Girls, what makes you feel insecure?

[Blake26]

I know some pretty obvious answers too, just wanted to get some feedback. Is it how you see other guys act around girls? Has maybe how your father treats you mom changed your mind? {if you have a father} Do you maybe feel like your not measuring up for your guy? Maybe you can't trust him? Let me know how you feel. Plus, tell me how much it means to you when you know your guy puts you above the rest and makes you feel secure. Thanks.

[ayvah]

I become insecure when I don't get the feeling that I'm completely and utterly adored by the man that I care about.

when he's frustrated with me, angry at me or tired of me.I worry that his eyes will wander, or that his anger will make him look at me differently (make him see me in a different way(maybe start looking for my faults perhaps))

I also become insecure when I personally find something wrong with myself (a huge pimple on my forehead or when I do something stupid)

I don't need to be put above the rest of the world at all.I just need to see that look in his eyes that tells me (shows me) that he ABSOLUTELY ADORES me, and only me. I want to always feel his hands on me, whether he's hugging me, rubbing my back, holding my hand, brushing my hair with his hands.or whatever, I just want to know that he can't keep his hands off me! I also want to hear him tell me why (sometimes, at least every ONCE in a while.) AND most importantly I need him to be sweet and sincere and genuine sometimes instead of being pushy or demanding (sexually) I want him to come over and watch a movie and laugh with me and hug me and respect me without groping me all of the time. I want him to respect my body as much as my mind and sometimes I want that sweet, simple kiss on my forehead.you know, the one that says-your precious. I want him to kiss the palm of my hand or just push my hair behind my ear and stare at me. I want him to run his finger across my jaw bone while looking me in the eye and I want to hear him say that I'm perfect (in his eyes)

if he can do all of this.i know, I wouldn't feel insecure

because then, I would feel like in HIS eyes, I truly were perfect (as I am)

I would let go, and let loose and I wouldn't worry so much (if at all)

This is what makes me insecure, how I feel about it and what he can do to make that change.hope it helps! Let me know what YOU think.LOL

[Blake26]

Thank you, I appreciate it very much. You brought up some simple, but good points. You gave me a different look into the female mind about this subject. Thanks for your input!

[anonymous147]

Wow that was an awesome answer... I got a few butterflies in my stomach because I was imagining a man doing that to me and I don't know- it just gave me butterflies

[melissarose8585]

Girls make girls insecure. If a guy puts on a little weight, his friends say his woman must be "feeding him" or that he must be a beer fanatic, etc. It's joked about and never compared to the other guys, a least most of the time. Girls, though, can be devious and mean. A few pound gained can be a "no, honey, you don't need ice cream" or subtle hint that the dress would look better on them than on you. We also have a huge media culture telling us to be 100lbs., 5'9", and gorgeous. The average woman isn't that, at all.

For me, though, it is the judgement from my family. Girls are always judged a little more harshly than men, and it creates a self-esteem vacuum much of the time. Thankfully, my guy loves me just the way I am, and never treats me differently if I decide make-up and elaborate hairstyles aren't my thing for the day. Actually, I think he likes it more!

[aly-marie]

What makes me insecure in general is other girls lol. Seriously, girls can be so mean to each other. Guys don't make me nearly as self-conscious as girls do.

But anyway, as for my guy, he's the one that keeps me from feeling insecure. He's seen me in every mood, in every situation. I've said the dumbest things to him, and yet he's still there for me. He's really shown me that I can tell him anything, no matter how stupid I might think it is. He is a bit smarter than me and it keeps me on my toes in a way, but I like that.

When he puts me above everything else, it's seriously the best feeling. Like nothing can make me feel more cared for than that. :]

[copper67]

For me, it was my husband. He was always making comments on what I wore (you're not wearing THAT are you? seems a bit small there, don't you think?) my hair, make up, everything I did. Even my cooking. I never felt like I was good enough to be with him. I never felt like I was a good enough mother. When critism (unless it constructive) comes from someone we love and who's opinon we value, it cuts deeper.

On the other hand, when the man we love makes us feel like we are the most important thing to them, we feel like we can do anything. We stand straighter, smile all the time, and I know this sounds corny, but the inner beauty we have shines on the outside as well. It means the world to me when my guy makes me feel that way. I am just learning this, however, since I have 25 years of negativity to overcome.

[Blake26]

Very nice, thank you! =)

[AguaPura]

Females in general are innately insecure. We worry all the time; about our hair, our clothes, our make-up and our bodies. Any woman who says she's 100% secure with herself is not be honest. Insecurity comes from a lot of things, from the way you were raised, to past relationships or to the people you hang around, so I can't really give you a straight answer of what makes women insecure. But women need to feel appreciated, noticed, beautiful, sexy; women need validation. So YES absolutely, it means a lot for a womam to know that her man puts her above the rest.

[Anonymous]

My looks. I have gotten way better than I used to be though. I used to always think I was ugly and push guys away because I couldn't understand why or even if they really liked me. I think I have grown into myself now and people tell me I'm pretty so I'm not as insecure as I used to be, but I still have my ugly girl moments and wish I was perfect. I used to get made fun of for being ugly and different so I always feel like that weird ugly girl that no one wants to talk to, even though I'm technically not.

My father was kind of controlling and assholish to my mom, and my mom was kind of a pushover. Also she used to tell me I was ugly and fat growing up so that didn't really help lol.

I don't really trust guys now and if he is interested in me, I either think he just wants to hit it, or he is making fun of me and joking around. I do feel secure when I get checked out, hit on, or just get male attention. It makes me feel pretty and attractive

[Anonymous]

The guy I like is really cute. Well he is hot mkay. And I''m insecure about the way I look anyway, and I never feel pretty enough for him. LIke he deserves someone gorgeous which isn;t me. LIke to me everything about him is perfect, looks and pesonality. And I always think he deserves someone just like that. I know I shouldn't think that way, but it's not somethign I can help. and there are a lot of girls in the 11th grade class who are flirtier than me and can flirt and get all the guys. I am jjst not that way.

But at the end of the day, it seems like he likes me so Ii am working on not feeling so insecure.

[Anonymous]

I used to be pretty insecure about looks, but I'm getting over that. I tend to be insecure around the guy I like just about being good enough, in general, like I'm not worthy I guess?. He's a really smart guy and I feel dumb around him sometimes. He's complimented me to not make me feel like that a few times and it definitely makes me feel better about myself, I appreciate it.

[Captain-Sarah]

Panda Bears.

[Blake26]

Haha, very funny.

[aixela1234]

Haha! I think that! lol