What are some signs a guy friendzoned you?

[Rissa95]

[dangerDoge]

I would consider friendzoning as an attraction to personality but not enough attraction physically. With that in mind, I think the “signs” would be generally responding well to friendly gestures. However, if something becomes a bit flirtatious from your end, they sort of become more awkward or respond less favorably to it. I. e. if you send them a flirty text, their response may be delayed or short on the whole. It’s kinda like if, assuming you’re straight, a girl friend is chatting with you. Then all of a sudden, they say something flirty. It’s kind of awkward then. You either play it off as a joke, awkwardly respond shortly, don’t respond at all, or whatever. Same thing with friendzoning. Sexuality is, in a way, a natural friendzone filter.

I don’t think friendzoning necessarily means that they stop talking as a whole. If they stop talking overall, it indicates that they haven’t had enough of a bond personality wise yet to keep things going. I. e. looking for someone as dating material from the start, determining them not be dating material, than breaking contact is not friendzoning... friendzoning is pursuing someone as a friend rather than romantic relationship.

Losing complete interest in someone and breaking contact indicates, in my opinion, more of a determination of non-dateable material. That is, he was approaching the girl with subconscious ideas of possibly dating the girl. When he realizes that A.) the girl isn’t interested after a certain amount of time so he gives up or B.) he lacks the spark on the whole for whatever reason, he starts fading away.

Note: If a guy did this to you, this doesn’t necessarily mean anything bad on your end. Everything has different preferences for what they consider dateable, and you can only do so much. (I. e. I personally tend to get overwhelmed/turned off with intimate extrovert personalities. But there isn’t really anything wrong with intimate extrovert personalities. Just how I am. It’s stuff like that.) Compatibility isn’t universal, not to mention some people have smaller windows of what they consider dating material.

[Rissa95]

Thanks so much for your thorough response!

What constitutes an intimate extrovert personality if I may ask?

[dangerDoge]

No prob! Glad to have (hopefully) provided some insight.

Ahh I really didn't know a better way to phrase it so I just said intimate extrovert personality (even though shyness level and extroversion/introversion are different things, but I digress). What I mean is someone who doesn't give space in a conversation-- they talk super fast, may branch off into multiple directions in the conversation, they stand perhaps a bit close when they talk-- stuff like that. They're people who almost seem to talk aggressively, for lack of a better word. Although I would say I can hold my own in a conversation just fine, it overwhelms me when people are too aggressive in their talking. People [unlike me] who lean more towards the outgoing side of things would probably be completely fine in that kind of conversation.

Granted, I haven't met too many people I would qualify with this personality, but occasionally I do meet someone who is too, I don't know, energetic or hyper that it throws me off.

[Rissa95]

Hm that gave me some food for thought. I absolutely respect personal space but I do feel like sometimes I'm talking too much, too fast and too jumpy when it comes to topics. It's at least a possibility for always scaring off the guys I like lol so I'll defo consider it.

[dangerDoge]

I mean, it’s always possible, but I wouldn’t worry too much. If you’re conscious or self aware of it, chances are you’re probably not like what I described lol. Being outgoing is an attractive feature in my opinion. Heck, in the past, I’ve had crushes on people who would be considered “outgoing.” It’s only when outgoing is cranked up a couple notches that it starts to be kinda of like “woah” in a negative way.

[MittenstheGlove]

Guys don’t traditionally friend zone. We practically just stop talking typically. Unless we’ve known you a long time. Most of us will tell you straight up that we don’t want to pursue a relationship with you. Otherwise things get complicated.

[Rissa95]

What would be a reason to stop talking to a girl if you showed interest in her before?

[MittenstheGlove]

He has found interest in another girl or is afraid of rejection. Guys nowadays only meet half way. If he shows interest, it’s up to you to hold it. Otherwise he’ll move on quickly.

[Rissa95]

What if the girl asks him out for a second date and he just keeps withdrawing?

[MittenstheGlove]

Well he may be busy with life or maybe he has better plans. It’s hard to tell.

[riverplate7]

you dont get friend zoned you put yourself in the friend zone. The only reason people remain friends with someone they are attracted to without reciprocation is because they are holding on to the hope that the other person will change their mind or give them a chance. I dont get friend zoned. When i tell a guy a like him and he doesn't like me back tbh he becomes less attractive. And i decided a long time ago that i have enough friends and i wait around for no one.

[fuzzyllama]

Louder for those at the back! This is the attitude to have!

[riverplate7]

@fuzzyllama hahaha

[Luke______]

Someone call all the 'nice guys'!
They absolutely need to hear that

[riverplate7]

@Luke______ For real tho

[Anonymous]

He'll call you sis plus he'll talk about his crushes and his hook-ups.

[Shreyash108]

Depends on what his relationship with her was prior to friendzoning her.

Like if they were really really. good and close people , then the signs would be like he would avoid meeting her in person And alone , even if in group not stand or stay close to her much unless she herself deliberately goes and stands close to him. Would keep talks very limited to her.
He would basically care a lot about her presence with him in public such that no one perceives anything in between them and simultaneously not involve in anything in person with her.

And if he is just a normal friend , he would probably cut off any tied with her and ignore completely!

[AriesMale]

1) He chased you, but now treats you like one of the guys.
2) There’s no tension, and he doesn’t try his best around you.
3) He talks about other women around you.
4) No plans, no text, no calls

[Rissa95]

So if he chased me before, what would be a reason for him to suddenly stop chasing me?

[AriesMale]

You kept showing mixed signals, or he felt like he was strung along.

[Finchie40]

Shows lessinterest , barely talks to her anymore , doesn't make plans with her , has his eye on someone else

[Rissa95]

What would be a reason to basically forget about a girl you were interested in before?

[Finchie40]

Someone else caught his interest , or could be something you said or did that rubbed him off the wrong way and he decided to just keep you as a friend.

[Finchie40]

No matter what dont blame yourself , everyone is wired differently, realize to. yourself it was his loss. Some people have high expectations on what attracts them and little do. they know they are in for a rude awakening when they realize their shit stinks also. Nobody is perfect we all have flaws if someone can't look past your flaws then They dont deserve you, never be a sitting duck for someone , you have a heart and feelings and deserved to be treated the way you that you treat someone , if they can't give what you give in return then They are a waste of time. Find someone that wants to be by your side and makes you their priority.

[Finchie40]

When someone is into you they give you as much as they can. When a guy likes a girl he will make it known that she is the first thing on his mind and that goes both ways , so communication is the number 1 thing when communication dies so does the interest and the relationship

[Finchie40]

@Rissa95 follow me so we can inbox each other

[GizZzmo]

Giving you a friendship bracelet is a big give away... calling you dude all the time saying something about you like yeah she's cool but she's like a bro... with boob's, calling you a wingman and being a slob in front of you (burping and farting) or maybe he's just not into you...

[wiseyoungman]

Unless he has a girlfriend, you're not friendzoned. He wouldn't talk to you if he didn't want to get in you

[AlexMoon]

Not all guys feel the same as you.

[wiseyoungman]

I've never met a guy that felt differently on this. All of my friends are on the same page here

[Rissa95]

So that's why all of my friends who are guys never text just to check in lol.
So if a guy doesn't text you, he's not interested in you sexually at all?

[wiseyoungman]

By my estimation, yes. But see above, apparently some dudes aren't like this. I just never met one before

[Eryxx]

He doesn't talk about being in a relationship with you.

Below are some indicators which aren't always true:
He doesn't seem open about his thoughts/feelings.
You can see him treating you just like he treats his other friends.

[v851234]

Guys rarely do, usually they pretend to, but actually they deep down want more, then eventually friend zone you, if your friendship lasts that long.

[Liam_Hayden]

Not 100%, but good indicators

1. You go to kiss him on his lips, and he turns to offer his cheek.
2. You sit on his lap and wiggle and he doesn't get hard.
3. You offer him sex or a BJ and he says "No."

[Bakugoex]

Holy. If I would have friendzoned girl, and she would do 2 option, holy crap I wouldn't care anymore😂

[MusicMayhem]

He talks to you about his dating life, his problems attracting girls, asking for your advice etc.

If you text him, he won't act super flirty, just aloof (think how you'd respond to a guy approaching in a bar/club)

[Nivinxus]

I always friendzone any girl more than an acquaintance. If they are worth chasing or they want to date, then I will initiate or they will initiate respectively.

It's on you (or him) to climb out of the friendzone.

[Daniel3035]

What? When do guys friendzone? To friendzone you need to ask a guy out you definitely don’t have the ovaries or stomach to do that. Only guys ask out girls and get friendzoned.

[Rissa95]

Well I've asked out guys but mostly they withdrew or it didn't go anywhere after the date.

[Daniel3035]

Where do you live? I need to know the country where girls actually do the asking out.

[PHANTOM13]

he call you bro and tell you about his girlfriend or crush and treat you like his guy friends.

[CuriousMufuxka]

I think we should be just friends. Is your hot friend single? Damn, her ass is nice. Think I should get her number?

[Therisinghero12]

Depends on the guy I guess, but if you wanna go out with him just ask and the answer will tell you 100% if you’re friend zoned

[Anonymous]

Your doing stuff for him but he denies your advances assuming your flirting with him in an obvious way.

[Kelly1979]

He hoping you to start out as friends and start from there.

[Anonymous]

If he's not actively trying to bone you, he has friend-zoned you. Or else he just thinks you are out of his League.

[Tarylyles1]

What do you mean “or else he just thinks you are out of his league”?

[Rissa95]

Is driving two hours to meet someone based just on pictures a probable sign he wanted to hookup?

[Opinion Owner]

@Tarly If you thinks you're out of his league, he won't try to make a move on you for fear of being embarrassed by rejection. But he might try to be your friend for the chance to hook up with some of the other hot chicks you could know.

@Rissa If a guy is driving 2 hours to meet you based on a picture, he's only doing it to get sex.

[NYCQuestions1976]

If you haven't seen his penis. Telltale sign.

[Razal]

if he takes u for granted.

[Rissa95]

True. You've gotta make him chase you again.

[Razal]

correct !!

[stormbreaker06]

he doesn't get you attention.

[luisitoenanunez]

He doesn’t seem to be sexually attracted to you

[Rissa95]

What are some signs he isn't?

[luisitoenanunez]

He isn’t chasing you. And doesn’t try to get intimate with you, which are crystal clear signs

[Rissa95]

So I went on a date with a guy who seemed kinda into me, and told me I was pretty and he'd like to get to know me better yadda yadda yadda. But then, after the date he doesn't text, doesn't seem into me visiting him, aka is not chasing me anymore. Any idea what might be up with that?
So on the date he mightve been attracted but later he isnt?

[thothahuramazda]

he's not inside you.

[Giggletr0n]

I mean it's not wrong 🤔

[Rissa95]

So every guy I haven't slept with yet has friendzoned me according to your logic lol

[thothahuramazda]

Women are full of disease mental disorder they can't raise children they are getting child support money for the bar and screaming lunatics accusing anyone of rape if she didn't like his face. I'm sure your not that at all but who can tell anymore. Tons of beautiful fun nice women turn out to be jack in box nightmares. So maybe he is concerned that he can't tell whos a friend or foe. Not calling you crazy just saying they all look fine until they are not and its too late.