Do guys actually get intimidated by girls? (Page 2)

Question

almost my entire life, i feel like i haven't gotten an excessive amount of attention from guys. i've had a three boyfriends (i'm 19 now), but other than that, that's pretty much the extent of it. i've always been told that it's because guys are "intimidated of me"- but is that really true? i feel like i'm a pretty nice and approachable girl! do guys actually get intimidated by girls?

Anujshah98 · Answer

It's not intimidation if a guy is a bit shy or reserved when he is with some one he likes or really wants to be with.
I get shit scared sometimes when I am in front of someone whom I would like to be interested in me. We get conscious about everything from looks to how creepy would I come off as if I say this or do that.
It is the fear of rejection rather than intimidation.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

I can’t speak for other guys. I can only speak for myself. If I come up on a girl who is harder working then me, more successful then I am, more ambitious, more passionate, more aggressive and knows what she wants, then yes, that can be intimidating. Probably is, I’ve only encountered that once in my life, and I should have snatched her up when I had the chance.. but most women aren’t like that. So I’m not intimidated by them, I’m picky... cause non of them can reach my expectations

Udbhav_Bantwal · Answer

When I was you get there was a certain type of woman that would intimidate me but it wasn't always a bad thing for me, it just meant that it would be a bit of a challenge for me and I do like challenges... However, I don't think that this is necessarily the case for you, it could be a number of things, where you live for instance cause in many places, young people don't approach people and are very conservative or shy so it could be that or something like that...

Máiiréad · Answer

Alright well I've never dated anyone so if any guys here wanna let me know what the hell is so apparently intimidating about me that'd be great.
This bitch is going to end up living with 15 billion cats in the near future.
Send help.

ManOnFire · Answer

I think this concept is mostly from females who would like to believe that guys can't handle them. I'm sure you've got your dudes here and there who are intimidated but I highly doubt it's a most-guys thing.

walt0462 · Answer

I can't speak for all guys.
But in general Guys are just human beings as such have do have a certain level of fears both real and imaginary so a shy guy may be intimidated by a confident and or very attractive woman or simply have a fear of being rejected

massb · Answer

Well how about girls start making the first move now? You don’t know how it is to get rejected or have the fear of rejection. Women are harsh even when you try to be nice. If a guy rejects a female it’s waaaay nicer than if a girls was to reject a guy.

Adam_INTJ · Answer

I am aversive to conversation in general. Girls are particularly intimidating though. It's the awkwardness of a conversation that's intimidating--somehow an awkward conversation with a girl is way worse than with a guy. Keep in mind, I'm an introvert, so yeah, I'm not too much of a people person to begin with.

lucas262 · Answer

I don't know about intimidated as far as fear, but a lot of guys are insecure, about approaching attractive girls, or like me I'm not rich do if I dated a rich woman I, d be a little intimidated by her I don't know refinement can, t remember the right word for this, but a little encouragement from a girl always puts me at ease about making a move, be open, smile, greet them sounds lame but even a hello so so is nice, l.

jacquesvol · Answer

Intimidated by money , be it girls or guys.
I have met many very rich people professionally, with good success.
Privately I' ll avoid them.
When I see they spend my income on a boat, hunting and golf and a car, I know we have *absolutely nothing* in common.

nasty4fun · Answer

Yes, women can be the scariest thing in the world to a boy at a certain age. Much of it to do with insecurities and peer pressure as well as school yard politics. Today I have a healthy respect of women because I know them. They can attack a man in ways that they wouldn't think of or expect and many men never grow our of their fears. ( Computer geeks, D&D players, chess champions, and physics students). Lol kidding well about the geeks and such

AbdKilani · Answer

Maybe, sometimes I don't know if that happens to me
I mean, I don't go ask girls out based on something like this, I am stupid brave which means if I see a girl I like I will go talk to her without thinking about it.
So even if she was intimidating , I like a challenge , most likely I attract girls that are "intimidating" anyway.

Philyouup · Answer

When I was younger, I never choose the prettiest girl, always figured she was out of my league. Then one day I said WTF, and asked a beautiful girl out for the hell of it.. fully expecting to gt shot down, she said yes.. Ever since, if she is attractive and I'm available, i will ask, Do I get "No Thank you"? Yeah, but I get "OK" too... As I got older, it got easier, Just have to be good at conversation and selling yourself well.

Anonymous · Answer

Well fear of rejection is more of a correct term , which a lot of young guys seem to have. It's just that young guys are very different from well matured guys.

undercoverbadgirl · Answer

Yes, I’ve heard girls can be intimidating in that if you seem very confident, are pretty and smart and interesting, he might think you’re taken already, or he’s not good enough and be too scared to approach you.

Vicbeckler · Answer

I’ve always been told the same thing. The last guy I tried to date came from a much different background than me and behaved very oddly and everyone said it was because he was insecure and intimidated. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Anonymous · Answer

I don't like the word "intimidated", but we have all the same thoughts, feelings and insecurities you women do about approaching. Nobody likes rejection, yet we're supposed to be the ones to do it? It's a pet peeve of mine because we're all human and we are NO different from you that way.

My advice to you is approach and at least try and strike up a conversation with guys that you're interested in.

Tazgal · Answer

3 boyfriends and you’re 19? LOL that’s a good amount. I guess everyone around you is desperate or something 😂

ImatureAss · Answer

Depends what you mean by intimidated. Is it physically inimidated, monetarilly intimidated, emotionally intimdated? I personally believe any time ANYONE is intimidated is because they lack the confidence in themselves to be content with what they have

Chadnelson1973 · Answer

Yes sometimes it's the way a girl dresses that says I'm out of your league. And some guys are naturally intimidated by a girl. He See's her wants to approach her but is very much afraid and intimidated. Shaking , blushing , voice cracks , loss of voice , stuttering etc. So you may be very nice , beautiful and approachable but to him talking is a impossible obstacle.

crazydewd · Answer

Of course. Men are actually made self conscious by women. We stress and worry about what women think and feel (especially when trying to find a partner). Our own obsessions with money and life goals mess with our minds and make things just that much more difficult.

master_shaggswell · Answer

Yes. Absolutely! Some girls just have a real strong personality. Some guys feel inferior to them and intimidated. Guys with more experience are less likely to be intimidated. However, if you don't mind being in control, you could be a dominatrix and have a submissive guy as your love slave! Maybe a bit much for a young girl such as yourself but maybe not as well

Koki11 · Answer

I mean guys have told me I'm intimidating lol and one even said I'm too better for him, and I was like thinking if that's what you think you've already lost me on having such a low self esteem that you that u just give up

ThisAndThat · Answer

At age 19 my record of girl friends was one only because I'm including my first when I was age 9. I was 19 when I had met my second girl friend and I was 20 when I met my last girl friend. I've been without for 32 years and counting as of this year. But to answer your actual question, yes, Girls are extremely intimidating to guys, a lot of them.

bklynbadboy1 · Answer

That is definitely a real thing guys really do get intimidated by girls especially pretty ones it takes a lot of Courage for a guy to come up to you and talk to you that being said next time I got does try to be more understanding try to understand how much courage it took him to come up to you and actually strike up a conversation before you shoot them down and if you do shoot them down just be nice about it

tom122727 · Answer

Uhmmm yessssss we do get really intimidated not that it’s your fault and us guys attend to worry a lot and that we are simple human beings we kinda get afraid to talk to you cause us guys feel like we may come off creepy or we may say something that would offend you when we don’t mean to or intend to at all yes it’s kinda intemedating we’re scared of rejection...

Krazzymike321 · Answer

I dont approach people because I always assume any below average up girl is dating someone... It's stupid but I can't help it, I'd need a girl to approach me which, haha, isn't gonna happen (Never had a real relationship, never kissed, never had a girl have a crush on my. )

crazy8000 · Answer

Pretty common. but don't mix them up with these that doesn't approach anyway. especially today where equity is on.

An advise. Step up and approach yourself instead of being one in the bunch. make you two happen.
It's a higher shanse to hit off as a female than for a male when approaching being on with stubbornness take initiative make thing's happen.

(making negative assumptions is your enemy)

theshyestman · Answer

Yes all the time. Hot girls are goddesses and angels to us. We don't dare approach out of fear to be rejected. out of fear will say something stupid. We don't what to say to you. Please, approach first at least once and try and smile and start a conversation. You dont know how much us guys will appreciate it.

kruzan · Answer

Yes it's possible just depends on the guy or the girl. Guys can be intimidated by a girl if they are the intellectual type or if they are real successful or of they think they are so beautiful they don't stand a chance.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I think they do - and depending on how insecure or superficial they are - the more intimidation - also the ones who come from broken homes might be afraid of being vulnerable around a person they are dating

imagoat · Answer

In person I do get intimidated by a female I find super attractive. It takes a lot more to pull a beautiful girl aside and ask her number then it is to have a legit reason for speaking. The more I want a beautiful female in my life the more I difficult it is for me to Express myself. I am working on this problem of mine I need prayers and blessings

niDaye · Answer

Yes. But pay attention to some these shy guys. Some of them are really good. Hopeless romantic. Likely to have successful career.

Careful about the type of guys you went of with at your age. They can really tune your taste for the rest of your life. If you date shitty guys now, you will continue to date bad ones in the future. Shy is just a temporary thing. Once you touch them and teach them a couple things , the shy guys will be just like normal

idiotmanchild · Answer

If a girl is both attractive and confident, hell yeah I'm intimidated. I think it's incredibly attractive, but that's basically game over for a scrub like myself. My mind automatically assumes that she has the highest of standards that I don't even come close to reaching.

pootytangg · Answer

Dont turn down your light to make others feel better. Your confidence will attract the right person.

markcrums101 · Answer

Yea, I think its already been pretty much said but we just sometimes think that we aren't good enough and will get a shit response from trying. We think the girl is out of our league and feel we might just get shut down or ignored. Sometimes it's not even the fear of the rejection itself, it's just not nice to be reminded that you aren't attractive or good enough

CoffeeWC · Answer

It's true some girls are just intimidating. It's not because you're mean. It's actually quite the opposite. A lot of guys are intimidated by the fact that we have more competition. It's not your fault at all. I see it as the more men want a girl, the more likely they will be rejected by the girl.

Finchie40 · Answer

It he feels like you are gorgeous and out of the League then Yes, a guy will think what does she see in me and she can have any guy she wants , so to keep you by his side he will become an ass kisser cuz he is afraid of losing you

CassieIsTrans · Answer

Yes, guys do get intimidated by girls. If you are tired of waiting for them to make a move, and you really like them, then make your own moves.

micheebee · Answer

I dunno any guy who isn't scares of girls lowkey haha. But don't generalize- not all guys are afraid of girls lol. Some are braver than others. It just takes one to know one as I always say 😜

Rico1987 · Answer

I dont quite understand the question. The situation i think you're asking is if guys who are attracted to you (or any girl) dont make a move on who they are interested in because they believe you'll reject them? Any guy whose to scared to take a shot at whoever they are attracted to is unbelievably weak. You're better off without them if it's like that. I think they would be described better as bous then guys.

J0_J0 · Answer

Unfortunately yes. I used to be extremely intimidated by attractive women because I was young and lacked experience and didn't want to be rejected. Now that I've been happily married for over 20 years I'm not intimidated so much. What's funny though is that I talk to more women now and since I'm not trying to go anywhere with it they seem to flirt more. Wish I knew then what I know now!

D4rkGuy · Answer

Let me tell me a secret.. there are super beautiful girls that they have "FEW" boy friends in their life and the reason is that they show off too much which make any guy think that she is already taken.. oh boy she is so damn sexy.. impossible that she is single.. so at the end the guys would not step out to her or make any move toward her.. except the brave one than can risk it..

No offence but this my personal opinion.. have a nice day dear 🙂

Your100 · Answer

I mean, three boyfriends by 19 isn't a small amount so doesn't sound like you lack attention or interest. My first girlfriend was at 25.

Shott answer to your question is yes, mostly because rejection can be cripplingly painful and some girls can give zero fcks about hurting a guy..

Also if you really like a girl, it feels like such a big risk

Zeqhanis · Answer

Would a dozen of less successful relationships have been a better measure of success? In dating, quality beats quantity. If you've had a dozen boyfriends by 19, that's a sign of failure, not success.

desoxsin · Answer

I can't exactly speak for anyone else but myself but I get intimidated by women. Especially if she's off the charts smart! on the flip side of that. I LOVE highly intelligent women! I'd be lying my ass off if I said that I don't get intimidated by women sometimes. It mainly comes down to if i feel like overcoming that feeling or not.

Dafes · Answer

Sometimes yes. Sometimes it's because we find her very attractive and we don't know how to approach her, other times is because their presence or attitude is so imposing it' became intimidating. Like having to face a lion in a jungle with a wet tissue

nickesslinger · Answer

A little bit it's more of because I don't have a lot of self confidence so it's harder to actually get the courage to talk to them. a lot of times I feel that I don't have a chance or most of the time I don't recognize when I am being hit on and in doing so cause me to feel intimidated that I will mess up.

11dog22 · Answer

I don't know. Smartness sure but find it a challenge to make myself better. If she a total hottie. I pretty much ignore and treat her like any other person asking questions or requesting help.

BohemianLiam · Answer

I've been like this for a long time, however for my own sake I'm changing the way I approach girls so I can be generally comfortable about those I am attracted to, I'm just making it paramount that I dont overthink and find a talking point when I go over to the girl. I'm making sure I'm in an area I'm comfortable in tbough. 2019 for me is a year of becoming much healthier, losing weight and have fun doing it so that I feel great about myself when girls I fancy

Hwbsgsudv · Answer

Depends from the guy.
Me, personally? No.
But a housemate of mine is really timid and passive with ladies and I wonder why? So I guess it depends.
Though the majority of guys watch porn nowadays and I don't so maybe that plays a role into the interaction with females?
I don't know. . . Just speculating and throwing stuff in here to consider :)

nickybdc · Answer

I'm intimidated and nervous around women especially if their sexually confident. I can't help it really as I'm never going to give her everything she wants so I try to be more attentive and submissive instead :-[ Lots of men are very sexually confident and don't have the same problems so keep looking

thatbiguy · Answer

I know for me, a lot of it boils down to my own self esteem issues and I end up thinking "why would she want to talk to me" it's not so much intimidation as it is self deprecation

felmuridru · Answer

I never had any success with attractive girls with high confidence in the past, so I just gave up on them. For them, Im just another guy. Its much better to find a little chubby but cute girl. She still looks allright, but treats me like im the last guy on earth.

ColoradoKid · Answer

Yes we do get intimidated. We really have that problem when we are attracted to you and we plan on asking you out. Now for me if I am just being friendly and want to chat with you I will have no problem.

Estaroze · Answer

Yes, they do. Human beings can get intimidated by other human beings.  However, I'm unsure if guys were intimidated by you or not because I don't know you.

neocryptex · Answer

Yes. Intimidation does not mean as men we are cowards. I personally find it extremely hard to approach a girl when I actually have feeling for a girl and harder still when she is one of best friends for 8 years.

Jaysonmad44 · Answer

I myself have done so much so that I haven't seen her since and I got a few of my mates have been with me it was nothing major it was because I liked her a lot and no confidence a lot younger just did not know how to talk to her and when I did it all come out wrong or I felt stupid I also know it happened to my best mate and he married "Hi hoped that it helped you and not all men it happens to is for same reason thanks jayson

YourMomIsCool · Answer

Guys are scared they're gonna be the next victim in the #metoo movement

thatguy0288 · Answer

I personally love a girl that is confident enough to walk up to a guy and ask them out. I don't think that's intimidation I think that's confidence and that's sexy.
Though I feel like some guys get a little squeamish when they are confronted by somebody that is little bit more dominant than they are and that might be what you're experiencing?

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