Interviewing I mean... one person asking all the questions all that time. It’s cool to ask questions back and forth to get to know each other to actually engage in the convo. But I hate it when it’s like:
Girl: hey how’s it going? Boy: Good. Girl: What did you to today? Boy: just hang with my friends Girl: what are your hobbies? Boy: video games, fishing, cars, etc. girl: that’s cool. I like to do (this this and this) Boy: cool. Girl goes quiet. And 2 days later.. Boy: Hi Girl: 🙄 Boy: you mad?
You get where I’m going with that. If I feel like I’m the one asking questions all that time to get to know someone, then I’m going to quickly check out of the convo and I’m pretty much over him. It seems rude and high maintenance so I’ve been told but it’s like... to me, he’s not interested if he’s not engaging.
Lmao @hazfire well that’s a little different. You were interviewing for a specialty position 😂 I think she will have her decision made by Friday so be expecting her to give you a shout.
I think the main problem with dick pics is that guys usually focus on their dicks. I mean if I'm sending a dick pic, I'd want the girl to have more to work with so I'd include my upper body or just my thighs. Sometimes I'd just send the outline of my dick in my shorts, cause you know mystery. I'm sure she'll be more curious. It works for me anyways, it helps to go to the gym.
@21feminist it’s not even so much that it’s just focused on the dick alone. It’s the fact that he’s sending a pic with his dick exposed and girls are just not visual people like that. It’s just really not a turn on. I think I speak for most when I say that we’d much rather a pic of him in his boxers or jeans etc. Sure you have the occasional girl that will ask for one but it’s not common. I don’t think I will ever understand why guys are so proud to do that. I’ve had guys send videos and trust me... their dicks weren’t what was turning me on.
Yeah okay I get that. But I was really talking about girls that you're already intimate with (like up in 'em walls intimate). And I was really trying to address the aesthetic issue because I'm sure you know some girls don't know how to send a good pussy pic (I said some not all). They send close ups of the boobs or pussy, at least in my experience, I hope someone relates so I don't look like an idiot. Which has the same effect of a dick pic, it's isn't attractive because it's just one body part. If it's entire body shot then YES I probably won't delete that. Anyways I hope I make some form of sense
You are making perfectly good sense. And in that case the lady you’re “up in the walls with” then absolutely. Any type of pics are okay as long as you’re both on an agreement. But he would need to warn me first Incase I’m at work or somewhere. And yes I get what you’re saying... haha so you don’t look like an idiot. It’s like okay... boobs. So? Haha I totally get it.
ugh, I hate when you feel like your the only one putting effort into getting to know someone. It's like look, I don't mind bouncing back and forth with questions, in fact I enjoy it, because it shows me you want to get to know me as well.
For guys you can tell if a girl isn't really interested if she isn't really asking you anything. Which also confuses me because why then go to the trouble of talking to me? I can definitely understand your frustration with being engaging in a conversation lol.
@KenM9215 that’s exactly what I’m talking about. If he’s not asking me anything I really feel like he’s not interested in getting to know me. That’s about that time I tend to back off slowly but surely because I’m not going to play the one sided game Of 20 questions. Because if I keep asking and he’s just asking... I also feel like he doesn’t know how to tell me and he feels obligated to text back just to be nice. Then that’s when you become the “annoying, clingy, desperate” person. Like how does one become desperate by trying to get to know you when you’re the one not engaging. Lol such as life!
Oh damn 😔😔😔. Wait do you know anyone PERSONALLY on this here online community? I'm in Jamaica right now so everyone I know doesn't know this apps exists
Lmao yes one of my best friends is on here. I know her in real life. Like this site is kind of popular but not really. I could ask like 20 people that I know if they’ve heard of this site and they would tell you no. If they have heard about it, it’s because they’ve heard me mention it.
Yes of course we share some of the same interests. I do... I have a couple of BEST friends. My circle of friends is very small. So my BEST friends are pretty high up there. I have 3 that I would take a bullet for.
Seriously... the only things me and my friends have in common are what me and other guys have in common. And as for best friends either I or they move anyway.
Man... this just turned into a party 😂😂 there needs to be group messages lol. But yeah... just PM me is need be. I was feeling bad for a while because I know everyone’s phones are going crazy lol.
Texting late shouldn’t be a problem. Everyone gets busy but if you know you’re gonna be busy for a while then let us know before not replying for hours. Nobody should get mad at someone for being busy
Ok, that thing you did there, in the body after the question... DON’T. Do not capitalize every letter. Also, no ‘k’ answers, no just “hey”, no super late texts... Oh, and please have good grammar. I can not stress that enough.
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1. Night time is not the only time to text her. Even if you're busy during the day a simple "I hope you have a good day today" goes a long way. 2. Don't take too long to reply unless you're actually really busy. And trust me, she will probably know if you've been on social media. So if you haven't responded to the last text she sent you for 33 minutes, but you were just active on snap chat 7 minutes ago, she's gonna hopefully forget about you and move on.
i dont like it when guys are replying really short. at least make a whole senrence once or twice. and ask questions a girl like sit when a guy is interested in her and her life.
I don't follow any texting rules. I just text normal and be respectful of course. Manners are also a must have in the chat room. Else no fucks giving. When I'm online and I see she wrote me, I will text her back maybe no matter how long ago she sent it to me. When she doesn't like the way I chat, she can feel free to fuck off. I won't act special just for following rules like "uh I saw the message, but have to wait another 5 minutes to don't look desperate". Just normal and polite.
Rule one: if you're not at work or busy, don't test me.. just pick up the phone call me. If you don't want to call me, then we have no reason to talk at all.
- proper grammar - don't use abbreviations - don't say "k" often for normal "okay" that sounds just rude.. - would be great if you reply as soon as you read the text
Don't reply to a text 36 hours later. One simply does NOT lose their phone. Also, don't take forever to respond to a long text that I took the time to type out.
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Unsolicited dick pics and don’t have us “interviewing” them. The second one applies to guys and girls.
interviewing them what exactly does that mean
Interviewing I mean... one person asking all the questions all that time. It’s cool to ask questions back and forth to get to know each other to actually engage in the convo. But I hate it when it’s like:
Girl: hey how’s it going?
Boy: Good.
Girl: What did you to today?
Boy: just hang with my friends
Girl: what are your hobbies?
Boy: video games, fishing, cars, etc.
girl: that’s cool. I like to do (this this and this)
Boy: cool.
Girl goes quiet. And 2 days later..
Boy: Hi
Girl: 🙄
Boy: you mad?
You get where I’m going with that. If I feel like I’m the one asking questions all that time to get to know someone, then I’m going to quickly check out of the convo and I’m pretty much over him. It seems rude and high maintenance so I’ve been told but it’s like... to me, he’s not interested if he’s not engaging.
o ok I got you I've had women do same to me
Yeah exactly. So you see why I said that rule applies to both girl and guys.
... so what about a legitimate interview like I had on my post about cars hahaha
Lmao @hazfire well that’s a little different. You were interviewing for a specialty position 😂 I think she will have her decision made by Friday so be expecting her to give you a shout.
I think the main problem with dick pics is that guys usually focus on their dicks. I mean if I'm sending a dick pic, I'd want the girl to have more to work with so I'd include my upper body or just my thighs. Sometimes I'd just send the outline of my dick in my shorts, cause you know mystery. I'm sure she'll be more curious. It works for me anyways, it helps to go to the gym.
@EvilAngel114 lmao
@21feminist it’s not even so much that it’s just focused on the dick alone. It’s the fact that he’s sending a pic with his dick exposed and girls are just not visual people like that. It’s just really not a turn on. I think I speak for most when I say that we’d much rather a pic of him in his boxers or jeans etc. Sure you have the occasional girl that will ask for one but it’s not common. I don’t think I will ever understand why guys are so proud to do that. I’ve had guys send videos and trust me... their dicks weren’t what was turning me on.
@hazfire I’ll put in a good word for you lol 😂
makes sense
Yeah okay I get that. But I was really talking about girls that you're already intimate with (like up in 'em walls intimate). And I was really trying to address the aesthetic issue because I'm sure you know some girls don't know how to send a good pussy pic (I said some not all). They send close ups of the boobs or pussy, at least in my experience, I hope someone relates so I don't look like an idiot. Which has the same effect of a dick pic, it's isn't attractive because it's just one body part. If it's entire body shot then YES I probably won't delete that. Anyways I hope I make some form of sense
You are making perfectly good sense. And in that case the lady you’re “up in the walls with” then absolutely. Any type of pics are okay as long as you’re both on an agreement. But he would need to warn me first Incase I’m at work or somewhere. And yes I get what you’re saying... haha so you don’t look like an idiot. It’s like okay... boobs. So? Haha I totally get it.
Lol 😂😂😂 oh good you can relate. People always assume I don't know what I'm talking about since I just turned seven a couple days ago.
seven?
The most well spoken and promiscuous seven year old I’ve ever talked to 😂😂😂
Seventeen oh man that sucks
You think I'm well spoken? Wow you know I've hardly spoken a word since I started typing.
Haha for a seven year old yes. Lmao. But for seventeen... I’ll give you a pass.
ugh, I hate when you feel like your the only one putting effort into getting to know someone.
It's like look, I don't mind bouncing back and forth with questions, in fact I enjoy it, because it shows me you want to get to know me as well.
For guys you can tell if a girl isn't really interested if she isn't really asking you anything. Which also confuses me because why then go to the trouble of talking to me? I can definitely understand your frustration with being engaging in a conversation lol.
Hey, since you said that, I'm wondering. Does anyone send personal messages? Does anyone really use that feature at all?
@KenM9215 that’s exactly what I’m talking about. If he’s not asking me anything I really feel like he’s not interested in getting to know me. That’s about that time I tend to back off slowly but surely because I’m not going to play the one sided game
Of 20 questions. Because if I keep asking and he’s just asking... I also feel like he doesn’t know how to tell me and he feels obligated to text back just to be nice. Then that’s when you become the “annoying, clingy, desperate” person. Like how does one become desperate by trying to get to know you when you’re the one not engaging. Lol such as life!
@21feminist you mean the personal message feature on here? Yeah I use it from time to time.
Oh damn 😔😔😔. Wait do you know anyone PERSONALLY on this here online community? I'm in Jamaica right now so everyone I know doesn't know this apps exists
Lmao yes one of my best friends is on here. I know her in real life. Like this site is kind of popular but not really. I could ask like 20 people that I know if they’ve heard of this site and they would tell you no. If they have heard about it, it’s because they’ve heard me mention it.
So... your friends share some of your interests? And you have a BEST friend? I'm just curious.
Yes of course we share some of the same interests. I do... I have a couple of BEST friends. My circle of friends is very small. So my BEST friends are pretty high up there. I have 3 that I would take a bullet for.
Seriously... the only things me and my friends have in common are what me and other guys have in common. And as for best friends either I or they move anyway.
You need some more friends with other interests lol
I'm kinda weird, I think. I've only met a COUPLE people who MAY have shared my interest.
The weird and crazy ones make the best friends.
Funny you say that, one of my best friend was a pedophile. He had a crush on my girlfriend though he wouldn't say it
Okay... that’s a little TOO crazy. There comes a time when crazy turns to psycho 😂
Lol😂😂 yeah I could tell you all the crazy things he did but it'll probably weird you out
That’s hard to do. I’ve heard some crazy stuff.
I'm watching this convo from afar.
Haha, I see why people use the private messaging feature now. The hills have eye man 👀👀
Hahha its all good. I’ll vouch for hazfire... he’s good people 😊 he’s my little brother 😂
Where do you live? Trust me, I'm not a stalker. Just curious.
Yeah you can trust me with you pedo friends secrets, I'm just here to take it an and see if it's anything I haven't heard before haha
my phone keeps going off every two seconds from this conversation lol
@throwsomecheeseonit yeah I muted this bastard a long time ago. Gaga
.. haha*
you can mute people?
Turned off app notifications
oooo gotcha
Lol okay got the message peace 👌✌️
don't be butt hurt just spread out your questions so my phone doesn't go off every two seconds
Did you just say "Butt Hurt"? That's just... I don't even know what to say bruh
yes it's a common American saying
We Americans refer to our feelings as a singular butt.
lmao
Wow. In Jamaica they just say "Stop acting like a Pussy" well not like that we have this diverse English language
Man... this just turned into a party 😂😂 there needs to be group messages lol. But yeah... just PM me is need be. I was feeling bad for a while because I know everyone’s phones are going crazy lol.
Hey had you ever heard a Jamaican just speak. I mean sometimes even I get confused
Texting late shouldn’t be a problem. Everyone gets busy but if you know you’re gonna be busy for a while then let us know before not replying for hours. Nobody should get mad at someone for being busy
Ok, that thing you did there, in the body after the question... DON’T. Do not capitalize every letter. Also, no ‘k’ answers, no just “hey”, no super late texts... Oh, and please have good grammar. I can not stress that enough.
1. Night time is not the only time to text her. Even if you're busy during the day a simple "I hope you have a good day today" goes a long way.
2. Don't take too long to reply unless you're actually really busy. And trust me, she will probably know if you've been on social media. So if you haven't responded to the last text she sent you for 33 minutes, but you were just active on snap chat 7 minutes ago, she's gonna hopefully forget about you and move on.
i dont like it when guys are replying really short. at least make a whole senrence once or twice. and ask questions a girl like sit when a guy is interested in her and her life.
I don't follow any texting rules. I just text normal and be respectful of course. Manners are also a must have in the chat room. Else no fucks giving. When I'm online and I see she wrote me, I will text her back maybe no matter how long ago she sent it to me. When she doesn't like the way I chat, she can feel free to fuck off. I won't act special just for following rules like "uh I saw the message, but have to wait another 5 minutes to don't look desperate". Just normal and polite.
Rule one: if you're not at work or busy, don't test me.. just pick up the phone call me. If you don't want to call me, then we have no reason to talk at all.
- proper grammar
- don't use abbreviations
- don't say "k" often for normal "okay" that sounds just rude..
- would be great if you reply as soon as you read the text
Don't reply to a text 36 hours later. One simply does NOT lose their phone.
Also, don't take forever to respond to a long text that I took the time to type out.
Hmmmmmm what do you want to ask?
Reply to THE WHOLE FREAKING PARAGRAPH. Not just the last sentence 😂
hey women do that a lot too lol
So apt 😂
Be polite, don't type more than two texts at the same type before they reply, don't talk rubbish about their friends,
Talking rubbish about their friends. Yea like who likes that.
For me lazy texting or no effort, that is literally my only rules that they can actually hold a conversation.
Finish your own darn tex... *sleeps* 😴😴
@Toad-1 😛😛
Don't Write Like This. This is okay, though. Use punctuation. Exhibit some intelligence, even if she won't.
I'm trying now. I'm getting this a lot. I gotta do something about this
Don't be controlling. If I don't reply right away means that I'm busy. Don't make me a scene about it and don't blow up my phone
Don't capitalize every word like you are now
I've Heard Women Tell Me This before - is it annoying or is it something else which I should/better know
It's just not correct. It's annoying tome personally. Capitals are seen as yelling through texts lol
True vs TRUE, Thank you - I'll try my best - it's become a habit now
Yep exactly like that
Talk in complete sentences and don't try to be "mysterious" by letting us tear every little piece of information out of you.
Good question mate.
Thanks Man
You can text whenever and however you want to. The only rule is be respectful and respected.
I love how some men get angry at women’s opinions, but they’re the ones who asked the damn question in the first place
Well if say you want to be friends only, then don't ask for pics