I'm seeing so much double standart in the comments. So men prefer virgins because they have higher moral? Yeah right. Virginity hasd nothing to do with being or not a shitty person. If I saw that the only men commenting this were men that were intending to stay a virgins for marriage/right person as well, then I wouldn't complain because they are just projecting something that they themselves to but because I know this isn't it, I'm calling BS.
A person throwing away their virginity early is irresponsible and lacks respect for themselves, you don't just throw your body to people so easily and so early, that's really bad character and shows so many other bad traits in a person's personality.
Following this dumbass trend that says virginity doesn't matter is a sign that the followers are just mindless irresponsible immature people who have no will of their own and just mindlessly follow the stupid herd.
@Syrian_survivor since when? People have the right to decide when and how they will lose their virginity. If they want to wait to marriage, then that's fine but if they want to lose it at 15 then that's also their goddamn business.
@bamesjond0069 then we also have the right to call them manwhores and cheat on them and act like it wan't our wrong doings I guess. And why would I want your respect? You mean nothing to mean while respect is something that fair people give, we have already established that you are not that : )
Well i wouldn't say cheat i would never stoop that low. But we know girls that have slept around cheat y'all do stoop that low so thats why id never date a girl like that.
@ILoveAnime yeah it's their business to lose it in whatever way they wanted and whenever, but don't do that reckless shit which like I said mirrors a lot of bad things in someone's personality and expect to have my respect, I'll give you as much respect as I'll give to a stranger, nothing more than that, and don't call me a hypocrite mysoginist woman-hating basement dweller when I reject such a woman from being in my life as a partner only for that reason.
As much rights you have to choose what to do with your life, I've got the right to keep certain people out of mine as well, and nobody can tell me shit as I'm not hurting anyone on purpose.
Don't expect respect from everyone if you don't respect yourself.
@Syrian_survivor boy, I respect myself plenty. The fact that you are judging me without even know me as a person is... Now, it's none of your business but since you are assuming that I'm just some "whore", I'll have you know that I'm a virgin. And I'm intending to keep that way. But that is because I scared of intimacy (not of sex itself). And you don't see me judging people based on their sex choices. People often put sex on a pedestal when it's no different from eating and sleeping.
@ILoveAnime I'm not talking about you friend, I say "you" as an example of a woman, nothing is targetted at you so chill haha.
And when did I ever assume such a girl would be a "whore"? I reread my comments many times and couldn't find that lmao, I did assume such a girl would be irresponsible and not fit for being a mother of my kids, that's it though.
Sex is no different than eating or sleeping... well we judge people for eating and sleeping too. Would you date a man who sleeps all day? Nah we call them lazy. Would you date a man who eats all day and is obese? I doubt it. We call them unhealthy fat ugly etc. So would you date someone who sleeps around with everyone? No. We call them a whore.
Over indulgence is not good in any aspect of life. Shows poor character and no respect for yourself.
"Special" means that he likes it and girls like you are hard to find. Do guys like virgin girls? I believe that most men do. The experienced guys might feel afraid and uncomfortable with virgin girls because they are not aiming to make the experience "Special" but simply for fun. And don't want her to lose her virginity that way. But again, being a virgin girls increases your value so your chances are high.
@shinka1y234 We are talking about from a man's point of view. I don't think most men would want to deflower a married woman. If you consider that as "Less value" by your definition then okay.
You said non virgin girls have less value. Even if you wait till marriage, you are going to have sex after marriage and then your not that "valuable" 'cause you are not virgin anymore. That is disgusting to me to estimates a womans value by virginity
Well, I heard that some men like virgins because it's easier to manipulate them. I've also heard that they prefer women with no sexual experience because they would be the first ones to have sex with them. I guess that's why men say that you're special.
I do. It's special because sexuality is then this new and exciting thing and there's no other guys colouring your experience. Being with other guys is just a gross element for most guys. It's not a question of loyalty or if those experiences were serious or anything like that. It's just a bit gross.
The more girls a guys has been with, the more it feel like it's not special, like it's not someone you want to commit to. Probably evolution at work.
When it's less or ideally zero guys, it's special and you want to take it seriously, you want her entire sexual and romantic experience to be positive and to be with you.
You don't have to relate to this. It's just how many guys feel, I think.
Personally, I find the act of taking a virginity to be really unenjoyable. They believe that it makes you pure, when no one over 10 is pure anymore. Also it means that you aren't "used goods"... As if people don't buy from places that sell used goods. People are hypocrites though.
Being a virgin doesnât change your worth in a relationship, although I wouldnât personally think of getting rid of it as a way to have a âhookupâ with anyone. I myself am still a virgin, my boyfriend saw it as a good thing as far as I know. He knows I havenât really been in a relationship with anyone else and have no experience in that sense, but he wasnât put off by it. Heâs been in 2 serious relationships which, as youâd expect, included that sort of thing. As long as youâre not pressured into doing it when youâre not ready by your partner, or by anyone for that matter, I wouldnât worry about it. Itâll happen when it happens, donât feel pressure to get rid of it as if itâs a burden, itâs ultimately a good thing. Hope that helps:)
I think it means that in their opinion it is unusual for a 22 y/o. That doesn't mean it really is and it doesn't mean it's inferior. Maybe they also want to make you feel uncomfortable. I think there is a reason they use a word that you cannot make sense of. They themselves don't really know how to feel about this and how to talk about their feelings, that's why they use such a dubious word.
I think being a virgin is an attractive attribute in a potential female spouse.
Nah, I dislike even the thought of being with a virgin and would not date one ever again. The whole process of teaching her, guiding, mentoring... It is not for me. I want an experienced woman and I honestly do not care how many men she was with before me.
All of us were virgins at some point and it is great if virgins fall in love and lose their virginity like that. However, personally I am not excited about them at all.
I have no major preference. I'm not anti-sex or asexual but sex also isn't that important to me. Though I don't think I would date someone asexual as I wouldn't want to 100% go without it. But I wouldn't be in a rush to get into bed with you. Pretty much everything in a relationship is more important than sex in my opinion. I believe a lot of people would disagree with me (and that's ok) though.
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They are perverts haha. I feel you. I would not want someone wha want me just because of my virginity. Being virgin do not make you something special. You can have fucked up personality and still be virgin. And the question is a little bit sexist that is like asking girls if tall, rich and handsome guys are special 'cause many woman desire that kind of men. It is nobody's business if you're virgin and not. And being virgin does not mean you are innocent 'cause you could have watched porno and mastrubate a lot. And it is also fucking cringe to feel special for being virginity.
âSpecialâ could refer to how special someoneâs first experience is, and wanting to share it. Iâm virgin and would love for my first experience be with someone with no experience. Experiencing something special for the first time together. (Itâs ok if sheâs not virgin, but it would be very nice.)
I've never cared honestly. Even when I was a virgin lol. Not going to judge one way or the other and the only alluring aspect of a virgin is one of ego. Being the one she sleeps with after she declined other guys says something about me.
Even then it's not about her. So Big picture. It doesn't matter.
They are kinda special especially if it's a woman. Mainly because it's so easy for girls to get around. If they haven't slept around it shows will power and the ability to commit to something. Marrying a virgin would probably be ideal.
Only women are picky about virgin men. Which is one of the dumbest things I've known.
Girls don't want players or guys that sleep around. But at the same time they want a guy that's experienced in bed.
And I think it's slowly becoming possible to be a virgin and be experienced in bed. Thanks to those folks in Japan making sex robots. But now women find those offensive and degrading towards women.
A guy always kinda feels like he's competing with every other guy you've ever had sex with. He's worried that you'll be thinking about one of your other partners when you're having sex with him.
If you haven't had sex with anyone, then there's not as much competition, and the guy doesn't need to worry so much.
I'm "enjoying" all these crepper fuckers below acting like they go out and find virgins all the time. 1. Thats creepy as fuck. 2. If you're looking to take someone virginity, you're the exact opposite of the person who should be doing it. 3. Ignore anyone who speaks for anyone but themselves. 4. Why is the sex offender dept. not jumping on the seedy blokes down here?
Every person has it's own choices. You can't impose your feelings on someone else. Before liking someone, you have to deserve to like someone.
How can virginity be the basis to like or not like someone. Every one has some past that opposite sex may object. So, One has to respect others. One cannot object on other's past.
So, No , it is independent decision to like or not like someone. It is completely independent decision and yes, your decisions tell a lot about you.
It means you're special. I really hope you save it until marriage. Everyone has casual sex these days and there are a good amount of men who know this is wrong and would love to date a girl like you but we can't find them anywhere because there are so few.
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I'm seeing so much double standart in the comments. So men prefer virgins because they have higher moral? Yeah right. Virginity hasd nothing to do with being or not a shitty person. If I saw that the only men commenting this were men that were intending to stay a virgins for marriage/right person as well, then I wouldn't complain because they are just projecting something that they themselves to but because I know this isn't it, I'm calling BS.
A person throwing away their virginity early is irresponsible and lacks respect for themselves, you don't just throw your body to people so easily and so early, that's really bad character and shows so many other bad traits in a person's personality.
Following this dumbass trend that says virginity doesn't matter is a sign that the followers are just mindless irresponsible immature people who have no will of their own and just mindlessly follow the stupid herd.
@Syrian_survivor since when? People have the right to decide when and how they will lose their virginity. If they want to wait to marriage, then that's fine but if they want to lose it at 15 then that's also their goddamn business.
And its also all mens business if we want to call them skank whores and fuck them and never call them back. You have no right to my respect.
@bamesjond0069 then we also have the right to call them manwhores and cheat on them and act like it wan't our wrong doings I guess. And why would I want your respect? You mean nothing to mean while respect is something that fair people give, we have already established that you are not that : )
Well i wouldn't say cheat i would never stoop that low. But we know girls that have slept around cheat y'all do stoop that low so thats why id never date a girl like that.
@bamesjond0069 ah, never say never mister. We never know what the future bring us ;) X'D
Nope im not stupid so...
@ILoveAnime yeah it's their business to lose it in whatever way they wanted and whenever, but don't do that reckless shit which like I said mirrors a lot of bad things in someone's personality and expect to have my respect, I'll give you as much respect as I'll give to a stranger, nothing more than that, and don't call me a hypocrite mysoginist woman-hating basement dweller when I reject such a woman from being in my life as a partner only for that reason.
As much rights you have to choose what to do with your life, I've got the right to keep certain people out of mine as well, and nobody can tell me shit as I'm not hurting anyone on purpose.
Don't expect respect from everyone if you don't respect yourself.
@Syrian_survivor boy, I respect myself plenty. The fact that you are judging me without even know me as a person is... Now, it's none of your business but since you are assuming that I'm just some "whore", I'll have you know that I'm a virgin. And I'm intending to keep that way. But that is because I scared of intimacy (not of sex itself). And you don't see me judging people based on their sex choices. People often put sex on a pedestal when it's no different from eating and sleeping.
@ILoveAnime I'm not talking about you friend, I say "you" as an example of a woman, nothing is targetted at you so chill haha.
And when did I ever assume such a girl would be a "whore"? I reread my comments many times and couldn't find that lmao, I did assume such a girl would be irresponsible and not fit for being a mother of my kids, that's it though.
Sex is no different than eating or sleeping... well we judge people for eating and sleeping too. Would you date a man who sleeps all day? Nah we call them lazy. Would you date a man who eats all day and is obese? I doubt it. We call them unhealthy fat ugly etc. So would you date someone who sleeps around with everyone? No. We call them a whore.
Over indulgence is not good in any aspect of life. Shows poor character and no respect for yourself.
"Special" means that he likes it and girls like you are hard to find. Do guys like virgin girls? I believe that most men do. The experienced guys might feel afraid and uncomfortable with virgin girls because they are not aiming to make the experience "Special" but simply for fun. And don't want her to lose her virginity that way. But again, being a virgin girls increases your value so your chances are high.
So married women do have less value
@shinka1y234 We are talking about from a man's point of view. I don't think most men would want to deflower a married woman. If you consider that as "Less value" by your definition then okay.
You said non virgin girls have less value. Even if you wait till marriage, you are going to have sex after marriage and then your not that "valuable" 'cause you are not virgin anymore. That is disgusting to me to estimates a womans value by virginity
@shinka1y234 I don't understand what you're saying. Most guys are simply more attracted to virgin girls. It's that simple.
Well, I heard that some men like virgins because it's easier to manipulate them.
I've also heard that they prefer women with no sexual experience because they would be the first ones to have sex with them.
I guess that's why men say that you're special.
If they were easier to manipulate they wouldn’t be virgins now would they?
Let me get this straight: do you believe that women who have sexual experience were manipulated by men?
I'm just asking this so I can answer your question.
I think women who are not virgins are women who weren’t hard to get in the first place.
I disagree with you. If a woman wants to have sex she can have sex. Having sex doesn't change who you are and it doesn't make you a bad person.
I didn’t say any of that, why is that when virgins state that they are virgins non virgin women get offended?
Well it sounded you were saying that.
I'm not offended at all. I just said that I disagree with you and I told you why.
*sounded like
I do. It's special because sexuality is then this new and exciting thing and there's no other guys colouring your experience. Being with other guys is just a gross element for most guys. It's not a question of loyalty or if those experiences were serious or anything like that. It's just a bit gross.
The more girls a guys has been with, the more it feel like it's not special, like it's not someone you want to commit to. Probably evolution at work.
When it's less or ideally zero guys, it's special and you want to take it seriously, you want her entire sexual and romantic experience to be positive and to be with you.
You don't have to relate to this. It's just how many guys feel, I think.
Personally, I find the act of taking a virginity to be really unenjoyable.
They believe that it makes you pure, when no one over 10 is pure anymore. Also it means that you aren't "used goods"... As if people don't buy from places that sell used goods. People are hypocrites though.
Being a virgin doesnât change your worth in a relationship, although I wouldnât personally think of getting rid of it as a way to have a âhookupâ with anyone. I myself am still a virgin, my boyfriend saw it as a good thing as far as I know. He knows I havenât really been in a relationship with anyone else and have no experience in that sense, but he wasnât put off by it. Heâs been in 2 serious relationships which, as youâd expect, included that sort of thing. As long as youâre not pressured into doing it when youâre not ready by your partner, or by anyone for that matter, I wouldnât worry about it. Itâll happen when it happens, donât feel pressure to get rid of it as if itâs a burden, itâs ultimately a good thing. Hope that helps:)
I think it means that in their opinion it is unusual for a 22 y/o.
That doesn't mean it really is and it doesn't mean it's inferior.
Maybe they also want to make you feel uncomfortable.
I think there is a reason they use a word that you cannot make sense of.
They themselves don't really know how to feel about this and how to talk about their feelings,
that's why they use such a dubious word.
I think being a virgin is an attractive attribute in a potential female spouse.
Nah, I dislike even the thought of being with a virgin and would not date one ever again. The whole process of teaching her, guiding, mentoring... It is not for me. I want an experienced woman and I honestly do not care how many men she was with before me.
All of us were virgins at some point and it is great if virgins fall in love and lose their virginity like that. However, personally I am not excited about them at all.
I have no major preference. I'm not anti-sex or asexual but sex also isn't that important to me. Though I don't think I would date someone asexual as I wouldn't want to 100% go without it. But I wouldn't be in a rush to get into bed with you. Pretty much everything in a relationship is more important than sex in my opinion. I believe a lot of people would disagree with me (and that's ok) though.
They are perverts haha. I feel you. I would not want someone wha want me just because of my virginity. Being virgin do not make you something special. You can have fucked up personality and still be virgin. And the question is a little bit sexist that is like asking girls if tall, rich and handsome guys are special 'cause many woman desire that kind of men. It is nobody's business if you're virgin and not. And being virgin does not mean you are innocent
'cause you could have watched porno and mastrubate a lot. And it is also fucking cringe to feel special for being virginity.
**for being virgin
Sorry but it doesn't happen in reAlistic world. Virgin cunts are better as a person
How so? Do you have a lot of experience with virgins or what?
Yeah I forced a 7 year but when I was 12 and some more virgins during my teenage. And all were decent as compared to nons. It commonsense anyways
Being virgin is commonsense? Wtf
I am muslim. So i know many virgin girls whose personality is shit. You can't want a virgin if you are not yourself
Well from my experience mostly virgins are actually decent girls so...
From where are you? I guess because of culture difference maybe...
I can't speak for others, but as for me, I don't care if my woman is a virgin or not. If she is great. If she isn't ok. Everyone was one once! LOL!
What's more important is NOT your chastity, but the quality of your character and subsequent behavior.
Don't let anyone 'dis' you for your personal choice!
âSpecialâ could refer to how special someoneâs first experience is, and wanting to share it. Iâm virgin and would love for my first experience be with someone with no experience. Experiencing something special for the first time together. (Itâs ok if sheâs not virgin, but it would be very nice.)
I've never cared honestly. Even when I was a virgin lol. Not going to judge one way or the other and the only alluring aspect of a virgin is one of ego. Being the one she sleeps with after she declined other guys says something about me.
Even then it's not about her. So Big picture. It doesn't matter.
They are kinda special especially if it's a woman.
Mainly because it's so easy for girls to get around.
If they haven't slept around it shows will power and the ability to commit to something.
Marrying a virgin would probably be ideal.
Umm duh?
Only women are picky about virgin men. Which is one of the dumbest things I've known.
Girls don't want players or guys that sleep around. But at the same time they want a guy that's experienced in bed.
And I think it's slowly becoming possible to be a virgin and be experienced in bed. Thanks to those folks in Japan making sex robots. But now women find those offensive and degrading towards women.
Like seriously women are impossible to please.
Nothing wrong with being a virgin at all, also nothing wrong with not being one, its nobody's business but yours.
So the "special" comment you mentioned, that's just them trying to flatter their way into your pants in hopes that they will be your first.
A guy always kinda feels like he's competing with every other guy you've ever had sex with. He's worried that you'll be thinking about one of your other partners when you're having sex with him.
If you haven't had sex with anyone, then there's not as much competition, and the guy doesn't need to worry so much.
I'm "enjoying" all these crepper fuckers below acting like they go out and find virgins all the time.
1. Thats creepy as fuck.
2. If you're looking to take someone virginity, you're the exact opposite of the person who should be doing it.
3. Ignore anyone who speaks for anyone but themselves.
4. Why is the sex offender dept. not jumping on the seedy blokes down here?
Every person has it's own choices. You can't impose your feelings on someone else.
Before liking someone, you have to deserve to like someone.
How can virginity be the basis to like or not like someone.
Every one has some past that opposite sex may object.
So,
One has to respect others.
One cannot object on other's past.
So, No , it is independent decision to like or not like someone.
It is completely independent decision and yes, your decisions tell a lot about you.
It means you're special. I really hope you save it until marriage. Everyone has casual sex these days and there are a good amount of men who know this is wrong and would love to date a girl like you but we can't find them anywhere because there are so few.
Really? You think there are a lot of guys that want to wait til marriage to have sex with their virgin gf?
@Alexis_OC there's more of them then there are virgins. Hmu id wait till marriage đ