Guys, Did I lose him?

[Anonymous]

So last night my sister was devastated about the breakup with her boyfriend. Her boyfriend is one of my good friends. He also works for the guy I’m talking to, and they just so happen to be best friends. Anyways, my sister tells me how her boyfriend told my guy he needs to “shit or get off the pot”, basically, he needs to make a decision one way or the other about what he wants to do. I said why would he have said that? She claims it’s because he’s tired of seeing me wondering where I stand with everything. Even though in my mind I’m perfectly fine. Anyways, my guy tells him “when I wake up in the morning I have a good morning text and that scares me.” This has been going on for almost 6 months now so why does that freak him out all of a sudden? He’s already admitted to me and my sisters boyfriend that he cares about me. So I decided to back off and not text. Well, I didn’t hear anything from him last night at all. I refuse to text him good morning today. Lol so, does a good morning text symbolize something more in a guys brain that I can’t comprehend? Why would that scare him away NOW?

[FirestarFan08]

Well, from reading that, I'm going to give more of a personal opinion on the whole thing. It could be good advice, but remember to take a lot of it with a grain of salt as I am not everyone in the world and some people act on their own whims. Saying "Good morning" for most, if not, all mornings does give me a vibe of someone who like someone else. I mean, it's a bit obvious, but that's not a bad thing. As you said, the guy clarified he cared about you. It's all kinda confusing because with how you described the night, it does sound a tad bit odd. I don't think saying nothing was a bad idea to test the waters after what you've been told, but I also feel like you shouldn't just call it quits. You should probably confirm these things by asking. Sure, it's tough, but it's the only way to confirm this information. Deep down, if he cares, he won't flip a table by you asking. This is all based on assumptions and that's not a safe bet. If you guys even have a chance at being a thing, you have to be able to talk to each other. I had someone think I was cheating on a girl because someone looks like me in my town. He told her and, because she didn't talk to me, we broke out in a fight. I wish you luck and like I said, don't read too much into my advice as we all have our own personal experiences that can dictate different things. Try to follow your heart at the end of the day so you can be the most "you" and less of someone else.

[Asker]

I appreciate your response. We communicate fairly well--which is odd that he never told me anything about the good morning texts. I didn't ask him about it because I'm not supposed to know that conversation ever took place. I'm just now being more cautious with what I say to him.

We've been talking for about 6 months and we talk daily, go on weekend trips together, etc. He owns a mechanic shop and does all of my work for free, even when I offer to pay, he refuses. I was told he doesn't do that for anyone, ever. So, I sorta felt special, ya know?

That being said, he got out of a long term relationship in January and he kept stressing that he's not ready for anything yet. I just told him that I was perfectly fine with the way things were going. I had nothing negative to say. Some days he'll text/call all day and we'll chat about anything. Some days I can't get two words out of him. It's almost like if things are going great, all of a sudden he backs off because he's "scared" to get close. I care for him deeply and don't want to ruin anything so I figured the best thing I can do is back off and put the ball in his court. Let him make a decision.

[FirestarFan08]

Yeah. It's absolutely fine to do that. Judging from what I've read here, it's safer to just leave the ball in his court. I feel like you should try to reach out a little bit, so it doesn't seem like you're avoiding him or something, but overall, I'd say you're handling this pretty well. I wish you tons of luck and hope it works out.

[Asker]

I appreciate your advice! Thank you and I hope it works out, too! Fingers crossed! Lol