What do men bring to the table in modern relationships?

[MzAsh]

[Finchie40]

Respect trust and honesty and love and support if she does the same for him , I only date girls’ that want to be partners with me , I don’t date users , if she is a user? I will kick her ass to the curb where she belongs , A girl that is my partner , I will love and protect her and treat her the way I want to be treated in return , we work as a team , not against each other , when we have a problem , we try to fix it together , if it can’t be fixed? We go our own separate ways , I only love a girl that chooses me the same way I choose her , that stays loyal and faithful to me the same way I do for her , Love only grows when 2 people choose each other and remove selfishness for each other and make each other their top priority, without that, you have nothing

[HawkPerception]

People need to stop thinking so transactionally. Men bring the same thing women do to a relationship.

Women do not NEED men to live just as men don't NEED women to live. But we both thrive together. In a healthy relationship, there's love and support, being able to share experiences and life together.

Women fought for the ability to work for equal, so you have that now. But we all have a biological desire to want a specific type of partner.

Women generally want a man that's physically bigger, taller, stronger, and older. Mentally they want a confident, assertive man that isn't afraid to take the lead and puts them in their feminine energy.

Men generally want a woman that's physically smaller, shorter, weaker, and younger. Mentally we want someone that puts us in our masculine energy and makes us feel protective.

We both benefit from being with each other. We don't necessarily need to rely on each other financially nowadays.

[midnightmoon05]

I know men who truly love his woman will want the best for her and love her. Aside from being there for her for anything and everything, he is open to discuss things with her that she may not notice herself and the better changes she can become. Like eat healthier together. Or exercise with her. Build a family with her and be there to support her
Good question… I think sometimes people forget to appreciate what their partners do with/for them.

this site has been bashing each gender. It’s so unnecessary. We need to appreciate and love our differences.

[Unit1]

Nyaa! Right on target

[Nikki1989]

A quality man can bring various qualities and contributions to a modern relationship. You just have to find him first.

[MannMitAntworten]

Agree but curious, what would be some various qualities that would catch and keep your attention for the long run?

[OlderAndWiser]

If you must ask, then the answer is something that would probably not have currency for you.

[Apple1996]

They should be bringing dinner to the table

[KrakenAttackin]

Only after you have given up the kitty 😁

[Apple1996]

@KrakenAttackin ofc! I'd want my kitty played with anyways

[KrakenAttackin]

That's my girl 😉

[DJB72]

What do women?

Men are still expected to be providers, protectors, etc but what women offer now is sloppy seconds. Or 72nds.

"Modern" women want all the benefits of being supported with none of the value that Real Men prize.

Feminism is the most toxic belief system in history and is unique to the West. How can anyone genuinely believe a promotion to a post that will be filled in 24 hours by someone else if you die is of more value than being a parent.

My wife died last month. We had 21 years together and our six year old son is devastated. Nobody can fill that place for him or me. And you genuinely think it's men that have to step up and bring more to the table?

What we bring:
Stability
Strength
Protection
Honour
Provision

Just like we have for thousands of years.

[tzdc21]

Say this louder for the people in the back

[tzdc21]

And I'm sorry for your loss

[morganherrel]

I think it's wonderful for women to advance in their careers, but I do agree that they have become entitled and bring very little to the table

[DJB72]

I just re-read my answer and I do feel I should add something:

I have no problem with strong women.

@MzAsh I hope you don't interpret my reply as an attack. That wasn't my intention.

My wife was perhaps the strongest woman I've known. She grew up under Apartheid in South Africa. Her dream to become a medical doctor depended on a regime that despised her because of her skin colour giving her dispensation to study medicine. Mandela was President when she graduated, but she wasn't permitted to enter entire buildings in the hospital when she began studying because of the segregation laws.

Our marriage would have been illegal in 1990 because she wasn't white.

She spat in the face of any form of discrimination. Racial, religious or disability.

I believe we need more strong women. But modern "feminism" is misandry, not equality.

If in time I were fortunate enough to meet someone else who captured my heart, she would be my Helpmeet. My counterpart. Not my equal.

Why would any woman want to be a man's equal? That's what started the move towards woke lunacy.

[NathanDavis]

I can bring the wood, the tools, and build it myself, bring it... and move it as many times as you want, can also buy two or more other tables if you didn't like the one I made

but the moment she asks "what do you bring to the table" then I know she's looking at a transaction in the most childish and immature way, and I will also known we're not meant to be together, my mentality is different

so then I'll just put wheels on the table, a motor enough... and drive away, while wishing them a nice day of course... lol

[sawno]

Women wanted equality, so because of that we often bring the same thing as you rather than our own separate skillsets. Thing is, if your gonna look at it like a pure business arrangement we don't need you either.

The point of the relationship is that life is way better with a partner you love, when you don't have to do everything alone but can rely on each other and enjoy each others company. When your not on your own having to balance between work and children. Having someone to fall back on if your going trough hardship yourself. And of course tons of true love, sex, friendship, etc.

And ultimately you should know the answer since your profile status says your married. Either your not (happily) married or you know why you wanted to be married to begin with.

[imtiaz45]

In modern relationships, men often bring emotional support, partnership, and shared responsibilities. Many are increasingly focused on open communication, empathy, and mutual respect, helping to build a balanced and healthy dynamic. Men today often contribute to household duties, child-rearing, and are committed to shared financial goals, promoting teamwork in daily life. They also bring unique perspectives, problem-solving skills, and can be a steady source of encouragement and stability. As relationships evolve, men’s roles are more centered on being supportive, flexible, and actively engaged partners, fostering a connection built on equality, respect, and shared growth.

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[Unit1]

I assume you don't make money count here, which is a pretty fair point.

I think of myself as a deredere archetype. I want to give a girlfriend endless cuddles and mwah's and massages and high quality sex and i can to a certain degree take care of household chores and cook. therefore I expect a deredere lovey-dovey girlfriend.

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

Basically they are still to provide traditional husband roles.

We haven't changed all that much but just adapted. But reverse that question and it's obvious why a large population of men have decided against marriage, relationships and just dating in general.

[Zack-Bann]

The same thing they always brought. Everything.


But men today tend to complain a bit more about being under appreciated


Thats due to the “participation trophy culture” that raises people to expect gratitude and celebration for doing the bare minimum

[MikeyObrien]

Depends on tbe woman he's with tbh. Men will move mountains and start wars for women that bring them peace, are attractive, and feminine. But obviously the less of those things she has the less men will fight for them. Like to be honest unless I love a chick we are splitting the bills and I'm not protecting her from danger. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

[MzAsh]

Is that the measure of your love? Paying the bill and protecting her from danger? What else?

[MikeyObrien]

If I love someone I'm giving 100 percent to them. I wanna make sure she's happy and doesn't have anything to worry about and she feels consistently loved and if I'm loving her then all of that would be by default anyway. I've been in love before and the stories I'd tell of how I went above and beyond would blow many peoples mind.

[worldscolide]

I cannot say what "all men" bring as your question demands. I can say what I bring. I bring unwavering loyalty, support and respect. I provide a roof, and she never wants for anything. I protect, take care of and provide for my wife. As a result she has a high level of control over most things. She can work if she wishes, but she isn't required to.

[shades777]

Everybody is different. Usually the man has buy the table, assemble the table, and the chairs.

What a man wants is you both buy it and assemble it together because your both going to use it. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

[ihateTaylorSwift]

a dick that can't put up with my bitch ass
if he's not the dominant one
Or getting anything in return

Funny how guys don't like being used for their money
Yet it's okay for them to use us girls sexually

[MannMitAntworten]

Sure guys do … how else can anyone explain the success of OF. A quid pro quo site for those sorts of men and women.

[PeachyPie93]

Depends on the guy.. but most have nothing to bring besides money.. and like they say money can't buy happiness.

[KingslayerC]

Resources

Protection

Agency

Emotional support

Sex

Affection

Manual labor

[MikeTheBartender]

My old days, sex, infidelity, stress.

Nowadays, emotional/physical/financial support, cool trips, security, leadership, still sex, friendship, and ideally love

[smashleyy]

Based off some of the replies on this post I’d say bitching and whining is what they bring to the table

[backdoorman]

Financial support, emotional support, love, affection, attention, validation, companionship, sex, protection, father figure for their children, physical labor, home, yard and car and maintenance.

[Adel50]

Don't forget insect killer.

[backdoorman]

@Adel50 Yes, that and jar opener, reach-the-top-shelfer, luggage carrier, tire changer, and generally doer of all difficult and dirty work. Oh, and giver of foot rubs and orgasms.

[Adel50]

@backdoorman Lol.

[mobiusforniner]

you're asking modern men on GAG? Wow, you’re putting gasoline on a fire with this one.

[katiesmuff]

Friendship, companionship, and with just a little luck LOVE!

[EricaParruzzo]

Ahh, The Gen z Touch. Millennials can learn a lot. Take notes ladies

[EricaParruzzo]

Sorry meant Gen x darn autocorrect 😅

[jshm2]

Everything a woman cannot. Usually the man is 95% of the relationship.

[Crimsyjo]

How so? Just genuinely curious cos majority of guys I see are big babies wanting a mommy not a wife.
In UK most women support the man financially, emotionally, physically. Cooking cleaning working and raising the kids. Its very hard to see what we get.

[Adel50]

@Crimsyjo It's the opposite where I come from. The men support the women financially, physically, and emotionally. The women are in charge of homemaking duties and raising children.

[Crimsyjo]

@Adel50 oh really? That's very traditional and it works if both the man and woman are happy with the arrangement. Are you UK too? Because it's hard for a man to earn enough to support a wive and kids on a single salary here unless a professional like doctor, lawyer. Well even then... my mums friend is a lawyer in London with a daughter and wife and struggles. But then his wife has expensive tastes and they have to live in ridiculously priced housing.

I'm still trying to think of a single man I've known in my whole life that's supported a family? Can't think of one.

[MzAsh]

Here in the US men aren’t doing nearly that much

[Adel50]

@Crimsyjo Not really. I live in a Middle-Eastern country, which is relatively conservative in terms of traditional gender roles. So the men are usually responsible for the maintenance of their families.

[Adel50]

@MzAsh From what I have observed, women may also be partly to blame. For men to take up such traditional roles, the converse is expected from the women.

[Crimsyjo]

@Adel50 that is true. (For men to take traditional role ditto woman)
I do tend to lean more towards equality. Not that traditional role isn't equal - just in a yinyang masculine/feminine way. I think part of the problem was when women were considered less valuable or important for their feminine roles.
But anyways, me personally don't expect a man to do or provide anything that I don't bring to the table equally. Or at least as in traditional roles, what he provides due to masculine superiority I like wise bring feminine qualities that balance us out.

[MzAsh]

A lot of women don’t get enough incentive to be traditional. We get more out of our own paychecks

[Crimsyjo]

Well that's what I mean @MzAsh. First it's considered inferior work to stay at home, keeping it clean, cooking and raising the kids and then also be called a gold digger or user to "expect" the man to share his wage. Not just to pay bills but women require personal items too.

[Adel50]

@Crimsyjo I see. That would depend on a person's viewpoint.

[Adel50]

@Crimsyjo We don't think it's inferior work. Here, we live a more communal manner, compared to the West. So there's an emphasis on upbringing and a homely situation, a very important and honourable role for a woman. That's why we call what you would consider a housewife, a homemaker.

[Crimsyjo]

@Adel50 yes and perhaps cultural and social upbringing. Countries where it is expected and encouraged are perhaps more accepting.

[Crimsyjo]

Haha I think we posted same time. But yes I agree with the East West differences.

[Adel50]

@Crimsyjo Like I said, it's all about the viewpoint.

[Garud]

I can only talk about myself.
I can bring everything women can along with more security and safety

[jamesgoldman]

Chopped up the table, made a fire and cooked some steaks

Relationships are for the young and foolish, not old cynics like me

[MzAsh]

You’re a fetus tho lol

[jamesgoldman]

With my health I'll be lucky to make 50 and that doesn't even include the myopericarditis so really I'm just a ticking time bomb that could die at anytime

The gold trade made me a cynic and everything else has made me old

[KrakenAttackin]

Faithfulness, genuine love, support, protection (emotionally and physically), a willingness to do 85%+ of the work in a relationship, and a willingness to forego his own happiness to ensure his family has happiness.

[KrakenAttackin]

A man will not only die for his woman, he will kill for her.

[Dongie]

Welcome back!

[KrakenAttackin]

@Dongie Than you sir!

[Dongie]

Sure thing.

[Still-alive]

Depends on the man. some men bring bad toxic masculinity habits... others bring their own more honorable set of values like loyalty, empathy, etc

[Makeushiver]

We can still take out the trash. Lelo doesn't make a single thing, in pink lavender that can make that claim

[byrdman89]

hopefully the ability to simply support her and not just financially! re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

[Friendlybro79]

Every man brings different things. Hopefully we all bring love, partnership, and respect for one another.

[Iron_Man]

My house in Miami, Florida all paid off plus everything else but the next question is what does she bring to the table

[crmoore]

Nothing, men are absolutely horrendous and indisputably irredeemable, you should entirely cut ties with them forever and always.

[puurikke]

Love, companionship and support. Basically the same as women do in a relationship?

[LiamJHayden]

Ultimately just myself. Everything else is inconsequential if she find "me" unappealing.

[PsychicBoobs]

If balanced, grounding. A stable man is a priceless thing.

[msc545]

MONEY. All the rest is not valued by women, and no money means no sex and very soon no relationship - if there ever was one.

[kaucky1]

I read and did hands on for massage therapy, w not to leCordon Bleu culinary school, make gold, drugs, magical dumbass, indestructible cartoon

[Christian_Cartier]

Children need a strong and competent male figure.

[grega239]

Me personally, nothing.

Get your own table

[JamesRandiDebates]

We ARE the table! See how stupid that sounds? That's how virtually every female answers when asked that question about herself.

[Raaj4you]

Love, care, respect, intimacy, house, car, food, clothes, etc.

[moneymagnet24]

It's depends on what girls bring to the table in modern relationship apart from sex. 🤌

[ronandamberspencer]

Leadership, financial responsibility, long term plans, testosterone, money, house, vehicles, life insurance, fatherhood, and much more.

[Truthatanycost]

We are the table...

[ClassicDropout]

I don't bring anything. I'm not at the table ☠️

[MzAsh]

Hate to hear you struck out

[Gwendoline]

I can only go by my man.

[CarolinaGirl5]

Uh oh uh oh lol here for the comments

[Belgie]

If you dont know, you don't deserve one.

[slatyb]

That's going to depend quite a lot on the man.

[Deserter2]

Everything, women not much

[MzAsh]

What makes you say that?

[Deserter2]

Women complain about having to do the bare minimum

[MzAsh]

What bare minimum things?

[Deserter2]

Sex, chores

[MzAsh]

Usually when women complain about that, she's not that interested

[Deserter2]

They complain about it with all men, dont shift blame

[MzAsh]

Uh don’t you shift blame 🫵

[turnpost]

Anything women do minus babies plus penis

[Emmytexrex]

We bring nothing at all lol 😂

[Crazzyyworld]

Money, house and the car

[Crazzyyworld]

Girls dream

[Dreamclouds]

Seems like the kind of girl that belongs to a garbage can

[Shihab_91]

I bring what she worth

[CarolinaGirl5]

🤣🤣🤣

[CarolinaGirl5]

This was a very honest and reflective of the minds of men. I've noticed majority of men think this way

[Shihab_91]

Its how life works its all about what value you can add

[noohair]

More than any woman can imagine.

[Dreamclouds]

Nothing now bug off

[Kelley1]

Their wallet.

[jimmy2]

These days not much sadly

[SuperMike100]

I’m just here to read the comments

[exitseven]

Mostly money

[Ironic_Method]

These comments tho.

[BarryLiverstone]

Silverware