are shallow creatures

If a man doesn't have a handsome face or muscles or height he can still compensate with his humour, personality, money, intelligence, style etc.

Research has shown however, that guys are attracted to pretty girls more than anything else. It is also socially accepted and not challenged that this is how things are/ should be. Guys don't care if a girl is a billionaire, graduated from Oxford with a degree in nuclear science, won a Nobel or Olympic medal. They care if she's blonde, has an hourglass figure, tall, blue eyes etc. Personality comes next (by personality they obviously mean not being "annoying and being obedient").

[Mateus77]

Well women for the past 2.5 milion years mated with these shallow cretures and that's why we are the way we are. If women had been the sophisticated creatures you imply they are they would have had children with the guys who cared about personality and we would not be so shallow. Obviously women maried the sophisticated men but got the genes for their offspring elsewhere so hence the results. In the human species women choose whom to mate with and who's genes to procreate so I don't see what all the fuss is about. Men are exactly what women want them to be.

[Opinion Owner]

@Mateus77 oh I know someone would blame it all on biology. Patriarchy will last forever
Actually if women were as shallow as guys and only cared about beauty the human species would have become extinct by now 😂

[Shar98]

Sexual/physical attraction comes first, then personality for Both men and women. For proof notice your if he doesn't have a muscular face... bit. It really does go Both ways

[Opinion Owner]

@Shar98 notice your if he doesn't have a muscular face? I don't get this

Sure, the problem is when average guys who are a 5/6 expect to date a VS supermodel or women who are a 5 want to date Brad Pitt. It's called being delusional/have very high standards

[Mateus77]

I don't find the need to blame anything. I was a guy with a nice personality about 20 years ago and had a lot of female friends but few were sexually involved with me and for short-term only. In the mean time my male friends who were considered by many as arrogant and insensitive were having great success both in business and in the bedroom. So I switched tracks and deleted the personality and instead focuses on business (and you need be insensitive and arrogant in order to run one successfully). Can you guess how things changed for me? This topic is the reason why I started studying evolutionary biology and human psychology. May I sugest a book to you. "The evolution of desire" -David M. Buss ☺

[Opinion Owner]

@Mateus77 I'm ace so I couldn't care less
I just don't like people who deceive other and use them for their own purposes (politicians, player, liars of any short

[Mateus77]

But these are exactly the type of men most womèn feel atracted to. Read the book and you'll find out why. ☺

[Opinion Owner]

@Mateus77 Not all women. That's an overgeneralization. I know many exceptions

Why would you want to be with someone who cheats on you unless you're a masochist with zero respect?

[Opinion Owner]

@Mateus77 with zero respect for yourself

[Mateus77]

I did not say all women I said most are atracted to men with power (politicians), men with money and men who are bad ass (excuse my french) overall. As to the cheating problem you have, open relationships are becoming more common now a days so there is no cheating there. Everything is done with the knowledge of all parties involved. It is not for everyone but for some it works rather well hence the resurgence of them.

[Opinion Owner]

@Mateus77 nothing wrong with open relationships between consenting adults, my issue is just with players..

[taztapout]

not all men want blondes. i like black hair that is just a Hollywood perspective

[azzntittiz]

Yes in the sense that they get aroused and easily stimulated through visuals, but it matters very little. Look at the women a lot of them would still cheat on you with, and I don't mean average girl. You'll get cheated on with someone who put effort into being ugly.

[Poppykate]

Looks do attract a men. But if you meet a man where a woman’s looks is high on his list of preferences. Stay clear of. You want a man with more substance!

[lllAndrewlll]

Tf, so looks matter little to nothing to you? you would consider dating an ugly fat guy

[Poppykate]

@lllAndrewlll I have dated a ‘larger’ man. He had a sweet personality, and face. But I have an active lifestyle. He used to nap almost all afternoons on the weekend from lunch until dinner. It gets boring.

[Truthandlove2584]

yes they are. Men are visual. BUT to keep a man.. there has to be more substance!

[Zexcede]

In honesty, men start by visually looking at a women and if they find them attractive and would like to get into a relationship with them, then they start to pay attention to how they act and their personality, but on the other hand if it is someone they are not looking to be in a serious relationship then they base it entirely off of looks.

[oftheHowl]

If you want the scientific answer behind it, yes. Men have better visual-spatial memory so this effects how we see not just objects or places, but women as well. In general, men remember visual characteristics better so that's why we're known to look at women in public and pornography

[GingerGuy]

Looks are what we notice first yes, and looks alone can and does make us horny sometimes, but not "just", especially if we want a relationship. Personality can very much affect attraction.

[Drawoh]

This is true. The main quality that attracts men are the looks but depending on the actions is what determines if the guy may find you as relationship worthy or not.

[devilish-cutie]

everyone is visual... looks matter to all of us but we all have different tastes
you cannot bang someone you dont find attractive

[vendetta671]

yea tell that to golddiggers who date and marry 80 y. old ugly billionaires
lol

[devilish-cutie]

@vendetta671 thats an exception where you have other interest in the relationship
most people care about looks to certain extent

[vendetta671]

women care about looks less than guys tho and are willing to date down sometimes. never said they'd date the hunchback of notre dame but they'd date someone worse looking than them. guys almost never do this

[devilish-cutie]

@vendetta671 I think guys are generally uglier then women in a way
and I know a lot of girls that really like weird type of guys, they actually find them attractive

[vendetta671]

true... but women use makeup again; spend more time in hair salons and have more clothing options to conceal their flaws.
Still if a woman is let's say a 6/10 (kinda cute but not beautiful) she'd be willing to date a 4 or a 5 with good personality. Guys don't do that. A 6 would go after the 8s

[devilish-cutie]

@vendetta671 even if its make u or whatnot they make themselves look better
I think it has a lot to do with the fact that women feel the need to emotionaly care about someone and kinda be taken cared of, many dont find themselves fitting in other roles cause of society, they also can be vary about sex for the same reasons, so they rather settle for someone that can provide for them
with guys you encourage sex so they want sexy/pretty girl
Personally I was always like a "guy" and looks matter to me plenty

[vendetta671]

sorry but I find this shallow personally. that's why I've always been ace
Looks will fade eventually so I don't see why they matter so much

[devilish-cutie]

@vendetta671 everything matters, as I said, you cannot bang someone you dont find attractive
he may not be generally pretty, but pretty/attractive to you

[devilish-cutie]

and shallow would be if looks were the only think that matter, if you say you're not caring about looks at all that would be a lie

[vendetta671]

I disagree. when someone (a guy) has a sparkling personality/is famous he instantly becomes more attractive as is the case with some celebs/politicians

[vendetta671]

like I said I didn't say to date the hunchback of notre dame but looking for next topmodel is shallow to me and superficial
generally most guys want to date above their league, always way younger and prettier than they deserve. that's shallow in my opinion

[devilish-cutie]

@vendetta671 I agree many guys are shallow and just care about looks, that s true
but eventually nobody really gets happy out of that or has a good relationship so it all has its own price, and caring only about looks says about them
but i personally think everything matters, just cause you care about looks doesn't mean you are shallow unless that is the onlyt hing you care about; I think you should care about looks and personality of the person (caring only abf any just one thing is shallow)
eg. girls get into relationships just cause of guys personality and then complain their partner dont appeal to them sexually

[vendetta671]

yes I never said you should date someone you find ugly however if you're a 5 and expect to date Brad Pitt and vice versa for guys if you're a 5/6 and think you deserve a VS supermodel this is called "having very high standards"

[devilish-cutie]

@vendetta671 apsolutely, people have double standards for bunch of things and are delusional about themselves, some also think they have nothing to lose

[thewoolyhead225]

It all depends on the guy. Some people prefer personallity over looks. I believe how fun the girl is to be around helps to.

[MrBillH]

Absolutely true. That's why more men like porn in pictures and video and more women will read erotica instead of viewing porn.

[shadowblood47806]

It is true that men are more visual but that doesn't mean that they only like women for looks so men are also into personality as well.

[Caaarl]

Men and women are both very into looks but men are especially into looks even more so than women.

[Rhys_r15]

No, Men are visual creatures in terms of hookups and flings. If the man wants a long term relationship, looks matter less to men

[waffian]

Yes , sorry to say men look first then action later. Looks is like saying ok you caught my attention and then action is to decide if she's a keeper or not

[vendetta671]

how shallow of yours...

[BeowulfTheMighty]

I think it's a mix of how they look and how they act. At least for me, It is.

[DanOh2018]

🤔 Men are more visual as we were the hunter part of hunter gatherer

[Skullpool]

Thanks for calling me a creature, but yes, most of us are visual "people"

[jessicake]

It’s just a figure of speech

[Skullpool]

I know, don't take it so serious 😂✌

[Futurelooker]

Yes, because many men still think with their eyes.

[harshasetru]

Nope it's just your illusion

[Razal]

This is very very true.

[aa180]

Completely true.

[Beeni]

It's true

[vald9inches]

EXTREMELY TRUE!!!

[Casus_Angelus]

Yeah

[Desuyonee]

fuck noooooooo