I look like this dude here. People say I always look pissed off but when they talk to me I’m actually really nice.
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I can relate because I am similar. I know I come across as arrogant and alouf with a resting bitch face but actually I am very shy, emotional, sweet and soft inside.
I don't think it's weird or bad at all if this is how you are. But you also can't blame people if there first impression of you is different from what you actually are. We can't see what's inside you after all. But if I were to get to know you I wouldn't think it's strange if you showed your emotional side. I think it's important for everyone (male or female) to be able to express their emotions. Otherhwise we have a hard time communicating with each other.
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Exactly ! Deep down I can be shy so I don’t approach people often either. This probably happened because of the way people have said that my first impression isn’t all that great. Just felt kind of contradicted but you’re right I’ll show my emotional side more often 👌🏽
That's why I have Second Sight on tattooed on my wrists because to judge some one or a situation on first sight can lead you a stray from the truth you have to use your second sight to see everything for what it is... plus I see things in my dreams.
I think there's a lot of men who are big softies. I remember I was once at a Christmas party and there was this gigantic scary guy there, he was in his forties, but really tall, really broad, quite good looking and incredibly menacing. I was terrified of him. After dinner, he cut his daughter a huge slice of cake, way bigger than a girl her size could eat, she was so tiny, and gave it to her first before anyone else. I think the entire room was like aweeee. So cute!
It's a positive thing, it teaches people they shouldn't judge by appearances.
Same here. I look pissed all the time. I often rant about things. People assume I don't to people because I'm some arrogant prick. In reality, I have social anxiety and am in a constant state of hypervigilance, constantly scanning the environment for potential threats. I am shy, introverted, have a soft heart, am empathetic, caring, and affectionate. I simply don't really have the opportunity to show these sides and being hypervigilant also seems to hide my vulnerabilities, which keeps predatory characters and bullies at bay.
That's the story of my life dude. If only I had a dime for everytime someone told me "I had no idea you were so nice". I would be so rich I'd name my kid a math formula.
But in all seriousness it's not all bad, at least it keeps the wolfs away (sometimes)
My man is like that. He even has this tough walk. Looks like a hot bad boy but has a heart of gold. He is a sweetheart unless you do something he thinks isn't right. Like a young guy that parked blocking the extra space for a handicapped person. He told the guy it's wrong and he needs to move. The guy got disrespectful with him so he raised his voice telling him to move and he can look scary finally the guy got the point and moved. Just in time so a handicapped person in a wheelchair could park there.
Some think my man should have minded his own buisness. But I was proud of him for standing up for the disabled. I think more people should speak up when you see someone doing the wrong thing.
That's what I call those kind of guys: tough looking on the outside, but they're actually sweethearts.
I like guys like that, especially if they come off as cold or intimidating to others, but are sweet around their partners or loved ones only. That's why I try not to judge people off physical appearances at first. I rather get to know him first and see how he really is.
That’s really what “teddybear” means? I have a married friend who is really fond of me and calls me this (even her husband likes me a lot and enjoys long conversations with me) and my ex used some kind of bear with a heart held and wrapped around her as symbolic of being me with my arms around her and holding our shared heart, then called me her, “teddybear” for the first time. Never been called that before till those two recently. I know they both feel I am quite ‘noble’ and the ex claimed to truly know and love my ‘heart’, hence part of the symbolism of the bear holding the beat holding a heart, but I don’t know. I just accepted it without question of meaning or why.
Glad to know that some people think like this! I don’t usually make my way to approach others especially women before getting to know them because of the immediate first impression. Just trying to keep them comfortable
@MannMitAntworten Well it can have two meanings if you want to be technical: 1. A person that appears to be, or looks big and cuddly, like a teddy bear/stuffed animal 2. A person that looks mean, big, and gruff like a bear, but is actually sweet, gentle, and kind. That's usually how I prefer to use it.
It's definitely a compliment and means you're a nice, sweet person.
@Asker that's a good mentality to have. Let others see what a nice guy you are and they will approach or talk to you on their own free will. It's like the old saying, "You cannot judge a book by its cover." You really can't. I've seen some guys that I thought were mean or scary that turned out to be big softies! Especially the ones with pets and you see how sweet they are interacting with them... instant turn-on right there~
Well, my ex is fully aware of my danger facet. Particularly when someone besmirches her. I have no memory of it but apparently I sent someone to emergency over a threat towards her. She asked me to walk away next time. That she would be fine. Fair enough.
It's about civilian life it's I'll be honest more or less what we have seen as professional soldiers we actually Know What Humans Are Capable Of. YOU THANK GOD INDIVIDUALLY DON'T!!
What amazes me is these literally girls who came through it got there education and became national leaders, my girls should be nothing less than INDIVIDUALLY INSPIRED
Equivalent to the girl whose nice on the streets, naughty in the sheets. I would say in all it's fine, just happens to perpetuate stereotypes that people that look a certain way can be valued differently. How would looking soft on the outside affect the perception of also being soft on the inside?
what if you are pissed off but you dont even know it? that happened to me and I took what people said into consideration. if your face is positioned in a stern way there is something psychological going on behind that expression, heck, any facial expression is psychological. The best I can offer you is to just start asking yourself questions about how you feel about certain things, and notice how you react to things too.
I love those types of guys ^^ that's probably the perfect mix, like people respect them, are intimidated by them, no ones like "oh what a pussy" so you get those perks, but you also get the sensitive, cute, loving side
I think that this is a really common thing in the male population. A bunch if you guys have a RDF (resting dick face) but when you start talking its easy to talk to you. Boys are so much easier to talk to than girls.
That dudes hott.. I like a guy that's nice but can be mean. Like whoop someones ass if they get out of line.. shit even whoop my ass if I get out of line lol
I know what that's like people say I look pissed all the time some people even say i look evil which is the furthest from the truth. It sucks to be judged by the cover and not the content.
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