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Who would of guess that the perspective between men and women would be so different 🤔
Why don't women compliment men as often as men compliment women?
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569 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. I think the way you have the multiple choice set up you won't get the accurate feedback you want.
Most pinks are going to believe it's a combination of both A and C, but they can't choose, so they'll be split unnecessarily.
People online can be friends and nothing more. Guys irl are probably saying compliments in the off chance that the girl is interested, it becomes an opening talking point. And if not, they're fine with that too, it's just an honest comment and they move on (or try to, and not take it as rejection or anything.)
I've looked at both males and females when I'm out and was very close to, or thought about complimenting them, but most times I did not because they did not look up, or in my direction, or look friendly or nice. And why bother giving them to people who don't seem like they would be appreciate. I've thought about commenting on cologne and perfume and I'm not sure how people would take that. I'm straight so I don't hit on women, and I'm married so I don't hit on men, so it would just be a genuine, no-strings-attached compliment, but they wouldn't know that. So I don't think it shows a harsh or mean society, just because it's not happening more often. It is what it is. The anti-feminist stuff bothers me, because I really question how many people have got yelled at, just for being nice. I find that very suspect that it's that commonplace.41 Reply- +1 y
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We do compliment men. It's often that men wants something lustful and sexual instead of something genuine. It's all about the INTENT. I compliment all the time. But I don't as much now because, one they either think you're weird for complimenting them genuinely, especially if it's not based on sexual intent. And because they will assume that you're sexually interested in them when that is not the case.
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You never compliment me
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Thank you
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If you aren't attracted to a man only compliment he's actions, but never their looks. To be honest I don't like to be complimented by woman how aren't attracted to me in general.
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Why? Because it often means that you have nothing else to offer but your looks. I can be attracted to men, but at the end of the day I'm not lusting after a man. I still think out of kindness and Purity. Something that is no longer valued today. I'm not interested in men who are vain. When she looks fat anyway then I guess that makes sense for women to cheat on you since you don't look remotely sexually attractive anymore.
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I'm still confused on how I'm seeking attention
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The moment you said you, is the moment you show that you are looking for attention and it's for all the wrong reasons. I am pretty sure there are people that do compliment you. But it won't likely is not the type of compliments that you are wanting. Which pretty much solidifies my main opinion.
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It was just a joke, bro
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I see... i apologize
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When a woman says "its fine" it ain't ever fine!
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You don't get it. If a woman compliments my actions I'm fine with that. But if she's not attracted to me (it means that she wouldn't date with me) than she shouldn't compliment my looks or my personality either. If she likes and respects me as a person I will notice that through her actions. This is why people say this about woman "Listen To Her Actions, Not Her Words". I usually recognize when a woman is into me by her actions, but also love it when she compliments me. One more thing, I don't know about you, but to me (and I think I can speak for pretty much all man) both looks and personality/character is equally important. Man are far more visual than woman.
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@Shocker650 What is wrong with you? It's not about who is into you or any of that silly nonsense. If we care about you we do. This is not about who is visual. You men need to stop with that or else you going to make us want to seek elsewhere. A woman hates having her feelings and intent questioned. that's insecurity you got. And no woman wants to settle that in a man.
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I never said that I will tell that to a woman I know. But this is how I feel inside, or more like how I want to view it. I'm not sure why you keep calling me insecure.
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That's why I said you guys have nothing else to offer. Personality changes and looks fade. It is the SOUL that matters. My looks don't matter. My personality doesn't matter. At the end of the day, I am still ME. And if a guy cannot understand that, Aw well. I love me for me. I don't look the same as much and no longer act the same as much either. That's life man. A woman that is with you for those things will judge and treat you the same way you want to treat us. A lot of women are suffering and losing relationships with men and can't trust men anymore because of that mindset or cheat because there is no real friendship anymore. If a woman is talking about your looks 9/10x she just wants to bang you as much as you do with her. What do love and stuff have to do with that? ZIP. She can be interested in you one minute, wants another the next. So think about that when you want to be wanted for your looks and personality. They will always be somebody more attractive than you and she may want him, and you may be more attractive than another guy, she may still want you because of that. The same with personality. A woman who can forego past that and accept you as you are regardless of visual nature or whatever is somebody who truly loves. When you see the opposite and value looks and personality more than morals to such a woman she loses attraction to you. She may be sexually attracted to you, and even enjoys your personality, but it doesn't mean she wants you.
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You are insecure. Highly secure men think with the same mentality I just said. They value the person. They don't let physical appearance or personality determine who they want. Men are sexually sensitive, yes. That is how God made you. BUT not all use that for sexual deviance. That's why I would never get involved with a guy who has that mindset and mentality, he will God forbid unintentionally emotionally hurt me and neglect me because of that. Bad enough I have my own insecurities. And that is one of them.
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I understand what your trying to say, but here me out. I'm not saying that every woman is the same in this matter because there are always exceptions, and you might be one. But people say that woman are all about their feelings and emotions, and when those feeling towards a guy disappears, they leave the man with cold blood. So it's all about how you make them feel. Now with that out of the way. Looks and personality doesn't change like weather. We might age but our looks doesn't change that drastically. I don't care about another woman being more attractive than mine. There's always someone more attractive. But looks and personality make us who we are and why we like someone. I don't believe in love, I don't want a "lover or a "wife". I want a girlfriend who can be my soulmate, and yes, loyalty, friendship, and loving someone for who she/he is is important.
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By the way, I wish all woman would think like you.
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Here is where you're not fully getting it. Life doesn't work that way.
"We might age but our looks doesn't change that drastically." That's not the point. A body is a body. It is a vessel. What you got is what you get. It's about what you choose to do with it that matters. A person who truly values you doesn't care about your looks. A person who does, again often are only with you for those reasons: looks.
" I don't care about another woman being more attractive than mine. There's always someone more attractive. But looks and personality make us who we are and why we like someone." That is not true at all. That is all based on the things of the flesh and our desires being tainted with polluted thoughts and actions. If I see a guy based on his looks, 9/10x its either he is overall attractive or if I was a secular woman it would be just because I want to screw. That's it. Anybody with a brain would even know that it is common sense not to lie about our intent because actions speak louder than words. Women do that because they want the best mate sexually, why? You really want to know what actual woman think about when they want what you want?: - +1 y
1. Sexual benefits - Is he pleasing sexually? Does he make her feel good and great as a woman? Does he give her what she wants? Are they going to have sexually and attractively good looking children to pass it down and make them have our grand and great-grandchildren, or have terrible genes? Is he somebody that everybody wants to screw with and she got the best prize? Or is she just settling? Worse if he doesn't know how to have sex with her correctly?
2. Do the parents and friends approve of him sexually for us? If they can't see them wanting us to have sex with them, it may ruin our perception of that guy.
3. Children: Will we love the children by how they look, or will we hate them? Will they have a great personality or a terrible one we wish we can trade-off? Will we see traits that we can accept from the father, or hate the child because of the father?
When I was growing up, I never really cared about my looks or my personality. It's when I started being judged by my looks and personality is when I grew to hate myself and insecure. I stopped loving myself, my personality got shredded, and sadly because it mostly came from guys, I grew bitter with them. They only wanted me because of my looks but hated who I was as a person. When God redeemed me from that, he showed me they were not the right kind of men. He showed me what love really is, and showed me what he designed for men and women. It's NOT what you talking about. That is and was not God's purpose. He just allowed it because it will force men and even women to either learn to love or God forbid abuse. And if you abuse, there is a price to pay for abusing his gifts. And a price to pay for abusing sex, marriage, and close unions. - +1 y
"I don't believe in love, I don't want a "lover or a "wife". I want a girlfriend who can be my soulmate, and yes, loyalty, friendship, and loving someone for who she/he is is important." If you don't believe in love, then that contradicts what you saying. Relationships are not about you. It is about the other person. There is no such thing as a soulmate. it is a choice in who you pick. And who you pick is what you get. That mindset will just attract bad women into your life who will play with you, use, and abuse you. I'm telling you by the interpersonal experience of those who have stable relationships and marriages. You can't say you want those things and not accept that it requires you to die to self of those selfish desires. What you saying and desiring is that you want the BENEFITS, but you don't want to put in the work and pay the price to receive those benefits and want the easy way out.
Women aren't all about emotional connections for the hell of it. We have to feel your SOUL and your HEART. And if your intent is not pure, and can't feel your heart, you won't attract us. We want to be with like-minded men. If you want to love her for who she is, then you can't go after her because of her personality and looks. It not only contradicts what your saying, it is CONFUSION to a female and brings confusion to yourself. Either you want us for us, or we physically have. You can't have both. That's part of the sacrifice. You either get one or the other. This why women grow to hate themselves both physically and sexually and feel shame because men don't know how to love. - +1 y
If a woman is not even stable within herself, that's why she keeps going after the same kind of men and is often miserable and unhappy. While she blames you for not being perfect and meeting her perfectionist standards physically and mentally for the things of life. Men blame us for not being sexually desirable. We blame men for not being physically desirable.
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People need physical attraction in order to be interested in someone. The rest follows after. If you see a guy and the first ting that comes into your mind is that he's ugly, would you still date him? Let me tell you something. If a woman that I'm really into would tell me that I'm ugly (and she would really mean it, it's not about that she said it, but that she truly would think that) I would never be her boyfriend, doesn't matter how much she likes me as a person. She doesn't have to see me as the most handsome guy on the planet or even handsome at all, but if I would be specifically ugly in her eyes, than it's done. I can't imagine waking up every day besides my "soulmate" and think about "oh yea the woman of my life she sees me ugly by the way, even through that tons of other girl thinks that I'm attractive, but not here, nope". You know what I am insecure but even if I wouldn't be, I still wouldn't accept a situation like this cause I have pride.
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@Shocker650
"People need physical attraction in order to be interested in someone." That is a lie. If that is true than many people wouldn't have marriages for over 20, 30, 40 years. It has nothing to do with physical attraction. But a soul attraction. That lie was created by society to make us lust after people for sex and procreate. Even worse use procreation to make more workers and build an economy. People become interested for all kinds of reasons. I don't need looks. And I already said that if I needed looks it would be just to screw. Why need love when you got sex? People don't need that. Lustful people do.
"The rest follows after. If you see a guy and the first ting that comes into your mind is that he's ugly, would you still date him?" But I don't judge a person by how they physically look. I don't and won't even date a guy I don't even personally know. I have to know who and what he is about. To love is a choice. To date is a choice. I can date him if I want to. I would love him if I want you. That is irrelevant. And no the rest does not come after. Because if that is true, we wouldn't be having so many miserable people in a toss away relationships, rebounds, and high divorce rates. - +1 y
"" Let me tell you something. If a woman that I'm really into would tell me that I'm ugly (and she would really mean it, it's not about that she said it, but that she truly would think that) I would never be her boyfriend, doesn't matter how much she likes me as a person. She doesn't have to see me as the most handsome guy on the planet or even handsome at all, but if I would be specifically ugly in her eyes, than it's done. I can't imagine waking up every day besides my "soulmate" and think about "oh yea the woman of my life she sees me ugly by the way, even through that tons of other girl thinks that I'm attractive, but not here, nope". You know what I am insecure but even if I wouldn't be, I still wouldn't accept a situation like this cause I have pride." Selfish people attract other selfish people. It is your life your choice, but you will be in a miserable one. That's why I always tell people, you can't always get what you want. But it is about what you need in a person. And looks and personality have 0 to do with needs. This is why so many people come on here because they don't know how to live life and have miserable relationships and have poor sexual choices. Because of the very things your talking about and in an agreement with. It's for you to move past that. Not live by those temptations. If you're repulsed by a person, FINE. You DON'T have to be with them. But when the other person questions your intent, don't be surprised if they're not happy with what is being said. Because now it's about personal validation. Not a relationship. A relationship is a partnership. And a partnership is a choice to engage in.
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Do you see young kids and children call each other their boyfriend and girlfriend needing looks just to love and be with them? NO! Some of those people already knew they loved a person in their childhood, grows up and get married and been married for YEARS, have many children and great-grandchildren, and die together or whenever their called home or God forbid in hell. Some teenagers are the same. They love because they want you. Do you know what makes a person really go for the looks? When the looks radiant the LIGHT that is within the person. But if they have an ugly heart, a bad vibe, etc, you would NOT want to sleep with them no matter how attractive they look. A person's personality comes in when they have what you need to be compatible with.
When I was attracted to certain guys I was attracted to more than just looks or personality. I was attracted to their SOUL. Because the INSIDE they radiated to the outside/external felt GOOD to my soul and spirit. I was drawn to them! And that goes for anybody, male or female. If they don't feel good to my spirit, I would recoil. I cannot be with somebody who has a toxic and filthy soul. That is deceiving. There is a good reason why they say 'LOOKS can be DECEIVING'. You don't want to be drawn into the wrong kind of person. - +1 y
I have known people who were just like you with that mentality. And every time they get into a relationship, sleep with them, marry, etc, they sadly end up with the same type of problems. They never felt really LOVED. They were either abused, conflicted, regretful, uncertain, etc. Always felt something was missing. Now that those same people changed their mentality about love, attraction, etc, it all began making sense and they finally attracted the kind of people they want. A woman especially desires to be loved. They don't care about their personalities or looks. They only care because you men care. You wouldn't bat an eye if we're not desirable to you. A woman and young girl nowadays will neglect, abuse, and kill themselves now if it means a man will pay attention to them. That's why that 80/20 so-called rule you guys made up or 'hypergamy' nonsense exists. Because men have forgotten how to love a woman, and women have now forgotten how to love themselves.
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Women ASSUME men want something sexual. Where did you get that idea?
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@apollo3000 When we want to wait for marriage to have sex, and then you BAIL. Or we're too religious, prudish and boring. Then when you sleep with women before marriage and they cheat on you, you call them whores, or my favorite line " I knew she was a hoe before I met her!" Sure, plenty of toxic men. But the guys who don't go for women for sex, and truly be a friend and actually love us you call them SIMPS. Something is wrong here. I have YET to meet a man who isn't like that. Very few I can count on 1 hand and a half is all I have met in my entire lifetime who aren't like that modern-day man. And no, age and generation have yet to do with it. It's the mentality. If we don't see you as somebody we want to date, you cut the 'fake friendship' and call it a friendzone. That is toxic, and as somebody who is celibate and stayed single all my life I am glad I got away from that toxicity. I screen every male now other than friends I knew for years. I am literally watching you guys under a microscope now. Sad I have to become that person who lost a lot of trust and respect for guys now. Now its whoever is deserving of that respect.
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Hey, men are not all one organism - in case you haven't noticed.
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@Juxtapose Nope! Not worth it when you get guys constantly not appreciating you how God made you and don't want to do the right thing. I am not wasting my time and playing games. I have already believed in taking life seriously, and if I am not somebody supposedly no guy would want, why hurt myself? I don't have an interest and never really did anyway. Don't want that negativity around me.
+1 y1. Even though society revolves around women and their feels, I think a big part has to do with them not wanting to give off the 'wrong impression'. The thing is, the world is so full of simps, that you can't tell who is one and who isn't. So as soon as a girl compliments a dude, he immediately assumes she wants to sleep with him. Which doesn't have to be the case. So he starts to be all over her.
2. Women are raised in a way that they should be chased, and not do the chasing. And part of not chasing is not to give compliments.
3. A woman will NEVER compliment a man she is not interested in (see point #1).
4. If you want to be complimented by women, she must first be genuinely interested in you. And by getting them interested, you should never put them on a pedestal like the majority of simps in life, social media AND on this website.
5. Ego. Since they think they should be chased, many women think they are the ones deserving of compliments and that the world owes them everything, just because they have a vageegee. Hence, why you shouldn't feed their already inflated egos.20 Reply
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+1 yMost women are just biologically hardwired to sit back and let men pursue. That has them taking a passive role in the courting process. Men make all the bold moves, men take the chances, men initiate, men pay the compliments, men do the date planning and men set the pace.
Women get courted and at best try to "send signals" for the guy to read and take action on.
Do not respond with the "not all women" line. Nothing in life is 100%... we aren't talking about the micro exceptions to the rule but talking about the macro general norm among all of humanity. Most women are passive and let the men do all the courting.30 Reply
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If a guy does that you should kick him in the balls and mace the shit out of him. But yeah I get what you’re saying. Pretty much if a guy is unattractive, doesn’t know you and expresses his interest in getting to know you as a person, he’s creepy and it makes you uncomfortable because you don’t know how he’ll respond to the word “no”. But if he’s attractive he’s just a regular human being with good intentions (even though he’s still a stranger that could kidnap you, it’s just more worth the risk.)
Can’t blame you though. Human beings can be pretty awful to eachother. Male or female. Men are just more physically powerful than most women. I don’t blame you for being more guarded.11 Reply
+1 yWith my male friends, I have always found it to be the opposite. I am very easy to give them compliments and they are more likely to shrug it off as whatever. When they are "interested" in a girl, they will shower her with compliments but then complain no girl gives them the time of day. I think girls are a lot more likely to give and receive compliments (many of us are raised to be very verbally appreciative). If I think a shirt makes them look sharp or if their new glasses frame their face well. Ill tell them personality compliments, like I wish I was so dedicated or driven etc. I think guys with female friends get compliments but are quick to dismiss them which is a different phenomenon than "Getting compliments" from girls [that they are sexually interested in].
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+1 yI would compliment them on their efforts, but not really looks. I just say that they look good and that's all, not "attractive" because I want to be humble about it. I think women should receive more compliments than guys though because that's just how it is. Men kind of have to put women on a pedestal if they want to attract them at first. But if you guys are married for a long time, it should be almost 50/50 I guess, because you guys are like best friends.
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@Juxtapose Good luck attracting women then. You do know courtship is like that.
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Stop arguing with my queen
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@Juxtapose Ok whatever works for you 👍
When people compliment me I get ready Flustered and freeze up but I do try my best to hype up dudes as often as possible, when they are being reasonable, it's a lot harder to compliment guys in this generation because if I were to hype up my guy friends and some group of other guys saw they would say I'm for the streets. The good once do deserve more love tho Ong.
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That makes sense, thank you.
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+1 yWe compliment men. But one or two compliments at a time is enough; I’m not there to annoy him. I’m not gonna say compliment after compliment or question after question. Guys who do this to us just don’t know how to communicate. Also consider that when we compliment men it’s usually the same guys, not every guy we see lol
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@joker_ can you believe she thinks men don't deserve happiness
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Who says I think men don’t deserve to be happy? Where did that come from? 🤔
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Right there
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Hmm, I still don’t see it. I think you’re purposely trying to see that although that conclusion can’t even be drawn from what I said, which explains why you needed to tag your friend to help you.
But hey, if you’re not happy that’s your life, not mine. So sorry but nothing I can do to help you 🤷🏻♀️ - +1 y
@yads_is_back you're right
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Sylvanas, you've got issues.
You need to stop reading into what people say. Yads said no such thing. (And this is validated by the fact that she could have chosen it in the poll, anonymously, but there's a 0 vote there, so she didn't. And she's not going to be stupid enough to contradict herself in what she writes up.) - +1 y
It's literally a joke Jesus christ
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People like you make this fucking website so un fun
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Another one bites the dust
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@AmandaYVR
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@AmandaYVR Quit biting dust
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@Joker_ I don’t think she cares lol She probably has better things to worry about than “biting dust” to some GAG user
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@Joker_ 🤷🏻♀️Idk, her life not mine, but I know if it was me I’d just see the whole “biting dust” thing as immature just for you to even think I cared lol
But I don't know, that’s her and hers lol
Anonymous(25-29)+1 yMen don’t give me compliments though? Unless it was online. In real life I only had compliments a few times from young boys. I think men are too scared to get arrested for sexual harassment but what’s wrong with telling a gorgeous young girl she’s gorgeous? I do live in London though so that might have something to do with it because everyone is cold here. I also don’t know anyone.
I always give men compliments but idiotic people tell me not to. If I tell a man he has a sharp jawline some dumb bitch will say “don’t say that people might take it wrong and I would feel uncomfortable if a man gave me compliments like that.” Wtf bitch I would love it if more men appreciated my sharp features.10 Reply
+1 yWho says they don't? You don't"know" that women don't compliment their husbands or sex partners or how often. Maybe women don't "compliment" men they don't know as much as men do women they don't know. I always told my male manager at work that he was a great manager. I always told my husband what a great father he was. And a great musician he was.
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Why did you put "know" and "compliment" in quotes?
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@Thatsamazing because it's emphasis instead of using all caps and people saying you triggered lol but this question was why don't, and that implies it's fact that women don't compliment men when that's not true... And compliment, cuz a lot of times if you complimenting strangers that's more cuz flirting then complimenting...
+1 yI compliment my crushes when I want them to know that I’m actually into them.
But yes, I agree with the idea that men should also be complimented because they have wonderful qualities of their own. It’s kinda cute they don’t notice it until it’s mentioned haha30 ReplyThe overwhelming difference probably stems from how a lot of compliments men throw out to women is based on the foundation of thinking they have a shot with her rather than the complimeny being genuine.
That's what I tend to think about some compliments men give women on this app also.21 Reply
+1 yBecause more women need them to feel okay about themselves. A woman is far more prone to developing insecurities.
Which is why a woman’s friends will always hype her up, And a guys friends will make fun of him lmao. The body positivity campaign is also largely geared towards women.
Men typically need less of “praise” or “approval” to feel stable. Or do they? Maybe it’s a societal expectation where men are expected to “deal with it”? Maybe.20 Reply1.6K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. Probably cause the assumption men are tough and don't need the psychological support. Little do they know that means a lot. Even little stuff though actually does matter to guys. Something a little as "hows my tough guy doing? or handsome?" Can boost a guys moral. Small cutesy stuff can be sweet if its genuine.
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+1 yI am called an attractive woman (Elsa like looks with narrow pointy nose, medium sized but nicely shaped lips, long pale blonde hair, cornflower blue eyes, angular facial bone structure with high cheek bones, and a ballet dancer body). I have had men develop crushes on me as soon as I compliment them or are too friendly with them. Men can easily interpret politeness or compliments as signs of interest and then it can become a very uncomfortable situation, especially if it is a man you are working with or studying with. Letting someone get the message that you don't have romantic interest in them is very difficult and sad, because you don't want to make someone sad but at the end of the day they will keep escalating with you until you tell them to stop, that it won't go anywhere.
10 ReplyHey, men deserve more compliments 100%! But we as women gotta play hard to get sometimes :) I like being chased and men love chasing :)
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I hate chasing
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Oh - and what happened to equality?
Well cause men are the ones who appreciate the appearance of women more from what I see.. Don't get me wrong plenty of women appreciate the appearance of men, but naturally men are the ones who like to get the attention of women in a non seductive more blunt way..
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they don't take you seriously when you do that because they automatically place on the type that is "throwing themselves at you" or wants the "D". it's stupid.
not all men of course but majority of you have this type of mindset, that's why i stopped doing that. Most of you guys are pathetic. complain about something, and then when you get it, you downgrade the girl for doing it.30 Reply I think men should get more compliments but I also don't want them to think I'm interested. I'm also a shy person so I try to avoid interacting with anyone.
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How can a hoe be shy
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I see... apologies
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Thank you for forgiving me
My last boyfriend always side-stepped and didn't acknowledge the compliments I gave him, so I don't think he agreed with them or else he didn't feel worthy of them.
With my current handsome boyfriend, we actually have little "compliment battles" where we just compliment each other back and forth for a little while and try to convince the other that we are the lucky one until we agree that we are both extremely lucky to have found each other.41 Reply
+1 yThe women in my life compliment me more than I compliment them. I firmly believe that's one of the reasons I have women in my life.
Complimenting people superfluously or when they don't deserve it is counterproductive and seems disingenuous.20 Reply1.5K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. Makes me think, that women don't actually love men.
Or it carries a risk of developing into an unpleasant scenario, where the man mistakes it for flirty behavior.
Therefore we don't even know if we are attractive *to the opposite sex* specifically because of the lack of such proofs. We can look like A this month, then like B the next month (the opposite) - no compliments either way. There's no indicator whatsoever.12 Reply- +1 y
@Juxtapose true that! Too bad they repress themselves so much, that it impacts us men as well
I am a rare breed of woman.. I tell my husband how hot and sexy he is and how after 9 years he's still the hottest man I've ever gotten to touch, EVERY day and he gives me a compliment once a month if I'm lucky but its ok💞
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how did you and him first meet?
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are you implying that you approached him?
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i assume he asked you out first
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well interesting, most women won't be sexually forward with a guy like that
373 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. Why don't men compliment women as often as women compliment women?
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From what I can gather , they are not welcome from men in general , so that would be why.
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Why, men?
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From what I can gather , they are not welcome from men in general , so that would be why.
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Thank
Some guys just don't need compliments constantly like women do. Women put their entire importance on their appearance. Guys don't really worry so much unless he's trying to build muscle and that's different in my opinion. There are subtle compliments like when you find a girl checking you out.
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+1 yBecause thats how sexual orientation works. Women choose men, men chase women. Thats why men are stronger than women physically (to be preferable) , thats why male lions hair is busy and really long. Etc. Its different in only hyenas i think. Women hyenas are stronger and bigger therefore its probably them chasing
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it's different in a lot of species but ok let's eat a single mom's babies whenever we move in with her just like lions do when they take over a new pride LOL
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You know that giving compliments as a woman doesn't by definition make you the chaser. You do realize that, right?
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10 dislike? Wtf is your problem
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You mean you are declaring you are not equal, yes?
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Lmfao, someone can't handle people disagreeing with her. Hence why the 10 (eleven now) dislikes triggered her
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@TruthBringer someone wants to get blocked again
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@Silver158 EXACTLY This is a perfect example of another snowflake. She is butthurt because I debunked her islamophobic ass. Lots of people seem to know her to be crazy
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@nonfrivolous Block me baby girl, only shows how much of a pathetic snowflake you are.
+1 yI’m too nervous to full on compliment my crush but I’ll give hints.
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If you want I can transfer your full on compliments to your crush
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Haha I wish
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I wish too
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+1 yI come off as too flirty. The flaky type even. Which couldn't be further from truth but I don't believe in giving myself out so early.
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I don't know, man you flirt with me all the time
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Guilty as charged.
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Punish me, daddy
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Like I've nothing better to do.
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What you whippin out today
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I'm bloody mary today
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Does that mean you're a squirter, but you're on your period?
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Wouldn't you like to know
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I already know
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Jk I dont pls sit on my face
1.2K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. Never noticed men compliment girls that much... Except when they want sex obviously so they aren't really genuine compliment but compliment made in order to get something.
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@Dongtai No one do that, friends do this, they do give you compliment without wanting anything and they do it rarely or not a lot and they also don't give the same kind compliment.
No stranger give compliment they don't know for no reasons, nobody talk to stranger anyway (at least in my country, it's really bad seen and people would be very suspicious of you if you talked with no reason with a stranger).
So no stranger can't give compliment like this without any intention in mind. - +1 y
It’s sad that there’s women out there that think like this. You’ll miss out on some pretty great guys thinking this way. A compliment can have intentions. But they don’t have to be bad ones. Compliments are a good way to lead into a meaningful conversation and an amazing connection. They break the ice and make people feel comfortable.
A man can notice a woman, tell her she’s beautiful while still having interest in knowing who she is and asking about her day while sincerely showing interest in “her day”.
I’ve met a lot of amazing women and experienced some worthwhile relationships doing this. Don’t assume all of us just want sex. Some of us want human connection. - +1 y
@Dongtai I won't miss anyone since in my country we don't talk to stranger it's bad seen.
Compliment make women extremely uncomfortable imagine a man I find unattractive and who's a stranger compliment then I definitely wouldn't want to talk to him and I would be creeped out by him but I would be worried he would become agressive with me if I just ignore him or just say thanks and walk away quickly.
Complimenting stranger is just a bad idea, it have like 9 chance out of 10 to make the other person uncomfortable (and I'm in the majority here, at least in my country majority think this ways).
This is just creepy. Why would you want to know about a stranger life? Why would this stranger want to talk to yo about her day? There's no reasons to do so and it just give so many red flag, that's super suspicious to do that.
You can find human connection by your friends or joining a groups you don't need to talk to stranger for this... It's just extremely creepy. - +1 y
Compliments make “you” uncomfortable and that’s ok. But you can’t speak for all women. “Imagine a man I find unattractive and who’s a stranger compliment me..” Meaning if you found him attractive you’d less uncomfortable?
When a woman tells me no or she gives off the vibe that she’s uncomfortable, I simply thank her for her time, tell her to have a good day and walk away. Maybe it’ll leave the thought in her head “Wow. I was kind of rude to him but he was polite anyway and left me alone when I told him to. Maybe all men aren’t so bad.”
I totally get that there’s guys out there who give women a hard time but casting all men in the same basket because of the ones that made you uncomfortable hurts everyone. That’s how you get men who cast all women into one basket and give up on them. I’ve met plenty of nasty women but I know there’s nice ones out there so I deal with t her mean ones until I meet the nice ones.
Like I said. I’ve had plenty of girls tell me about their day. At school I went up to a girl sitting outside and said “hey you look like an interesting person to talk to..” she ended up inviting me out for lunch. We talked about politics and changing the world. If I let all the rude girls before her make me assume all girls were mean I wouldn’t have made that memory. But I still remember her till this day.
Some girls do decline me and not every single girl is open. I respect it and politely dismiss myself. When they’re rude, yeah it stings but I just remind myself of all of the nice girls I met the exact same way and move on.
If you assume the worst in the world, it’s all you’ll see. If you assume all guys are one way, that’s all you’ll encounter. Both genders have this problem and in the end it hurts everyone. Men and women are individuals and each one is different unless you let your mind convince you otherwise - +1 y
@Dongtai I don't speak for all women I speak for most cause I know that the ways most women feel (in my country).
I wouldn't be uncomfortable then if I found him attractive cause I wouldn't have to reject him and so I don't have to worry about him getting agressive with me.
Guys are pretty aggressive in my country, if you reject or ignore them they're just gonna insult you some may even push you or kick you (especially if they're in group).
Personally that would just make me want to go home as quickly as I can to avoid other people bothering me.
I don't know a single girl that think this way...
I don't want to have to deal with people when I'm just going out to shopping or so, if I want to bother with people then I would just go on apps or go out with my friends and such. Why feeling the need to talk to stranger in the street who just wish to not be bothered? What signal did you get that make you thought they wanted to be talked to? Most women don't want to be bothered when in the street minding their own business (again this is in my country).
In my country the girl would have jus thought you were a creep and walk away, like I said here we don't talk to stranger. It's just a red flag to us.
I don't think all men are bad just that it doesn't make sense to talk to stranger in the street, it's dangerous to do so.
+1 y- most of the time women want to hear their partner. say it with words more then actions.
- most of the time men want their partner. to prove it with actions more then words.
- but the inverse is also true in some cases.
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+1 yBc men seem more interested in girls who play hard to get and treat them bad.
I used to compliment an ex often and he would ask why I'm saying those things when he's the one who is supposed to compliment me16 Reply- +1 y
Well that's a social obligation to check what that poor upset woman is doing. And women use that card A LOT
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@apollo3000 what are you talking about?
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No one is remotely interested in hard to get women - interest is only shown because of the male social role of protector (those relationships always fail, with the htg bitch)
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@apollo3000 that's what you think
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Yeah, and you are the one person on the planet who things otherwise, because you get use men. Not hard to see the benefit to you from peddling that misinformation.
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@apollo3000 "you get use men."
What's a use men?
I’ve never seen an imbalance in my surroundings but obviously words of affirmation and adoration should be a two way street that shouldn’t be forced if you truly care for the person.
20 ReplyI’ve been suddenly complimented by various women over the years, however I do tend to return a compliment to express my gratitude, yet women I compliment first never seem to return the favour 🤔
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+1 yI don't compliment my boyfriend a lot because 1) he is not a female or caring ir desiring compliments
2) he prefers my respect and appreciation like any intheir right mind.10 Replyall your choice are bias AF so i didn't vote
If a man is hot i always tell them. If they got style i always verbalize it.22 Reply- +1 y
Nice
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*biased.
a lot of men are seekers who regularly compliment as a means to be liked by said women. While there are girls that do the same the number is vastly higher for men. Blame our sexdrive if you like.
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I will complement my guy friends and obviously my boyfriend on an almost constant basis... not strangers and I dont really like comments from strangers either... if they do complement me, I will complement them as it is polite social educate
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+1 yI'm always telling my boyfriend he's sexy, beautiful act. I think it's important in a relationship to build each other up especially when they are feeling low.
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Ofcourse it is common sense to compliment your partner that you're in a relationship with. I think the asker is speaking about women complimenting men who they aren't in a romantic relationship with. It's good to read that you support your boyfriend. We men, no matter how masculine and in control we are, can still be affected by circumstances. Keep up the good work
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@TruthBringer yeah, i can understand that too. I don't like to compliment men who are my boyfriend too much because i don't want them to think im in to them but i might say something like "shoes look cool" or "you look very smart" to my male friends for example.
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I do, but it has a ha it of them thinking I'm wanting to get their number. Which is far from the truth.
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Cuz men sometimes don't know how to react to compliments. Even if some do we just be humble and try to make the woman the centre of attraction
10 Reply because men will see it as flirting. I rarely compliment guys unless i reallyyyyyyyy mean it
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We see it as flirting because we never get compliments 🤦🏽♂️
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@Thiccnigro would you mind if I asked that question on a separate post?
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Yeah go ahead
I don't compliment women it makes you seem desperate and thirsty af. That's why most women have inflated egos... far too many guys telling them they're hot (even when or especially when they're not...) hoping to get a shot at them.
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So true
+1 yProbably bc we have more to offer than our looks and usually women only have their looks and sexual deeds to offer🤷🏾♂️🤷🏾♂️
10 ReplyI definitely compliment men if there is one to be given
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+1 yI don’t like to do it too often because I am afraid of coming off as if I’m interested or desperate.
20 ReplyBecause is something social, I mean we grew up in a society where men are in charge of it.
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It is so reductive and stupid to think women have had no influence over culture this whole time.
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Yeah, I'm a pretty critical no-bullshit kind of guy. Next? And by the way don't handwave science and sociology like you're Deepak Chopra trying to sell me stuff.
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Actually, society is revolving more around women and their feels. Especially when it comes to dating. Women hold most if not all the cards. Plenty of social experiments that prove that. Why do you think so many simps are trying to win their ways in the pants of women by SIMPly complimenting them constantly. Cuz they desperate lol
+1 yI complimented my ex about the same as he complimented me.
Complimenting strangers usually ends up getting hit on so I avoid it unless it's a friend or someone I'm interested in.10 Reply2.4K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. Because a lot of women think they men either don't want compliments or don't deserve compliments, or perhaps they're too shy to give compliments, or don't find anything complimentary about guys.
10 ReplyMen usually don’t seem to care when you compliment them so you just never think to do it.
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+1 yI can't vote on this... I compliment my man daily and often.
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+1 yBecause women are all take no give and when you stop taking they start saying why? Then it goes to you're so selfish.
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The fact 3 guys like this and 1 girl dislikes it clearly displays the issues at hand that girl refuse to accept.
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I compliment men when they do things worth complimenting. Most dudes don’t actually do much.
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@6suejsjsj I mean women do tend to try a lot harder in the looks department, but I wasn’t specifically talking about looks.
+1 yThe guys who voted guys don't deserve compliments are just gay
20 ReplyThey don’t want to inflate his ego but I think they should be complimented more if they’re together
20 ReplyBecause the female is supposed to be the center of attention. Which is fucking dumb.
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I guess you’ve never lived the Alpha life
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@Yads_Is_Back "alpha life" rofl
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That's why you never put them as the center of attention. Their pussies ain't made out of Gold you know
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@TruthBringer True 👍🏼Nobody should be - neither male nor female - especially when it gives that person too much of an ego and yet less is expected.
My point to the opinion poster here is that if the woman is “supposed to be the center of attention,” well, who puts her there? The guys complimenting her... not her problem lol Do if you disagree with it, be more reserved like most women are and don’t hammer down every girl you see with a bunch of compliments. Nothing says you guys have to make a woman the center
As far as Alpha life... no worries, I realize you guys don’t live it lol - +1 y
@Yads_Is_Back Very well said. I strongly believe in the 'Alpha' and 'Beta' terms because they are very effective in distinguishing types of personalities. No 'Alpha' makes a woman a center of attention. He is on this grind, doesn't give two fuck about others and knows women are a byproduct of his success, leadership and confidence. This is what women actually want. Honestly, all the pussy men of today are to blame for the inflated egos of women. They put a woman first and then bitch when a girl treats them like a second. In my personal experience, I've had a lot of success with women by not acting like they are the prize and showed them I couldn't care if they wanted me or not. These women always had simps DMing them, but they end up in bed with a guy like myself who doesn't give them more attention and validation than they deserve.
Funny story: I confronted a girl on this website for compliment fishing when posting questions such as "do you guys prefer big or small butts" while showing off her booty herself. She ignored all the simps who compliment her was investing her energy on trying to change my mind through DMing me. - +1 y
@TruthBringer had the same experience. Some 39 year old asked if we would date older women and i said fuck no. Then she proceeded to Dm me for like 2 hours they to talk about benefits.
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Hahaha that woman got hit by the wall and now she does anything in her power to get with a guy in order to feel young and beautiful again. I had that with older women in the gym. They just come and flirt with me. Jesus some of them don't have a filter. Shows the desperation. But who are we to judge them if dudes of our age simp a lot harder
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@Yads_Is_Back Homo sapiens actually don't organize around the "alpha/beta" hierarchy system.
Even canis lupus don't.
"All of which is to say: Humans who enjoy the idea of "alpha males" might want to keep in mind that there isn't really any such thing. And to the extent the term has any meaning at all, it describes the behavior of captive, lonely creatures."
www.google.com/.../no-such-thing-alpha-male-2016-10%3famp
But you want to ignore me and keep using a term born from scientific illiteracy, have at it! - +1 y
@Juxtapose Nah, I'm a biochemistry major so I know how our biological senses interfere with our psychological senses. I'm aware of all the facts, spent 4 years in university learning it.
I'm also not bored enough to argue with you on this several days later. It's kinda lame that you have nothing better to do than go back and try to argue something that's days old lol Nah, I have better things to do. - +1 y
But for your reference... consider that you're referencing a business site, not a science one. Also consider that it's speaking of Alpha in a physical way only - which yes, humans don't follow, thanks to our psychological interference and a more social structure, since we don't travel in packs all the time.
That's where Alpha still exists in human terms, but not with the same biological definition as other species. And actually, Alpha is different for EVERY species who follows it. Oh yes. Look at taxonomy if you don't believe me. Taxonomy is a whole class in undergrad bio majors. So it still exists in our terms, we still have Alphas... but it tends to be more on the social and mixed side than just physical (which even a 5-year-old today can see).
Because... There is hypergamy, and there are men who are soooo desired by women and are popular, but there are also some who just totally don't make the charts. So yes, Alphas exist but in terms that only apply to homo sapiens, since we are so different from every other species in that we have superior psychological capabilities, so therefore psych and social have to be factored in along with the physical.
And that doesn't even have to be looked up or researched or gone to college for. That's an everyday experience in life - just part of life. Men are not all wanted the same way to the same degree. Wake up.
So nice try. Use a broad definition of the word that doesn't even apply here (especially from a business website lol not even from a science website) to try to counter the specific way that same broad definition applies to us. You kinda made yourself look stupid lol but thanks :D nice try - +1 y
www.bustle.com/.../99560-is-the-alpha-male-a-myth-the-science-behind-the-concept-explained
Meant to post that for your reference. Sorry - +1 y
@Juxtapose Or I could try to help you understand... which I just posted a link and explained in attempt to.
Sorry for trying to be helpful? Lol
Somebody sounds miserable and just wanting to argue today 😂 oh well. That's your lame life, not mine lol I have better stuff to do. I provided the facts. Whether you learn from it or not is up to you. But my life is not unoccupied enough to go on about something days old just because a user is miserable and needs company. - +1 y
@Juxtapose Well the link specified at the bottom of the article what I said - that yes, there is a standard and some guys are at the top and that this is what is considered Alpha for our species.
You were trying to use a more broad definition of the word knowing it’s not specific to us to try to disagree with me point of a guy being an Alpha.
So if you agree with the link, then I’m glad you agree with me 😊 - +1 y
@Juxtapose No. Read the bottom of the article again or look around at the men who are significantly very desired and popular among females. Notice the differences.
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@Juxtapose So you skipped over the social part? If it was just physical then everything we just debated would be pointless 😂
For some reason I get the feeling you’re being purposely stubborn lol
Anonymous(30-35)+1 yE - thanks to the influence of feminism, it has become very unfashionable for women to say anything positive about men.
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+1 yThey're just not used to having to be initiative in that way, so they just don't naturally consider it. Maybe it just depends on the person.
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Good question and thanks for asking it. It's interesting to read many females' perspectives on this.
10 Reply - Anonymous(36-45)+1 y
Fi do compliment men. But I feel men use it more as a means to try and get something too.
20 Reply - Anonymous(30-35)+1 y
Because modern women can't stand the thought of giving men credit for anything positive, and we have feminism to thank for that.
20 Reply 1.5K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. Because we do all the work for them so they don't appreciate shit.
10 ReplyWomen expect the man to compliment/approach them so that’s probably why they don’t initiate first.
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