Men's Needs in Relationships - Agree or Disagree?

[Anonymous]

1. Praise and Approval

"We like frequent reassurance about ourselves, our career paths, our efficacy as partners, our sexual prowess, and our attractiveness (among other things).


2. Respect

Men feel respect as love. If he feels like you disapprove of him, his career, or the things that he believes to be integral to who he is as a person, he will have a hard time trusting and loving you.


3. Sexual Connection

Men and women both connect through sex and communication, but generally, women connect better through verbal communication and men connect better through sex.

Often, a man will initiate sex just to make sure that you are still sexually available to him

4. Emotional Intimacy

From a very young age, men are taught to avoid appearing weak at all costs.

Just as women need to slowly open up sexually within a relationship, men open up over time emotionally.

If you push him away or are unable to be nurturing when he needs it the most, he will no longer trust you with his emotions.

5. Space

I consistently see that it is the feminine-associated female partner that wants more time spent together and the masculine-associated male partner wanting more time apart. This will always be a balancing act of closeness and separateness.

But rest assured, suffocating a man (either by failing to allow him free time or with overly jealous behaviour) is the fastest way to end a relationship.

6. Physical Touch

Men need frequent non-sexual touch as well as a sense of sexual connection. This touch is interpreted as physical love

7. Security

But security goes deeper than just the fact that you won’t leave him. He feels secure in knowing that you approve of him and where he is in his career. He feels secure and loved when you touch him non-sexually throughout the day. He feels secure when he is allowed to have his guys’ nights away from you and you don’t feel the need to call or text him every half hour to check in.

Updates

+1 y

A lot of these are the same for women, and womens needs are important as well. I just liked the honesty in this article about the reality that men are sensitive, emotional beings and not uber-masculine robots.

The full article is here - goodmenproject.com/.../

[Anonymous]

I think both men and women need these, not just guys. But I don't 100% agree with some of the descriptions. Example, respect. Definitely has to be there, however for me, it's just respect as a human being and a guy overall. His career for example, you don't have to love it, but have the respect that it's his choice and what he is or wants to do (and if you disapprove, keep your opinion to yourself and don't belittle it/him), showing that respect, yes. That's just plain human decency too, which is sadly lacking these days in a lot of ways. Maturity and respect.

Physical touch varies from person to person as well. I do think it's important, but some people need less of it than others. I like LOTS of it, sexual and non sexual. I do equate it with love/caring and showing it, not just saying it.

[Anonymous]

I disagree with numbers 1 and 7. I think those are more feminine needs. I'm about working long hours and providing. I don't need reassurance about career or finance - I know I'm doing what I need to do. I need "guys" night out - too busy making money.. But for the most part you're correct.

[Asker]

Its not my opinion, a sex and relationship coach says these are the things he hears constantly from thousands of men. Just noting that, so I dont take credit for something I didnr write lol

[Opinion Owner]

Those guys complaining to him sound like bitches.

[Asker]

Agree to strongly disagree

And why do you prefer to work long hours? Seems weird unless you have to.

[Opinion Owner]

Unlike, like them Im'a boss and enjoy slipping in and out of several different women. I also enjoy building interest to live off of instead of my own hard earned money.

[Opinion Owner]

So we'll agree to disagree.

[Asker]

Well then I think your perspective isn't really suited for this article. It's about relationships lol If you're not into them, then I can see why you may differ from some other men. Of course, there are open relationships so thats a possibility as well.

Everyone wants to do that but you made it sound like you specifically get off on long hours themselves, which would be an interesting psychological indicator. Anyway, ty for your answer.

[Opinion Owner]

I get off on the benefits. Love being financially up. I hate being financially down. Because of that some people love being around me. Even if it's only superficial. Because of that some people hate being around me - I laugh because it's only superficial. But where I'm from you live or you die trying. Some understand. Some don't. We all have a path.. https://youtu.be/aRzJjYEYbfA

[Asker]

Thats true. I define living as doing more than qorking long hours, but everyone has a different path. Here in NYC thats certainly not a rare existence.

[SarahsSummer]

Yup. Pretty much what my guy wants from me

[passinby]

If I was normal I would completely agree with your list but since I am damaged goods I expect and now have started to desire the complete opposite of your list. If a woman adhered to your list, in my case only, I would leave her fast.

[Logorithim]

That's Pretty good. Repect is especially important.

[Leviathan_Charmer]

I don't know if "needs" is the right word, but most of that is good, yes.

[Ninetales101]

I kinda disagree with 1 but the rest is spot on

[Asker]

Why do you disagree?

[Ninetales101]

I think your explanation for it is a little unclear

[Asker]

Sorry, i had to cut down characters because of the limit. The full article is posted in the question update :)

[Ninetales101]

Ok thanks

[WeirdoWerdo]

I'd agree to lost of it, yeah.

[Asker]

Which points do you feel don't resonate with you?

[WeirdoWerdo]

Well all points I agree with but some on the things in some points is abit more like "Ehh, not exactly needed for me."

[Dovandre]

I agree