I want to start with clarifying if you mean intorvert or instead mean someone with social anxiety. Two different things though typically people with social anxiety are introverts but not all introverts have social anxiety. You have to talk and get to know what their motivation or lack thereof is...
So if I guy is an introvert then typically he prefers smaller social circles (as in his close friends) and regains his energy from being alone or with very few people in closer intimate settings. You date him and he will more then likely prefer a night in then a night out.
Now a socially anxious introvert is a whole different beast. They are anxious about group settings, introverts are again are not. So a socially awkward introvert will be anxious or. afraid about group settings because they fear social rejection more then those without social anxiety.
Ok, so be it, now what?
Well your question, in all honesty, I do not think introversion has anything to do with whether or not he cares if a woman approaches him or not.
As I usually say regarding these questions, if HE hasn't approached you, he is either shy, unsure or he doesn't like you or see potential in you.
Now that sounds horrible! Actually NO, only the last part is undesirable. If he doesn't like you, he doesn't like you. Ok, welcome to life.
However, the other two options give you a real chance at forming a romance.
If he is shy, then YOU need to take matters into your own hands and put your big girl pants on and approach him! Sounds mean, yes, it is supposed to motivate you to do something.
Now. second option, he is. unsure that you like him, we'll same deal put your big girl pants on and go talk to. him and let him know you are interested.
People are all unique. Woman however may constantly miss the chance at real happiness and love and romance because they (some men too) give up opportunities because it doesn't follow their family or friends or societies 'ideal' setup.
The ideal setup is the guy does all the work. Yes I just said that, and it angers me.
Woman and some men get upset because no one approaches them but then they never take the time to approach anyone... bit ironic and hypocritical eh?
Now I went on a rant, but..
Tldr: it doesn't matter if introverts like to be approached, take matters in your own hands and go get what you want and YOU approach him. That will let you know if he is interested... otherwise you will always wonder if he liked you, but you never asked, so you will never know...
Is he openly not interested in you? Have you talked to him?
I was born and have been raised in the USA, so I apologize for my ignorance regarding where you are from or if there are different cultural norms where you live.
I can only provide my perspective which may be vastly different than what is "ok" where you live.
We don’t meet each other often. So we just texting. Everyday i alway texting first and be so excited in conversation or make a calls to him.
But lately , i want the same energy that same i gave. But he just ignore it. He never ask why i reply like warm and short to him. He never make a call at all.
Depends, introverts aren't the same. Extroverts feel energized when they are surrounded by people, where as introverts feel like they spend or waste energy when they interact with other people. Even if you approached an introvert it wouldn't make it easier on him unless he has a social anxiety disorder which prevents him from approaching people. With that said, introverts aren't necessarily shy, some introverts are shy, but not all, many introverts feel completely fine approaching others, they just feel like socializing tires them out, so they are picky with how they socialize. Most introverts dislike small talk, because it is a waste of energy, it tires them out and it accomplishes nothing, they want to talk about something they find interesting, or discuss something with someone they respect. They will often get straight to the point unless it is a topic they enjoy, because it tires them out, so they don't want to waste time talking about the weather or how their morning was.
I am an introvert and i can tell you something... 1. We feel awkward in big groups 2. Only keep 1 or 2 friends 3. We may look like we don't wanna talk but actually we feel good when someone talks. 4. When asked about something.. we always try to avoid that thing by saying something silly or just asking a random question. 5. We want people to come to us and talk to but when we are in a group... We feel somehow lonely. 6. We take a long time to trust others and to shorten that time... Other person has to take a step further and tell us about his insecurities because we feel like everyone will get to know about our feelings so... We keep it in ourselves
If you can understand this then surely you would be a great help to him and also it is in my point of view because i feel like this everyday.
Wahh thank you. But sometimes i just feel tired. I do like him but simple things make me feel like i am not good enough for him perhaps. Again thank you 😊
We are like this and don't worry about it... We actually feel good to have someone right at our back and we don't show it on our face but we actually love it
i dont know, a bit of both... if a girl jus straight up approach and talk to me... im not sure its gonna really lead to anything cos i jus have very low self esteem and too scared to even show i like her back, but i mean... sure if u wanna approach him go ahead, it is a nice compliment to us, like someone wants us for a change, that feeling of being desired is very nice,
but i will never approach a girl myself so... nothing will happen that way... but its a little more likely for something to happen if u approach him first... but i think it all depends on if the introvert in question has any self esteem... a introvert who has high self esteem... if u approach him first... u might get something out of it and be able to date him... but me... whenevr girls approached me nothing happened... jus a small little talk and that was it.. cos my low self esteem... so it all depends on the guy.
i say approach him, its better to try and fail than not try at all
Im introverted from experience.. as in I stopped putting trust in others to just have good intentions and always imagine there's some ulterior motives because of past events. It has saved me from heartbreak. The 3 biggest relationships I've had have been with people who were friends before we felt a real connection. An introverted guy will hide his emotions but if you open up he'll be honest with you. Just don't expect an introvert to make the first move though
I push those away i love because I'm scared of getting hurt. He could be the same. Give it time there's no point stressing over what you can't control. If you're really taking it hard just meet him and explain everything, even in a letter. But in person
Personally, it just means I prefer to have deeper conversations getting to know a few people, rather than forming a bunch of surface level connections. I would like more women to approach me, but that does not mean I'll be attracted to all who do. Though the act itself is attractive
I don't really enjoy talking about work either. That's considered small talk in my opinion. Maybe ask more personal questions, he might find those more interesting
I know for some people it's too soon, that's usually the problem I run into. I would like it though, I'm very open and honest and I really enjoy discussing complex ideas
I love communication, but I still struggle with forming new relationships/friends. When I spend an entire day talking to new people, I feel drained and want to be alone. When I'm with a close friend or girlfriend, I can spend lots of time with them and rarely get tired.
Things that exhaust you can still be enjoyable, like working out.
I've been single over a year now. Been spending some time on my career
Introverted guys still have standards and personality preferences and such, so simply approaching them is by no means a guarantee of success, but it's much more likely to produce some kind of result than waiting on them to move.
It has nothing to do with gender. Introvert isn't antisocial, so yeah, if a guy even mildly likes a girl he'd be happy to interact with her, though bear in mind they find it very, very difficult to communicate and might seem awkward. You'll have to help lead the conversation and make them feel at ease with you.
Id wanna be approached if she’s interesting and cool, happened before mostly when I was younger and looked less scary, I never asked for numbers tho... my goofy mistake, I always get caught up in the moment and forget social norms and expectations. Probs why I dont start conversations
Being an introvert is like waiting your entire life for something great to happen, while you miss everything great which already happened to you. by the way what Sparsh9971 said is true.
Most women seem to be able to gauge a guy's level of interest. If he is paying no attention then he may think you are out of his league, or he might be gay.
I think introverts are not social enough to to approach or even talk to them cuz I'm one of them but I managed to approach girls now that's because of #teachingmensfasion #josezuniga 😎 Thanks to him.
Then we have an issue. She can drop me a note; a "love letter", then I'll approach her gently. I need to be certain that my investment of social energy will be rewarded. I don't flirt, I don't pick-up women, I respect their privacy. However, if they flirt, then I do flirt back.
Make him feel comfortable around you. You are right but ultimately he has to choose to leave his shell. You can try to convince him. I know started trying to change after I lost two females that liked me, but I took to long and I was shy. Probably be married by now. But both found other people and are probably married with kids.
@R3DthatDude I know the feeling, a couple girls would flirt with me at my old job I was also shocked someone was showing interest in me, and wasn't confident enough to make a move or even flirt back.
Shyness doesn't really have to do with being on the introverted side of the scale.
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Introverts generally are just uncomfortable with approaching people, but if you make the first move, they will likely respond just like anyone else would
You're so sweet and I am an ambivert (more on the extrovert side). Tho I was once an introvert and I can say that they like being approached by girls because they are scared little shits. Do you wanna talk?
Because it ensures the highest chance of survival of the potentional offspring, meaning that it will increase their chance of finding a potentional mate if they're good looking. It's just nature.
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