Am I over reacting for getting mad at my boyfriend for liking/commenting on a girls pictures?

[Anonymous]

I have been dating this guy for almost 7 months and everything was fine until I was scrolling on instagram and a girls profile that he followed popped up in which I clicked on for fun. As I was looking at her pictures I find my boyfriend leaving comments such as "love it", 🙌🏻 And even a comment going back a year ago with a smiley heart emoji 😍 And heart emojis ❤️ Along with a lot of likes all of these commented on while we were together. This bothered me a lot because I remeber him saying that she was his coworker with a "nice ass" because she works out a lot in which she does. I had no problem with that comment. What got me is that these pictures are her in workout bras and she's almost naked, I know he also likes ass so that didn't help. I confronted him about it and he replied "I don't even talk to her anymore tbh" and that he does that with close friends. He brought in other lady friends he compliments, and that it means nothing, he said he was sorry for upsetting me and that if it bothered me he would stop. A few hours later I looked on the girls insta profile again and found that he has unfollowed her and that her account is now private. What does this mean? Did he talk to her? Anyway, I have never been jealous of insecure like this but this commenting just doesn't feel right. Am I over reacting? Are my feelings valid? I even asked him how would he feel if I was commenting on other guys pictures like that and he said that he wouldn't care, as long as he knows nothings happening. (Like what)

[cavmanier]

It's socially acceptable internet flirting. I think your instinct is normal. People accept this because it's been normalized. Girls want the attention on their photos and guys want to flirt with them.

He stopped doing it and unfollowed her because he got in trouble with you only, but realistically guys are generally not that faithful if they can get away with it based on my observation.

Yes it sounds like he told her what happened and so she meet her profile private so you can't see.

I think your feelings are valid but many many people I want this to be normal behavior so they're going to act like you're crazy.

"I even asked him how would he feel if I was commenting on other guys pictures like that and he said that he wouldn't care, as long as he knows nothings happening. (Like what)"
I'll translate that for you. He really does care but he knows if he tells you then he's going to look dumb and he won't be able to flirt with other girls. Guys are great with intimacy huh? He sure does love only you 🙄 The reality is many people enjoy the idea of being with other people in relationships. We see proof of this with how common cheating is. Him flirting like that is exciting and it might even lead to another partner on the side if he's really lucky.

[Anonymous]

Your feelings are valid, but he's probably just in the habit of commenting on things like that, and means nothing by it. The important thing is communication. When he does something that bothers you, tell him that it bothers you, don't bottle it up for later.

[devilish-cutie]

You didn't overreact, but he unfollowed her and thats fine. He may say he is fine with you commenting on other guys like that but if youd really do that he might not feel as he thinks now.

[Kindofweird]

Sorry but you're overreacting... it's good to keep on check on your boyfriend but little flirting isn't dangerous

[msss98]

I wouldn't be to happy but also wouldn't look to much into it

[LoU_Hades]

I think he wants to make you jealous