I'm very physically affectionate when I'm in the same room with my girl, and I'm happy to give her plenty of attention then, but when we're apart, it's generally because I'm working, sleeping, or resting, and if she's expecting me to talk/text all the time, I'm not going to be able to do those things, and that is going to make me frustrated and resentful.
Working and sleeping are things that I have to do, and I do them to earn the money needed to allow me to have time with my girl - meaning, I may work longer hours on Tuesday so I can take off half a day on Thursday to spend more time with her. If she can't respect that I'm going to be busy working and for longer hours on Tuesday - which is done for her benefit on Thursday, then that's a problem.
Some girls can't seem to wrap their minds around those kinds of things though - especially if they have an office job and only 3 hours worth of work to do across an 8 hour day. My work days aren't like that - I'm either driving (which in Bay Area traffic is hell, and quite dangerous), selling (explaining options to a customer), supporting (walking customers through usage or troubleshooting of their gear), installing, or repairing things. I'm often on ladders, holding tools and gear, or in attics or crawlspaces or twisted behind a cabinet in the dark, and I can't just drop everything to answer a "whatcha doin'?" text. I don't do "conversations" when I'm at work - I'm busy working. I will happily have conversations when we're face to face, but during work time, I need her to get to the point and be business-like and focused.
So, clingy is a no-go with me. Physically affectionate? Great! Has deep feelings? Wonderful. Looks forward to our time together? Awesome. But if she can't get through a day without talking to me, knowing where I am (I share my Google calendar) and what I'm doing, then we've got a problem.
That depends on what you mean by clingy and also depends on the guy.
I have a high score for Quality Time on the 5 love languages quiz (www.5lovelanguages. com) which means I like to spend a lot of time with my girlfriend. So for me, if she wants to be around me most of the time that is not a problem at all. Other guys would consider that clingy though and would find it annoying.
For me clingy would be that she acts like she's not capable of doing anything without me and is totally dependent on me for everything. That I wouldn't like.
So for me, "I'm going to the grocery store. Would you like to come with me?" is fine and if I'm not busy doing something else I'd probably go with her. "We need food from the grocery store and I can't do that myself so I need you to come with me" would be annoying.
For other guys, even the first one would be annoying. So it depends a lot on the individual guy. Ideally, a woman that likes to spend a lot of time with her partner should date a guy with a high Quality Time score that also likes to spend a lot of time together.
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I think we need to define clingy. Like there's a range. Like a girl could be like "hey text me back when you get home safe" and and some guy out there would be like"that's clingy" Clinginess can range. And can get worse or better depending on the indivual. Some people just need reassurance to feel secure and then they can start to trust and be less clingy. For others it doesn't get better they become more and more demanding. Are we talking about girls who are just a bit clingy or are we talking about someone who is suffocating them. Both things can be helped with therapy and the right partner. But I think we should define behaviors and their repetitiveness as how clingy a person is.
i just want to say that i dont give a fuck if they do or dont, we be what we are unless we're pretending to be something we're not so why give a fuck unless your trying to change urself and not love urself for who u actually are?
I love the photo personally 😂 buut to answer your question. It depends if the girl is genuinely the clingy type of girl. If she is not and insecure and is clingy because of those insecurities then that is a major turn off and an unhealthy relationship.
It depends. All things in moderation, right? I like when a girl wants to spend time with me. It shows she cares and it can be really cute. However, sometimes you want to take a day to yourself. I think we all have that. Sometimes the person you're with will make a huge deal out of it and nag you to death. If you can't survive a day without me, it's a mix of flattering, annoying, and sad.
Depends on the level of CLINGY... Obsessive and cannot seem to live without the guy... YEAH NO THANKS.
Enjoys hugs and hand holding maybe a little bit too much but is doing it in a kind hearted somewhat motherly way while respecting the other half. Eh you might be able to get away with it.
can't speak for the rest of the guys but I can say for me it depends on how clingy, and whether they are possessive if just clingy then no i dont mind it, if possessive and controlling then yeah I will just walk the other way if they didn't change their attitude, as if they cannot trust me to be ok around other women or my mates then they obviously dont trust me at all, but as i said, if just clingy then i really dont mind that
Depends to what degree if they are seeking to attach themselves to every aspect of my live, without regards for time, personal space or opinion (like invading my "alone time". Then No, but if it's just they want to spend the majority of the week or every day with me then I'm pretty okay with that.
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it s a difference between "you improve my life", and "if I don't have you in my life, I'm going to top myself". I saw an instagram quote, where someone said "I need a man, not a boy. I don't want someone who's going to 'like' other girls photo's, and not text me back for 8 hours". get a... grip
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I get you but I would not be ok, if he like some girls pics on insta. Hsha
I would assume that guys dislike clingy girls as much girls dislike clingy guys. I wouldn't want to entertain my lady 24/7 and I wouldn't want her to entertain me or spend all of her time with me. That's not healthy.
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Anonymous
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Guys don't like clingy girls being clingy can actually ruin relationships guys find girls who are confident and independent sexy
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What abot being independent and clingy at the same time?
Depends on in what way she is being clingy if she is the type that constantly wants to text and talk to him and gets upset when she hasn't heard from him in a few hours that type of clingness is annoying
Clingy girls are the best They appreciate things more and want to spend time with you What's wrong with that? If someone doesn't like clingy girls, it usually means they are up to no good
Also you won't see your girlfriend all day because of work anyways. So there is your space
I disagree. The type of girlfriend that you are describing simply seems to me like someone who is physically and emotionally attached. Being clingy is much different. It's not something that you will understand unless you have been through that.
It's subjective. Certain guys (and girls) get annoyed by clingyness. I personally prefer a clingy girl myself. Giving, and receiving a good amount of attention is important to me.
Depends on the kind of clingy you're talking about. If it's jealous I can't live with out you, CO dependent, but I will kill you if you have a conversation with the opposite sex, no that's bad, scary even.
If you mean clingy as in affectionate, likes to hear the words I love you a lot, and misses you when you're gone, that's good.
I hate cleaning girls. I can't take one step without someone clinging on to me saying ow that hurt don't hit me don't kick me don't push me. I'm not doing any of those. I'm trying to move and she's simply just attached. Seriously, give me some breathing space.
Clingy like demanding good morning texts every morning and constant attention all day even though I'm at work is annoying af. If she's clingy as in wanting to come over all the time and respects my time and space that's acceptable.
yes. absolutely yes... we like women that have their shit together enough to stand on their own two feet. not saying we don't like girls that are snuggly of course but clingy? God no
Everything's good in moderation, evem clinginess. If she's so clingy that i am literally her life, that's too much. If it's just clingy whenever we happen to be together or around other girls, that would be fine, maybe even kinda cute
Many men do because they appear desperate. Men like women who have more self confidence and not trying to depend on him a lot.
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Anonymous
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To be honest they like to believe they don’t want clingy girls but the moment they realise their girl is too independent, they want them to turn into clingy ones!
Yup. I love gals that really want to be with me, but I feel suffocated when they resent time I take for myself or my other friends. That level of possessiveness is a big red flag foe me
Well depends some are like very clingy to the point where I don't text that second she swears I don't love her but other than that I love feeling the same affection
Your update.. Why diss GaGs website. I’m sure they are good people. And your other thing.. I’m sure someone will be one sided like that. Me personally? ... Like mutual love where you are both giving and receiving like equally.
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