It won't stop me from feeling attraction but i might be biased and assume that you want men that are keeping up with your fitness.
So yes, I might get a bit intimidated. If however we're already talking then I'm going to assume I have a shot until you give hint that I don't.
In my case personally, me not thinking I have a shot might actually make it easier for me to get close to you because I won't be as nervous, but on the flipside the chances of me initiating conversation is lesser, unless i have an errand.
I don't know who you are or if you have high standards or whatever. But if you want a high confidence man or simply can't take a guy that as insecurities then your abs won't be in the way at all unless the men are into petite or malnurished women.
Then you can see it as a way to filter away physically narrowminded men.
In any case as long as you expose yourself to a lot of different guys and assuming you live in a country that has dating-/approach-culture the men will find you.
According to a lot of the backlash to The Last of Us 2 women can't possibly have muscle, you don't exist, and fictional women who are buff are very scary. I don't think that's necessarily a representation of what most guys really think. It also doesn't come from people who's opinions matter.
I think like most things it depends: some guys like it, some don't, some really don't care. I'm personally somewhere between the doesn't matter and really liking it.
Many guys would probably not like it if they're weaker, because we're always taught that men are supposed to be the strong ones.
Screw what they think. Just do what makes you happy. I don't know why some women do or don't do things just because of men. Do it for you. Always. If they don't like you for womanly abs, then they aren't worth your time as another man will love you for you.
For real. If you do something (say loose weight) for a partner, you'll end up resenting the person in the long run.
Yup.
there's men out there for every body type. I had a really fit boyfriend with a 12 pack! When i told him i wanted further ab definition from what i already had he about lost it. Most guys just like toned tummys, not so much rock hard abs.
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Some guys are if they don't have them for themselves.
The gym is just like any other setting in the world where a lot of men are so insecure that any aspect a woman out performs them is frowned upon.
If a woman car repair a car, out shoot at the range, has a nicer motorcycle or car, making more money on the job... etc etc.
It is just human nature for some men to see the female gender as a weaker individual. So, when the woman out performs the man it upsets their mindset. I laugh at these men. It is built in that men have to be competitive in everything. Fastest car, most powerful truck, biggest house, hottest wife, smartest kids, money, manhood, masculinity.
Nothing wrong with improving yourself in an area you fall short in as long as you are a good sport about it. Don't knock the other person down as you are trying to surpass them. Sometimes to reach a goal requires love and support.
No, it actually turns me on, girls with abs are the hottest 😍
I would look forward to play around and massaging those new curves :)
It will take a while if you would just pick a guy and work on him but if you end up with a guy make sure that you help him become more masculine and stay lean and shredded all year around. so that you both can be satisfied.
There is an awesome short video series about just that Thomas delaurer YouTube, stay lean all year around. I highly recommend it.
If a guy is intimidated by a girl's abs, he has no self confidence, presumably because he has (or thinks he has) a micro-penis.
Believe me, you wouldn't want to be with a guy who can't stand that his girlfriend has abs (maybe more so than him).
If he just isn't that into girls with abs like some guys aren't into skinny ones or curvy ones or so, then so be it. But unless you look like Arnolda Schwarzenegger it should be OK.
most average guys are... it kinda insinuates that you are a fitness freak, and the largest group of "average" guys get their fitness from the great outdoors, and won't look like a gym rat...
but dont let that stop you... its better to look good and be in shape and healthy than it is to expect someone to be interested in you just because you think they should, no matter what you look like...
No im not intimidated. I like to kiss a girls abs. the only turn off is a girl who works out to the point of a six pack probably has little to no boob. I am a boob guy. So the girls with the best boobs are slightly on the chubby end usually. If not chubby, definitely dont have abs that you can see.
I think somewhat visible abs without you being too overbuff bodybuilder type is actually perfect. Like on this picture:
I dated a girl once, who was very fit and had abs like that. It was great.
Intimidated?
Please, I am really begging here, help me understand why girls think that if they have a little of muscle defenition we will be afraid of them. I have no idea where this comes from but looks a comon misconception you girls have!
What can happen is guys don't find it aesthetically pleasing. I am into fitness myself and I love a toned belly on a girl, but visible abs are a turn off for me. Not because I am intimidated, simply think it looks manly.
It is somewhat weird, because it's not something we're used to seeing.
Of course, it's certainly not bad, and you're certainly not wrong for getting into such great shape! But it's not necessarily sexually attractive to men, so just be aware of that. (Not that you should be sculpting your body to attract men; you do you. I'm just stating a general fact.)
Some find it attractive and some do not, but for intimidating, for most no. Either the guy will already be intimidated from being shy or the abd won't make them feel intimidated. Personally, i think it looks great. Good for you for taking this time to improve yourself, do whatever makes you happy and anyone who doesn't like it shouldn't really matter to you anyway. Can't please everyone.
Intimidated no, turned off yes. Girls naturally have a higher level of body fat than guys. There are physiological reasons for that. When they have low body fat it looks masculine and that isn't attractive to me. I like girls to be on the soft side. When I touch her, I want soft, not hard. I'm hard enough for both of us. I'll bring the hardware, I want her to bring the software.
Picture please lol! I won't intimidated, I'll simply use them for workout motivation...
Also I wonder if people who grow such asymmetric abs as in the pic somehow feel "out of balance"? In must be an innate trait but will they notice other than by looking into the mirror?
I... dont know. I dont feel threatened by a woman who could run mental circles around me, but a woman who could turn me into a pretzel... Yeah kindo of do. Dont get me wrong, its kind of sexy but yeah od feel a tad bit uncomfortable.
When a girl has abs without having arm mass or muscle anywhere else, she looks more defenceless and feminine to me so it's definitely a turn-on.
Probably because having abs without having big arms indicates that you don't eat much, and younger women don't each as much as older women so it is synonymous with youth.
Apparently animals show their abdomen as a sign of submission as well so maybe that's a factor in my attraction.
Don't you worry about. There are some guys who are into that. Muscular girls are awesome!
And have you seen Melissa Ioja on Athlean-XX? She's buff, and she's still beautiful.
No, and I have no problem with girls who have abs or other muscles, as long as they aren't those crazy steroid bodies. Besides who really cares what others think, and most muscular guys will probably like that look.
Abs? I wouldn't, cuz i got em, but I would be worried if she's training her butt excessively making it smaller, hard and muscular, I like it big and soft but no cellulite and bumpy.
No, not to me. But I’ll be real with you, I do sorta have a gut so if I found you attractive and I wanted to pursue you I know it’s an automatic rejection because you’ll want someone just as fit or more fit then you I’m guessing. I’ve been busy with school but I’ve been meaning to get in shape as well.
Guys are not intimidating that most women think that guys are intimidated by. Be it money, career, looks or build.
Though I guess it is a nice notion to think that men are intimidated.
Are you kidding? That’s like me asking you if you’re intimidated when a man puts on a bra stuffed with tissue. That’s how hilarious your question is.
No. As long as it's not steroids and testosterone treatments that have got you them, they'll be impressed more than anything.
I find it incredibly hot.
For reference I would dig abs up to the point of the girl in the picture you used for this post or even a bit more
Ab's are fine, it's when a woman starts to look manly by putting on huge chunk.
Anyway, rest assured, your ab's are nothing on mine!
Not intimidated, it just doesn't look right to a lot of us. Abs on a woman looks to us how breasts on a man would look to women
How does that even make sense?
How would it not make sense? In our heads we associate muscle definition with other male physical traits so seeing a girl with abs just doesn't look right. Same way that if a dude had tits it wouldn't look right to most women
Breasts are biologically only present on females because they serve a purpose (lactating) that men do not have. And on the other hand are biologically present on males and females because there purpose (core stabilizing muscles) is needed for men and women.
That literally meant nothing
Plus breasts do serve as visual stimuli for mating, same way the color of a peacock's tail attracts mates just so you know
Again, not a function that males need
I think you're missing the point of my explanation. Basically defined abs are seen as a masculine physical trait, which is why it looks weird to guys when girls have them. Also men can have gynecomastia and I guarantee you no woman finds it attractive
But my point is why would you define it as masculine
Because it's a characteristic you typically see more on men. Just because women are capable of doing it and have, doesn't mean that it isn't inherently a more masculine look
@thiccnigro Uhhh... wow, no.
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Again, no. You're an idiot.
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Can only speak for myself. Definitely not. I think it's sexy in both the physical aspect and the mental respect that she truly looks after her body in turn will look after her man and family just as well. Keep up the great work.
All visible abs mean is that you have a really low amount of fat. No curves, n9 tits.. ugh lol.
I prefer this:
Do you really wanna be with a guy who leaves you for being sexy af?
Hell nah, got my own... Just don’t want ah girl with them Conan the barbarian shoulders.
That’s too manly for my likings but a sexy stomach is hot.
I’m not as long as they’re not bodybuilders. I’m fine with dating a strong athletic girl. (Which includes not just sports, but firefighters and those hot girl cops so many guys want. lol)
No, as long as she doesn’t crack crab shells across her washboards. 😅
If someone having abs is enough for anyone to be intimidated then that sounds like a real personal problem.
Fitness is a good sign of health, so abs tell me "hey your are strong and healthy". Sign me up!
Why do you girls keep thinking everything you do intimidates guys. No it doesn't. It's just unattractive.
I'm not intimidated. I find it hot. My girlfriend has six pack abs with a belly piercing and its hot.
No just turned off. This typically is a masculine then and men want the opposite of them.
Not intimidated with a girl who has abs that show. It means she's dedicated to working out and eating "clean."
As far as being attracted to her, that's a different matter.
Abs are ok. The problem is if you have abs because you're sickly thin or totally beefed up it will look ugly. If you have abs but its due to being healthy thats a good thing.
Intimidated? I think you meant too say "stimulated."
fit and toned with abs is fine.
bulky not so much.
No guy worth is salt is EVER intimidated by any woman. EVER.
You're an image in your own mind. And clueless about men.
Lol if any guy is scared because you got abs, then he needs his man card stripped from him lol if anything it’s more attractive
Not intimidated but askward and turned off like I'm not phobic about trannyz or anything but I domt know how the he'll to talk to them or treat them so I'd rather not be around them
Its hot, but also its intimidating. Not too tight on the abs though just some definition
I would always want to have fun with a woman having abs
Doesn't bother me. You worked hard for those abs. Show them off
No I love a woman's abs. I think they look incredible when they are contracting during orgasm
not be a really good sign that she has respect for her body and looks after it. why better than looking at jello
For me, slightly defined abs are sexy. Really big abs like the ones on the picture are not. To each his own
I see a lot of variations on "are guys intimidated by" questions but I don't know what you mean by intimidated? Why would abs be intimidating?
I definitely am not intimidated, however, that makes a woman look masculine and is therefore a turn off.
A real a man would want their women to look goid & feel good about themselves... for me i would join you in your gym routines get in good shape together
I feel like if I ever broke her heart she’d beat me up jk no I think it would make her look tough and not to be messed with in the right way if that makes sense.
I doesn't like girls having abs but that doesn't mean I'm not going to like her because it doesn't matter if a girl has or have an abs or not but I like her with or without abs
I'm intimidated by any abs... Props to them for real...
But ain't my thing I like to be fluffy and I want my man cuddly
Not intimated no, unattractive possibly depending on how ripped she was.
No. It's straight up not feminine and attractive I'm my opinion.
More like grossed out. This is my opinion. If you wish to hate, give me the chance to answer back before blocking..
U can't beat my abs so no. 😋
And it just means ure relatively more likely to be fit and thinner which I like 😋
I can't speak for other guys, but I happen to like abs on a girl, I think it's sexy and attractive and appealing.
Honestly it depends on the guy, some guys might like a strong girl and others might find it intimidating for the girl to have abs, but in my opinion I think it makes the girl look hotter
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