Why don’t a lot of guys think plus size girls are attractive?

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backinblack22 · Accepted Answer

There is a small segment of men who are into bbw women but they are the exception not the rule.

It really comes to men subconsciously see big girls as infertile and less healthy (there is science to backup that big girls have a harder time getting pregnant). That’s not that we want to get your pregnant but that’s the real drive behind sexual attraction for both sexes. This also goes for why men are more attracted to younger women. They are more fertile.

Now imagine you are beautiful in your own right. You want a relationship and intimacy. You might be genetically heavier which is tough. So you really have two choices: find the smaller segment of guys who are into BBW girls or get leaner. Sounds harsh but attraction is not a choice.

I say this being a genuine “nice guy” by the way. This has been a huge impediment in my dating life. Women subconsciously see nice guys as weak and not able to defend them and then baby. It’s not turn AT ALL and very unfair but that’s how it is. I had to accept that painful reality.

I did learn to change some habits to make myself more challenging. However I had to come to the same conclusion: painfully search for a minority of girls who truly respect/like nice guy or make changes to be less nice.

akihon · Accepted Answer

You're wrong, lots of guys think women are attractive regardless not their size, what we don't like is being demonized for liking what we like, we don't like being cast as the bad guy because we don't want to date a 350lb land whale with no sense of self discipline while we are expected to work out regularly, be over six feet and sport a six pack. What we don't like is being told that we are wrong for saying be so overweight is actually killing you, but if we put on a few pounds you're justified in saying that you don't find us attractive anymore.

CubsterShura · Accepted Answer

It's because we live in a world where carrying some extra weight has a lot of negative connotations, it is associated with a couch potato lifestyle and someone's lack of care and responsibility for themselves, so. it kind of implies that someone who is incapable of keeping themselves healthy and fit are also incapable of being responsible for the health of their kids in the future, and given that many diseases like CVDs it might mean the medical bills will be very high in the future, I've unfortunately seen many deaths from unhealthy lifestyle choices.

In other places of the world, it is associated with being resourceful, it means you can afford food and you don't have to do a lot of physical work... Especially if you're a woman it means that your husband is affluent enough to provide for you and probably spend on machine/laborers so that you don't have to do a lot of hard work yourself. You're being taken care of.

It's not being plus size itself that's the problem. Usually it's things associated with being plus size that matters.

Can_I_Get_a_Do-Over · Accepted Answer

A lot of guys do and a lot of guys don’t. Young guys might not have the strength of character to openly date a thick women because of peer pressure, but as boys become men, most develop fortitude to resist that pressure. It’s the media that spreads whatever their agenda is. Healthy is what’s attractive to men and women. Not one extreme or the other and there’s a big range for everyone’s tastes. It’s ok to prefer a certain body type or attributes in a partner. Younger models can be plus size models because their youth still gives them firmer, elastic skin, like the woman pictured in this post. She is curvy and hour glass shaped, but 5 pounds more and it all starts to go south.

Finchie40 · Answer

The same reason a lot of girls don’t think plus size guys are attractive , I blame a lot of it on social media filling our heads with nonsense about how this is the way you need to look , you need to exercise and and be fit and healthy , buy are products , buy these clothes etc. It’s all a money making pitch but the reality of it is we are who we are , if you are comfortable in your own skin then that’s all that matters , if your not comfortable in your own skin then only you can change that , you don’t need to answer to no one it’s your life be who you are don’t let social media control your life if someone doesn’t like you because you are overweight or your too skinny then that’s their problem surround yourself with the people that respect you and move on from the ones that don’t , all we can do is treat people the same way we want to be treated

Sarahr123 · Answer

The girls you posted aren’t plus size. Their photos are also photoshopped and chubby people don’t actually look like that in reality. Most men are attracted to thin women and daintiness is just so feminine. I guess that’s why modelling agencies require certain measurements, because that’s what makes clothes look so good and when you look amazing in whatever you wear you will look drop dead gorgeous even in a dustbin bag. The women in those pics don’t have double chins or fat faces which isn’t the case with most big women. Most of the time when you hold extra weight then it will be everywhere, even in your face. That doesn’t look very attractive.

SocialNinja · Answer

These photos just look like a normal size (beautiful) woman to me.

I cannot speak for men, but when I am looking for a partner health is a factor.

If I see a man who looks unhealthy to me then I am less likely to be interested. I would like a partner who has a passion for healthy living, someone who takes care of himself.

There is a society aspect too. For years men and women have been told that really thin and toned or ripped is the only way to be and what is beautiful.

Things are changing though. Hopefully we can find a balance between natural body acceptance and healthy living. ♥️

LizzyHale · Answer

Umm just a wild guess... because it’s genetically wired in most men’s brain to want a women that is HEALTHY for bearing children wether they know it or not. Overweight women are put at a WAY higher risk of so many different child informalities if they get pregnant. It’s nothing to normalize, we should be promoting being healthy and keeping our hearts healthy not promoting eating junk food!!

silvermoon84 · Answer

Actually there are a lot who would date plus size. I’m 5’6”, 216 lbs, so I’m definitely considered obese (hate that term but I might as well call it as it is). I still get men trying to hit me up, so I’m living proof. Then again I’m no where near as big as Tess Holliday.

With that being said, I think health issues play a big part of why a lot of men aren’t attracted to bbws. They want someone to grow old with and obesity lowers the life span. All women are beautiful. I lost 40 pounds. I’m still trying to lose more weight.

mrfoox · Answer

All those ladies got a sexy body and nice face, don't really think they're that plus size... And I like bigger women and men. I'm bigger myself and have attracted surprisingly many thin guys and gals.
So there are plenty who like such shapes. Just that the general public don't approve of it and will usually show their disapproval. When you're comfortable in your tastes it becomes a lot easier to date in my opinion
Also i usually go out with guys around 25+ because they are more openly attractive to me, and will appreciate my body. Younger ones tend to feel shame to show interest or be seen with someone bigger, especially if they aren't

Redbluewhite · Answer

I like plus size girls and models, but I was never a fan of Ashley Graham. Her face just seems off to me I don't know why. Tabria Majors is way hotter in my opinion, she has a nicer face and a hotter body.

Nik1hil · Answer

Physical attraction is something that is based on instinct...
Instincts cannot be controlled..
If you force someone to admit they like plus size girls..
Than the GUY will SIMPLY lie saying he likes Plus size..

Basically being fat isn't healthy...
It brings many physical negative condition..
You can force a few men to lie..
But the real Madness of man swarming at your door..
Waiting for your glimpse at balcony will only happen if you are actually in right dimensions

MrMilti · Answer

Because "plus size" is getting butchered by most overweight women.

There are plus-size women, who are really attractive, but when a woman describes herself as "plus sized", most of the time they just do not want to admit, that they are just obese, because feelings.

I am a fat guy. I know I am obese. And you dont see me, running around whiny, claiming I am "plus size". Because I am not, I am just fat. And did you notice, that there is no "body positivity" movement for men?

So if a woman is really "plus size", that is fine. But don't call yourself like that, when you are just overweight or obese and nobody likes how you look.

Account2 · Answer

Same reason a lot of girls don't think plus sized guys are attractive. It just doesn't look as good to most people, regardless of either gender. Doesn't mean they're ugly, because ugly and fat aren't the same thing, but typically people are more attracted to others who are a normal weight. Not plus. Not less. It just looks better in general.

PeterMurphy · Answer

If I could find a way to harness the level of stupid on this site, I could power the city of New York for a decade.
Four pics of supermodels were presented in this question, and the level of total bullshit criticism is mind boggling.
So suddenly all the desperate guys on this site that cry endllessly about wanting to get laid, are now critics of these gorgeousl women! LMAO. Really? Those women aren't better than your right hand?

And the women here are no better. Why are you tards talking about health issues, when the question was about attractiveness? I would bet that those women wouldn't give the time of day to anyone on this site.

But those women aren't plus sizes at all. But that doesn't stop the pathetic keyboard GAG studs from strutting their stuff and talking smack.

There are actual plus size women who are beautiful people, and guys love them. But I guess not in this autistic dreamworld of a site.

jgirl99 · Answer

Because fat is ugly and unhealthy, it depends on how "big" you are tho as far as health wise, cause I'm 190lbs 5'3 d breasts and a thick ass and thighs and my doctor says I'm in perfect health. So I guess it depends on ur body type cause some people are naturally a little bigger, but there's curvy and plus size, they theirs morbidly obese u know what i mean?

Shuri · Answer

Societal standards, but a lot of plus size people (men and women) don’t really dress appropriately for their size, which makes them look less attractive anyway. Like the red bikini photo you posted looks terrible on that model. It doesn’t fit and makes her look larger than what she probably is just because it’s too damn small. The pose doesn’t do her justice, either. Sometimes it’s more about how you carry yourself than your actual size.

Aj619 · Answer

There's a difference in endomorphic women. (Which is what's shown) and obese women. I would say men like women who have curves truth is I've never seen a traditional super model I ever found attractive. Truth is there all kinda ugly and way too skinny.

Dashee · Answer

Because of our natural instincts, people are easier attracted to others with an average weight. Both too skinny and "plus-size" are signs of an unhealthy body, so most people tend to find them less attractive. The reason why people like women with small waists and stomachs is because our brain basically tells us, "she's not pregnant (yet)!"

Troupe · Answer

ROFL. Those are the fit looking plus sized models. Try posting pictures of Tess Holliday and seeing what sort of responses you get. Tess is the typical plus sized sort of girl who doesn't get a lot of attention. Nor, for that matter, would men of such large size attract a lot of attention.

The girls you posted get as much - or sometimes more depending on where - attention than slim women from guys. A large number of men actually like a woman with curves and who doesn't look like someone half starved.

Take it from a fit "plus sized" gal much like these ones you posted. I don't lack in men complimenting my features, flirting, etc.

SjE78 · Answer

a lot of guys do, but there are those in certain areas who can't see past the size of a woman and get to know them... and this can be more or less common depending on your location but personally I prefer a bit of meat on the girl rather than someone who looks like they are gonna break even if i sneazed in her general direction

yussi96 · Answer

Well it depends what you understand under “plus-size “ because being 10-20 kilograms overweight is nothing abnormal and for most man it’s still very attractive. It’s just that sometimes i see girls that are like 150kilogram or more and they call themselves plus-size but in reality it’s just obesity.

Humans are (for the most part) attracted to helth (helthy looks) so its better to be 10 kilograms more than being 10 Kilograms underweight.

Anyway the girl in the pictures that you posted is very attractive for me. Sorry i am not good in grammar.

AaronKrieger · Answer

I've found plus size girls quite attractive before, but if they're to the point they're unhealthy, then I'm not interested. Really if you want to attract people just be healthy, take care of your appearance fashion wise, and just be a good and fun person to talk to. Body type doesn't matter too much to me as long as they're healthy.

Matthew2222 · Answer

I would argue that a lot of guys do. Men are biologically programmed to like bigger women, which is why for most of human history bigger women were more desirable. The issue is social pressure which makes it taboo to like a bigger girl.

Ripper_E · Answer

Ashley Graham is #1 Erica Lauren Denise Bidot

MorticiAddams · Answer

Can I tell you a secret? A LOT more men find plus size women attractive than will ever admit it in a venue where other men may see, because of the social pressure to perform sexuality in ways they can use to compete with other men!

Gunnar1978 · Answer

Because different people find different things attractive. The girl on the pics is attractive to me but we all know that not every plus size girl looks like her...

Mroz75 · Answer

Every one in this world have some type they most like, so it depends on every single person... so you can't really tell if everyone likes it or don't likes it.
Moreover If one person won't find you sexy, thousands would! Never let one person make you insecure.

lernulo · Answer

I like the girls on the photos, and I know many men who likes plus size women, question is... Do you like plus size men?
I'm not, but most plus size men I have found see it as normal and they don't give that issue so great importance, so, have you ever tried to talk with them?

Tommy2017 · Answer

Because it takes a lot of work to successfully have sex with such women.
I had to give up on a plus size girl myself I was trying to fuck because I just couldn't find her vagina. Her ass and breasts were huge. I just gave up during foreplay. Too much work.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Physical attraction is not something that we think about and then make a decision. Do you think that guys need to justify their lack of attraction? And if you don't like their explanation, then what?

Anonymous · Answer

Same reason women don't of guys lol. But for me personally, they can be, it just depends on the person (more to her than that). Also for me how attractive her face is. But I've been attracted to all sizes before. But there's also the health side of it. One of my ex's was a little overweight, and appearance wise as far as attraction, it didn't bother me at all, but I was concerned about her weight for her health.

FrenchyRomain · Answer

what's attractive about being fat?
why are WOMEN plus size models on the front page but MALE plus size models are nowhere to be found (i'm thinking feminists and their pressure on every media outlet in the USA)

ZackBan · Answer

It depends on how many pluses actually. I prefer a woman with a full figure even sometimes one that others might consider a little fat but I'd be turned off by an obese one who can hardly get out of a chair

mfsbtrippin · Answer

there are plenty of men who like plus sized girls. plus, females with fatter asses make smarter babies because there's more fat to help with brain development and making connections :).

mixedforever29 · Answer

be surprised how many actually do but don’t wanna get judged by their bro’s... that’s the #1 conflict... #2 just goes down to preference tbh... and what u like and don’t like

Anonymous · Answer

They don't want to disappoint what society expects them to go after which is the ideal female based on what media defines that to be. So, they talk down to plus size girls that more of them would've put in their pool of dating choices if society a. k. a the media or "daddy" didn't shun it.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

i knew this smoking hot girl about 5 years ago. she's plus-sized (or what i consider) now and i have zero interest.  why do people think obesity is attractive?

taleets · Answer

She is better looking for a plus size girl. Not every plus size girl looks like that

BlankBlank · Answer

The reason is , in my opinion, most men usually find woman who are capable of maintaining a healthy body as stronger willed making them more attractive

+Evolutionarily speaking women with healthier bodies probably have "better" genes, aren't likely to have many diseases, making them naturally more attractive than girls who have higher or lower body fat.

Nolove09 · Answer

Some feel like they aren’t pretty enough or would be looked at a certain way for being around them at one point it was me in life but now that I know my type of girl that probably would give me a chance I just learned to stay in my league with social groups and females and hopefully I won’t have to deal with alott more rejection then I already have I just understand now my preferences of females were a little to heigh so.

Adam1978 · Answer

Neither of these girls are plus sized. They all look to fit into the normal size range. Plus size is what people who is really fat call themselves neither of these are fat but neither are slim either.

Laozi · Answer

Because they are light minded people. Size don't matter to me. Personality do. And all girls are beautiful and attractive. You're as attractive as you think. So don't worry about what others think of you. Just enjoy the life and good company.

lovedejj_xo · Answer

A lot of guys actually like plus size Depends who you run into

normalice · Answer

Same sort of reason a lot of girls don't think homeless men are attractive.

GirlThatDraws · Answer

Its really just a matter of preferences. Not all plus sized women are unattractive but its not some men's cup of tea

Anonymous · Answer

lol oh my God... another lying woman claiming that men are the shallow ones... SHE'S IN THE PAGES OF SI, YOU BRAINLESS COW!!!

Now the obvious truth is YOU hate overweight men and are trying to project that on to men.

Why don’t a lot of guys think plus size girls are attractive?

In women's minds, men are assholes when they reject a 5-foot 280lb woman but women (even the 280lb landmass) believe it's fine to reject and ridicule a 6'6" 280lb guy

InfobotsMom · Answer

Many aren't, that's why. Everyone has different tastes.

madgoat · Answer

'Plus size' according to the fashion industry covers most adult females, and in any case, I don't believe your premise. Look around you. Most women find themselves a guy whatever their size.

Lliam · Answer

I just don't care for gigantic asses and thunder thighs. It's just a matter of personal taste. I can't speak for others.

JinCrocker · Answer

Can't help you much because I have always found curvy girls attractive. Plus their clothes fit me better!

JimmyQ · Answer

They may be pretty, but they come with a lot of health issues and who wants to feed a bunch of fat, stupid kids.  They are just not good family building stock.

jspl90 · Answer

Depends on what you mean by plus size these pics to me just look like normal hot women but if you meant like tess holliday then yeah thats too big for me🤔

cheapshotbob · Answer

i do but there negative and treat you like trash unless your some skinny looking guy so i dont bother with them if there gonna be jerks

Anonymous · Answer

I like women who are physically smaller than myself. I'm a bit overweight but I'm shorter than average for a guy. If I was 6 feet tall and 250 pounds, I probably would be very attracted to the women in these pictures.

FakeName123 · Answer

Because all normal humans are attracted to health. Being obese isn't usually healthy.

Raggdoll · Answer

Depends on how plus size she is Whats attractive about a girl who can barely stand and take up all the space in a car

Reaperbot666 · Answer

I like plus size girls. so long as there generally health otherwise. and enjoy how there body looks and feels.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

No one is entitled to be liked. It happens, or it doesn't. There is no 'why' in an individual perception of someone being attractive.

nathanp97 · Answer

Because they aren't as attractive😂. I don't find that girl on the pictures nearly as attractive as other models.

ecfresh · Answer

For the same reasons that women don’t find overweight men attractive.

Shiver · Answer

Lots of guys do.  I personally have no strong preferences in general. As long as she's not a skeleton or has like 50% body fat I'm fine.

Browneye57 · Answer

Uhm... that's not really 'plus size'. That's just fat. Nobody likes fat. Well, unless you're fat yourself. They like them just fine.

The6ix · Answer

Ashley Graham is beautiful the way she is. I’m not a picky guy. If I’m attractive to a girl, if she can hold down a convo, has her head on straight then and she’s fun to be around.

Why don’t a lot of guys think plus size girls are attractive?

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