What are signs a guy just sees you as a friend?

[Anonymous]

(please choose a letter for each point and list them in order)
Friendly- (F)
More than friends- (M)
Both- (B)
Not interested- (N)

1. He compliments me
2. I hang out with him and his friends occasionally (because he asked me to)
3. His friend told me that he talked about me a while ago, and said good things.
4. He teases me a little/copies things I say
5. Steals my stuff and gives it back occasionally
6. Doesn't make eye contact in the hallway
7. Sometimes he is too busy to hang out, but he doesn't suggest another time to hang out
8. His pupils don't dilate when I talk to him
9. He sits with his legs spread really far
10. He preens a lot (fixing hair, shoes, shirt, touching neck, face, etc)
11. He only smiles sometimes when we talk
12. He is really bad at texting me
13. Says sorry for lots of things he does "wrong" (ex. bumping into me, knocking over my bottle, etc)
14. He tease his friends/ makes fun of them, and sometimes looks for my reaction
FINALLY: What do you think he sees me as?

[evelyn26]

1. B (if he wasn't interested he wouldn't do this. Or he could just be being nice. Does he do this with others too?)
2. B (he's introduced you to his friends that is great.)
3. B (if he talks about you to other people when you aren't there means you are on his mind.)
4. B (his way of flirting)
5. B (flirting too)
6. B (he could be a little shy because he likes you?)
7. I dont know what to rate this because he might just be too busy. Does he let you know he can't hang out? If he does, thats nice of him some guys just ignore/dont text.
8. (Thats just how his eyes are?)
9.(That's just how he sits)
10. B (The way he is. Could be because of you or for himself-to look/feel better)
11. B (some people only smile a couple of times a day. Means he likes your company. Some people fake smiles because something is going on in their lives.)
12.(Guys are known to be bad texters. My boyfriend is terrible at this. So you be bad at texting to hah)
13. B (he is being nice and gentlemanly to you because he doesn't want to be rude to a girl.)
14. B ( he wants to know if you approve how he is with others. If it bothers you.)

If you like him, tell him! Go for it but take things slowly. Good luck

[Asker]

1. I haven't heard him compliment lots of girls in the past. But I don't know maybe he does when I'm not listening
7. Well, he kinda told me before that he was going to be busy, but he was going to try to make it work
:) I appreciate your answer! But I have a question. You chose mostly B, so do you think he sees me as a friend, or do you think he is interested?

[evelyn26]

Just continue to be friends with him and hang out. Who knows? Maybe it will develop into something more. Take things slowly. I chose mostly B because it sounds like he does like you as a person. Could it be that later you two are bf/gf? Great possibility of that happening. Relationships start as friends always and then can turn into bf/gf and then marriage. If you know you like him more than a friend tell him before some other girl claims him.

[Asker]

#1 Do you think relationships are better if you start off as friends?
#2 I am scared other girls will date him, but not that they will get into a relationship with him. That's because his church councils him (now, at the age of 16), to date a variety of people and have fun. He is not suppose to get into serious relationships yet.

[evelyn26]

Yes! Every relationship starts of as friends. That is how it should be. Get to know each other, hangout and have fun. You guys are young. Guys are good at dating and not have anything serious (even older guys.) However, some people are destined to have just one romance. You should date too. Maybe if he sees this his jealousy will come out?

[Asker]

Haha, okay :) Thank you!! Have a wonderful day!!

[evelyn26]

No problem and good luck!

[rozequarts]

Just curious here, but if I feel chemistry when were in person, but he sucks at keeping a text-conversation going (he also takes hours to reply sometimes), do i have reason to worry?

[Asker]

@rozequarts Some guys are really bad at texting, like, horrible! I think you should just trust the chemistry you have! :) Texting isn't like interacting in real life, and real life is the place everything is actually happening. If he texts you lots, I guess it's good, but it can't be the only sign.

[rozequarts]

No haha if i went by the texts, then i would have nothing to look forward to. Its the face-to-face that gets me kinda thinking he might like me. Being unsure is really frustrating.

[Asker]

@rozequarts I know what you mean, my crush really confuses me. I don't know if he even likes me and it makes me feel upset sometimes. But I think you should keep reading signs :) You never know, maybe he does like you!!

[evelyn26]

Guys in general are horrible at texting! My boyfriend is horrible at it. He's trying to do better because i told him he's bad at it lol. Now, he texts more (everyday) like good morning beautiful etc
I try not to text while he's at work
Sometimes they forget to text.

[Asker]

Awe, cute!

[GrumpyGoo]

1. F
2. M
3. M
4. M
5. B
6. N
7. N
8. N
9. M
10. M
11. B
12. N
13. M
14. M

These are mixed signals, but there are high chances that he sees you more than a friend.

[Asker]

How can you tell the difference between more than a friend, vs normal friend?

[GrumpyGoo]

Because,
2. If a guy likes you, he will want you to meet his friends and hang out with them - since he is the one who asked for it - it is a very good sign.
3. A guy who likes you will praise you in your absence - he might have told his friends that he likes you. Thinking of you in your absence - a really good sign.
4. Teasing and mirroring actions are major signs that a guy likes you.
9. That is the subconscious male posture, even he doesn't really realize it when he does it. He is expanding his legs - his genital - to show he is fertile. Don't worry, haha! This is normal and subconscious.
10. If a guy fixes his hair, clothes around you, it means that he wants to look good in your presence - more chances are when - he is a bit messy but when you enter the room or place where he was - he starts fixing his hair, etc. See? He was comfortable with how he looked before with other people but when you came, he suddenly fixed himself.
13. He does it a lot - afraid you'll dislike him.

[GrumpyGoo]

And 14. He wants to impress you and make you happy by making fun of his friends - he wants to make you laugh.

[Asker]

Omg!! Thank you!! I love your answer!! But I still have a question, is that okay? 6,7,8, 11, and 12 are bad signs. What's up with that?

[GrumpyGoo]

6. This could be because he was in a rush or he was busy but if things are normal - not a very good sign - if a guy likes you, he would notice you, always - and maybe will smile at you as well in the hallways.
7. This sign - especially - 'he doesn't suggest another time to hang out' - shows that he sometimes doesn't really want to hang out with you but it could be because of various reasons - so not a strong sign that he is not interested.
8. Dilating pupils are a good sign that he likes you. But you said his don't.
11. It could be because of some guys don't really like smiling - and this is not a strong sign that he is not interested - that is why I put 'B'.
12. He is really bad at texting you - but he could be bad at texting with others too. This is an okay sign that he is not interested.

So, that is why I said these are mixed signals. But there are high chances that he sees you more than a friend.

[Asker]

Okay, thank you for the clarification! You give wonderful answers! :)

[GrumpyGoo]

Don't worry - all major signs show he is interested in you - more than a friend. :)

[Asker]

Have a lovely day!

[GrumpyGoo]

You as well. :D

[Sha84]

why you hang with this piece of shit guy. he is pathetic attention seeker

[Asker]

Haha, I don't know, I really like him, and I wanna know if he is showing me signs. Do you think he likes me as a friend, or more?

[Accelerate]

1. F
2. F
3. M
4. B
5. B
6. Could mean anything
7. N
8. Doesn't mean anything
9. Doesn't mean anything
10. Depends on guy.
11. Could mean a lot of things. Might have his mind on other things or not as in the mood for communication in the moment (especially the case if introverted), or had a bad day.
12. How so? Grammar mistakes, or bad at getting back to you? If it's the first he just acts before he thinks (doesn't proof read), it it's the latter he either doesn't prioritize communications with you or he's not good at keeping his phone by his side and checking it all the time.
13. F
14. What does your friend group consist of? Is it an assortment of guys and girls or is it all guys and then you or what?

FINALLY: I'd say he might be interested in you, or he's just really nice and playful/flirty. I can tell you what to focus on more though if that might help? Numbers 6, 8 and 9 seem rather unimportant and you shouldn't take much from those. 1, 3, 4, 5, maybe 10 (depends on guy), and maybe 14 (depends on 'friend group') are ones I think you should be looking out for.

[Asker]

12. I hear lots of people say he's bad at texting, as in he doesn't give enthusiastic responses and doesn't text back quick enough.
14. I am not in his friend group. I don't consider me and my crush friends. That day, the group was just him, and 2 of his guy friends. He just asked me to hang out with them, so the 4 of us did something together at lunch.

[Asker]

What do these two things mean?

[Accelerate]

For 12, he could very well just be the type of person that doesn't pay much attention to his phone or just leaves it alone while he does other stuff until he finally decides to come back and check it.

As for 14, it's definitely interesting that he invited you to hang out with his 2 other guy friends. It could mean he's interested in you and wants to hang out with you more and get to know you.

But listen, there's no real 100 percent definitive truth to all these little observations you've speculated about him. If you've gotten to know him and really have taken a liking to him, then you should definitely try to put yourself out there. Guys can be just as inquisitive about the signs girls are showing but at the end of the day one of you is going to have to put yourself out there and task unless you plan on data mining your or his friends about him.

[Asker]

:) I've been on GaG for months and lets be honest, you are the best guys who have given me advice. You give detailed opinions and suggestions, and I thought you should know that!
14. Can I message you in private message instead? I still have more concerns that I don't want to post on my question directly.

[Asker]

a month*

[Asker]

Hey! I just followed you! I don't know if you can message me if you don't follow me back though. I have a private account.

[Accelerate]

Oh that was you. I was confused as to who would follow me since I've started using this account relatively recently myself.

I'd be happy to try and offer any help I can.

[Asker]

Okay :)

[Asker]

I can only message you if you follow me back

[Accelerate]

Oh ok. That was my bad lol. Still haven't explored the site that much to know that haha

[Anonymous]

Guys don't make time for girls they don't want to have sex with.
So if a guy goes out of his way to text you for no reason or makes time to hang out with you... he wants to have sex with you.

NO STRAIGHT GUY... randomly texts the ugly girl or the fat girl and asks how her day is. NONE.
They don't take time out of their day to hang out with those girls either.

[Kataclyst]

and no sane man would only think about sex

[Opinion Owner]

@Kataclyst Listen, white knight, you know just as much as I do that your comment is BS.

[Kataclyst]

lol ok buddy you keep telling yourself that.

[Opinion Owner]

@Kataclyst I don't need to, it's a fact. Every social study done will show you that males DO NOT have women friends they wouldn't have sex with if it were offered.

[Kataclyst]

and not every social study includes every single male in the entire world.

[Opinion Owner]

@Kataclyst You obviously don't understand the basic concept of percentages and how basic science works. There is a major difference between the universal group and general traits.
There will always be a number that falls outside the general standard but when studies are done it takes a large enough data point to get a very reliable idea of how the mass population works. This is how EVERY study in science is done.

[Kataclyst]

Obviously? Okay lol. im well aware of percentages tyvm.

[Asker]

@Kataclyst Both of you, do you think he sees me as a friend, or is he interested?

[Asker]

You guys had a very long conversation :)

[Opinion Owner]

If he is making time for you when he doesn't have too. You can be fairly sure he has some interest.

[Kataclyst]

Whatevers making me laugh my ass off ill obviously make time for ;)

[Asker]

@Kataclyst Okay :)

[Asker]

Thank you, I appreciate your opinions :_

[Asker]

:) .

[Asker]

But I want your opinion, based on what you know, does he like me as a friend, or more?

[Anonymous]

6) 7) 8) 9) 11) 12) 13) mean absolutely nothing, one way or the other.

The rest could be friendly or more than friendly.

[Asker]

So is he being friendly to me, or does he like me?

[Opinion Owner]

There's no way to tell from what you've given.

[Asker]

I could try to give you more info

[Asker]

-He sits by me when he can sit somewhere else
-Sort of defends me when his friends mess with me
-Tries to help me with stuff, and asks me for help when he could ask others
-Sometimes I'm talking to my friends, and he barges in to conversation and starts talking to them randomly but doesn't acknowledge me (but he never talk to my friends when I'm not there)
-I talk to his friends, and he interrupts by talking to me, or stealing his friend's hat.

[Anonymous]

1. f
2. f
3. b
4. b
5. b
6. b
7. f
8. f (also, you're creepy as fuck)
9. N/A
10. N/A
11. f
12. b
13. b
14. b

Considering your age you're a friend who will eventually become masturba-fuel

[Asker]

What does that mean? Does he see me as a friend or is he interested?

[Anonymous]

Based on those signs, he probably likes you.

[Asker]

But 6,7,8, 11, and 12 are bad signs. What's up with that?

[Asker]

Do the bad signs mean anything?

[NaultD]

Biggest thing is if he wants advice on other girls

[Asker]

He has never talked about other girls around me. Ever.

[Asker]

Do you think he is being friendly to me, or is he interested?

[NaultD]

Try and smell his face you'll get your answer.

[Asker]

lol, sure. No, seriously, do you think he is being friendly to me, or is he interested?

[NaultD]

There is only one person that knows the answer your just going to have to be brave and face it head on. The worst thing that's going to happen is you land flat on your face. then you dust your self off and try another time.

[Asker]

Okay, I'll try

[Asker]

Thanks! :)

[alex6101]

he ain't gonna flirt.

[Asker]

What? Can you explain?

[Asker]

Do you think he's interested, or being friendly?

[alex6101]

if he's interested, he'd definitely try get your attention everytime, he'd try to find reasons just to spend spend time with you and yeah, he might also ask you out.

[Asker]

So he likes me?

[alex6101]

well, yea' i think he does. he's just afraid to tell'ya. this happens with guys a lot.

[Asker]

Okay :)

[Anonymous]

If he's don't compliment you in a physical level

[Opinion Owner]

*on a

[Asker]

He doesn't compliment me physically, (except for my hair, or perfume) but he compliments my hobbies and talents. (and says I'm good at them and stuff) Is he interested?

[Opinion Owner]

I will say he's friendly. Especially if you notice he doesn't smile, his pupils aren't dilated and he isn't stressed/excited to see you. Trust me a guy who wants you will get you notice him, he will speak loudly, he want to spend every second of his life with you...

[Asker]

Okay :)

[Anonymous]

He's interested.

[Asker]

How are you so sure that he isn't just being friendly? Aren't 6,7,8, 11, and 12 bad?

[Opinion Owner]

it's not always easy to make eye contact with someone you have a crush on, as for eyes dilating.. I don't know, a lot of people especially guys aren't good at texting. Sometimes people really are too busy to hang out and people don't always smile.. might have something else n his mind at the moment. Sounds to me like he likes you more than a friend. I could be wrong, but maybe just ask him?

[Asker]

:) Alrighty, thank you!! I appreciate it!

[BigBallerSodaPop]

If he pees on your butt

[Asker]

Do you think the guy sees me as a friend, or does he like me?

[BigBallerSodaPop]

I honestly have no idea.

[Asker]

Okay