Why do guys get mad when girls reject them?

[Crazycookie23]

There was this guy whom I was best friends with for 5 years. We met online but the way our connection was, you would've thought we were friends all of our lives.

Yesterday, out of no where, he expressed to me how much he liked me. He was calling me "his queen" and things like that which made me very uncomfortable but I just allowed him to voice his feelings. I then told him that by me coming out of such a traumatizing relationship, (which he knew about as well) I wasn't interested in dating anyone right now and that I would like to fully heal and focus on being a mom and bettering myself.

However he was still persistent and proceeded to ask me to give him a chance over and over for 10 minutes, in which I had to keep saying no. He even tried to guilt trip me by using the "I'm a good guy" line.

He hung up on me, which let me know that he didn't take that well. At that moment, I was mentally done with the friendship.

So today, he tried calling me and I tried nicely telling him not to call. He asked why and I told him that he made me feel uncomfortable with the conversation and the way he reacted. He then started cursing me out and going on a rampage.
Despite telling him not to call or text me several times, he disregarded that completely and began to bash my mothering and my son.

[Joeshamo]

The short answer is yes; nobody likes being rejected. And that goes with anything not just relationships. Rejected from jobs, teams, etc. But that’s still no excuse to act like a 3 year old. His skill in self-analysis is not refined in the least bit. I find it quite vexing. When I’m rejected I start becoming more productive, and yes I have anger, but I take that anger and use it as an ignitor to spark passion into my work. Having a tantrum and expecting to get what you want is very immature. He should’ve realized in those 5 years, that you just thought of him as a friend. He wasn’t true about his intentions from the start. How are you supposed to trust him when he was pretending to be someone else. Women don’t want to date a guy who pretends to be something else and then 5 years later ask them out. It shows that he was lying to you about how he really felt. And if he was just honest he would’ve got rejected sooner and saved him the trouble of a 5 years false friendship. Women like guy who shows genuine empathy and compassion. Not someone who’s being nice to them to get a relationship or sex. He says he’s a “good guy” yet he makes you feel uncomfortable and shitty and tries to cynically manipulate you. I see a lot of guys do this it’s so cringe.

[UnknownReflection]

Well, not everyone are like that.

However, this behavior usually comes from ego, immaturity, selfishness. They follow you around, once you reject them no matter how kind and respectfully, they act as of they are the one doing you a favor and behave as you're not even that much of a big deal. Belittling their opponent to avoid feeling belittled and to get away from their inner insecurity.

At least now you know what an immature and inconsiderate person he is. Definitely not a good friend leave alone a suitable partner.

He's so immature that doesn't even know a woman with a kid, the first thing you should never cross over is the kid, that's every single-mom's biggest red flag during a potential relationship and he did that! too immature and naive.

[Anonymous]

Imagine if you dated him, Yikes!

There are some things I'd like to mention about your situation to break things down of what happened as to why he got mad when you rejected him.

Most guys don't really want to be just friends. Especially, when you meet them on online dating. Most guys who online date are doing it to get what they are having trouble getting in real life and that is women. When guys accept a friendship as the woman's doing, he is just going along with it to wait out the chance he believes he's going to eventually get with her.

This guy is frustrated that even a 5 year friendship still didn't get him the girl. Instead, it got him rejected when rejection is how he ended up online dating in the first place. He feels like he did you a favor by being your friend and listening to you for years. He went off on you, proceeded to continue to contact you, you tell him not to, and he goes off on you again and again. He wanted that "friendship" he was faking to get him you and when it didn't work, he showed his true colors.

[jasco]

Because people tend to build imaginary relationships inside their head and tend to think that this is how it should go regardless of what the other person says. They get upset because their dreams have been destroyed and theirfore the rejection hurts even worse. It’s entitlement and pride, of course once this happens they try to get you in other methods to force you into a relationship which later on goes awful because theirs no love their, just sadness.

[Kilapan]

It sounds like women don't do that. In my university there was a girl who flirted with me, I tried to insinuate that I did not like her in the softest way possible, and even then she never spoke to me in a kind way again. She treated me almost like a stranger, even though we had several friends in common. And through friends I know of many similar cases.

[scott04sa22]

I’m used to it because I get rejected all the time. It’s sucks but I always move on and the process always repeats itself.

[dmel88]

Insecurity and their mothers teaching them that no means fuck off

[genericname85]

Cause rejection hurts. Hurt people hurt people. Easy as that.

[Anonymous]

Most men are insecure and think they are better than what they actually are.

[Slim57]

I dont its the ignoring take the hint that pisses me off, reject me so its clear and I know, not some childish entitled ghosting

[Crazycookie23]

Who ghosted him? Did you read? Do you have comprehension skills? Did you not read where I said "no" countless of times? Did you not see where I said we were friends for years and this was never brought up until now?
Oh ok...

[shades777]

same reason you would lol

[Crazycookie23]

Don't assume sh** about me unless you know me
Thank you... have a good one

[shades777]

ok nutcase

[Anonymous]

Are you model? You look like a model