Why am I always the placeholder relationship?

[hsshannah96]

Why am I always the girl the dude keeps around for some interaction and attention and then when then girl he wanted all along and didn’t tell me comes along, he bolts

why is this always the case for me

help :( my life sucks

it’s either that or the dude is a liar and just awful and married and not telling me

or he was homeless and I had to take him in off the streets to date him

Updates

+1 y

Btbc made the decision to deliberately provoke me

And then expect me to be peaceful and pleasant in my response
Hahahahahah LOL

[btbc92]

Because you don't set boundaries and screen out such people. They see you as a doormat and you're being too nice and a people-pleaser. Stop it. You will always be second best that way. And you don't deserve that.

[hsshannah96]

I did screen them out

[hsshannah96]

There is a part of me that knows how they’ll be

But guys don’t ever ask me out so I guess I just didn’t know what it was called before when I pretend I’m in a relationship but I’m not

[hsshannah96]

I am usually very aggressive. so I disagree

[hsshannah96]

How come guys don’t just ask me out the normal way

They never come up to me

I always have to put in an excruciating amount of effort or I’ll not date until I’m infertile

[hsshannah96]

I’m not aggressive if I ask them out 😂 that’s not what I meant

[hsshannah96]

no guy will date me

everybody knows that

[btbc92]

That is being aggressive. Some men domt want to be asked out by women. I knew what you meant. They aren't comfortable. Yeah, because look at how you handle them? I see to do the same with men. Not ask them out. But with the same character. They hate it. They want more passive women as long as she has boundaries. More feminine.

[hsshannah96]

well they also won’t ask us out
HAHAHAHAHAH

[hsshannah96]

They’re worried about the me too movement
We have to ask them out now

[hsshannah96]

I let go when requested and you have made so many assumptions about me

Just stop silly goose 🤣😂😂 holy shit

[hsshannah96]

You sound like a rude cunt. Guys give me mixed messages so I just follow suit

One dude would cuddle me all the damn time
Yet he didn’t want a relationship and he didn’t want sex

So yeah, dudes are idiots

I’m not the problem

Byeeee

[hsshannah96]

I’m not going to be quiet cause someone else asked me to hahahahaha

Literally nobody is in charge of me, a grown adult

[hsshannah96]

You were making accusations about me!!!

Not cool buddy

[hsshannah96]

It isn’t about me it’s about people assuming things about me left and fucking right

Just stop while you’re behind

[hsshannah96]

You made the assumption that I ask dudes out all day every day and not just once or twice

You make an assumption that I don’t constantly feel I need to justify myself ONLY due to people like you
When that’s really the only reason why

I am constantly having to stand up for myself
Constantly
I’m FUCKING TIRED OF IT

But I do it anyway so I’m not a complete doormat

and people online besides me are idiots

and you assumed that I constantly waste time every day doinfnshit to please guys

I don’t give a fuck about men now

They’re a waste of my time

I just have to vent about them a lot

[btbc92]

No I think you're the one who needs to stop while you're ahead. You better double-check and look at yourself because you're being very nasty, very rude, very condescending, and you're stubborn as a bull. You don't want to hear what anybody has to say that you're complaining about why you're single. I don't even think you need advice. I don't even think you need guidance or help at all. I think you know very well why you are single and that is a problem that you need to fix. And it is very much about you. Nobody has to assume anything because you revealing everything that somebody has to stay. It's up to you to change. I can't force you to make that change and nobody else can't. Your attitude is definitely driving others away.

[hsshannah96]

Passive women can never express themselves and that’s fucking suffocating

So fuck off
UGH

[hsshannah96]

You only made a hell ton of assumptions about me

Nothing you said was accurate!

[hsshannah96]

Shut up

Lol

You fucking idiot

I swear

[btbc92]

You're not passive. You're anything but passive. You taking out your issues on other people. Tell me how that's passive? Passive people are meek.

It's very accurate. I'm not making no assumptions you're proving it with every reply you're making. You're proving it right now and you're so blind even see it.

[hsshannah96]

You hardly even have correct grammar bitch

[Anonymous]

That guy is scum, nobody deserves to be rebound. You deserve so much better than that and one day you’ll meet a guy and you’ll become his first choice.👌🏻💯

[hsshannah96]

It isn’t rebound

I found out it’s the girl they have as their girl they enjoy but wouldn’t date until they find who they really want

[Nik1hil]

Meet more guys and wait for some guy to have a crush on you, you are his first choice

[hsshannah96]

No dudes have a crush on me

[hsshannah96]

They never do :(

[Nik1hil]

See, you need to find what kind of look will make you look hot,
Men are visual, no matter how good you are inside, you need to make yourself presentable

[nikviv007]

People are complicated... Don't worry... You'll find someone 😇

[Jmmmfi4]

I can't lie... im currently doing this to someone

[hsshannah96]

Seriously stop

That’s so immature

If you don’t want them ditch them and find what you do want

You’re also wasting your own time