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You never compliment me
Buddy I think it's just very clear that you are just seeking attention.
If you aren't attracted to a man only compliment he's actions, but never their looks. To be honest I don't like to be complimented by woman how aren't attracted to me in general.
Why? Because it often means that you have nothing else to offer but your looks. I can be attracted to men, but at the end of the day I'm not lusting after a man. I still think out of kindness and Purity. Something that is no longer valued today. I'm not interested in men who are vain. When she looks fat anyway then I guess that makes sense for women to cheat on you since you don't look remotely sexually attractive anymore.
I notice is usually the insecure men that only cares about looks mostly besides the women also.
I'm still confused on how I'm seeking attention
The moment you said you, is the moment you show that you are looking for attention and it's for all the wrong reasons. I am pretty sure there are people that do compliment you. But it won't likely is not the type of compliments that you are wanting. Which pretty much solidifies my main opinion.
It was just a joke, bro
When looks fade*
I know you were joking damn it but I just said it anyway so that way other men can see right there that they got to re-evaluate how they choose to look at themselves and how they treat other people, before they make such assumptions as if women really don't care, when we do.
I see... i apologize
When a woman says "its fine" it ain't ever fine!
You don't get it. If a woman compliments my actions I'm fine with that. But if she's not attracted to me (it means that she wouldn't date with me) than she shouldn't compliment my looks or my personality either. If she likes and respects me as a person I will notice that through her actions. This is why people say this about woman "Listen To Her Actions, Not Her Words". I usually recognize when a woman is into me by her actions, but also love it when she compliments me. One more thing, I don't know about you, but to me (and I think I can speak for pretty much all man) both looks and personality/character is equally important. Man are far more visual than woman.
Never put words in a person's mouth. If it's not fine to me I would just simply tell you. I respected the fact that you apologized for the assumptions.
@Shocker650 What is wrong with you? It's not about who is into you or any of that silly nonsense. If we care about you we do. This is not about who is visual. You men need to stop with that or else you going to make us want to seek elsewhere. A woman hates having her feelings and intent questioned. that's insecurity you got. And no woman wants to settle that in a man.
I never said that I will tell that to a woman I know. But this is how I feel inside, or more like how I want to view it. I'm not sure why you keep calling me insecure.
That's why I said you guys have nothing else to offer. Personality changes and looks fade. It is the SOUL that matters. My looks don't matter. My personality doesn't matter. At the end of the day, I am still ME. And if a guy cannot understand that, Aw well. I love me for me. I don't look the same as much and no longer act the same as much either. That's life man. A woman that is with you for those things will judge and treat you the same way you want to treat us. A lot of women are suffering and losing relationships with men and can't trust men anymore because of that mindset or cheat because there is no real friendship anymore. If a woman is talking about your looks 9/10x she just wants to bang you as much as you do with her. What do love and stuff have to do with that? ZIP. She can be interested in you one minute, wants another the next. So think about that when you want to be wanted for your looks and personality. They will always be somebody more attractive than you and she may want him, and you may be more attractive than another guy, she may still want you because of that. The same with personality. A woman who can forego past that and accept you as you are regardless of visual nature or whatever is somebody who truly loves. When you see the opposite and value looks and personality more than morals to such a woman she loses attraction to you. She may be sexually attracted to you, and even enjoys your personality, but it doesn't mean she wants you.
You are insecure. Highly secure men think with the same mentality I just said. They value the person. They don't let physical appearance or personality determine who they want. Men are sexually sensitive, yes. That is how God made you. BUT not all use that for sexual deviance. That's why I would never get involved with a guy who has that mindset and mentality, he will God forbid unintentionally emotionally hurt me and neglect me because of that. Bad enough I have my own insecurities. And that is one of them.
I understand what your trying to say, but here me out. I'm not saying that every woman is the same in this matter because there are always exceptions, and you might be one. But people say that woman are all about their feelings and emotions, and when those feeling towards a guy disappears, they leave the man with cold blood. So it's all about how you make them feel. Now with that out of the way. Looks and personality doesn't change like weather. We might age but our looks doesn't change that drastically. I don't care about another woman being more attractive than mine. There's always someone more attractive. But looks and personality make us who we are and why we like someone. I don't believe in love, I don't want a "lover or a "wife". I want a girlfriend who can be my soulmate, and yes, loyalty, friendship, and loving someone for who she/he is is important.
By the way, I wish all woman would think like you.
@Shocker650 Here is where you're not fully getting it. Life doesn't work that way."We might age but our looks doesn't change that drastically." That's not the point. A body is a body. It is a vessel. What you got is what you get. It's about what you choose to do with it that matters. A person who truly values you doesn't care about your looks. A person who does, again often are only with you for those reasons: looks. " I don't care about another woman being more attractive than mine. There's always someone more attractive. But looks and personality make us who we are and why we like someone." That is not true at all. That is all based on the things of the flesh and our desires being tainted with polluted thoughts and actions. If I see a guy based on his looks, 9/10x its either he is overall attractive or if I was a secular woman it would be just because I want to screw. That's it. Anybody with a brain would even know that it is common sense not to lie about our intent because actions speak louder than words. Women do that because they want the best mate sexually, why? You really want to know what actual woman think about when they want what you want?:
1. Sexual benefits - Is he pleasing sexually? Does he make her feel good and great as a woman? Does he give her what she wants? Are they going to have sexually and attractively good looking children to pass it down and make them have our grand and great-grandchildren, or have terrible genes? Is he somebody that everybody wants to screw with and she got the best prize? Or is she just settling? Worse if he doesn't know how to have sex with her correctly?2. Do the parents and friends approve of him sexually for us? If they can't see them wanting us to have sex with them, it may ruin our perception of that guy.3. Children: Will we love the children by how they look, or will we hate them? Will they have a great personality or a terrible one we wish we can trade-off? Will we see traits that we can accept from the father, or hate the child because of the father?When I was growing up, I never really cared about my looks or my personality. It's when I started being judged by my looks and personality is when I grew to hate myself and insecure. I stopped loving myself, my personality got shredded, and sadly because it mostly came from guys, I grew bitter with them. They only wanted me because of my looks but hated who I was as a person. When God redeemed me from that, he showed me they were not the right kind of men. He showed me what love really is, and showed me what he designed for men and women. It's NOT what you talking about. That is and was not God's purpose. He just allowed it because it will force men and even women to either learn to love or God forbid abuse. And if you abuse, there is a price to pay for abusing his gifts. And a price to pay for abusing sex, marriage, and close unions.
"I don't believe in love, I don't want a "lover or a "wife". I want a girlfriend who can be my soulmate, and yes, loyalty, friendship, and loving someone for who she/he is is important." If you don't believe in love, then that contradicts what you saying. Relationships are not about you. It is about the other person. There is no such thing as a soulmate. it is a choice in who you pick. And who you pick is what you get. That mindset will just attract bad women into your life who will play with you, use, and abuse you. I'm telling you by the interpersonal experience of those who have stable relationships and marriages. You can't say you want those things and not accept that it requires you to die to self of those selfish desires. What you saying and desiring is that you want the BENEFITS, but you don't want to put in the work and pay the price to receive those benefits and want the easy way out. Women aren't all about emotional connections for the hell of it. We have to feel your SOUL and your HEART. And if your intent is not pure, and can't feel your heart, you won't attract us. We want to be with like-minded men. If you want to love her for who she is, then you can't go after her because of her personality and looks. It not only contradicts what your saying, it is CONFUSION to a female and brings confusion to yourself. Either you want us for us, or we physically have. You can't have both. That's part of the sacrifice. You either get one or the other. This why women grow to hate themselves both physically and sexually and feel shame because men don't know how to love.
If a woman is not even stable within herself, that's why she keeps going after the same kind of men and is often miserable and unhappy. While she blames you for not being perfect and meeting her perfectionist standards physically and mentally for the things of life. Men blame us for not being sexually desirable. We blame men for not being physically desirable.
People need physical attraction in order to be interested in someone. The rest follows after. If you see a guy and the first ting that comes into your mind is that he's ugly, would you still date him? Let me tell you something. If a woman that I'm really into would tell me that I'm ugly (and she would really mean it, it's not about that she said it, but that she truly would think that) I would never be her boyfriend, doesn't matter how much she likes me as a person. She doesn't have to see me as the most handsome guy on the planet or even handsome at all, but if I would be specifically ugly in her eyes, than it's done. I can't imagine waking up every day besides my "soulmate" and think about "oh yea the woman of my life she sees me ugly by the way, even through that tons of other girl thinks that I'm attractive, but not here, nope". You know what I am insecure but even if I wouldn't be, I still wouldn't accept a situation like this cause I have pride.
@Shocker650 "People need physical attraction in order to be interested in someone." That is a lie. If that is true than many people wouldn't have marriages for over 20, 30, 40 years. It has nothing to do with physical attraction. But a soul attraction. That lie was created by society to make us lust after people for sex and procreate. Even worse use procreation to make more workers and build an economy. People become interested for all kinds of reasons. I don't need looks. And I already said that if I needed looks it would be just to screw. Why need love when you got sex? People don't need that. Lustful people do. "The rest follows after. If you see a guy and the first ting that comes into your mind is that he's ugly, would you still date him?" But I don't judge a person by how they physically look. I don't and won't even date a guy I don't even personally know. I have to know who and what he is about. To love is a choice. To date is a choice. I can date him if I want to. I would love him if I want you. That is irrelevant. And no the rest does not come after. Because if that is true, we wouldn't be having so many miserable people in a toss away relationships, rebounds, and high divorce rates.
"" Let me tell you something. If a woman that I'm really into would tell me that I'm ugly (and she would really mean it, it's not about that she said it, but that she truly would think that) I would never be her boyfriend, doesn't matter how much she likes me as a person. She doesn't have to see me as the most handsome guy on the planet or even handsome at all, but if I would be specifically ugly in her eyes, than it's done. I can't imagine waking up every day besides my "soulmate" and think about "oh yea the woman of my life she sees me ugly by the way, even through that tons of other girl thinks that I'm attractive, but not here, nope". You know what I am insecure but even if I wouldn't be, I still wouldn't accept a situation like this cause I have pride." Selfish people attract other selfish people. It is your life your choice, but you will be in a miserable one. That's why I always tell people, you can't always get what you want. But it is about what you need in a person. And looks and personality have 0 to do with needs. This is why so many people come on here because they don't know how to live life and have miserable relationships and have poor sexual choices. Because of the very things your talking about and in an agreement with. It's for you to move past that. Not live by those temptations. If you're repulsed by a person, FINE. You DON'T have to be with them. But when the other person questions your intent, don't be surprised if they're not happy with what is being said. Because now it's about personal validation. Not a relationship. A relationship is a partnership. And a partnership is a choice to engage in.
Do you see young kids and children call each other their boyfriend and girlfriend needing looks just to love and be with them? NO! Some of those people already knew they loved a person in their childhood, grows up and get married and been married for YEARS, have many children and great-grandchildren, and die together or whenever their called home or God forbid in hell. Some teenagers are the same. They love because they want you. Do you know what makes a person really go for the looks? When the looks radiant the LIGHT that is within the person. But if they have an ugly heart, a bad vibe, etc, you would NOT want to sleep with them no matter how attractive they look. A person's personality comes in when they have what you need to be compatible with. When I was attracted to certain guys I was attracted to more than just looks or personality. I was attracted to their SOUL. Because the INSIDE they radiated to the outside/external felt GOOD to my soul and spirit. I was drawn to them! And that goes for anybody, male or female. If they don't feel good to my spirit, I would recoil. I cannot be with somebody who has a toxic and filthy soul. That is deceiving. There is a good reason why they say 'LOOKS can be DECEIVING'. You don't want to be drawn into the wrong kind of person.
I have known people who were just like you with that mentality. And every time they get into a relationship, sleep with them, marry, etc, they sadly end up with the same type of problems. They never felt really LOVED. They were either abused, conflicted, regretful, uncertain, etc. Always felt something was missing. Now that those same people changed their mentality about love, attraction, etc, it all began making sense and they finally attracted the kind of people they want. A woman especially desires to be loved. They don't care about their personalities or looks. They only care because you men care. You wouldn't bat an eye if we're not desirable to you. A woman and young girl nowadays will neglect, abuse, and kill themselves now if it means a man will pay attention to them. That's why that 80/20 so-called rule you guys made up or 'hypergamy' nonsense exists. Because men have forgotten how to love a woman, and women have now forgotten how to love themselves.
Women ASSUME men want something sexual. Where did you get that idea?
@apollo3000 When we want to wait for marriage to have sex, and then you BAIL. Or we're too religious, prudish and boring. Then when you sleep with women before marriage and they cheat on you, you call them whores, or my favorite line " I knew she was a hoe before I met her!" Sure, plenty of toxic men. But the guys who don't go for women for sex, and truly be a friend and actually love us you call them SIMPS. Something is wrong here. I have YET to meet a man who isn't like that. Very few I can count on 1 hand and a half is all I have met in my entire lifetime who aren't like that modern-day man. And no, age and generation have yet to do with it. It's the mentality. If we don't see you as somebody we want to date, you cut the 'fake friendship' and call it a friendzone. That is toxic, and as somebody who is celibate and stayed single all my life I am glad I got away from that toxicity. I screen every male now other than friends I knew for years. I am literally watching you guys under a microscope now. Sad I have to become that person who lost a lot of trust and respect for guys now. Now its whoever is deserving of that respect.
Hey, men are not all one organism - in case you haven't noticed.
@apollo3000 Your right. Human men aren't. Males are. Anybody can be male. But not every male is a man.
@btbc92 Have you ever had a boyfriend?
@Juxtapose Nope! Not worth it when you get guys constantly not appreciating you how God made you and don't want to do the right thing. I am not wasting my time and playing games. I have already believed in taking life seriously, and if I am not somebody supposedly no guy would want, why hurt myself? I don't have an interest and never really did anyway. Don't want that negativity around me.
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Can you compliment me 😗
@dollyzolly well i can't really see you but if i did i would