I know a guy who follows every single girl he ever talked to even if it was just for a few minutes.
He follows around 600 people and only 50 of them follow him back. The rest of his followers are not real, in other words “FAKE followers” to make the account appear decent.
I really don’t get it what is the point of following all of this people who don’t give a damn about you. Just follow those who follow you back and delete the rest, unless they are celebrities. To me it looks as if someone refused to be around you and you still tried so hard to be. Like wtf have some confidence, lose the desperation.
I rather have 50 followers in total than 600 fake followers AND STILL following 600 girls who refused me.
Why do you guys follow tons of girls who don't follow them back?
In the social media age, a lot of people are obsessed with followers and likes. Having a lot of followers is the social media equivalent of "popularity", even if it's people you don't know and who don't give a shit about you. People will even buy followers, which I can't wrap my head around at all.
So many people, and especially very young people who tend to be insecure anyway, are way too obsessed with what other people think of them and are afraid they'll be thought of as losers if they don't have popularity on social media. I've honestly never understood why anyone would want a bunch of random strangers on their social media, especially just for a higher number of followers and likes just to impress other people.
I don't even use IG or Snap myself, but I strongly suspect that the reason some guys follow tons of girls is not to get follows back, but simply to have a feed of pictures from hot girls. Those guys aren't trying to impress anyone with how many people they're following, they just want pics for themselves.
Anyway, the real question you should be asking yourself is: why in the world do YOU care what other people do with their social media accounts? Surely there are more important things to worry about.
I would assume it's because she has those followers and wants to have a better understanding of whom to communicate with and whom to avoid. That MIGHT be why they call it "social media" LOL
@Yads_Is_Back You're thinking about social media from a woman's perspective. Men don't see it that way. Unless they are on YouTube and getting paid per view or something, men generally don't care about how many followers they have, or any "status" that might give them. They just care about seeing pics of hot girls - the more the better.
Just think about it for a second. The men giving you the attention, are just using whatever pics you post up; they’re not doing anything more beyond that. You’re receiving attention, but I’m certain it’s not the type of attention you want. These men are following loads of other women, so when they’re bored using your pics for their pleasure, they’ll move onto another woman.
They’re just jacking off to your and thousands of other women’s pics lol.
@EmbraceThePain The thing about that... is I can’t stop them. I don’t post provocative photos. Therefore I’m not the one being disrespectful. As far as a guy jerking off to any and every pretty woman he sees, that is absolutely desperate. I have literally had a guy approach me in the parking lot at Walmart and then go jerk off in his car. Also, women for the most part aren’t desperate enough to do this same thing with pretty much any male model we see. So I don’t disagree with what you’re saying, but the fact is still the same: it shows that men are very desperate. Especially when some of us don’t provoke it.
I think a little more is required for these men to be labeled “desperate.” Just following a woman on Instagram doesn’t make a man desperate. If he did other things, like try to contact her, stalk her, make multiple accounts to befriend her, give her money for services, etc. then that can be desperate.
Men are just men, so is it really odd to follow an attractive woman or women? Well, no, because it’s just in the nature of men.
I agree with you that women don’t necessarily do the same thing with attractive guys’ profiles.
@EmbraceThePain Following one woman - or even a few - because you like them is one thing. As somebody else said, that’s just like following a celebrity. It’s somebody you like. But when you follow several hundred just because you want to masturbate to their photos, it’s another story 😂
@Yads_Is_Back I still don’t think that’s necessarily desperate. All you have to do is click on the “follow” button, it’s that easy. If you do more beyond reasonably easy then that might be more desperation.
@EmbraceThePain It’s desperation considering it’s a back-up to getting real sex from a hot girl. It’s pretty desperate, and again I know that because we women aren’t that known for doing it. But okay, whatever you say 😂
It’s not a back up all the time. Men in relationships masturbate to different women almost all the time. Whether or not we have a woman currently, we still masturbate...
@EmbraceThePain It’s ABSOLUTELY disloyalty. If I’m in a relationship with a man and am committed to him, I’m not going to masturbate to a random guy I follow on the internet because I’m sexually committed to my boyfriend
So, every time you’ve masturbated while in a relationship, it was always to the thought of your boyfriend? I can believe that because women’s biology/psychology is different.
Even in a relationship, men still think about other women in a way. Of course, this doesn’t mean too much because it doesn’t mean the man will act on any of his thoughts. It doesn’t mean the man will cheat on his woman.
Ur convo is so awesome ! It shows exactly how i see it too ! It soooo funny that woman still think they don’t do anything to provoke man’s attention when it’s all they do with all the power they have now ! Im in the entertainment business , music actually, and you would be so sad to know what these woman are actually willing to do to record a song ! Im not even sure they care about music , i think they just care about fame...
Followers and accepted follow requests are a substitute of social status. A guy who sends follow request to a random chick knows she will very likely accept his request because her goal is to have as mach as possible followers. It's mutual need satisfaction, he isn't being rejected and she becomes more fame (whatever) in her limited perception. Some people are satisfied with simplest frivolities.
You seriously posted a question about me.. I am following 600 ladies. That's not Fair!..
I just follow ladies because I want their perception.. And ladies don't follow back at least most of them don't.. So it's not my fault.. That women are so selective about whom they follow!..
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Haha you must be joking 😅
But no rlly if they dont follow back take it as a rejection and delete them lol
@Yads_Is_Back desperation would be stalking her and trying to DM and targeting her...
I don't DM any girl that I follow..
Also if a men is desperate it is fault of the women around him.. That no women has accepted him.. Same goes for women.. But most men accept quickly hence.. Less desperate women..
If a guy is following so many women on social media just to look at them because he can't get a pretty girl like that in real life, that's desperation. As for as it being women's fault, you could look at that either way. We aren't that desperate, so we are more picky, which is a good thing. If he doesn't meet the standards we prefer or he isn't at the top of the "alphas" list that's not our fault nor our problem lol
@Yads_Is_Back A guy can follow so many pretty girl to look at them its fun And i am have a very slow snoozy morning!.. Not interested in having a debate or argument to start my day!.. Bye bye..
@lovasucka if me and other men were not generous enough to follow you for no reason, things that would happen.. - we wouldn't be having this conversation in first place.. - so many men wouldn't be responding to your questions.. - instead of 278 you would have 78 followers.. - Girls hardly ever care to answer most questions, it's the Guys who answer here most.. Imagine if you wouldn't have any male opinion.. All your questions would be empty streets. - what we do is a domino's effect.. And shows the effects overtime that women don't notice..
28 men answered your question.. While only 4 women cared to write an answer.. Even though we have 10:10 sex ratio on this website.. Women hardly follow or care..
And then I saw where you posted on another opinion... Lol you just know I'm right so you can't argue it :P so yeah, I should probably sleep too. Goodnight
Why does what someone else does on social media bother you? Anyone with a moderate degree of sophistication knows that 'likes' and 'follows' have minimal social value. The problem is (mostly) girls tend to put WAY too much value on social media.
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I guess this guy does too if he has 600 fake followers 😂
"Why does what someone else does on social media bother you?" I highly doubt it "bothers" her. She's obviously curious because it's not just something "someone else" does, as YOU say, but it's something that "most guys" do. So her curiosity is understandable, since it's not applied to one person but pretty much a whole gender in general.
There is no civilized way to say this but the fact is we wanna look at boobs and asses and girls have a tendency to really involve those 2.. could be that she just likes it but most girls know that she looks sexy af and will attract more guys which in turn gives her the attention she needs through dms and likes and follows.. The idea that they do it for attention is bad in my head especially that when they are called out for it they make us sound like horney barbarians
I agree with you. I'm one of those guys to I think. Have 500 girls added and maybe 1 every 2 months says hi. Or wants to chat I think when adding some one I am always hoping or wishing for the chat the ones I have chatted with and maybe fooled around with online we are still friends and chat if we are ever on at the same time. But your right. Like on here I follow someone and I try to send them a message. But can't because they are not following me. I hate that lol
Each is own I guess If he wants to follpwed by that many
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Yeah but what I’m saying he follows 600 real accounts (girls) but has 600 followers that are fake because this girls don’t follow him back. Why collect all of them? Where is the point. They aren’t even interested.
From my perspective as a guy, it seems easier for women to be confident, because they get so much validation.
So I can relate to that guy, and although your opinion makes sense, I just think it's a lot harder to believe in yourself when most members of the opposite sex treat you with indifference or downright hostility.
On any Social Media , i let a girl make the decision to follow me i will not follow a girl cause i call them kind of guys thirsty guys and my opinion girls need stay away from them kind of guys and that is why lot of them do it , they are thirsty to meet any girl it just makes no sense to me?
I dont even use any apps that need you to follow people or get followed. The app that have these options, I never click on them. Socialising is not my thing
It's not about desperation. Maybe its the pictures we get to see or we like the girl. Even if they are a fake account at least the actress or model they are using is still pretty.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but don't your first two sentences contradict? (except about liking her, that's different) But uh... Having to follow someone online just to see an attractive person, YES that IS desperate, because if you just get a smoking hot girlfriend you don't have that issue. That's why more men follow women than vice versa. I have a hot boyfriend so I don't follow male models lol, so it kinda is desperation :P
@Yads_Is_Back nope they do not contradict. The definition of desperation is a state of despair, typically one which results in rash or extreme behavior. The behaviour exhibited by these guys are often fanaticism or affection. Definition of fanaticism is the quality of being fanatical. And the definition of affection is a gentle feeling of fondness or liking. Versus what is often what teen girls exhibit towards pop stars or boy bands who are often far more extreme. The Behaviours of these young women are often juvenile and often by crush-like emotions or lustful and often infringe the rights of the figure experiencing the attention of a frenzied fanatic.
"The definition of desperation is a state of despair, typically one which results in rash or extreme behavior." Riiiight, also consider these: - "(of a person) having a great need or desire for something." (from Google) - "feeling, showing, or involving a hopeless sense that a situation" (also from Google) - "needing or wanting something very much" (https://dictionary. cambridge. org/us/dictionary/english/desperate) - "feeling that you have no hope and are ready to do anything to change the bad situation you are in" (https://dictionary. cambridge. org/us/dictionary/english/desperate) - "showing extreme courage; especially of actions courageously undertaken in desperation as a last resort" (https://www. vocabulary. com/dictionary/desperate) - "showing extreme urgency or intensity especially because of great need or desire" (https://www. vocabulary. com/dictionary/desperate)
As you can see, it's explainable that the guys following so many women this way for photos is desperate. Also, with the scenario you provided, she is not referring to when a guy is fanatical about a celebrity - let's say a guy is crazy for Salma Hayek so he follows her everywhere on social media. That's different. But when it's hundreds of girls just because they're pretty, then that's another situation - a desperate one. Also consider that women aren't as bad about this as men are. We don't tend to follow a lot of male models. Why? Because our desire and hopelessness isn't that great for it.
Because most if not all girls will accept followers but hardly ever follow back unless you're of status or attractive. They care about their following to follower ratio and its selectively chosen to create a false sense of self worth
It doesn't matter if they follow us back. Guys just like to add hot chicks, it's what we do. Doesn't mean we're trying to date them or be friends. It's the internet.
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