Nowadays I always see guys going after the girls who are always in a flirty mood, wear almost no clothing and have their boobs hanging out and stomach exposed, short shorts and a face covered in makeup and fake tan. They’re always looking to go and party and act superficial. So do guys only like this, or would they still like the quiet, modest, independent girl who focuses on other stuff than sex and attracting men?Do guys like more reserved/modest girls?
It's obvious that guys will always go for those girls because they look far better and much more approachable. But when it comes to marrying the girl or settling down, a guy might prefer the modest girl if he's being mature about his life.
But you got to understand that in order to attract guys for dates, you would need to look good. Not necessarily slutty (though it would make it super easy for you), but a little bit of makeup and showing a bit of skin would do the trick.
Guy doesn't fuck your modesty or strong independent character. He fucks your body so, you got to make that thing attractive. Modesty and an independent character is a nice thing. I personally value it a lot. But that's for making you a better valued person, not to attract the potential mates.
The guys you speak of are most certainly the vocal minority that put themselves out there, and more often than not aren't seeking relationships, but rather, sex.
It's the same case with girls you've mentioned. They're dressing in showy clothes to put themselves on display. However, these are just the people that tend to pop out because their actions make them more noticeable.
The guys you're looking for are everyday people that are just doing their own thing. Some may even feel the same way as you but vice versa; as if girls are purposefully going with guys that are terrible personas and are bound to give them a bad time. Though this isn't typically the case. These people just stand out because their way of going about things puts them on display as a result.
I can't answer for all men, but I know that for my own situation I'm a mixture of both. I like to get wild sometimes but I'm responsible enough to drive myself home or have a limit set and dignity. Also on a regular day I'm focused on my goals.
I think it's important not to stay too uptight, but that's just me. And I guess my boyfriend said he loved that about me so there's that. At the end of the day though it depends on the guy and what he's looking for as an individual.
I have no interest in reserved/modest girls. I only date girls who put effort in their appearance. Who want to look sexy/hot/pretty etc. High maintenance girls. As you've mentioned yourself guys clearly flock towards girls who put effort in their appearance, even though most girls where I live don't put much effort just enough to be presentable or look good. Think Seattle or San Francisco in America.
You don't have to be polar opposite of wearing sexy clothes. You can still be more modest and be more stylish. You don't have to dress like a nun.
Reserved, modest and elegant girls are the only ones who deserve and receive my romantic attention. I’m different from most guys I know when I say there’s nothing more desirable than a girl who has the dignity to refuse sex to any man she’s not in a relationship with 😍❤️ Sadly, those girls are extremely rare where I come from 😭
I like the modest and quiet girl but not the independent one and not the one who doesn't focus on a man... i prefer to get a girl from both worlds... you can be funny and loving a man and at the same time modest and decent.
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Agreed. Independent in the sense as when she’s single she can go to the store by herself, get a job and maintain it, be able to get food, do laundry, etc.
Yeah but it's not because I'm conservative at all; I just think they're little hotties trying to hide something. And they're women so it's probably good.
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Yes guys like me do , but normal , serious girls also don’t go for good guys. They always go for model looking guys or bikers or super rich guys. If a girl has nothing but looks she has some low standards , if a women gains some amount of wealth , degree she starts to behave like queen , that’s why guys prefer those easy girls
Guys are most likely attracted to them because they think they'll get sex. Some guys don't really care about looking for someone for the long haul. They only focus on getting laid. That being said, i would probably prefer the reserved girl. Quiet, but will speak her mind and not try to get attention just because of their body.
Guys who just want to hookup will go for the girls with their tits out. Guys that want something serious go for more modest girls.
But most men just want sex primarily so there's tons of them. And some guys are looking for relationships but in the meantime will swing for something casual. So that means most most men will give attention to girls who dress and act like that.
My ideal girl is basically that. Thing is, it's hard to find one that is that way. I swipe on "slutty" girls on Tinder, but it's kind of like taking what you get. Our standards for sex are far lower than what you want for a relationship (at least mine are).
Trust me, if I had to choose, it just wouldn't be a contest.
I like women that can be both. I have found that, as I have grown up, modesty is much more attractive to me than it used to be. Modest doesn't mean "not sexy". It all depends on how they carry themselves.
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Anonymous
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Well the girl has to be able to show interest in the guy. Nobody likes a whore girl but the modest independent just sits there and doesn’t show the guy anything and why would a guy waste time on girl who doesn’t show she even likes guys. So a girl needs to be inbetween
Depends what the guy wants If he wants marriage/relationship he will go for the modest girl (This is obviously a generalization. Not true in every case)
Modesty is always a good quality. Having a wild side is always perfectly okay if not terribly extreme, but I’m a very humble person and like being able to relate to girls. (Or anyone, but mostly dating age girls. lol)
I wouldn't be friends with the girl who's too desperate for a guy's attention so she feels the need to vulgarly act and show her body to gain it. Guys go after those girls because they're the most available sex source.
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I love any type of girl. Like some people tell me oh don’t go for her she’s a slut, and I always reply, well she can be my slut, or oh she’s too shy, well she’ll be my little ball of shyness and I’ll be there for her. I don’t really discriminate personalities. I love any girl because they are all unique in their own way.
for me i want a girl who is respectable in public and well sexy at home you know there is a time and place for everything and i dont like people staring at me personally i dont like being around people but yea
haha, in the UK we call those Essex Girls. I guess Americans call them bimbos. That style is getting old, I like girls with a little more depth. You can still be flirty, but do it with class.
Thinking there is middle ground here. Yes a girl doesn’t need to dress in a slutty way or act wild to get a guy. But guys usually need an opening to approach someone they are physically attracted to. Usually eye contact, a smile, other open body language can be exaggerated a bit on her side to clarify that she wants to be approached. If a girl is shy she may appear closed off and give off signals she isn’t in the mood for conversation. It takes guts for a guy to approach a stranger and risk rejection so her clear body language can certainly encourage him. Remember that guys don’t often pick up on hints so things done in a subtle way will go right over our heads.
she takes initiative and is able to perpetuate a good conversation. i mean it's a back and forth. i don't want to have to build the conversation alone. also if she's attracted, it helps if she's not sitting in a corner with her arms crossed xD
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