Are shy men undateable?

[Anonymous]

I am never willing to take on a mans role. He sure isn't willing to give birth, have periods and other things part of a womans role. In fact he can't. So why should i take up for him cause he's too SCARED to do his part? can't ask me out? Im not chasing a shy passive man. This isn't a gay relationship where we are both the same sex. He has to do his role and i do mine. i wouldn't marry a man who wasn't willing to be the provider of me and our family. Why would i expect a guy too shy to ask me out to be able to defend me and the fam physically or otherwise and be strong enough to take care of us and lead us even in danger?

Yes - undateable

No

[AaronKrieger]

No, I've seen plenty of shy guys get girls because either they eventually did ask her out or she did it first. Nothing wrong with the girl asking a guy out first or at least making the initiative first because I see a lot of girls do poorly in that area, so instead they just wait for guys which isn't productive.

Really both sides have to be initiative in the dating world. Also, being shy with girls and other things in life are different things. A guy can be afraid of rejection from a girl, but not be afraid of fighting a guy. I used to be really shy with girls during middle school, yet I used to get in fights all the time defending myself.

[Anonymous]

I agree with you. I hate overly shy people both men and women. And I hate men that won’t do what they can to meet a woman halfway.

[Asker]

Yeah but im shy

[Opinion Owner]

Well I agree that everyone struggles with shyness but some people are overboard I think.

[Opinion Owner]

I am shy too sometimes. But you inspired me to work on it.

[Asker]

Thanks im so glad to hear that... Yes i agree everyone has shy moments and i am also working on expressing oneself more. Good lucks.

[Anonymous]

I dislike shy people in general, not just men. But yeah, when it comes to dating, being shy as a man is the worst thing you could be. I don't care how good looking, rich or kind a man is... if he is too shy and unaproachable, that's a turn off. I can't even imagine sex with a shy man, and if I can't imagine sex then he is automatically undateable to me. If he can't ask me out or make a move, then he surely won't dominate me in bed and make me orgasm.

[Solitude_asian]

Chasing shy passive men? Those are boys, not men, regardless of their age.

[I-am-a-nobody]

I used to be extremely shy and now you can't shut me up.
People do change.

My son is rather shy, but he's a great guy and will be a real blessing to the girl that lands him.

That said, I hear what you're saying. The guy needs to do all that you've said. All guys need to man up. He should be able to provide, too.

[Asker]

Thanks so much for your reply. Im glad to hear it! Glad you are not as shy too. Im shy but got out my shell more and realize im actually also just quiet. Thanks again.

[chriscdi]

you are getting it all wrong, a shy guy doesn't mean he is a pussy, a shy guy just doesn't wanna socialize, when you get to know them they will be like any other guy, its just the beginning thats difficult, and I've seen many in dates you are getting shy men and feminine men all mixed up

[Asker]

I hope so. Hopefully this shy guy i know asks me out then.

[Browneye57]

They could well be. Part of being a well adjusted individual is learning social skills - THEY ARE LEARNED. If a guy can't assert himself and go after what he wants, you'll likely be bored to tears anyway.

[Anonymous]

Why does it determine that the guy would be able to protect you if he is unable to ask you out first or not?

[Asker]

he's scared of asking a woman he wants to marry to go out on a simple date to talk

[Opinion Owner]

And why does that give an indication that he would be able to protect?

[Asker]

he's scared of mental rejection from a chick. What if someone actually put to harm his family comes along? Maube its different. I don't know. You can tell me maybe since ur a guy