Why did he say "I'm not for dating nor flirting"?

[LayLay96]

Okay, so here's the thing, we just met a few days ago. And we're starting to become very good friends, but he's also told me not to get too attached. I agreed and went along with all that he said. After he helped me out in something personal we've started to become good friends. But 2 days ago, out of nowhere, he was like "I'm not for dating nor flirting". I forgot what I said though, before he said that. But I don't know why he said that though, I don't know what kind of vibe I gave him..

[scotcheggs]

Possibly asexual/aromantic or something like that and just doesn’t want to deal with any complications if you did develop feelings so he’s making sure you know. I admire that he is being so straight forward and even mentioning it a second time because he may have misunderstood something you did / didn’t want you to think there was anything more than just a friend being comforting to another friend with something personal, so he made it crystal clear

[LayLay96]

You're answer sounds accurate, but just to clarify it isn't the second time he's said this... It's actually the first time. He's never said this before. Also he's straight haha, he has a girlfriend..

[scorpy04]

His not being honest he plays on reverse psychology He leads this friendship leaving it open for him to do what he wants to do Hurting God knows who on the way by placing all emphasis on the Woman so it's he fault if she gets feelings Destrying kind heats and breaking them so he can walk Proud of himself Feeling no remorse for the wake of people he leaves behind

[scotcheggs]

Oh then he prob just tryna be that loyal boyfriend, doesn’t want u or anyone else to get the wrong idea

[scorpy04]

His planting his seed so to speak my emphasising he doesn't want anything with you but sec

[LayLay96]

@scotcheggs Yeah, it seems so.

[nonversation]

Probably he just dont wanna being in a relationship with anybody right now. It's just a reminder for you.

[LayLay96]

He's in one already, and it is the first time he's said this. It's not a second or third time..

[nonversation]

So it's as clear as day that he loves his relationship and he just warning you. Because he dont wanna break your heart ıf you start to loving him. He's mean is "Dont fall in love with me".

[LayLay96]

But I don't hold any feelings for him as deep as loving him. We're Just friends, I only asked our of curiosity what he meant when he said that.

[LayLay96]

*out of

[nonversation]

Ok! I already said "if you start to loving him". You asked and I answered. Thats what he's mean.

[scorpy04]

What do you get when you tell someone who you know has interest in you have Reverse psychology meaning he wants you too but only as friends with benefits or a FB He therefore can sleep with others doesn't need to explain where he has been or who with You will have to hang around wondering He will be where ever He will hurt you but he will feel no remorse It will be your fault he said don't grow feelings for me

[LayLay96]

I haven't grown feelings for him though, I too see him as a friend. We aren't friends with benefits, we're just plain friends and nothing other than that.

[scorpy04]

Just protect yourself from what could happen in the future he sounds relatively clever by putting all the emphasis all on you

[LayLay96]

How's he put all the emphasis on me?

[scorpy04]

His using what is known reverse psychology which takes the emphasis away from him He is offering nothing but sex

[LayLay96]

Well maybe he just wants us to be friends, which is fair enough. He seems to be offering friendship.

[scorpy04]

This is true and I really do hope so for your sake

[scorpy04]

Your never be a proper friend Your one of his sex suppliers His probably Married When you don't satisfy him your be left

[LayLay96]

Lol he isn't married. Just in a relationship, and no it's not with me. We've not had sex before and neither has he brought it up lol

[Madhatter920]

I imagine he's just being clear. A reminder in case you forgot or didn't take it seriously the first time.

[LayLay96]

It's the first time he's said that, he hasn't said it before.

[Madhatter920]

You said he started with telling you not to get attached and later said he's not for dating or flirting, which reiterated the first message to not get attached.

[LayLay96]

Getting attached and flirting/dating are 2 different things.

[Madhatter920]

Aye, they are, but you do tend to get attached to the person you're dating, don't ye?

[LayLay96]

Yes, but we aren't dating. We're Just friends.

[Wise4myage]

He might he asexual, or perhaps he just came out of a relationship. But it would be ok to ask him about it.

[LayLay96]

He's in a relationship already lol he hasn't came out of one. And his sexuality is completely straight aswell haha

[Anonymous]

Hahahahhahaha fucking friend zoned hahahahahahaha eat shit bitch. You got what you deserve hahahahhahaha no fucking sympathy lamo hahahahhahaha

[LayLay96]

*Lmao
I don't know why I deserved that, but I didn't take anything negative of what he said. I was Just curious to know, what he meant. I don't give a damn if I'm "Friend zoned", because I also think of him as a good friend..