Is he just messing with my head? How come he wasn't this way before??

[Anonymous]

OK well I was seeing this guy, kinda open relationship, or friends with benefits but we did more than just sex. Well my dumb ass ended up telling him I loved him.. Which I do, it hurts to think about how I can't have him. He has always been kinda distant because he was hurt by his only wife of 6 years, she cheated, now he don't trust anyone it seems. Well I have never got him to tell me he loved me back, he was always just good to me, kissed me on my hand and tells me he appreciates me, and my shoulder, just an all around great guy.. Well the only thing is he seems reserved! and after loving him this whole past year I'm trying to move on because I really don't think I could go through that much pain, I'm trying to bring it down to a friends level... so I don't get hurt.. so I basically get back with my ex husband and trying to fix my marriage with him, all the sudden I tell the other guy and now he is like saying stuff to me like "be careful dear" "If I wasn't working sweetie I would love to be spending my time with you" or If I tell him somewhere I am at he always says "I wish our schedules weren't opposite, I really miss you" ummm you guys! this dude has never been like this, so since he knows I love him to death is he messing with me because he knows I love him? is this just a head game? I have never known him to play head games.. he is a very serious person, but always the funnest to be around. I love him and we have everything in common but how come at the point I'm telling him I love him he had nothing to say, and now that my attention is for my husband he is saying all this stuff to me? is it just a tease? does he maybe love me and trying to express it before its too late? I'm really lost, he seems so different, I like it, but how come he wasn't this way before? by the way don't point fingers, my husband used to drink heavily and we had a lot of domestics and I figured one more chance for him... basically trying to make myself love my husband again, this other guy has really got me bad!

Messing with your head!

He loves you and doesn't want to let you go now that its almost too late...

Like the quote "I loved you now, When you love me, I won't love you back, it will be too late..."

I dont' know!

"When I needed you, You didn't need me, when I wanted you, You didn't want me, I loved you, you didn't love me, Now when you love me, I won't love you back, it will be too late...."

[beemad]

you know when we love someone often we feel like there are things that don't need to be said because we show it. for instance if someone said they liked to be around you most people would think of course you do because you are always trying to spend time with me.

so I think now he sees you getting back with your ex and he probably thinks he didn't make himself clear. he probably feels like there was a misunderstanding and now instead of just trying to "show" you how he feels he's trying to "verbalize" how he feels so that there isn't a misunderstanding. I think he has some feelings for you I think his mistrust has kept him from wanting to fully commit to you because he doesn't want to get hurt again but I think he probably really likes you and wants you to know and wants to make sure you know

[BizzEMuch]

It sounds more like "filler" comments rather than comments with genuine "I need to tell her how I feel" meaning

[Asker]

Well its just hard to explain... on here anyways, its a lot deeper than that, this guy is so different, He is so full of life, I literally can't find one thing I don't like about him, he is always calling me beautiful, and always tells me "My baby girl" I do get what your saying by a filler comment, but there was nothing to fill in.. he asked I said "walmart" and he replies like that, plus the way he says it, its so different. I guess its all a little wierd, I feel he is way too good for me, for

[Asker]

one, he has always dated really pretty girls. He ditches work just to come see me even for an hour, and even meaning he could lose his job. I ask him why and he said "It's worth the risk"... I don't know anyways.. I'm just lost! your really pretty by the way you remind me of my bestie Ellie! Haha I just better stop thinking about this, its just I have this guy in my house.. my daughters dad, and I just don't feel the same about him, I can't even hug him really... its like I don't know him..

[BizzEMuch]

oo ya then it definitely sounds like he likes you! And your daughters Dad should not get in the way of it. Don't let him jeopardize your right to happiness. You have to help him trust again, but definitely don't be with your husband while you try to connect with this guy. It sounds like it'll be worth it in the end because he sounds like a really great guy

& Thanks for the compliment :)

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

I don't really think he's playing games with you. Maybe he just wasn't ready to say it again and still isn't after being hurt so badly by his ex. I'd say keep giving him time cause I think he does love you. The only reason he'd "mess with your head" is to keep a f*** buddy (you never shoulda let that happen anyways tbh), but if he's really a great guy he wouldn't do that anyways. Hard to say without truly knowing him though. But from what you've told use he doesn't wanna let you go now that he sees you trying to move on.

And wtf, why are you married AND divorced at such a young age? O.o or is the age a lie with this topic? hmmm...

And it seems everything is being put into sexuality these days. It's something screwy with the site.

[Asker]

Haha sorry bout that.. Ya I been living on my own since I was 16. Was preggo by my husband at 17, wanted to move to Texas to have my daughter thier but got married because I didn't have a gaurdian in Texas to sign papers.. that is like the only way I could get emancipated early.. kinda a lame reason but ya, I'm 20 by the way :) and I am not divorced, its a LONG story how this all happend! after I had my daughter in Texas, my husband quit a 22 an hour job they gave him, took his money and left me with a

[Asker]

3 week old baby.. I stayed in Texas about another month and got sad and missed him and ended up going back to the state where we now live :) Well I get back and hear he cheated on me, he lied about it a whole year.. until one day I went and met up with the other guy I have known 7 years. and it started out him kissing me and I pushed him back saying no I can't cheat an next thing I know, I was kissing on him, it was just in the moment I guess, and I went home the next day told my husband I didn't

[Asker]

want to be with him anymore, IN ALL HONESTY, him cheating on me, with WHO he did, ruined our sex life, I used to love sex, now we don't even do it maybe once a month, it destroyed us!

[Asker]

Oh and my daughter is now two :) and this other guy isn't doing for a fwb... He is like amazing, probably could get it anywhere if he wanted.. He just seems different and these girls saying its head games? Not at all! He hates drama, and tries to avoid it, also I left him last Oct. and he was dating this girl in Dec-Jan... Well... he broke it off with her for calling me 19 year old trash.. about in Jan but I turned 20 just this March so yeah I don't know its all confusing

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Wow :\ your husband is a d*** and should lose his balls. I see though, hmm... still, I don't think the guy is playing head games. I think he really likes you, but not sure what to do since he too has been screwed over. At least you two can console each other and understand each others' pains so that's a thing to relate to (and you say you have so much in common so ya). I think he likes you and is starting to realize it even more.

[cerse]

maybe he does wanna be with you but he needs more time a lot more think about it six years then your wife cheats I bet he thought he new her that's gotta suck so he probley need more time he probley wants to but isn't sure I meen how do you know you can trust someone after something like that happens as far as you going back to you ex when you love this guy that's a bad idea that's not far for you or your ex if I found out my wife came back to me only because she thought the guy she loved didn't want her I would kill her for real.