Because the point of being alpha is to get what you want and not have to compromise as often and for others to follow you because they respect your ability to perform more than their own. Obviously you can't have two people constantly fighting about how to do the dishes, finances, raise the kids, when to initiate sex, sweep the floors, decide when to go out and what to cook for dinner etc. Alpha people need someone who puts up with their type A neuroticism and desire to "control everything." Alphas think they are so good at getting what they want but they usually suck at compromising. Beta people are seen as lazier but they are better at compromising and are better at "enjoying life" than trying to control it. So an alpha women, is better with a man who is less of a control freak about as many things, but that doesn't make him any less successful or ambitious. It just means he's more willing to be the first one to say I'm sorry, kickstart communication after a fight, and appreciate her ability to run a tight ship, rather than impose his own opinions about how things should be done. I'm kind of alpha so I've learned to date guys who are more relaxed, and willing to let me do things my way (cook, clean, finances). They can still have input and help me with clarify how to do things and I listen/respect them, but they don't expect me to "adhere to his will" like an alpha might. There are some things I am not got at, and I genuinely respect when someone else is capable of doing it better than me. There are things I specifically let my partner shine at, but yeah, people need to balance each other out, not constantly compete with each other for attention and control.
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I'm not sure about that. I can be quite strong and opinionated… but also a bit meak when I don't care. A friend of mine is rather… a push over. When I give him advice he does as he is told. I know I couldn't live with that. I need someone who is just as strong as I am. I don't want to walk all over my partner I'd feel bad. I just want to be equals, we can argue and discuss over our opinions without one being the underdog and the other being the alpha. Of course, it will be hard, but I've Always taken the tough road in life.
Sometimes I think it is a subconscious way of finding alternating polarities. Lets face it, to a certain extent two Alphas are not going to work well together. Most Alphas are very self centered. That is what allows them to do the things they must do to achieve success and get what they want. Two people in a relationship with self centered POV's are not going to get much traction. You need to have at least one side maintaining the partnership goals.
The unhealthy and extreme variation of this psychology forms with Narcissists and codependents. They seek each other out as they require the enabling of each other to function.
The "alpha" thing is stupid in my opinion. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. Who's to say someone is "stonger" than someone else? In some ways maybe.
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Passive men tend to search for figures to follow, usually someone who will take on the role of a stern mother. It’s a weird thing mixed with fetish and likely past relationship issues with females.
Define "strong".
True, that in nature, the higher status male tends to end up with the higher status females. HOWEVER, physical strength hardly plays a part in this among women, often on the contrary - muscular or endurant hard working women are mocked sometimes.
Either way, what I think many women simply don't understand is that measuring strength is not an intersexual thing. You are a "strong", or high status woman? Great for you, you will probably find an attractive partner.
But don't come over into the men's division to prove your worth. Do you want to compete with us? Because shocker - I don't feel sexually attracted to people who I want to beat most of the time. So unless you want to be treated as a man (arguably not exactly romantic), don't compare your strength to our strength. The moment you do, you intrude on our turf, and you will stop being attractive, and become an opponent.
So yeah.
Regarding weak men being attracted to strong women - my best guess is that these are women who DIDN'T take my advice, and came over to the men's competition - and since they can't get far around here, they make do with what's left, that is, weak, metrosexual guys who already have a tendency to be submissive.I don't think strong women attract weak men. The fact that you refer to alpha males and females is just nonsense. That does exist in humans, and honestly it doesn't even exist in most animals, it's just a myth.
The thing is that women who usually call themselves "strong" usually have certain characteristics. Such as more driven, bigger personality, more ego, more stubborn and won't say no, they don't like relying on other people for help. These aren't really attractive qualities.
Then there is what men want and find attractive. Men like a partner who makes them feel wanted and needed. A "strong" women doesn't really want that. Men want a woman who is easy to get along with and will make their lives easier and not more difficult. A "strong" women probably isn't going to be like that.
So a lot of guys don't want "strong" women because they just aren't what they want. So why would guys want to be with them. That is why those women end up with "weak" men. It's because those men aren't really catches themselves and have trouble getting women so they don't have as many options.My personal theory is that we model ourselves after our own parents quite a lot, and of course we also inherit their genes, so... Anyway, if a girl has a strong mother and a weak father, that will be her model for romantic relationships, and she will expect men to be like that and expect her role to be strength. It's the same for weak men, just the other way round. So basically, if a woman has a weak dad, she won't consider a weak guy weak. She will just accept his weakness.
Whereas if she has a dominant dad, she will think weak guys are pathetic and boring.Think about it: if a person is dominant, they probably LIKE being dominant. Meaning that a dominant guy (probably) wouldn't WANT to be with a dominant girl as it would just lead to power struggles and arguments. Same thing goes for women who are dominant. Additionally, if you're submissive for whatever reason, you probably want someone else to be in charge (there's a variety of reasons this could be), and therfore you look for someone who's dominant.
If you're a dominant girl, it might make sense to either be looking for a submissive guy or a guy who wants to share the responsibilities in the relationship. In my opinion, most guys are looking to share the responsibilities anyway.A woman can be alpha when it comes to her career or her friends. But in a relationship, there always has to be a submissive partner otherwise you will both be arguing and trying to be in control. Alphas like to lead and you can't both lead. One has to be a follower. Imagine two train engines trying to pull the same car. One forward and the other backward. You'll never get anywhere just stressed metal. If one engine goes forward and the other starts pushing, you work as a team together instead of against each other.
First, you are stupidly ignorant of "animal" mating behavior. The whole "alpha male" and "alpha female" thing only applies to a SMALL SUBSET of social animals that does NOT include humans. Have you ever even taken a class in behavioral biology? Where did you come up with the stupid crap that you believe?
As for strong women ending up with weaker men, it sounds like you have seen bossy bitches ending up with nebbishes because strong men are turned off by immaturity and bossiness, which stupid people mistake for "strength".
Strong men want strong women, but strong men are also mature and balanced. They do NOT want some sort of parody of a "strong" woman who thinks that just throwing tantrums and yelling is "strength".I know what you mean I work a hard physical job and you could say I'm pretty tuff for a woman. I'm mainly more attracted to less manly men as I feel like I can look after them and they will listen to me. When I'm with a more alpha male type things it usually end in flights because we're constantly arguing who's wright.
I don't think that's necessarily true. It has been a long believe that the male is the head of the family and truthfully in the times we live in that's not entirely the truth. I guess that when a woman is capable of taking decisions and show's the dominant attitude within her is something that a male can really appreciate (at least the opened mind ones) but obviously, when this thing is brought to extreme and the female is also the Mather, the father, the provider and guardian of the family then there is definitely a problem. To my mind there should not be a time when a woman can say stop. I think that when things are going very sideways then exact actions have to be undertaking.
1. The Alpha theory was disprove by the same scienciest that came up with it.
2. You can't have two alphas in the same pack this isn't teen wolf. They may both come off as two alphas to the outside but one is the Dom within the family and most of the time it's the lady.This is just not true. There are strong men with weak women, strong men with strong women, weak men with weak women, weak men with strong women.
In animals monogamy isn't really a think so the alpha animals will beat out competition to get to each other.
I think it can be a very rewarding thing to find your physical and metal equal as a partner.Its not that they attract the weaker.. they chose willingly that type of men whom are weaker. For obvious so many reasons. Mostly its like that but still i won't generalise because some strong woman still want the male to be even stronger and predominant in his presence as a virile man!
You hear that guys? Let's grab our cudgel and go hunt for a wife.
That "alpha" title is just that, a title! It's a bit pretentious too. A person can be good in some areas, but not all areas, they can believe they are though, which is a false perception. If you dig deep enough you'll find any "alpha" person has huge flaws like anybody else.
I say people should play to their strengths. Why should I get in the way of somebody's abilities, that are better than mine, just because I declare I'm an "alpha"?Regarding the update, absolutely yes! Most dominant men want to lead the relationship; he doesn’t want to “ fight for the steering wheel”.
So those type of men seek a woman that is submissive in that facet (relationship leadership).
This woman can still be independent & have a career with high level goals; this does not mean she has to be a stay-at-home wife. She just has to be comfortable trusting the lead of the man.The Alpha female in a group is rarely ever with the Alpha male, because the Alpha female doesn't want to be submissive, she wants to be independent. So if you have two alphas come together, you have two fiercely independent people trying to have a romantic relationship. It just doesn't work, there's always going to be conflict.
A woman needs to be willing to let her alpha male take charge if he is going to be an alpha.Because its always easier with one decison maker than two, always. Im not saying its better or worse, nor it should be like that or not, but thats how it is. Also people tend to build on previous experience when it comes to relationships and sex. And since a dominant persons previous experience, statistically speaking, is most likeley to be with mostly submissive persons (since they are less of a challenge; less resistance) thats probably what the dominant person will be looking for
Opposites attract.. And the alpha female\alpha male thing has been debunked.
www.psychologytoday.com/.../are-alpha-males-myth-or-realityDepends on what you mean by strong. My grandmother was one of the strongest women I ever knew, both physically and mentally. My grandfather was also strong mentally and physically, but as much as they loved each other they clashed often because even as old as they were, they STILL couldn't come to an agreement on many things.
They're submissive. Two dominant people will butt heads constantly creating strain on the relationship. Men prefer not to be stressed and will try to avoid stressful situations if they can. Weak men however are submissive by nature so that's what you'ee gonna find. It's not that strong women attract them more, they just attract dominant men less
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