Do We Objectify Men?

[anon1903]

Yea

Nop

[Kaazsz]

Yes but not the same way we objectify women.


With women, we portray their beauty. That is what turns us all on. Everyone sexualizes women for their beauty. And so we see women in skimpy outfits with fit bodies.


This hurts women as a whole because if you as a woman do not fit the description of a beautiful fit woman, you might feel like shit about it. Feel that your choices in life are limited due to your inferior genetics or weight gain.


For men the objectification is different. What turns everyone on about men is not our muscles and jawline. It is our masculinity. Our protective nature, our defense ofnourselves and those we love. Our hard work and the motivation we have to be in the world and affect the world. Our masculinity is what turns women on.


This hurts men, and we can see how with toxic masculinity. If you’re a man you’re not supposed to cry. Why? Because women, and men, just as with woman’s objectification, men are objectified by both sexes. We are not allowed to cry or have certain emotions. We are not allowed to be vulnerable so on and so on. Because those raids are not masculine. Just like be fat and hairy is not feminine.


So yes, men are objectified too. But the objectification is more subtle and in depth, whereas women’s is plainly obvious to see. That’s why we think only women are objectified and only women suffer at the hands of sexual desire. But men do too and the proof is right there front nd center. Toxic masculinity fucks us up and hurts us. I would say it hurts us worse thanwomans objectification. Because when you hurt men, you hurt women too.

[MrOracle]

Of course you do. And not just the really good looking ones, who you SEXUALLY objectify, but you also objectify men in other ways. When you ask a man to kill a spider or assume that a dangerous or dirty job is "men's work", you're objectifying men.

The difference is mainly that men don't see it as a big enough problem to complain about, even if we are sometimes bothered by it. We rank problems, and we focus mostly on the top 5 or 10 problems, and rarely bother dealing with anything below that, because those other problems usually only account for a tiny portion of our stress or unhappiness compared to the ones at the top of the list. Many women (and more recently, feminized men) choose to be equally bothered by everything or would rather focus on minor, relatively insignificant problems - which they pursue with fury and passion as if they were the biggest problems of the day - and ignore the bigger problems because they're too difficult or challenging to address. It's like a person who is drowning being concerned about their hairdo being messed up - the priorities are all wrong.

Of course women objectify men, just as men objectify women. You may not do it in exactly the same way (though sometimes you do), but you still do it. But it's really NOT a big deal in the scheme of life. At worst, it's an inconvenience or annoyance, and so men mostly give it a low priority and effectively ignore it most of the time.

[chapawapa]

**some women

[MrOracle]

@chapawapa Nothing is ever 100% universal.

[G3tAClue]

Not in the same way as women are objectified. Men can be sexually objectified but women just aren’t visual creatures so this happens less. Men are more objectified by their abilities and success as women are objectified by their bodies.

[FreyaRed]

Yea
Boys playing beach volleyball... tall and fit guys focus on the ball, coated in sand, often without shirt...
This is an objectification feast. 🤫

[Unit1]

Wow. Today i played volleyball on the beach. I must have been a snack for some women's eyes and i didn't know.

[errorgoodnameunfound]

YES dammit! When will the world ever learn? I say,
to every other ad and stereotype thrown at men,
those girls messaging us constantly to pay to see their webcam vids
the gals demanding money for seeing boobs, when it's easily available from Google for free,
the ones demanding WE ask girls out, WE pay, WE beg for a girlfriend, WE beg for marriage or face higher insurance bills...

TO THAT I say boldy:

MY penis!
MY wallet!!
MY choice!!!

#BeAMan
#swiftasthecoursingriver
#forceofagreattyphoon
#strengthofaragingfire
#Mysteriousasthedarksideofthemoon
#MEN©️™️

[Unit1]

Mostly losers and fools fall for these anyway. And since we have enough of those, these sexist markets keeps existing.

[CharlieBadger]

Yes but in general men don't care.

When I worked in a toy story I was always the one they sent up the ladder to change light bulbs. I found out after that it was because I wore tight jeans and had a good ass.

I just wish I would have known at the time.

I also had a supervisor express her interest in my be just kissing me.

I do think there is a difference though. In general, if a make superior had done the same thing to a female employee there are two power aspects he has over her, the position as her boss, and one of physical power.

I believe the combination of those makes it worse for a woman than it does for a man. Or at least when it happened to me I knew there was no way she could force herself on me so all she had was her position.

[Prof_Don]

Yes, men are objectified. Not as much as women, but we as men are just as pressured to adhere to gender role standards!


A good example, is that the guy 98% of the time has to approach the gal of interest, or he will be forever lonely. Is this “objectifying”, although this isn’t a physical trait? Probably not, but whatever social pressure this is considered, yes this would be it.

[CasaNorba]

yea but your question is a little flawed because it seems like you're talking about physical objectification which most men dont have a problem with. on the contrary this is flattering to us.

now financial objectification then fuck yea, women do this in their sleep.

[_SOARER]

Short Answer: Yes

Long Answer: We have objectified everything. Its called materialism, and it turns men and women into animals. We have a higher purpose. Men and women, we all have a plan. God has a plan for us <3

The biggest problem, is that people have objectified themselves, society (We) doesn't have to do it anymore. We will do it to ourselves.
We are more than material!

[Thatsamazing]

Sure, God has a plan for us-- ignore us entirely. I'm not sure how God is relevant in this conversation.

[_SOARER]

@Thatsamazing God is completely relevant in all things, because if people truly believe in God, they understand he created man to serve him and have a higher purpose. A higher purpose gives us meaning, it allows us to not view ourselves as objects. :)

[Thatsamazing]

... No, He isn't. (pats you on the back) But alright man.

[_SOARER]

@Thatsamazing I dont need the pats man, I need you to accept God's grace

[Thatsamazing]

I don't think you know correct usage of the word "grace" my dude, but alright.

[Sleevey]

Yes, women objectify men. Almost 30 years ago I had a job that exposed me too constant sexual assaults calculated to 900+ sexual assaults by women and doing things that the situation reversed would see a man destroyed. The multitudes of women that assaulted me sexually, showed no signs that they might be in the wrong, Anyone with any empathy would not have allowed the molestation and sexual assault but since I wasn’t human and only a object, it was fine.

[Silver158]

what was the job? Male stripper?

[Sleevey]

@Silver158 partially.

[Thatsamazing]

No, nor do we "objectify" women. It's a bullshit-nonsense thing to say. People find other people sexually attractive, and when we do, we look at those people and desire those people. That is all. To term normal, unharmful human behavior as anything other than normal, unharmful human behavior is stupid.

[Yads_Is_Back]

👏👏👏👏

[Thatsamazing]

@Yads_Is_Back Thanks

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Excuse me, have you been groped? Have you been catcalled? Have you been approached and asked to sleep with someone who's a just a stranger? Do you think these behaviors are normal?

[Unit1]

For sure it happens. The bad women objectify us by the amounts of money, that we have. Thus to these bad girls we are a wallet or ATM on legs. Or any other utility like driving them around.

fortunately i don't deal with these bitches, thus i allow room for the adequate and amazing ladies 😍

[Oric5]

In the last 5 ish years you all just see our cock.
Nearly every chick i walk past is dick gazing. And hey thats great but no one fucks more than 3 times a day on average so there is a ton of time left over to fill in. Im saying get to know the dude

[Anonymouus_]

i dont understand objectification. that is for psychopath maybe. i understand pretty girl but that means i want to get 2 know her more. she is not object. i do not compare her to chair or sex toy. she is person

[Nachowedgie]

Yeah all the time but it's apparently okay for women to do it, but as soon as it happens the other way it's bad and misogynistic

[sensible27]

I doubt you can, objectifying 'correctly' is somewhat hard.

[Hermes-Paris]

I hope so. y'all can start with me. I have a tough skin. No crying to CNN for this dood. I hope we never loose our attraction for one another because of the PC police.

[worldscolide]

Men get objectified as both sex objects and success objects.. Anyone that denies the truth of that is just beyond stupid

[worldscolide]

im glad those of us with a brain voted yes.

[JPrez]

I think there is more of it today than in years past. I have no problems with it. I don’t think though it’s on the same level as what we men do to women.

[Eggplant29]

I feel that although women may be objectified more, it would be naïve to presume society does not also objextify men as well.

[captain_voidwalker]

We do worse than objectify men, we treat men as disposable tools.

[Twinrova]

Do people ever view men as sexual objects? Yes. This isn't even up for debate. Women are objectified at a far higher rate though.

[ryancg]

Everyone gets objectified, it's just a thing people do. It's best to just ignore it.

[backdoorman]

Of course.