Is putting myself first in a relationship wrong?

[Haya99]

Is this being selfish or it’s normal to put ourselves first and then thinking about our partner?

It’s great actually

It’s selfish, dating is putting the other first and us second

Compromising is key

A total of 27 votes were cast: 9 girls and 18 guys. See detailed results

[longlicker6969]

Don't listen to those guys who are answering B to this question.

Someone very smart told me once that relationships should never be 50/50. They should always be 100/100, each of you bringing your best self to the relationship each day.

I can't say this is never the case, but almost always if someone "completes" you, I would say you need to figure out what that hole in your life is, that you think they fill. Most relationships just don't last, so you better be able to love yourself fully for who you are when you're not with someone. Then you'll be emotionally, physically, and spiritually ready to bring your best self to your partner every day.

That shit is not easy, at all. And some people spend their whole life trying to figure out the self love part; but if you're looking for someone else to keep you happy and fulfilled, you're putting someone else in charge of your joy.

[longlicker6969]

I wanted to stop back by and say thank you for the MHO.

[ShortCircuit]

It doesn't need to be a competition. When you're in a relationship, you should both make sure that everything you do benefits the both of you, or at least doesn't benefit yourself at the expense of your partner. When your interests are in direct conflict, compromise is necessary, and vetting potential partners for compatibility prior to committing to a relationship, in order to minimize such cases, is absolutely vital.

[archiz]

I am between compromising and putting yourself first.
You can't always disregard your partner's feelings.
But also in the end, you should put your own happiness first (in the greater picture sense).

[EriFrancis1994]

In a new relationship no it's not wrong. But if you've been together for a while, the other person should come first

[loveslongnails]

On some level, everyone puts themselves first. It's a preservation instinct. In relationships, it's best to put your partner first. When BOTH of you do that, it works the way it's supposed to. If only ONE of you does that, it ruins the relationship.

[serious]

No it is not selfish as long as you still care and work towards understanding your partner’s needs and wants as well.

[Reaperbot666]

Chris Rock said it best.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/KkXpKF4b5yA

[Secret6620]

It's not wrong... It's actually necessary...

[MillieBrunette]

Depends. Very much circumstance based

[MillieBrunette]

Can you answer the 2 questions I've invited you too please

[Cryptic-Game]

Yes. You ought to think of your man first when you are in relationships.

[Anonymous]

You're looking out for yourself. Any smart woman would do the same.

[Iron_Man]

Its very selfish