Guys, would you have a relationship/marry a woman with a past?

[Monicaa7690]

By past I mean a woman who had a lot of dating partners/sexual encounters. I know a lot of guys say they wouldn’t. Claiming that “she’s a hoe” and she “belongs to the streets”. Lol. Does this matter to you? And if so why?

[RemoErdosain]

It matters to me, and the reason is my past experience. I used to say "no, people can change, her past doesn't define her", etc., but then my ex ended up being the cheating whore she claimed she no longer was. So now I think what it looks like is probably what it is. If a girl liked banging every guy out there when she was in college, as a 40-year-old woman, she's still probably not wife material, and will jump at the opportunity of feeling like the cheap-ass wanted slut that she was before. So no, I wouldn't be in a relationship with a girl like that, let alone marry her

[RemoErdosain]

I wasn't just lied to, either. She was very careful about imprinting it in my mind that she wasn't the same person as she was before. Very subtle manipulation. Careful enough as to not leave me any doubt in the future that if encountered with the same scenario, I just won't believe, no matter what

[Monicaa7690]

I understand. And that seems like a rather nasty bitch, if I’ll be honest. Lol. What does suck though is the amount of women who probably didn’t want to have as many partners in their past that they do but ended up with it because they thought there was real love there only to find out they were being used/manipulated. Even if the partners weren’t all that sexual the guy usually says that to other people and it really ruins the girls rep. Especially if they’re in the same community. Which probably makes it hard for the girl to find someone who will give her a genuine chance because now guys have a certain impression of her in their head without knowing the truth or believing her, at least in my situation or other girls I know. This world stinks lol.

[RemoErdosain]

Thank you, and I think there is a difference when they were actually attempting to have a relationship with the guys and got used. Those guys are total assholes, especially when they go and talk about it. Eventually, I think from each failed relationship you learn to try and not make the same mistakes afterwards (hopefully! I haven't been in many, so I'm just being hopeful here), and that makes it more likely that you will be able to filter the bad ones, and not get such a bad reputation. Another thing that probably helps is to not give it up easily. My guess is most of these guys will be impatient, and won't stick around for, let's say, a couple of months without getting any, so if the girl doesn't allow them to have sex with her so soon, she'll be able to filter them that way too. Last but not least, a lot of people are very clever about this sort of manipulation, but if you pay attention to the details, I think you'll find their act falls apart at one point or another, and you'll get some red flags in their approach. Perhaps it's something they say or do that gives it away, perhaps it's a noticeable lack of interest or something that they won't do. That way you can filter too. If I had payed attention to LOTS of red flags that I did notice in my previous relationship, but chose to ignore and believe the best, I would've got out of it way sooner, perhaps without getting into it in the first place

[RemoErdosain]

Also, if you're 22, you can't yet have a reputation that will last. You can make your own, but definitely change your approach to relationships, maybe stay single for awhile, and try to find out what it is that was going wrong before, and how you can change that. The assholes won't change and will still be out there, so all we can hope for is to be able to tell them from the rest

[bamesjond0069]

Hell no. Once a ho always a ho. These girls are:

1. Embarrassing to be serious with. Us men are competitive and to wife a girl and your buddy was there first is humiliating.

2. Our biggest fear is to have a cheating wife and sluts are far more likely to cheat.

[tzdc21]

Yes it matters immensely. Let me explain the four big reasons why it matters to a man when dealing with a woman. Buckle up, this is gonna take a while.

1) Men and Women are both biologically hardwired to be attracted and disgusted by certain things. It just so happens that one of the things we guys are instinctively disgusted by are promiscuous women as our girlfriend and/or wife. That's just our nature, just like how it's in a woman's nature to look for a man who can provide and protect. Now when it comes to just sex, they won't care, but a committed relationship is a whole different ballpark.

2) Stats show that the higher a woman's body count, the more likely she will initiate breakups and divorces. AND it's more likely she will have mental problems down the long run. You lose your ability to pair bond with every new sexual partner you have, and that's what helps relationships work through tough times... or in general.

3) When you (a woman) are in a relationship with a man, you are becoming a representation of that man, whether you know it or not. That means that what you say or do is gonna affect him to. So therefore, if you're a hoe, or you say or do some crazy and stupid stuff, not only are you putting yourself in a bad light, but you're putting your boyfriend/husband in a bad light. Because everyone is gonna be like, "This crazy girl is his?" or "This hoe is who he is taking seriously?" That is embarrassing for any man, even if he won't admit it to others or himself.

4) THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT REASON. There is a reason why since the dawn of time, men have demanded that the women they take seriously are virgins. Not all guys nowadays want virgins now, but still want lower body counts from the woman they take seriously. And the reason why is because they want to ensure paternity. I assume I would be correct if I were to say that a deep dark fear for a lot of women is being r@ped in a dark alley by some creep. That deep feeling of fear that you get, the male equivalent to that, is when he busts his ass, investing his blood, sweat, and tears into raising a child, and then finding out one day that the kid was never his. That's why guys have an issue with taking promiscuous women seriously. Because if you take a promiscuous woman seriously, and she gets pregnant, there's a good chance that child may not be yours.

[RHK36]

Depends how she is and if it really is in her past. If she's trying to change and be different from who she was with me then probably not. Been there, done that. People that cheat or are flaky with relationships tend to continue their behavior until they actually want to settle down. I don't want to be that test subject.

[Celtero]

Any guy who would is a fool. These women make disloyal partners who will never be capable of loving you as much as a more chaste or virginal woman. A simple fact of biology.

[Samoht_Sirrom1]

Honestly it depends on if she has any serious (NON treatable STD's ) and if I thought she'd be loyal to me, versus following her seemingly normal pattern of living and leaving.

[Don-_-Don]

Definetly not, to me that is what's called "damage goods".
He mind and body is used up my all the men in the past. I will be compared by those men and I'm not going to deal with that.

[jahaims]

I would not. To me being with a partner with a past makes the relationship feel less special.

[Shamalien]

nope. Like if she’s had a couple of partners and has changed her life outlook and been celibate for a while id consider, but if she’s had a lot then im out, her therapist can deal with that

[AmeerX]

I don't think it is a problem for me as long as she doesn't think of me as just another person who she can just sleep and move on

[G5TWA1]

I wouldn't have a problem with that, I would understand if it was recent but if it's in the past like you said I don't see the big deal

[Anonymous]

Nah, i value myself more than that. Leave the ho's for Santa Claus.

[ballweevil]

If i like her and her personality then it wouldn't matter

[andy530]

Yep all people have had some kind of past or dating/sexual experience

[Fuentes]

If she got high mileage then yeah it matters

[hknmhmn4]

No thanks

[rohitbiruli008]

I won't.