Do physically strong women attract weak men?

[TomGarand]

I've said in previous questions that I find stocky and muscular women more attractive because of their strength, and that I'm a pretty weak man myself. The funny thing is, I've seen a whole-ass subreddit called r/rolereversal. It's not all of them, but many of the guys there are attracted to muscular women, especially if she can pick him up.

And I saw a question from a woman here a few weeks ago, talking about how when she used to work out more often, weak and submissive men were the most likely to approach her, although she didn't say whether or not she hated that. I can't find that question right now.

So I wanna ask the people here, is this common, and how common is it? Are weak men very likely to find women stronger than them (PHYSICALLY stronger) attractive?

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Also, it would help if you mentioned any cases you saw of this. If you have any stories to tell where you saw a weak man falling for a woman stronger than him (BECAUSE of her superior strength), be sure to include it in your answer!

[TheUniqueOne96]

I think it honestly depends on the individual, as cheap and common as it may sound.

When I think of a 'dream partner' in my head (I wrote a myTake on it, if you want to check it out via my profile), she is bigger and taller than me.

It doesn't necessarily make a person weak in my eyes and I think part of the reason why I'd prefer a taller woman, is because I'm a short guy, I'm 159cm, which is shorter than the average woman and even then I view it as an ideal preference, it's NOT mandatory and I wouldn't refuse a relationship with a girl, just because she's not at my height preference, because it's a preference, not a standard - the latter is mandatory and the former isn't and there's always the chance it just sounds nice to me in theory.

Being submissive doesn't make a person gay, that's ridiculous in my eyes.

That doesn't make me submissive or a yes man, I still have my own opinions, my own brains and the ability to stand up for myself, the only time I really consider myself to be submissive, is sexually, because I like the idea of woman taking control, but even then, they're just my virgin fantasies. 😂

[Soremain]

I think it's more about being masculine / feminine or dominant / submissive. Not so much about the muscle mass at a given moment. More about do you want to be strong and dominant or weak and submissive. I believe those qualities want to seek balance. So if the woman is masculine and dominant, she probably wants submissive man and the other way around.

I do know a guy who married very dominant woman and even physically strong woman. They both go to the gym together so I don't know if she actually lifts more than him but she's heavier than him and it's obvious she's "the man of the relationship".

But I don't think if woman just works out that automatically makes her unattractive for stronger men, everyone likes lean and well shaped women. It's different if she has big muscles and you can see her veins. At least for me that's a big turnoff and that makes a woman look more like a man to me and I believe you have to be a little bit on the feminine side to find that attractive.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

There's probably a good set of physically weaker men who have a thing for women who could snap them in half. But that's also a thing for women.

I think it's less about attraction and more about preferences and types.

[Agape93]

Depends on the guy :/ my first boyfriend/best friend was a soldier, hardly a weak man. Another was a chef, also not a weak man. So on and so forth.

[WowwGirl]

Little dudes submissive ones they want body guards🤣 I personally think. Wither by muscle or guns. They need protection

[Kurαȷ]

I don't know, saying "Any masculine man wants a submissive woman" sounds a lot more to me like a sign of being gay than liking muscle on women does.

I curl 110 and the last thing I want for a woman is for her to be submissive.
That's bitch talk of someone who needs to surround themselves with pushovers to feel manly.

I like dominant, sassy women, why?
Because, frankly, they still ain't got shit on me, their knees are going to get weak and their breath heavy, no matter how dominant they think they are.

[TomGarand]

Then you must hate sub men. lol

[Kurαȷ]

I don't really do, no.
I don't really care what other men like or do, neither my confidence nor sense of masculinity is rooted in comparing myself to other men, or in judging what their preferences are.
The things I like in my partners I do like out of my wholly selfish, subjective satisfaction.

If you actually like the idea that you are weaker than the women you like, then that's your satisfaction, I guess.
I'm not sure if men who like strong women are themselves weak, I don't mind a bit of muscle on women, but when there is too much it puts me off from simply the aesthetic perspective.

I never really focused on how physically strong women are in comparison to me, most women I have dated did workout though.

[NamerOfStars]

I doubt it's that simple; human sexuality rarely is. Many of the cases of sexual submissiveness I've seen (well, seen and been told about; no doubt there's more I'm unaware of) have been about psychology rather than physique; in the case of men it's usually powerful guys who bear a lot of responsibility and are looking to let someone else take charge for a while. It would stand to reason that a woman who's physically stronger sends more of those signals, intentionally or otherwise.

[KaleMorgan41]

That's true.
Would you say that some of the most dominant guys in the bedroom are men who typically have no power in regular life and they're overcompensating or living out the fantasy of controllng others?

[NamerOfStars]

@KaleMorgan41 Maybe. Again, this is what I've seen and heard; I don't go around spying on people behind closed doors. I'd wager that the percentage of people who seek in sexual encounters the opposite of what they get in their day-to-day lives is higher than those who seek the same, but I don't know how MUCH higher.

For all the stereotype of the viciously assholic dominatrix, I suspect most of the heavier BDSM-type stuff (probably most of the BDSM-type stuff at all, actually) takes place within committed relationships; that which goes on outside is probably more extreme, but there's less of it.

[Anonymous]

I don't have a thing for muscular women, but at 5'7 I still check out cute women that are like 5'10, 5'11 and I fantasize about them sometimes.
I think it's because there's this stigma where women only date guys taller.
They're supposedly off limits for me so I want to prove to them that I can satisfy them and get them to fall for me.

[boggboss]

Its only when you have a fetishism off being with a strong women or stronger women then yourself

[TomGarand]

Well, do you think it's common? Because I assume you don't have any stories to tell where you saw this happen.

[boggboss]

In actual real life I have never seen it then again its not vary commen to see a women thats completely stronger then a guy thats not worked out to be that way I guess

[JosyJosy]

Maybe the submissive men who just happen to be into muscular women

[Unit1]

Well, if she becomes physically stronger, then more men end up being physically weaker than her. Sounds only logical to me.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I don't find women with muscles like men attractive. Looks disgusting.

[TomGarand]

I never said they had to be as muscular as a man. That can't happen unless the woman is roided up. Or do you just mean women who are muscular period?

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Normal women muscles is fine, but being ripped is nasty.

[Jack9949]

It is disgusting. 🤢

[TomGarand]

And besides, the question was "is it common for stronger women to attract weak men."

[WowwGirl]

A lot of men

[TomGarand]

Well, yes, but the question focuses on WEAK men specifically. Do stronger women usually attract weak guys?

[WowwGirl]

No usually they are insacure and want to fight you or flex on you. Bigger guys aren't worried about the athletics.

[FootfetishistBoy]

Im not very strong physically, but I dont really care. But I am attracted to strong women, to a certain degree

[msc545]

Not really.

[Yuuibtony]

Yup.

[Nachowedgie]

Probably