I invited a man out I had met recently to play cribbage with me. He is (was?) interested in me, said he wanted to see more of me, was attentive to everything I'd say, considerate of me, etc. We got along great, chemistry, conversations. The night after playing cribbage, we went to his car. I was cold and tense and he tried to help me relax by rubbing the back of my neck. I tensed up because I had been SA'd when I was a kid and haven't completely healed from it. He noticed that and asked why i was acting skittish. I ended up oversharing about my life. He was attentive, expressed concern. We were silent for a moment and asked what he was thinking. He responded by asking for my address to take me home. We spoke in his car a little more when he got to my place and ended on a positive note. Since then I haven't heard from him for a couple of days. I know he's busy with work and has two children, but I think my gut instinct is that he lost interest, which is fine, but wanted to get more opinions.
3 mo
Guys, Did he lose interest?
What Guys Said
He's probably scared about making further moves on you. He doesn't want to unknowingly traumatize you. Additionally, he doesn't want to be blamed (or worse) for a reaction that he did not intend.
This is where communication comes in. I've been in past relationships where the guy was understanding, patient, and asked what was helpful verses running away or ghosting. But I didn't know him that long anyway.
That's true, but doing that takes more effort from a guy that he wouldn't have to put in otherwise
True! Well, maybe that's all he wanted anyway. Before that night he sent a pic of himself in a hot tub saying lets get steamy and then that night said he wanted to crawl into my sweater. There were other things he said that indicated he wanted to hook up, but he also seemed open to getting to know me, going out on dates, but maybe not.
How long do you know him? And yes he did lost interest cause no human is that busy. Called priority
Just a few days.