I still favor it and it works out well enough for me, but I think it helps to do it with a sufficiently dominant flare. There's a way to go about these things that can give off eager vibes like a "servant" and another way which is more cool and detached which gives off vibes like a "protector". Try to do it the latter way to get the best responses. Emphasize the "man" part of "gentleman" and not just the "gentle" part.
If you're genuinely being helpful why does it matter if it's appreciated or not? Keep doing it friend, it's a good thing.
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Attractive 100%. Especially if it's genuine. Some guys feel forced to do this and it's almost like a burden to them, so that negative view is unattractive. If they don't want to do it especially since the equal rights movement, they don't have to. But it's always nice when a guy genuinely enjoys treating a woman like a lady and that would only make him more attractive in my eyes. Don't believe those who say women want ''bad boys''. Any girl that likes those with no manners and respect have no respect for themselves and are usually unstable.
I'm not sure I would consider this chivalry, but basic manners. Getting the door, offering to help with something heavy when they clearly can't manage, giving up your seat for the elderly or a pregnant women. These are basic manners everyone should know.
If you're also including the particular curtesy directed at a woman, I think there are some more obscure things in men's actions. For example, when ordering at a restaurant, my boyfriend would always gesture for me to order first, unless he already knows mine, he always makes sure my journey was safe and walks on the outside of the pavement when it rains. These actions, though small, I do notice, I'm not saying it's mandatory for guys to be like this, I'd much rather, you be the natural you, I just say that it is appreciated. I feel very safe.
No woman will find chivalry offensive unless she’s emotionally disturbed. Even if you go overboard it’s still a safer strategy than being an asshole. The only time I got offended by a guy doing something for me was when I went out with a man who insisted to stir my sugar in my coffee for me while ordering for me without asking what I would like to have, and acted like I’m a feminazi when I told him he’s overzealous.
Seriously, don’t ever listen to the “women like bad boys” bs or to men who teach you that romance and chivalry is dead, they are usually men who don’t know how to get women and then blame anything but themselves.
Be nice and courteous to people, it’ll only benefit you.
I hate chivalry, its staged and fake. Its fine if you help me as you would any other human being cause they need help or you are just being nice/polite. Anything else is sexsist to me cause you only do it cause of my gender. If you push it on me that I must go first, you won't walk through the doors im holding for you etc. that can be extremely annoying and uncomfortable. Sometimes I wanna go last, Im more comfortable that way. Especially if I say please dont, then dont do it. If a girl say please dont, if you already pride ysf into being a gentleman, so isn't it supposed to be her way? So listen to the girl. Plenty of "gentlemens" I know do it only cause it makes them feel good about themselves and dont care how a girl feels.
Sure, I like to think that doing things to maintain group harmony is still appreciated. That could involved things like holding the door open, giving up your seat in public (especially for elderly people), etc..
Chivalry is always nice and it is attractive. As a matter of fact, I was hanging out with a very good friend of mine and when we were going place to place, he would open doors for me and even opened the car door for me to get in first. He offered to hold something for me while I got myself together and went and got my phone out of the car when I needed it. That’s a part of who he is but shows he was raised right. It’s a very admirable trait for someone to have.
I don't see how this could make us more or less attractive. It can make a person like you more or less though. It is more about you and the person you want to be rather than trying to be more liked. If you do it to a person that doesn't like it just remember that there is some issue inside of them making them dislike it. If you wanna be a guy that shows chivalry then be that. If you wanna be a guy that steals purses than be that. I'm not saying chivalry is right or wrong.
I once was chivalrous to a woman and she just told me to get away from her. I wasn't even having an agenda, I just wanted to be nice to all women yet she claimed that she doesn't need a gentleman. But still I'm chivalrous to all women because I didn't let her affect who I am!
It's attractive, I think it's only offensive when people try to enforce it. Like if she's closer to the door or something, just let her open it, no need for the extra fuss. Because when people enforce it, it makes others feel like they're useless or it's bothersome.
If you have the chance to show chivalry, do it, but don't go out of your way to try and be chivalrous.
good manners should never be offensive as i told the feminazi i held a door for once... i let her rant her psuedo political drivvel then pointed out that as a real feminist myself i learned from a young age to hold a door for anyone and that had fuck all to do with ''chivalry''. i wonder if you yourself are also confusing the terms
extremely attractive. Even better if he knows his table manners. oooohmyyyyyy🥵😍😍
It is, is one of my personal standards for a guy. :)
I like to feel protected by my man. It makes me feel like her cares. I don't know if I could date a guy who didn’t ever act chivalrous. Those little things mean a lot. It’s just sweet.
As long as there is no motive behind it, very attractive. I am always appreciative to people (men/women) who shows this to me as I already do it for others. But very attractive when men do it.
Yes yes yes. I always give a thank you to a held door and if a man is holding it, I always give him another glance (checking for a ring and attractiveness/chemistry).
Apparently not. Women like to stong and independent now and do things themselves. Including opening doors. Well if thats true... Then I guess you youreself can also put the toilet seat down for yourself if you want to be an independent woman then... I believe in you. You fot dis.
I do,, haven't seen anyone else do it for quite a while
It's only attractive when the guy doing it is attractive.
If a short, fat, ugly guy holds the door for women, they look at him with pure hate in their eyes. "How dare you exist? How dare you breathe?"
Not offensive, but also not necessarily attractive.
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