Is he insecure or uninterested?

[Anonymous]

I m seeing a guy and its always me who initiates hang out/dates and gives him little surprises. He d always say yes though. He really likes to tease me with other guys , like 'oh xx and xx kissing !' Or 'those guys so hot!'. I felt uncomfortable bc I like him. I feel if he is insecure he might want reassurance from me , might be the reason he waits for me to ask him out. But It could also be he is not interested. Wonder what it is and if I can ask him.

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+1 y

uh sorry , I didn't say the whole thing bc it's kind of humiliating to me
He said ' those guys so hot , do they make you wet?'
so he isn't gay or anything

[Blunique]

Wait did he say two guys were hot? Could he be gay? I don't know just a thought. Anyway I think he's not interested. When you go great lengths for someone and they don't appreciate it or return the kindness I think he is selfish or not interested. He could be gay, never know 🤔

But you don't want a relationship that's a one way road right? You want him to show appreciation as well right? Show that he likes you, give you little surprises that you do for him, be there for you, show interest in you, talk to you on his own, show that he cares about you, and the list goes on.

If that is all on your part and not his then what are you gaining from the relationship? You are basically taking care of him all the time like you are his slave lol not to exaggerate. You are jumping through hoops for him yet he doesn't do anything for you.

I mean how shy can he be? It's obvious you like him and if he is seriously unsure and let's you do all the work because he is that clueless is probably not possible.

But of course don't let me rain on your parade. I am just being realistic. Definitely ask him out that's the only way to know if he likes you. I hope it works out for you. Maybe he's just really clueless?

[SarahsSummer]

The teasing definitely seems like he's insecure and looking for reassurance. as for the asking, have you tried waiting to see if he asks you?

[Asker]

Yes If I wait long enough , he will contact me, but of course he will contact me, bc we are sexually exclusive

[SarahsSummer]

If you want to see him more, tell him to ask you out more.

[Asker]

Yes I plan to talk to him and set my expectations first, see if it gets better
Thank you for your opinion !

[SarahsSummer]

Good luck with it all! 💟

[OdieTheWise716]

Women tend to be very suddle and it can confuse men... most men are not sure how to or shy to approach women... Men are more direct and don't hide their interest where as more women tend to hide their interest and it makes men question what signals they are getting and back down to avoid rejection

[Stockton]

I haven't got a clue do you two hug? Kiss? Have sex? If not and he is checking out guys may be he is gay. Who knows. Yes you can ask him. As a matter of fact you have the right to ask anyone you are starting a relationship with anything you want. They also have the right not to answer

[SelfishGuy]

It should be the other way around. He is probably not into you. Try test him by ignoring him for a while. See how he reacts.

[Anonymous]

He is not that interested yet. My advice stop talking to him do not give him attention anymore like you moved on completely and see whats happening over the next weeks.

[Anonymous]

Wait a minute... What's his birthday... I will honestly tell you more about what he feels😄 and from your question... yup seems more like a shy guy

[Asker]

Lol I dont know if that can explain anything but he is libra

[Opinion Owner]

Oook... girl listen... you're dealing with a complete sweetheart here... libra men are really cute. If he is more extroverted kind... then he isn't the kind that needs reassurance, he just wants to be friends. Libra men are really open to things they don't care or aren't really shy.
If he is the introverted kind he is thinking about every move he makes.. he doesn't just wanna talk for someone and then get his heart broken. So just do your best to show him you're really interested in him. Also keep patience darling💖

[mykindofwoman]

Lol... if astrology is even true you should look at his venus sign, not his sun sign

[Opinion Owner]

@mykindofwoman at least I am trying to help, look at all the other comments. Apart from that his Sun sign would tell you his basic personality.

[Opinion Owner]

If he were in love with you already I would ask you for his Venus sign

[timidDot]

that feels a lot more like uninterested than shy to me, but that's based on my experience alone! you should talk about it.

[CrazyCroGuy]

Well sounds to me like he's merely insecure and I highly recommend talking to him about it

[mysteriousgent]

Maybe he wants a femdom or for u to cuckold him and take charge...

[Kush-theshrink]

He's shy. And shy guys don't rush into opening up. For you, patience is the key. He'll eventually show his interest.

[DeltaFawk]

it's likely neither of those things. he probably doesn't want to bother you and is down to hang out whenever.

[tallen123]

You dont know until you ask. I feel like you should go for broke lay it out there and see what he says good or bad.

[Jheez420]

Wait, he says that guys are hot... you sure there isn't a hidden agenda with him?

[RIVERTAY888]

move on

[Cable]

Not worth your time.