Why do some guys get so mad when a girl won’t hook up with them?

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They are always like “you’re wasting my time” even thought they approached first or they say “you’ll never find love because you’re so uptight” and “you’re just like every other girl I talk to” and things like that. I’m not looking for a hook up. I’m either looking for a real relationship or friendship and nothing more and that’s it. I make that clear.

If you don’t like my decision, then move on to the next girl! Why is it such a big deal?

If you don’t like my decision, then move on to the next girl! Why is it such a big deal?

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

Because they want SEX. End of story. You can't give it up, you ain't worth it according to them. Even in dating, They want SEX. As long as you keep on believing you can have something out of relationship today, the more heartbroken you will feel because men ONLY pursue a relationship of any kind with a girl for S. E. X. That's it. A REAL man desires to get to know you and want to know what you are about before even thinking about sex. It may not even be on his mind much. They're just sexually frustrated is all. They're not married to you, you don't owe them a thing.

butterflyzinc1 · Accepted Answer

Because men are like adults. My boyfriend of one year told me that women are prey to majority men. What do animals do if they lose their meal get snappy and moody. I guess it's the same thing. When your in a bar an a man's got his eye on you. Then he will lock on. He wants, sex, simple he's horny and wants to dominate a woman he wants to score, so he brag to his friends. I banged her. To them it's like winning a prize. So if he's not gonna do that he's lost. A huge bruise to his, ego.

NeglectedChild · Accepted Answer

Give them boys a Capri-Sun because they're hella thrusty.
If they just wanted sex they should have said that at the beginning. They're wasting their own time.

Who let's their child grow up with this attitude? It's disgusting. These people annoy me.

wiseyoungman · Accepted Answer

Lol you're forgetting a key element: their ego won't allow anything to be their fault. Any time they don't get what they want its someone else's fault.

bklynbadboy1 · Answer

Well that's very very simple cuz the Adolescent and immature see you learned at a young age that everybody you like in this world may not necessarily like you back so that's the chance you take when you try to get at somebody. They can even say yes they like you and they want to pursue something with you or they can even say no they don't like you and they don't want to pursue anything with you or they're not feel you in that particular manner you have to be adult enough to accept the good with the bad whoever isn't old enough to accept it they have some growing up to do

ecfresh · Answer

This can be a tactic. If they challenge a girl by saying that and she has lower self esteem, it may be enough for her to decide to change her mind and 'not waste his time'. Bang, he gets the sex that he wanted in the first place. Otherwise he already is going to bounce to the next girl because you are not giving it up.

So much like with other parts of dating, keep true to who you are and your choices. So it may anger the guy, trust me he will get over it quickly.

leilaNsari · Answer

Because they were hoping to get laid without any other ‘burden,’ and when a woman rejects them, their pride and ego gets hurt, so they insult you to feel better about themselves.

You’re not in the wrong, if they wanted just to sleep with someone, they should call up a prostitute or go to the red light district.

whyisitso · Answer

They are immature and can't stand rejection. I actually met a guy like this, who is 25 years old and told me he didn't want only sex. Well, on the second date he said "let's have fun!" and I said I didn't want to rush things. He went all weird and cried "nobody has ever done anything like this to me!". In other words; nobody had ever rejected him before. What a kid.

Jeremy8 · Answer

Because they've been rejected so many times when they've asked girls for real relationships that they thought about it and decided to make it easier for themselves by lowering the standards, so what do they go down to? Hook ups, and so imagine trying to have some sort of intimacy with someone and trying your best to make it as easy for yourself to not be rejected and you still get rejected, I think anyone would find that infuriating.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Because so many girls are not genuine. They talk and talk and flirt and they may even send nudes but will never have sex with you. They just like having 10 dudes like that paying attention to them. They are time wasters, rude and manipulative.

Anon-ymous1 · Answer

... Because we want to have sex? I don't know what's confusing.

Aynsof · Answer

Well I can't really say
Some girls milk the interest being noncommittal for as long as they can
Not saying you do that but if these guys have experienced it enough they come to expect it and will see it even if it is not really the case
Or they could just be petty jerks who don't like getting them way

Dark93 · Answer

Besides not being able to deal with rejection some assholes may use it as a way to guilt/sway the girl into into having sex by pointing out flaws in her physical appearance or personality flaws which dont actually exist, the guy at that point is just trying to make you react.

Daphne_Naiad · Answer

Because they are entitled, immature twats who hear their friends are getting laid, and so feel the need to do the same. Even if their friends are making it up.

YuriTheTransQueen · Answer

Wait aren't they meant to mature as they grow up? Damnit

courtney06 · Answer

Because it hurts their ego and they are trying to justify it by insulting you. I would cut off contact with anyone who gets upset just because I won’t sleep with them.

wingattebaby16 · Answer

A lot of guys think just because they ask you out, you should jump at the chance.  Some guys I have asked out have turned me down. I might get mad but I move on

Aenetoo · Answer

Maybe cuz they have to deal with blue balls after you've rejected them? Not your fault. Guys can get horny. Sometimes it's downright painful. Like a migraine in your nether regions. I remember those days.

mbht90 · Answer

They just reflecting the pain of rejection so that their ego can continue its way.

BrittBratt2416 · Answer

Because they feel entitled and hate that you're rejecting them, so they are shaming you for not giving them sex.

Makeuphoarder · Answer

They're just looking for someone to screw & they obviously lack respect. I usually say don't waste your time cause I'm not interested

Toldol2 · Answer

They try to put you down at their level, to communicate where they stand. Typical. Don't bother about shitheads

StingRayxoxo · Answer

It seems like an ego thing but I’m not really sure. Try not to let it get to you. Although it was hurtful, not all men are like this.

ichighost · Answer

They want sex nothin else. I'm more about a connection though.

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