Don't listen to those guys who are answering B to this question.
Someone very smart told me once that relationships should never be 50/50. They should always be 100/100, each of you bringing your best self to the relationship each day.
I can't say this is never the case, but almost always if someone "completes" you, I would say you need to figure out what that hole in your life is, that you think they fill. Most relationships just don't last, so you better be able to love yourself fully for who you are when you're not with someone. Then you'll be emotionally, physically, and spiritually ready to bring your best self to your partner every day.
That shit is not easy, at all. And some people spend their whole life trying to figure out the self love part; but if you're looking for someone else to keep you happy and fulfilled, you're putting someone else in charge of your joy.
It doesn't need to be a competition. When you're in a relationship, you should both make sure that everything you do benefits the both of you, or at least doesn't benefit yourself at the expense of your partner. When your interests are in direct conflict, compromise is necessary, and vetting potential partners for compatibility prior to committing to a relationship, in order to minimize such cases, is absolutely vital.
I am between compromising and putting yourself first. You can't always disregard your partner's feelings. But also in the end, you should put your own happiness first (in the greater picture sense).
On some level, everyone puts themselves first. It's a preservation instinct. In relationships, it's best to put your partner first. When BOTH of you do that, it works the way it's supposed to. If only ONE of you does that, it ruins the relationship.
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