Why do some girls get upset when you stop talking to them?

[Anonymous]

Here's the thing. I don't want to be friends with women, I have guys for friendship. I want to date and have sex with women, not be their friend and I'm honest about it no matter how angry it makes a woman. If I approach a woman and she rejects me, I move on and never say a word to her again.

I remember approaching a woman at university, she rejected me. Like any smart guy I moved and never spoke to her again. A week later, she asks me "I thought we were friends, why aren't you talking to me?" I told her "You were wrong. We aren't friends. I asked you out, you said no, I moved on. Leave me alone." She got mad but I didn't care.

Why do some women act this way?

[Honest-Matt]

It depends on how you socialized with this girl and how it gave her the impression of a friendship. I'm guessing you simply didn't just 'ask her out' immediately. You got to know her, thought about it maybe and then asked her out over some time. This might have been a while or a few days, but it doesn't take a lot of time to develop the impression of friendship.

Regardless of however the friendship was; abruptly stopping socializing and then responding with "You were wrong. We aren't friends. I asked you out, you said no, I moved on. Leave me alone." when confronted is rude, obnoxious and not needed. You purposely went out of your way to be a blunt asshole and explain how straight-arrow, no-bs you are, it was very bigoted of you.

However your intention to explain your opinion of the situation (although harshly) was straight forward and gave you the result you wanted.

To answer, "why do some women act this way?"
In an analogy, it's like seeing a spider on someones leg and you kicking them in the leg really hard to kill the spider. You solved the problem but they didn't appreciate how you went about solving it.

It's the same as needing to change lanes in a car in a busy city. Your lane is ending so you speed up and cut in front of a driver and make them brake cautiously because of your actions. You achieved what you wanted, but you were inconsiderate of others or rather careless of how others may feel or react.

[evenlift]

I don't think there's anything wrong with what you're doing. You're honest and goal-orientated. That's good.

Unfortunately, many people out there have entitled attitudes, hence the hostility that you have encountered. You don't owe anyone your friendship.

[SomethingWicked]

Because adults can have both male and female friends, and adults can be friends with those who they have rejected/ been rejected by.

Maybe you should try to become an adult.

[Asker]

Or maybe I'll do what I want and not let some random woman shame me on the internet. That's what adults do.

[SomethingWicked]

If you think I'm trying to shame you, then perhaps you feel that you have something to be ashamed of.

[Asker]

You're shaming because that's what women do when they hate something they don't want to hear.

[R3d_Anonymous]

I agree with the opinion owner. Besides, contrary to popular belief, many romantic relationships have evolved from friendships before. This whole notion of "friendzoning" is merely another term for rejection and in many cases, a woman doesn't actually have intentions of being said man's friend, but is using the, "I see you as a friend," as a means to a kind declination.

[Asker]

The friend zone is just a myth. It doesn't exist. If a woman says to a guy "I see you as a friend" she don't like you. Cut your losses and move on. I have no interest in being a woman's friend.

[SomethingWicked]

@R3d_Anonymous
About 90% of my relationships have came from being friends first.
Also? Does that mean that every guy who is friends with me doesn't want to be my friend? Even though they're the ones who decided on friendship, and speak to me as a friend?

[R3d_Anonymous]

Not at all. There are many instances in which men and women indefinitely remain friends, though in many cases, one does start to naturally fall for the other based on what I have observed online.

[R3d_Anonymous]

Also... asker, friendship is actually a significant part of a romantic relationship. You're doing yourself a huge disservice by spouting, "I don't want to be a woman's friend," because in reality, friendship is a huge part of romantic relationships, if you know what I mean. Basically, part of being a lover is being their friend.

[SomethingWicked]

@R3d_Anonymous
I don't think the asker wants a relationship, just sex, at least, that's how he comes across.

[R3d_Anonymous]

Yeah, I was getting that vibe too.

[R3d_Anonymous]

Then again, there is a little ambiguity because he does say that he wants to "date" them as well for which I thought if really all he wanted was sex, he wouldn't have to do that or could just go for parties and one-night stands, especially because he seems to be of college age. Or maybe he just wants to casually date women and have sex with each of them.

It's unclear what the asker wants.

[Asker]

I want to have sex with girls, not be their friend.

[bubble_tea]

Next time approach a woman and say 'hi, wanna date me?' instead of getting to know her for a week or month. that way she won't confuse you for being a friend.

[WesTheGuru]

Because that would definitely work

[Asker]

It's a two way street.

[justme_16]

She likes you, and she was probably expecting more from you, other than sex. But if your honest with her-like you said, then I'm not sure why

[meatballs21]

"Like any smart guy I moved and never spoke to her again."

Real smart. Because no girl has hot friends she might be able to set you up with if she knows you're a good guy.

[Asker]

I don't want to be set up.

[madhatters4]

because they hope you don't only see them as sexual objects. they hope that you could see them as people worthy of potential friendship

[Asker]

Well, they're wrong. I have no use for female friends.

[madhatters4]

do you ever consider that you may burn bridges and therefore potential relationships? you ever consider that a female friend may be able to get you in good with other females and her friends?

[Asker]

No. Once again, I have no use for female friends.

[Anonymous]

It's abundantly clear that no more amount of opinions and comments will alter the asker's perspective. I have been in this position before. The best solution in this case is to take a little time off to actually let what some of us have been saying to sink in or at least get to a point where you can consider what we are saying with an open, rational mind and hopefully your attitude towards your relationships (not necessarily romantic) with women and things in general will change.

[maroonbro]

Wanna be a playboy eh? well if girls reject you then there's no point pretending to be a playboy. maybe you should move on from pretending mate

[harakiri]

She's immature. I'd have thought you were kind of a bitch, but I wouldn't stay mad, I'd just be glad I dodged that bullet lol.

[CalvinClinton]

she was stuck up, you behavior is good. i would never want my gf to have friends of opp sex anyway

[internet_guy]

most of the women seek either friendship or relationship in your age group, you are not in highschool anymore

[Asker]

Well, you're right. But the thing is that she is not entitled to my friendship just as I am not entitled to a relationship with her or her body. What's the big deal?

[internet_guy]

just be upfront about it when you meet girls

[Asker]

That's the thing, I am 100% honest and not a jerk about it. They still get upset. Can't win either way.

[internet_guy]

if i stop talking to women, they don't seem much bothered cause they have other guys to talk to

[Asker]

That's the point. Why get upset when one guy stops talking to you when there are many more want them?

[Toocooltoadmitit]

Because women and men are wired differently.

Men possess logical and rational thinking and women do not.

[LucyColes]

Its fair enough for you to not want female friends, but some people feel different than you.

[britmarlene]

Girls are attention whores