Women! Can you name some texting rules that men should know?

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I've Seen A lot of Women Being Annoyed With Men's Texting. There's Certainly Some Things Which Men Don't Get It Like At All! So Tell Us What Are Those Unwritten Texting Rules, Ethics And Basics Which Men Should/Better Know When They Text A Woman BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE...

LittleMissLib · Accepted Answer

If you're serious about getting a girl to date you.

1. No. Dick. Pics. Whatsoever. Under. Any. Circumstances. K? Okay. Only do it when asked or when you're actually in a relationship with her.

2. Timing
A. Don't take hours to reply back without a good reason. Don't make her feel like you're not interested in her or she's gonna bail on ya. It's honestly my biggest pet peeve when it comes to texting. Ditched a few guys even for it. Texting is meant to be done in minutes, not hours. Even if you can't talk say "Can I call/text you later? I'm busy with _____. Sorry." Then leave your phone alone till you get whatever done, and get back with her as soon as you can. If you keep your phone locked up during work or something, make it clear to her of that so she knows what's going on if she doesn't get a reply from you for a good while. If this is the case with you I suggest making calls with her instead of texts so y'all can chat and catch up on each other's day quicker.
B. Forget about "I shouldn't text back immediately 5 seconds after I hit a text." Bro, you're good. Only time you should worry about texting back fast is if we tell you to quit it. Even if it happens it's probably because we're caught up with something and we can't talk right now. We'll get right back to ya soon. So dude, you're good!

3. Use emojis, but not overly so. Sometimes it's hard to tell what the tone is you're using while texting. So it definitely helps. But don't go overboard and put 5+ emojis down in a row in one text or whatever. We get what you mean with just 1 or 2 per text.

4. Read and reply to the whole damn paragraph we send. I know it annoys y'all, but it's gonna make the situation worse if you're arguing and you only reply to 1 part instead of all 3 (or 12) parts of the message. And honestly I don't think us chicks are going to quit that anytime soon lmao, 😂 sorry guys. If y'all don't like big paragraphs ask us to call or just go ahead and call us to get it out there. We as a generation forget there's a call option on our cellphones, sometimes. Honestly it makes serious conversations go by a lot faster. I myself like to employ the voice call whenever possible when I need to discuss something that can't wait till I see someone in person. But I know how the other ladies are.

5. Use proper grammar. Even if you dropped out of preschool you should still learn some written English. You got a brain, use it!

Otherwise, do what suits you and the girl you're talking to. 😁

Jesslin412 · Accepted Answer

Just be you. If you’re busy and a chick is pestering you the say I’m busy. If you aren’t busy and are ignoring then don’t lead on. One word answers sometimes suck. Please respond to texts even if it’s a laughing face. My boyfriend is the best at keeping up with me. Even when I try to leave him alone cause we just got done seeing each other he texts me something. 😊 If he’s busy he just says. No service where he’s working that day he says hey no service today Talk to you when I can. He surprises me all the time! Just be real with a girl. If you aren’t big on texting or calling then make that clear in the beginning.

silverqueen · Accepted Answer

1- don’t send multiple unnecessary text messages when I haven’t replied

2- If I haven’t replied, don’t text me hours later again. I will continue ignoring you. Consistency doesn’t apply here.

3- don’t send unsolicited dick pics. I’m not necessarily horny at the time, and I’m not necessarily attracted to you to want a dick pic from you.

4- Don’t start by saying “you’re pretty.” Thanks, but that means our conversation won’t go very far.

5- don’t reply too quickly. That kinda means you don’t have friends or a life

21feminist · Accepted Answer

I think I've been texting long enough to give a few tips:
1) DON'T BE BORING, yeah I know it's obvious but most guys break this rule like KitKat bars. If the only think you can think to text a girl is "Hey", "Sup?", "How's your day?" or the dreadful "Good morning" or anything to that effect. Just don't. If you're wondering, what the fuck should I send if I wanna talk to her? ANYTHING FUNNY or INTERESTING (don't do this if you want her to think your a boring ass nice guy). Send a funny gif, pic of video anything that'll make her smile or send her something at least half assed interesting like "Heard there were gunshots round your way, are you dead?" (I sent this once, it worked, probably never work for you though)
2) DON'T TEXT UNLESS NECESSARY, this should probably be number one but I'm thinking off the top of my head so the tips won't be in proper order. The purpose of texting a girl is to meet her. Basically that's it, don't text her every freaking day talking bout bullshit because it's eventually gonna get BORING. I don't text as often as I used to and I swear when I do she pays attention.
3) BE CASUAL AND LIGHTHEARTED, yeah ahhhh. Girls wanna have fun and if you got your head up your ass she won't even think of kissing you. When you asking her out don't make it seem like a date just ask her to hang out. And do it with a joke or something like that, make her smile when you ask man, "You know, I'm free on Saturday, so you wanna go go kart racing or to the beach, I don't know how to swim but I can pretend I do." (that was half assed so use something better)
4) IF YOU EVER SEND A DICK PIC, MAKE SURE YOU SEND MORE THAN YOUR DICK. Yeah the thing is the dick looks like a monsterous snake so... put your abs and pecks in it (Maybe your thighs too) so she can imagine actually riding your dick instead of a weird snake (thing about, do you like when girl send you close ups of vaginas? No you wanna see those thighs, boobs and that ass). Also it helps if your both on the same page, you know, make sure she's into you like that.

jessture · Accepted Answer

1. Don't text too much, even though she will text too much.

2. Don't text not enough, you should read her mind to know that she expected a "Hi how you doing" text 15 minutes ago

3. Dont send unsolicited dick pics... but she can send unsolicited nudes whenever she wants... because thats empowerment

4. Don't complement her on her appearance, unless she wants you to compliment her on her appearance but told you not to.

5. Don't be too generic when saying hi, but if she only says hi, she's not being generic, you're supposed to know what she intends.

Anonymous · Answer

1 ) Most women don't know how to text properly and instead pretend to have all these rules that are honestly counterintuitive and, at worse, contradictory. Like how else am I supposed to start a conversation if it's not with a "hi"? I'm not Netflix or a clown or a comedian, I don't entertain people from the beginning of all of my conversations till the very end. Trust me, a lot of you lose the potential perfect boyfriend/girlfriend because you didn't think their introductory message wasn't witty enough. #iblametinder
#iblameonlinedating
#ialsoblametrendfollowers

2 ) Replying on time is another huge thing and for the most part, men and women who don't reply on time and claim to "be busy" are in fact either ignoring you or were born before the 70s and haven't yet figured out how to work a cellphone. In either case, not worth the trouble.

3 ) Anyone who sends anything sexual whether it's in text form or in form of a picture deserves to be ignored. #commonsense

4 ) Proper grammer=proper etiquette for texting.

5 ) Replying right away is a non-issue and if someone complains about that, they don't deserve your texts.

6 ) Don't resend messages like the next person would have somehow missed the messages you sent them before, chances are you are being ignored. Take the hint and don't embarrass yourself further.

JSmuve · Answer

There aren't any. One person's "rule" doesn't apply to everyone. If you're at a stage in your relationship where you're sending nudes and dick pics and she enjoys it then there's no harm in sending them or asking for nudes. Now if you've just met the broad then obvs not the best idea to say "let's see yer tits" or "take a look at my dick". Just go with what makes sense to you and where you're at with her. If a girl likes you enough she'll do a lot of shit that she "doesn't normally do". Its just about whether you can reach that level with her.

CaffeinatedCactus · Answer

Honestly, just message me back in a timely manner. It's okay if you are busy, but you can't ALWAYS be busy :P Dont ask for nudes or send me dick pics. Also dont ignore parts of my texts. I like when you reply to everything I say lol that's all.

Moonchild714 · Answer

Rule #1: Know who you're texting, know who they are what they are like. If you don't know them very well keep it clean and respectful.

Don't Ask for nudes or pics of us in our underwear.

Don't send Dick pics unless asked.

Always treat the Person with Respect in every Text

Don't keep texting if I haven't replied, I'm busy and don't need the constant reminder that you are feeling insecure!!!

ikEVERYTHING · Answer

Ok im not a girl but i know a thing or two. First of all, tbh on your own you have to find out when and when not to text a girl, find out her schedule and figure out when she is at work and what not, so you that your brain is like "oh its aaaa 3:30, she's at work, ill text her later tonight". That is one thing. Second, and here is a tip that works for even you girls out there. If she is already used to you texting her, dont text her forrrr in your case, three days, and even if she texts you, dont read, dont reply until those 3 days are up.. so yeah

TheFunkyThumb · Answer

there's some decent points, and funny ones too, but i think overall its missing the point.

There aren't rules to texting, per se. There is only good communication and bad communication. A person that is educated and thoughtful enough to get their point across and hold a conversation will have better success than someone who doesn't have the maturity or vocabulary to do so. We've been watching communication between people race towards the lowest common denominator its actually nice to see people are being vocal about wanting more.

9teen · Answer

I hate when I don't hear anything for hours/days without any reason.
I hate when there is something wrong and I don't get to know what the fuck I did wrong.
I hate mind games.
I hate it when someone thinks they know me better than I know myself.
I hate it when someone misunderstands me and blames me for shit.
I hate it when someone assumes I'm passing over indirect messages or intentions like no I'm straightforward and say what's on my mind.
I hate when big parts of what I said gets ignored.
Be open-minded and don't be judgmental, especially when I'm opening up and sharing a sensitive side.
Don't disturb my comfort, otherwise things are going to start from the beginning again and my interest needs to be gained back.
Don't reply too short.

Anonymous · Answer

General guidelines: Read all texts and reply genuinely. Don't just say "Ok." Use Emoji as they can be helpful, since through texting you can't tell a person's emotion. Don't demand a reply within 1 or 2 minutes, and don't go "Hello?" "Hello?"

For guys who are not in a relationship but dating: Don't mention sex within first month of conversations, unless you and the girl text all day long, and you've known each other so well. (Well, unless sex is the only thing the girl is looking for, then sure, go ahead.) Don't intentionally wait for days before you reply to her text. She could be uninterested by then, and it'd be your loss. There's no "3-day rule." Depending on how you and she present yourselves, you can go ahead and text back if you're interested.

For guys in a relationship: Let your girl know what's going on, if you have told her that you're busy and will text her later, but you're still online?

Anonymous · Answer

Please don't ask me to send you a pic on the first text or AT ALL
Please do not send me one word messages.
Please do not respond to my messages the next day when I just seen you on Facebook the day before
Please don't tell me about a pretend cousin in order to cheat
Please don't send me pick up lines
PLEASE DON'T TEXT IN MY EAR!
Please do not talk to your friends while we are on the phone.
Please don't ask me about another man comparing yourself to him
Please don't tell me "baby you the only one I talk to I love you"
PLEASE DON'T TELL ME "BABY I DIDN'T GET YOUR TEXT/CALL
if you didn't get either who the hell got it?

titania21 · Answer

1. If you are genuinely busy but checking WhatsApp for some reason ( work ) as soon as you read your gf's text ( blue tick is a real problem) just let her know you are busy at the moment and will ping her as soon as you are free. This could save her and you a lot of time and headaches.
2. Let your girlfriend know that you are using messaging platforms ( WhatsApp ) for work we well and probably will be online all the time and not necessarily reading all the texts. Having an open conversation about this will create much more understanding.

3. Please don't use too many emojis , our imagination run wild and usually interpret the exact opposite of what you tried to say , better use words than emojis.

achezc · Answer

The amount of women asking not to send them dick picks or to get nudes request is too high I'd thought not doing those things is the most obvious things, how the fuck there's still existing assholes doing so

Rebecca_Tonkin · Answer

Girls who text first aren't clingy or desperate. They're interested.

yasii · Answer

Don't ask for nudes. Don't ask if she wants to see your penis. Don't start the conversation with an generic "hi" it's boring

gngriffic · Answer

Use proper grammar. We no longer have Nokia-style, 3 punch button phones, so there is no need for stupid abbreviations. Don't text me in ghetto verbiage. Dick pics are a good way to tell me you want to be friend-zoned and never desire sexual relations with me.

Anonymous · Answer

Let me tell you something men learned a long time ago. (20 years)

Don't ask women how to be men. We tried that. It doesn't work.

Women said they wanted emotional men who could cry etc... and they got it, only to find out those sorts of men were not attractive.

You be you.

Kandy-Kane · Answer

Don't tell her you want to lick her pu**y in the 2nd message lmao

Lolipop55449 · Answer

Communicating better would be nice. I get you don’t have to always respond, bc i do the same, but really. Be more seasoned with your responses and questions. If you flat out don’t like someone talking to you, just tell us, but i think that can also depend on the person.

Tiaroendu479 · Answer

Don’t send dick pics unless they are asked for, and definitely DONT send them when she has made it clear that she doesn’t want them... that is really annoying 😣

bakedgoods · Answer

Look women are just overly picky and want control. So say what you want to them the right one will be ok with you wanting to see a titty pic.

Evkaxy · Answer

I hate when people play games. Like waiting a day or more after a date just not to make themselves look too keen... also when dating a least one courtesy message a day of how are you is good... also when he texts me and I text right back and suddenly I have to wait 20 minutes for reply... that's annoying

EvilAngel114 · Answer

Unsolicited dick pics and don’t have us “interviewing” them. The second one applies to guys and girls.

restlessness · Answer

Texting late shouldn’t be a problem. Everyone gets busy but if you know you’re gonna be busy for a while then let us know before not replying for hours. Nobody should get mad at someone for being busy

Robo131 · Answer

Ok, that thing you did there, in the body after the question... DON’T. Do not capitalize every letter. Also, no ‘k’ answers, no just “hey”, no super late texts... Oh, and please have good grammar. I can not stress that enough.

Anonymous · Answer

1. Night time is not the only time to text her. Even if you're busy during the day a simple "I hope you have a good day today" goes a long way.
2. Don't take too long to reply unless you're actually really busy. And trust me, she will probably know if you've been on social media. So if you haven't responded to the last text she sent you for 33 minutes, but you were just active on snap chat 7 minutes ago, she's gonna hopefully forget about you and move on.

kubbie · Answer

i dont like it when guys are replying really short. at least make a whole senrence once or twice. and ask questions a girl like sit when a guy is interested in her and her life.

Leo3572 · Answer

I don't follow any texting rules. I just text normal and be respectful of course. Manners are also a must have in the chat room. Else no fucks giving. When I'm online and I see she wrote me, I will text her back maybe no matter how long ago she sent it to me. When she doesn't like the way I chat, she can feel free to fuck off. I won't act special just for following rules like "uh I saw the message, but have to wait another 5 minutes to don't look desperate". Just normal and polite.

BrittBratt2416 · Answer

Rule one: if you're not at work or busy, don't test me.. just pick up the phone call me. If you don't want to call me, then we have no reason to talk at all.

monicasagi · Answer

- proper grammar  - don't use abbreviations - don't say "k" often for normal "okay" that sounds just rude.. - would be great if you reply as soon as you read the text

lol20075 · Answer

Don't reply to a text 36 hours later. One simply does NOT lose their phone. Also, don't take forever to respond to a long text that I took the time to type out.

xZoeyx · Answer

Reply to THE WHOLE FREAKING PARAGRAPH. Not just the last sentence 😂

PrashanthGujjeti · Answer

Be polite, don't type more than two texts at the same type before they reply, don't talk rubbish about their friends,

PrincessPie · Answer

For me lazy texting or no effort, that is literally my only rules that they can actually hold a conversation.

sp33d · Answer

Don't Write Like This. This is okay, though. Use punctuation. Exhibit some intelligence, even if she won't.

LuWe22 · Answer

Don't be controlling. If I don't reply right away means that I'm busy. Don't make me a scene about it and don't blow up my phone

MsMusic · Answer

Don't capitalize every word like you are now

Hurlyburly · Answer

Talk in complete sentences and don't try to be "mysterious" by letting us tear every little piece of information out of you.

Stan_Control_ · Answer

Good question mate.

Girolamo · Answer

You can text whenever and however you want to. The only rule is be respectful and respected.

Anonymous · Answer

I love how some men get angry at women’s opinions, but they’re the ones who asked the damn question in the first place

PinkChampagne · Answer

Well if say you want to be friends only, then don't ask for pics

Eve93 · Answer

Dude, sometimes even I don't get them. The only thing I can advise you on is to never read a mesaage and never answer ( but that bothers the rest too)

Love_yourself · Answer

Whatever you do... In the end girls will leave you on SEEN...

alinakhanx0x · Answer

-Reply as soon as possible.  -Don't use k, hmm a lot -Has to sarcastic at times -don't ask for pics

Unbeltedbart · Answer

I dont text period. If I'm not worth a live call...

Username678 · Answer

DO NOT dm me if you have a girlfriend. Just happened to me 3 weeks ago -.-

Anon-ymous1 · Answer

Texting conversations aren't supposed to be actual conversations. If you want a real conversation with someone... you freaking call them or meet them in person. This is very simple.

Pallavip75 · Answer

1. no dick pic 2. Reply immediate 3. Don't talk of other girls 4. Listen more 5. Use emoji 6. Avoid Ok , hm, oh, etc. 7. Be funny 8. Start the convo. First

Taurean80 · Answer

One word answers (eg. "Fine" "ok" "sure") always make me wonder what the guy is really thinking. Is he mad, is he in a hurry, is he frustrated that I asked a question? Seriously guys, at least use an emoji to set the tone.

zarinofy · Answer

Try to type a full sentence at least. I send 2 lines and all I get is a one word response.

buffdude_1719 · Answer

Just don't let her on read or take too long to answer her texts lol and no heartface also

t3hhottdawg · Answer

I hate excessive use of emojis lol. Also starting every word with a capital letter. (Sorry I saw that you had done that)

Anonymous · Answer

Don't text me every 2 minutes but also don't leave me on read without a good explanation unless you're not interested.

Aysev · Answer

Dont text too often- this guy literally would text me on the hour and it got so annoying. Dont text 3 days later in reply, i get people get busy but yeah. Just within a reasonable time

SubnormalGent · Answer

Text her an interesting intro and she'll think you talk to much... its true

Kiabanana · Answer

For me, these should be a must:  1. Grammar and spelling  2. Emojis - because nobody wants to feel as if they're talking to a robot :|

roseypopxox · Answer

1. Don't sext just any girl 2. If I send a long message, don't reply with just one word or sentence  3. Text back, don't ignore

Anonymous · Answer

I get that you're nervous but if I can't READ what the text is, I have no idea if you asked me out or not!

lizzysmith · Answer

Don’t text me too much, don’t text me too little. Also don’t send me dick pics.

Anonymous · Answer

You need to text back.01 milliseconds or else she’s pissed!

JennaSummerville · Answer

dont take a million years to text back

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